⋆Basic Personality:
Skittish
Sensitive
Mellow
Ridiculous
Silly
Things I want to see:
- The personality of the parents incorporated in their dialogue.
- What makes them think they will be the best parents for the child
- The parent's history, occupations, siblings.
- Information about the orphan. (Backstory, problems, skills)
- Well thought out sentences.
- The parents don't have to be perfect beans who have great jobs and personalities.
Toothless as father
Amanda Lynn Sonata as mother. They have 4 children, one girl and three boys. They are:
-Katniss (the oldest and only girl)
-Hiccup (the oldest boy)
-Bowen
-Charmander (Char for short)
"I've reviewed your forms and files extensively, and your family really stood out. Not only do you really seem to want her in your family, but your coloration, Amanda Lynn, are not too far off from her own. We find that the younger ones bond more closely to adoptive families if they can find even the slightest similarities among appearances.""That makes sense, I'm glad that my coloration will help Butterfly to be able to bond more closely to our family should we be blessed with her adoption."
"I think that Amanda Lynn and I are ready to answer all your questions, so just fire away when you're ready and we'll answer them to the best of our abilities."
1. What will the living conditions be? Will she have a room to herself? Share with a sibling?"Well, in this, she'll get a choice. We do have a bedroom available and ready for herself if she wants to have a room all to herself, however, our daughter Katniss has expressed a desire to share her room with Butterfly. So it will be completely up to Butterfly if she wants to have her own room or share a room with Katniss."
2. Do the pair of you disagree much? Honesty is crucial, we don't want an unrealistic environment to under prepare the child, nor an overly negative one either."Hmm...well, to be perfectly honest, we don't know if we disagree too much at all. When Toothless and I have a disagreement, it never leads to yelling or screaming, we talk it out and we come to an agreement or something. Besides, most of our disagreements tend to be on the playful side."
"Yeah, mostly playful disagreements or small insignificant ones like what we want to do or something. Of course, I will admit to avoiding verbal conflict and I don't like verbally fighting with the ones I love. When I was younger, my parents would have disagreements and they could be pretty loud about it and it always made me cringe and I'd try to drown it out with music or something whenever they fought. So, both Amanda Lynn and I strive not to have fights like that and so far, we haven't had any. We love each other both very much and no disagreement is worth 'winning' when we know we just spent time yelling at each other when we could have been doing something far more enjoyable like cuddling together and watching a good movie or dancing together."
3. What kind of neighborhood is yours? Suburban, apartment community, large property, city building?"We actually live in an rural neighborhood, and we have a large ten acre property which has a yard, an orchard, and a pasture. We do have neighbors, all of whom are either friends of ours or relatives."
4. What types of activities will Butterfly be most involved in? That is, what is there to do with a young child where you live? Residence pools, parks, hiking, beach, shopping?"Well, considering our previous answer, there aren't too many things that she would be able to do in our rural community, however, that is not to say that there isn't anything for her to do because there are all sorts of different things that she could do. We do have a pool, she can hike around our property so long as she tells us before hand so that we know where she is. If she wants to go a public pool or go shopping though, we can definitely take her to go do all of those things."
5. What are the schools like in your area? What are the age separations in local schools? Would you be enrolling Butterfly in public or private school? If she is not going to school, what sort of work or family business will she be involved in?"Well, the schools in our area are small country schools, we have a public and a private elementary school which are across the street from each other. The public one does kindergarten to sixth grade and the private one does kindergarten to twelfth grade we believe. However, we only looked into putting our children into the public one because while we could afford the private one, we don't want our children to go to one. We would most likely be enrolling Butterfly into the same public school as her siblings."
"Also, there really isn't really a family business for her to be involved in. I own the town's movie theater and I make custom costumes as a hobby and my wife is a musician, so unless she'd like to work at the movie theater or something, she'd have to look into a job somewhere in town or outside of town. Which is why we want her to get a good education so that she can have plenty of job opportunities and options available to her and all."
6. Have you spoken to your other children about their potential future adoptive sister? How did each respond? Do they all still live at home? What are their careers and levels of schooling?"Yes, actually we have spoken to all of our other children, all of whom do still live with us as they are all still quite young and range from being in preschool to fifth grade, about their potential future adoptive sister and much to our delight, they were all quite excited about the prospect. Our oldest daughter, Katniss, was especially excited by this prospect as she our only daughter and while she absolutely adores her three little brothers, she's always wanted a little sister to do stuff with that she can't do with her brothers."
"Our three sons are just as excited as Katniss is though. Hiccup excitedly told us that he'll draw tons of pictures for her and that he'll be really gentle; Bowen, has expressed a desire to be a loving and protective big brother to Butterfly, and our youngest son, Char, took awhile to understand what this all meant since he's still very young and the baby of the family. However, after much explaining so that he'd understand, we know that he is sure to warm up to her as he thinks that siblings are awesome and he enjoys learning from his older siblings, he also looks forward to possibly teaching her stuff and he's hoping to possibly suck her into the Pokemon fandom."
Okay... now that we have some more background information covered, we have to dive into the more situation and potentially troublesome scenarios in order to further understand your parenting styles and abilities to handle pressure and concern. You have already raised children, so it is clear you have the capabilities to raise another, we are just curious as to your system of beliefs and family values. These might get intense, but trust me when I say that they are both realistic and common. I'd like each of you to answer individually, or together if you truly wholeheartedly agree.
