Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[.:Ovanite:.]

Hi, i need some advice, i have a crush and i think he likes my friend more than me, and i get really jealous sometimes when they leave me out of something... Am i over exaggerating? Because i dont know what to do please help

[thunderofthedrum]

It's very difficult for me to find a relationship, apparently
Really I need it in my life; some kind of stability. Someone who will actually care for me, since all of my friends have other friends and I'm of the lowest priority
But for whatever reason, every crush I get is a flop. This only further stresses me and simply adds to my weird emotional state. This whole relationship thing is just not happening for me for a while, I suppose
I still admire people, however, even though at this point I just don't try anymore

To be honest, it sounds to me like you want a relationship simply to have a relationship - and that's not the right reason. When we don't know someone super well, we tend to overlook all of the 'unknowns', or delude ourselves into thinking there is only further perfection to be found (instead of reality, flaws, bad habits, etc). Also, make sure that when you ARE with someone, they aren't your WHOLE world. Maintain your own life, your own goals. Don't live through the person you are dating or become clingy. Independence is attractive, as long as you aren't being distant.

[Skogkatt]

So it's my boyfriend's birthday on Friday and I want to make it a really good day for him.
I've already given him his birthday present, I took him to his first concert on Halloween ♥
Anyone have any tips about how to make it a memorable time? ; v ;

[pizzas and scream]

I get to hang out with my crush tomorrow after school I'm so nervous. I've only been on two dates before and they were both awkward as sin. He told me last night that he wants to kiss me. He asked me if it would be okay if he kissed me while we were hanging out. I gave him permission to, but now I'm nervous. I've only been kissed twice, both by a boy I didn't like. I didn't kiss back so I pretty much have no kissing experience. What if he thinks I'm a horrible kisser and doesn't like me anymore? I'm like pulling my hair out thinking about it.
I also have a question to those who do have experience with kissing. Most people say they feel sparks when they kiss someone they really like. I felt nothing when that guy kissed me. So is it true that you feel sparks or something like that or is it just nothing?

You do feel sparks. When you kiss someone you feel passionately towards, you kiss a little longer, stretch a little higher, get a little closer. It's a rumbling and exciting feeling that comes from within. When you kiss someone that you don't feel comfortable with, or that you aren't truly physically attracted to, there's anxiety present and it takes away the good feelings of sharing a kiss with someone. It's an overall excitement, especially when it comes to the first one. I hope you do get to feel this with this guy, but if you don't, don't give up hope immediately, just give him a chance.

Someone like me who is love shy with intamacy issues so mine is " do I really want to touch this person?"

[northern downpour ;;]

Everyone is telling me to get over him
But I can't
It's like...
I can't picture myself with anyone else but him.
And I don't want to.
I need so much help...

[Abbsicle]

Everyone is telling me to get over him
But I can't
It's like...
I can't picture myself with anyone else but him.
And I don't want to.
I need so much help...

i know exactly how you feel. stay strong ok? itll all get better and youll never have to worry about him sometime soon, i know it. c:

[Beta]

Everyone is telling me to get over him
But I can't
It's like...
I can't picture myself with anyone else but him.
And I don't want to.
I need so much help...

i know exactly how you feel. stay strong ok? itll all get better and youll never have to worry about him sometime soon, i know it. c:

Everything will be alright, that's exactly how I felt when my boyfriend and I split up for 3 months; however he came back. I'm not saying it WILL happen but it is a possibility. Stay strong hun. xx

[northern downpour ;;]

You people are too nice <3
He told me there was a chance he'd come back, but in the meantime it just hurts.
I don't know what comfort I have right now, really...
Guess I'll just keep on living... but how do I deal with the pain? I'm not good at that

[Beta]

You people are too nice <3
He told me there was a chance he'd come back, but in the meantime it just hurts.
I don't know what comfort I have right now, really...
Guess I'll just keep on living... but how do I deal with the pain? I'm not good at that

Find good and healthy distractions, keep busy. Stay focused on your own interests and keep yourself absorbed in doing things you enjoy. Time will pass, and feelings will fade. I've been through it once, thought I was totally in love and lost my soul mate (I dated him for 3 dang months) you'll see after you move on, you'll look back and wonder why you ever tried to make things work with the person. Trust me, it'll be fine.

[kayynine]

Kind of venting, kind of need advice.

I'm just gonna start from the very beginning.
So, I have a huge crush on one of my guy-friends{j}. But, he's the cousin of my best friend{c}. j's best friend is my ex-boyfriend{o}. o used to go out with c and another one of my close friends{k}.

Anyways, I've had a crush on him for a while now. Last year, we had the same math class and that's where I met j. He sat across from me, and we became almost instant friends. Over time, I had a crush on j.
He would constantly try to get my attention, and we would flirt all the time. After school, he would walk me to the corner and say bye to each other.
We go to the same church, and we used to wave and make faces at each other when we got out of church.

So, time-skip to now.
We have no classes together, but our breaks and lunches are the same.
We don't talk, like, ever, but during both break and lunch he acts loud, which I assume is to get my attention and always makes excuses to come down near my group.
Not only that, but he stares or glances in my direction all the time, but when I go to look at him he looks away.
I know another one of my friends has a crush on him as well, but he doesn't really act interested.

And on Friday, I was in one of my classes and we went down to the library to type up some reports. I was in a seat behind the teacher, facing the opposite way.
J comes in, {I have my back to him} and asks the teacher if he can borrow a book. I didn't expect to hear him, so I practically jumped out of my chair, nearly tripping over myself in the process, and walk away to type up my report. I didn't know that I hit my teacher in the process, but I realized and I apologize. J was wearing this shy grin, and I started blushing insanely.

I feel stupid.

EDIT: I now find out he has a girlfriend.
I'm just so sick of sitting back and watching other people live their life while I'm hooked on one guy.
Advice would be appreciated.

I don't know what to do, does he even like me? he has a girlfriend.

And another edit: His cousin, who is my best friend, has returned to school from homeschooling. She doesn't really know that I like him, but I feel like she might have caught on. I just get too nervous and shy to speak to j, so I don't know what to do.
I have social anxiety, and I'm a bit antisocial so it's really hard to speak to anyone, especially him.