Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[GIGABITE]

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You have this sort of mentality where you're thinking like you've messed..something up.
There wasn't much in the first place, and I very much doubt anybody thinks any differently of you now that they know.
Would it be better if you discussed it with somebody? Or, perhaps, your crush?
You can definitely try distracting yourself. What do you like to do?
The more you try to "get over" him, the more you're going to like him. What I found worked best was to acknowledge that yea, there's something..(leads to other thoughts)
Remember it's just how you're thinking. The only person that can make things awkward in any situation is yourself. ;x
Hell, you could even own it. Be open that you're crushing.

Thank you for responding ^^
However... It's easier said than done. Problem is I have sensory processing disorder, so I already act like a complete idiot talking to people because I just don't really know how. With crushes, it just happens twice as much. Since he doesn't seem to return the feelings (really, who would?) my options are either to continue admitting to my feelings and acting like a stupid fool talking to him, or make an attempt to just forget about the feelings and act... Like less of a fool. It's a routine. This is not the first time this exact thing has happened
Problem is, now all of his friends are in on it. They're really hard to ignore, due to their close connections to my sister, and like I mentioned, their closeness to where I sit at lunch.
Other problem is, never in my life has someone been so hard to let go of. I've let go of exes I still loved easier than trying to forget feelings for this kid. It's rough on me and the feeling of "I'm an idiot" doesn't help

[ScarWitch]

This is just a funny story about dating/relationships that I thought I would share with ya'll. I am not looking for help or anything, this is just a story.

Two Fridays ago, my boyfriend, JD, had a birthday bonfire at his garage. A lot of our mutual friends came as well as a few of his that I had yet to meet. After a few hours of hanging around the fire, all the couples went inside while the single guys stayed outside and kept messing with the fire. One single guy, Dale, did not get the memo about where everyone went and came inside with all the couples. That wasn't a problem in the beginning as we played card games and talked. However, soon we decided to watch Godzilla on the little tv in the backroom of his garage (which had a couch as well). JD and I curled up on one side of the couch, our buddy Joseph on the other end with his new girl (which he had hooked up with at the bonfire, they knew each other beforehand), and other Joseph was on the floor with pillows with his girlfriend Holly. Welp, Dale wanted to stay and watch the movie, which was fine, but ten minutes in he started complaining and complaining about how no body was talking. We told him that we were preoccupied. Dale...poor guy... he doesn't take hints very well. Halfway through the movie he realized he wasn't going to get any attention as the seventh wheel and went outside with the other single boys.

It was funny when it happened. He wasn't upset, it just took him a bit to realize that everybody in the room had another somebody with them except him and that's why he wasn't getting talked to. We all realized that being a seventh wheel is definitely a thing. But when there is other options available, please don't be that person.

Oops, that turned into a lesson. It was just supposed to be a funny story. Sorry bout that. Oh, and names are changed or abbreviated for safety reasons.

[Foxtress]

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Thank you for responding ^^
However... It's easier said than done. Problem is I have sensory processing disorder, so I already act like a complete idiot talking to people because I just don't really know how. With crushes, it just happens twice as much. Since he doesn't seem to return the feelings (really, who would?) my options are either to continue admitting to my feelings and acting like a stupid fool talking to him, or make an attempt to just forget about the feelings and act... Like less of a fool. It's a routine. This is not the first time this exact thing has happened
Problem is, now all of his friends are in on it. They're really hard to ignore, due to their close connections to my sister, and like I mentioned, their closeness to where I sit at lunch.
Other problem is, never in my life has someone been so hard to let go of. I've let go of exes I still loved easier than trying to forget feelings for this kid. It's rough on me and the feeling of "I'm an idiot" doesn't help

Ach.
I hate ta say it, but maybe what'ye need to really start to let him go is to have him straight up tell you that he's not interested.

[Jayfox]

I dunno if I have the guts to go and sit with him tomorrow. I wanna tell him about my break and ask about his. He really likes games, YouTube, and The Walking Dead. Even if we just met I want him to come over for the day and play Game Cube of Wii with me. What do ya'll think?

Just do it.
Ain't no harm in startin' out friendly, is it?
A smile and a mention of how ye two like the same things should be more'n enough.
I think that sounds pretty fun. Jus' ask. c:

Thank you. ^^ Any second opinions?

I think you should go for it c: You'll only regret it if you never take the chance.

