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[rob.]

could i get a pm..? my stuff might be kinda heavy... i dunno.

[Snowseph]

I have severe social anxiety, to the point that I have panic attack just at the mere thought of leaving the house. If I do leave the house for some reason, its always with either my mother or father, and I stick by their side like we're joined at the hip because otherwise i'll panic. Yesterday I went shopping with my father and every time someone got too close to me I felt a panic attack coming on, which by the way it was four times someone got too close, I counted. Anyways, my parents know this about me, my siblings know this about me, and yet everytime I panic they think its funny or they call me names and get angry with me because i'm "acting like a child". I CAN'T HELP IT! I see another person and I panic instantly, I can't stop it, I can't control it! IT. JUST. HAPPENS. Today, minutes ago, someone knocked on the front door and my father told my sister to go answer the door. She refused to do it because she was too busy with something on the internet, and so of course, who does he ask? Me. I refuse, because I can already feel a panic attack coming on at the mere thought of it, and he goes off on me! Calling me names and saying things along the lines of "Why are such simple things so hard for you to do?!" and "Why do you always act like this!?" and of course, I just sit there letting him yell at me like I usually do because i'm on the verge of crying and on the verge of a panic attack. Eventually the person at the door ended up leaving, which of course was also blamed on me, and he finally left to go to his bedroom leaving me sitting here a panicked mess. Honestly, I just can't anymore. I'm just so done with people. Why can't they understand me? Why can't they understand that I can't be magically "fixed" just because they want me to be!? Do they think I like being like this? Do they think I like being too afraid to leave the house, afraid of meeting new people, afraid of living a normal life?!?! I HATE this! I HATE myself because i'm like this! My hands are literally shaking right now as i'm writing this, my eyes are watering, and the only reason i'm not crying is because then my father will go off on me for "acting like a baby" and that will only further worsen my state of mind.

Sorry for the rant, but i'm literally just so tired of everything </3

I suggest talking to psychiatrist about anti depressant meds, they helped my anxiety a ton.

I hope you don't mind me adding on to this.

First of all: take a deep breath.

I have diagnosed with social anxiety myself, although I will admit it has gotten better over the years. About two years ago, I was scared as heck to go to school in the fear of everyone judging me and having to be social. I would pretend to be sick to stay home from school. My parents started getting the hint that I was not okay (especially after one time I started sobbing really hard after my mom wanted me to... well, let's just leave it as being social). I go to a psychologist and a social skills group to this day. Personally, as a person who has anxiety disorders, I prefer going to a psychologist rather than medication. With medication, once you get off them, you go back to your anxious state. Going to a psychologist has helped a lot because I LEARN how to cope with my anxiety. I have heard of teens (my apologies if you're not a teen) who go on these medications, think they're "cured", stop taking the medication and revert back to their anxious and/or depressed state. However, talk to your parents before you make a decision. Try to explain to them your situation or even print them out a copy of a reliable source about anxiety disorders for proof if you don't think they'll believe you. You should not take medication without your parents' consent. If you don't have access to a psychologist right now, a school counselor would be a good person to contact. Trust me, they are trained to deal with these kinds of situations.

Also, If you're into science or how the brain works, I would advise you to read up on the brain chemistry of what causes anxiety disorders. My psychologist recommended a great book called The 10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques by Margret Wehrenberg. The introduction talks about how the science behind it all and the chapters to follow give various ways to manage various things that may be happening. It encompasses all anxiety disorders (social anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder [GAD] and panic attacks). It has helped me a lot to understand how this is happening and how to control it.

Finally, if you ever need someone to talk to (especially about anxiety), I am always open to hear you out. My PMs are always open if anyone ever needs it.

Edit: Sorry if I wasn't clear, but it is up to you and your parents on how you cope with your anxiety. All I'm going to say further is become educated with both sides and weigh the pros and cons. Of course, make sure your parents are onboard as well. I just wanted you to know both possibilities.