7. Given a dramatic outburst from Butterfly in which she breaks something of value, such as a glass plate or flower pot, how would you reprimand her?"We're a little confused by your question, are you asking how we'd reprimand her for swearing or for breaking something of value? If you mean the swearing, we'd probably ask her what she said and if she told us, which we'd hope she would because we value honesty, and what she said contained a swear word, we'd tell her that swearing is not allowed and to use non-swear words to swear like darn, dang, heck, or make something up. Since we don't swear, none of our children should be swearing either and if they pick up that language at school or from their friends, they aren't allowed to bring it home and to use the swear words either. If that doesn't work, we may find another method, although we're steering clear of soap in the mouth, Tabasco sauce, or anything else. Maybe we'll start a swear jar though..."
"However, if you mean how we'd reprimand her for breaking something of value, we wouldn't. We know that it's probably an accident and we'll just tell her that it's nothing that can't be fixed and just to be more cautious next time or something."
8. After leaving the grocery store, you see Butterfly is nibbling on a candy bar which you do not remember purchasing. What is your course of action?"We would turn to her and ask her where she got the candy bar, if she tells us from the store, we'd tell her that we didn't pay for the candy bar, so she's stealing from the store and that stealing is wrong and it's not nice to do. How would she feel if she was selling something like lemonade to help her buy something she wanted and someone just came along and took a glass of lemonade without paying for it?
We'd then tell her that since she had already begun eating the candy bar, she cannot just return it to the store. So we'll tell her that we're going to go back inside the store, find out what the price of the candy bar is and she will have to not only pay for the candy bar she stole with her own money, but also apologize to the store for stealing."
"We would also tell her that the next time that she wants something at a store, that she is to tell us and ask us for permission, even if she intends to buy it with her own money, just so we know what she's getting and she knows if she's allowed to get it or not."
9. Will you be telling Butterfly she is adopted, why or why not? If not and she finds out, how will you explain? If so, how/will you explain the death of her mother? If so, and she is interested in meeting her biological parents, will you permit her to speak over the phone with her father in prison?"Well, we have been thinking long and hard about this as we have been hoping to adopt a child for awhile, so we know that we will have to tell her at some point when we think she is ready and will be able to handle the information. We spent a long time doing research on the matter and we read that it is best to tell a child that they are adopted when they are between the ages of two and four years old, so somewhere around there is when we will inform her at some point that she is adopted. Until then though, we want to make the word "adoption" one that is positive and doesn't seem taboo or anything, so we've been thinking about getting children's books that have adoption in them we do believe that it is for the best for her to know the truth and not lie to her by telling her that she has no other parents, but we're not sure how we'd explain the death of her mother as I don't believe you have briefed us on this matter yet. We are also unsure as to whether or not we would permit her to speak over the phone with her biological father in prison as we don't know what he's in there for or if he is even supposed to be allowed to speak with his daughter. I suppose it'll have to be a bridge we'll have to plan for crossing should Butterfly ever want to get to it, if you get what I mean."
10. If teenage Butterfly recedes into her room more frequently, and begins wearing sleeves to cover her arms, how will you approach her?"Well, this is an awfully vague question, but we'd definitely start by looking at the thermostat in the house to see if maybe it's too cold and if it is, we'll turn the heat up or start providing more blankets. If that isn't the problem, we would talk to her and ask her if everything is alright and if she wants to talk to us about anything because we'll always be there for her no matter what and we'll love her no matter what and nothing will ever change that."
11. You find a needle in teenage Butterfly's purse, how would you react?"Well, to be honest, we wouldn't or shouldn't be going through her purse for any reason. We strive for an open, loving, and trusting relationship with our children. However, if she were to spill her purse or something and we were to see a needle of the surgical persuasion and it isn't from the Doctor's or something for a medical condition she has, we would ask her what it is and why she has it. If she were to become shifty and defensive about it, we would question her further about it her behavior were to hint toward substance or drug abuse. If she is using drugs in that way, we would talk to her and try to help her out of her addiction if she has one and wants to stop. Since one can't really help someone with an addiction if they don't want it."
12. 10 year old Butterfly refuses to complete her weekend chores on the grounds of her wanting an allowance. What will you say?"Well, we would likely start off by asking her why she wants an allowance all of a sudden, then we'd inform her that chores are the things which need to get done and are not something which you get paid to do because when she grows up and begins living on her own, she'll have to do those chores to be able to live day-to-day with clean clothes and dishes and she won't be getting any pay for it when she's doing it then. So, if she wants an 'allowance,' so to speak, she'll have to earn it by take up doing other jobs around the house for which we will pay her for."
13. Butterfly begins to beg you for a pet, how will you respond?"Well, since we do currently own a pet rabbit, Cookie, we would tell her that she'd have to prove to us that she can be a responsible pet owner and to prove it to us by being able to consistently care for Cookie, like providing food and water, changing her pen and her potty, trimming her nails, brushing her, and so on for about a month or two without having to be asked or told to do it, or having one of us or her siblings take care of Cookie for her. After that time period, if she has proved that she can handle the responsibilities that come with owning a pet, we will get one for her, if she doesn't, then we won't."
Alrighty, that just about covers all the bases I need. I must say, you remain one of our strongest pair of applicants. It is clear how open your hearts are to taking on this little girl. We will contact you in the coming weeks with our decision once management has reviewed all of the applicants. I wish you luck, and personally hope to see Butterfly leaving this place with you two."Thank you very much, we hope you have a nice day and that we'll get to hear back from you soon."
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