[aespa]

well here i am again; hi hello, last time you all saw me; i was having troubles, if i liked this guy; who turned out to like me back and now; we are both officially dating which i can never seem to get over, yet still. cx *ahem, before i tell you all my problem; let me take you back to when i was 8-9.

i don't remember much back then, (of course not; that was so long ago; i can only remember barely cause i'm a teenager now) but i had a childhood friend; there are many of them, it was just this one in particular has to do something with my boy problem now. well; me and my childhood friend weren't as close as we are now, because suddenly, T ended up moving to the same country i moved too a couple of years back. Like i had no idea until he told me the day i met him in 5-8 years. We were both awkward at first, but as soon as he asked me if i played league, it was an instant connection like wifi. Like literately, i was thrown in the same room with him for about 5 minutes and OOM friends for life. We laughed, talked & sort of gossiped and just told him all my problems. We stopped by starbucks which was near by his place which was weird because he has never stepped foot in there; ever. but thats another story.

it was quiet a rare site to see a girl gamer; i know there are alot on chicken smoothie and other sites; but in my school and hometown; it was rare. so when i got asked what i do or what sort of things that interested me ; the straight up answer was games. then anime & procrastination and so on. well, since there were such less population of females who plays video games like me in my hometown; i tend to talk to lots of other guys and when i mean alot i mean alot. almost half of my friend list is the opposite sex, which doesn't bother me ofc; they are all friends of mine that i play with online & games wise. & with that; i met my boyfriend; D.

D's cute; he has the exact sense of humour as me; he isn't that type of flashy dude who only wants attention; someone who isn't self centred and he cares about me xD. i fell for him quickly in the time span of 6 months; 3 months meeting him; 3 months getting to know him; & here we are. xD 3 months ago he asked me out xD which was weird. AHAHA I JUST RELIAZED THAT TIS ALL 3 HAAAAA XD anyways; yeah; its been pretty hectic and there were alot of things that happened in the time span of 12 weeks.

just a recap; T is my childhood/bestfriend friend who lives really far away from me; and D is my boyfriend who i meet up with often, etc, etc, they have never met. & i don't think they ever will. i just wanted to clear that up before i introduce another character; J.

J is T's bestfriend; & i recently played with him on league; which who i thought who was S, but really was posing as her cause she lend him her acc for a champion. T introduced us through instagram and that was when he confessed that it was him and not S. I just; well i thought about the trust as it broke because he was really convincing. i was so convinced that it was her; i '<3' and said 'ily' straight up. he replied back with my replies & i JUST FELT SO BROKEN THE TRUST. but that whole topic was something for us to talk about; and thus our friendship grew and grew until he had the honour to call him self my bestfriend.
(if you're wondering why i have so many best friends its because i am a open and approchable person. i won't bite c:)

well things were going pretty normally awesome until the day he confessed hes love for me. yep; i said it right. love. and he really means it too. here's why.

he talks to me everyday; and he's the one always starting the conversation. he asks about my day and makes me laugh & smile. we skype often like i do with all my friends and it's not awkward at all. he likes all my gestures and just likes me for my whole being i guess. i don't know. i just don't know what else to say with out being cheesy xD

we've never met; at all; he's all the way up at west when im all the way here; in the south. and just; i don't know; its so far away; that i even rarely see T! i miss him man ;-; and i'm just waiting for the day i'm gonna meet up with J. we talk everyday; even though i know he's feelings towards me; i still talk to him. he knows i'm in a relationship; i set that rule & statement down, hard. & he knows aboyt daniel and such. but even all of those things; he still likes me. & he knows i am off limits. he just; i don't know; stays i guess; and i asked him why. he said because he's never had a friendship like this before; and he just doesn't want to loose something so rare like that.

just wanted to ask; is it a problem for me to still be best friends with a guy who loves me? he knows hes place; but refuses to move on. i don't know; he's a really really nice and generous guy. not that i like him in that way ofc; he's just a general great guy. not as great as D though hUEHUE. all of my friendships are different and this is one of a kind. so? is it okay i can still be friends with him? ;o;

[surfiez]

Ok so I've liked this one guy for awhile and he's super nice and kind (guy A) I think he likes me but I'm not sure… anyway I met (guy B) at school this year and he is nice and kind too and Im pretty sure he likes me… they both have my must haves in a guy (blonde surfer) but I don't know who I should go for… guy A was my first crush and he's amazing and I'd choose him over guy B but recently I hung out with guy B and he offered me his jacket when I was cold and he faked pushed me and scared me XD… however me and guy A have some moments too… he gives me his waves when we surf together and I always catch him looking at me and smiling… ugh I have no idea they are both amazing ;-; I'm pretty sure they both like me but do you think they do?

Wanting more opinions :3

[waterkist]

Ok so I've liked this one guy for awhile and he's super nice and kind (guy A) I think he likes me but I'm not sure… anyway I met (guy B) at school this year and he is nice and kind too and Im pretty sure he likes me… they both have my must haves in a guy (blonde surfer) but I don't know who I should go for… guy A was my first crush and he's amazing and I'd choose him over guy B but recently I hung out with guy B and he offered me his jacket when I was cold and he faked pushed me and scared me XD… however me and guy A have some moments too… he gives me his waves when we surf together and I always catch him looking at me and smiling… ugh I have no idea they are both amazing ;-; I'm pretty sure they both like me but do you think they do?