[vitya]

I have severe social anxiety, to the point that I have panic attack just at the mere thought of leaving the house. If I do leave the house for some reason, its always with either my mother or father, and I stick by their side like we're joined at the hip because otherwise i'll panic. Yesterday I went shopping with my father and every time someone got too close to me I felt a panic attack coming on, which by the way it was four times someone got too close, I counted. Anyways, my parents know this about me, my siblings know this about me, and yet everytime I panic they think its funny or they call me names and get angry with me because i'm "acting like a child". I CAN'T HELP IT! I see another person and I panic instantly, I can't stop it, I can't control it! IT. JUST. HAPPENS. Today, minutes ago, someone knocked on the front door and my father told my sister to go answer the door. She refused to do it because she was too busy with something on the internet, and so of course, who does he ask? Me. I refuse, because I can already feel a panic attack coming on at the mere thought of it, and he goes off on me! Calling me names and saying things along the lines of "Why are such simple things so hard for you to do?!" and "Why do you always act like this!?" and of course, I just sit there letting him yell at me like I usually do because i'm on the verge of crying and on the verge of a panic attack. Eventually the person at the door ended up leaving, which of course was also blamed on me, and he finally left to go to his bedroom leaving me sitting here a panicked mess. Honestly, I just can't anymore. I'm just so done with people. Why can't they understand me? Why can't they understand that I can't be magically "fixed" just because they want me to be!? Do they think I like being like this? Do they think I like being too afraid to leave the house, afraid of meeting new people, afraid of living a normal life?!?! I HATE this! I HATE myself because i'm like this! My hands are literally shaking right now as i'm writing this, my eyes are watering, and the only reason i'm not crying is because then my father will go off on me for "acting like a baby" and that will only further worsen my state of mind.

Sorry for the rant, but i'm literally just so tired of everything </3

I suggest talking to psychiatrist about anti depressant meds, they helped my anxiety a ton.

I hope you don't mind me adding on to this.

First of all: take a deep breath.

I have diagnosed with social anxiety myself, although I will admit it has gotten better over the years. About two years ago, I was scared as heck to go to school in the fear of everyone judging me and having to be social. I would pretend to be sick to stay home from school. My parents started getting the hint that I was not okay (especially after one time I started sobbing really hard after my mom wanted me to... well, let's just leave it as being social). I go to a psychologist and a social skills group to this day. Personally, as a person who has anxiety disorders, I prefer going to a psychologist rather than medication. With medication, once you get off them, you go back to your anxious state. Going to a psychologist has helped a lot because I LEARN how to cope with my anxiety. I have heard of teens (my apologies if you're not a teen) who go on these medications, think they're "cured", stop taking the medication and revert back to their anxious and/or depressed state. However, talk to your parents before you make a decision. Try to explain to them your situation or even print them out a copy of a reliable source about anxiety disorders for proof if you don't think they'll believe you. You should not take medication without your parents' consent.

Also, If you're into science or how the brain works, I would advise you to read up on the brain chemistry of what causes anxiety disorders. My psychologist recommended a great book called The 10 Best-Ever Anxiety Management Techniques by Margret Wehrenberg. The introduction talks about how the science behind it all and the chapters to follow give various ways to manage various things that may be happening. It encompasses all anxiety disorders (social anxiety, generalized anxiety disorder [GAD] and panic attacks). It has helped me a lot to understand how this is happening and how to control it.

Finally, if you ever need someone to talk to (especially about anxiety), I am always open to hear you out. My PMs are always open if anyone ever needs it.

Not at all -- I also have therapy, though it doesn't really help with my anxiety. I use medication because I can't get relief any other way and I also have PTSD, so it's a double whammy of "This makes me normal again". I've tried all sorts of anxiety techniques, and honestly, I don't think it can be managed (for me) without medication, which is unfortunate.

[Streak]

I've learned not to trust anyone. You can't get to close to people, they build you up just to break you down. Somebody prove to me not everyone is the same as this, 3 of my closest friends just turned this way, prove to me this isn't how the whole universe is. I'm shattered.

[CorgiBlu]

I have been having some gender dysphoria lately (I am biologically female). I have taken a few quizzes about gender and most of the time I end up with the result "Male" or something similar. I really just needed to tell someone this, I am always open for any PMs. I am also very excited because I am going to get my hair cut very short and get it dyed.

[Young and Beautiful]

Can someone tell me it's possible to live without your BestFriend? Because I don't think I can..

[shim]

Pm please?

[lucas.]

i really need a pm, please.

[Lincoln]

I can't.
I just can't jump straight into school after all that
Oh god.

[vulture,]

My birthday this year is going to suck. First off, it falls on a weekday, which is fine, but not ideal. Also, I'm going to be home alone for it, I'm sick, it's "shark week" as my boyfriend calls it, and I haven't been sleeping. It's a milestone birthday too and here I am feeling sorry for myself. I mean, I know I'll get a present, I just feel bummed. I don't want to be sick and cramping in bed for this.