intristin wrote:Mer.
My boyfriend is so perfect but ;-; whyyyy
I have this issue. I know it sounds like I'm fishing for compliments, but I really. Am. Not. Pretty. By now, I should have lost all the baby fat in my cheeks yet hey - it's still there. It makes me look very childish. Plus, I have glasses. No offense to ANY glasses-wearers. But it doesn't help my face at all. My nose is really fat, too. ;-;
So I'll say something in the middle of a conversation like "blah blah blah I mean, I'm not pretty but blah blah" and all my friends respond "aw you are too pretty!" but c'mon. They're friends. No one is going to say, "Yeah, you're not that pretty.."
When my boyfriend comes on the scene, he compliments my hair, my clothes, everything. I feel like he's trying to make me feel like I'm pretty when (here it comes) I'm not. I don't even know why I feel the need to post this, and I feel so dumb writing it, but it's been bugging me for awhile.
Is my boyfriend trying to make me feel better? I'd like him to stop. It's starting to feel like he's teasing me and strangely enough, I'm annoyed/hurt by his compliments. I know he isn't *really* trying to insult me, but when I know I don't have a very pretty face it hurts when someone compliments it....? I don't know.
He's your boyfriend for a reason. I know, I know... It's on the inside that counts, looks don't matter, blah blah blah... BUT I strongly believe initial attraction doesn't come from personality. Appearance plays a key role, because without being attracted to appearance, you won't be interested enough to learn about all those other things that make someone special like their interest, their personality, their sense of humor, their obsession with cats, video games, chocolate cake, stupid puns....
This means he likes you for YOU, just the way you are. Maybe you don't see why, but I guarantee that he sees all these little things that make you beautiful to him. ^^
I read this tumblr post that was like the most real thing ever. It was about crushes and relating your own to how other people just feel about you. You see all these little things in the person you like that just make your heart scream because ohmygoshtheyaresoperf<3. They most likely don't see these little things and if they do, it's unlikely that they think it's charming or cute or attractive.
I'm not sure if this post made any sense...