Wanting more opinions :3

It sounds like your such an outgoing person and that they both DO like you!
It would be hard deciding which one you technically feel like you perhaps love but always think "Which one do I really want to spend time with, which one cares for me the most?"
Its just like a test sadly XD Multiple choices and youve narrowed it down to two but you have no idea.

[mars]

My friend G invited some of our friends to go see Mockingjay Part 1 on Wednesday before Thanksgiving right after our morning college class. It ended up just being four of us plus G's mom, which was pretty awkward, but the other two people that came were my friend S and my crush, M.

I was really excited to go, and forced my mom to let us leave for vacation a few hours late. I went to the movie, and we ended up sitting in this order: G's mom, G, S, Me, M. Of course I was super happy to sit next to my crush!

However, about half way through the movie, I saw M slip a bit farther away from me as if he was avoiding me. Unknown to me, my hand had slipped down to my side and sort of was positioned like I wanted him to hold my hand even though I had no intentions of doing so. I quickly slipped it back onto my lap and pretended it had never happened, but clearly he was weirded out since he doesn't like me in that way and kept avoiding me a little bit for the rest of the movie.

After the movie was over it was a little awkward between us, but we sort of tried to act like everything was as usual though I could see he was acting sort of funny. I saw one of my friends, E, walking into the theater and ran over to talk to her to try and avoid talking to M very much. I have social anxiety, and I flee quickly from stressful situations, so I couldn't stop myself though I wish I had so we could of talked it over even a little bit.

Meanwhile, M's car had pulled up and he said goodbye from across the room. He sounded a bit sad that I couldn't say goodbye to him, but at the same time relieved that it wasn't very up close or face-to-face because of it being so weird between us. Since then we haven't texted and he hasn't liked a single one of my pictures on Instagram (he's usually all over them, liking them within an hour of them being posted. This is really abnormal).

I was sick from school yesterday (I ended up psyching myself out about him thinking I like him to the point I had to stay home) and he wasn't in school today (he gave an odd excuse that didn't match up with what his sister told me). Do you guys have any ideas of how to possibly make it better between us tomorrow without me having to step up and go beyond what I'm comfortable with as far as my social anxiety goes (talking very much to crushes is very hard, especially right now because I'm 75% certain he doesn't like me and 100% sure he knows I like him)? Or do I just have to wait it out and let it work out the kinks itself? I'm going crazy just sitting here because I don't know what to do to fix this.

Thank you to anyone who might be able to help! Sorry it got so long |"D
Feel free to pm me or just reply here, either way works for me ;v;

[GIGABITE]

Interesting situation today, sort of involving crushes
Well, it all started when I was being a complete tool and using my finger to write my sister and her crush's initials "KS + AN" on the foggy bus window next to my seat. Why? Because it made her mad (or at least, pretend mad) and that's pretty amusing.
Well, it got funnier when my former crush's sister started encouraging me, jumping in herself to play with my sister like that. Well, sis got her revenge by writing "AS + NB" on the window
I hesitated a moment too long, before coming to the conclusion that my former crush's initials are also NB, and both his friend and sister saw it, possibly NB himself as well, before I wiped it away.
Half a second. That's all it took.
I could have easily disregarded it had a small riot ensued afterwards, as my sister and I were getting off the bus. NB was extra curious as to what we were all talking about after that, and began interrogating his sister as we stood waiting for others to move. Then his friend, who was previously just doing his own thing, moved to the spot in front of NB and began conversation. Coincidence? Perhaps. I guess I'll find out at a later date. My sister was oblivious to what happened, as she was too busy making sure there was no trace of "KS + AN" on the window. When I told her what happened, she thought my little embarrassment was absolutely hilarious.
So I may or may not have a situation on my hands
Guess I'll have to wait and see

[allons y]

I'm totally confused about this guy I have a crush on. So he said he had a crush on me a while back. He was like "oh yeah in second grade I had a crush on you but I was too nervous to tell you", but he made it sound like he didn't have a crush on me anymore. Anyway, after that he seemed to have a crush on me, like he would stand up for me when I wanted to hang out with him but his friend said no... A bunch of things like that happened, including him "accidentally" putting his arm around me (long story). So then he switched schools a few years ago and almost immediately started dating some other girl. We kept in touch for a bit the he told me his email was broken when I next saw him. That went ok, until I emailed him if it truly wasn't working. He said it actually was. Then a few months ago his huge Halloween party comes and luckily I'm invited, except I could tell he tried to ditch me at least 3 times. It seems like he kind of hates me now, but we were best friends (and we shared plenty of memories) when he was in my school. Does anybody have any idea how I could ask him if he doesn't like me (not like crushes, like how you like somebody) anymore? Thanks!
Oh, and Smolder? That is a haaard situation! Something like that has happened to me before. Good luck!