Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[DaydreamNarrator]

alright, my boyfriend and i would love to sleepover at my house (only sleepover, nothing more) and my mum says its okay but my dad wont let us, though he knows that i want to wait with "it" til im 18...-_-''

[Princess Porcelain]

My brother and I are both having relationship problems for the same reason. His fiancé is pregnant, but she said it may not be his because she cheated on him around the time she got pregnant. Then she dropped the bombshell that it was with MY boyfriend.

Well this is just my opinion, but if there's cheating going on you guys should break up. If they cheat once, they will cheat again. Cheating is not a one-time thing, unless you're in your early/mid teens. Everybody's kinda stupid around that age. But I don't suppose your brother's fiance is in her mid/early teens if she's engaged to your brother. Honestly, I would not stay with a cheater, I would break up and never give them another chance. They don't deserve another chance after that point.

[y i n]

/squeel/
Soooo
so...
You guys know how I have this huge crush on my best friend?
Well, I took the advise and told him today to get it off my back.
He said that it doesn't effect our friendship, and we're still best friends <333
I asked his what it'd be like if we were together, he said it'd probably be like how we are now but it'd be better~
We've held hands before, never kissed or anything, but we're just like a couple already cx
We're always together~ We tell each other we love each other and everything <3
Thanks so much you guysssssss!!!
I'm so glad yall gave me the advice to tell him, I'm so happy I got that off my back cx

[JustDucky]

Do you guys know how many times a day someone says something to me about my boyfriend? "You know you can do better," or "he really don't treat you right!" A few people think he's abusive, but he's not.
Maybe I can do better, but I'm happy, so I don't need/want to do better. Yes, he may ignore me when I'm there, sometimes, when he's around his friends, but he don't get to see them that often, and he always sees me.
He was my bestfriend before, and really I don't think we'll be much more than that. He won't kiss me, or anything more. And today my sister told me in the future I'm going to want something more, and there probably won't be anything more for us. She's probably right.
I don't want to lose him, because if I try, and think about life without him, I see myself sad, and miserable. I was already aware of the fact that we probably can't be friends afterwards.
Any opinions? Should I just ignore everyone else, and be happy?

[sprig]

Do you guys know how many times a day someone says something to me about my boyfriend? "You know you can do better," or "he really don't treat you right!" A few people think he's abusive, but he's not.
Maybe I can do better, but I'm happy, so I don't need/want to do better. Yes, he may ignore me when I'm there, sometimes, when he's around his friends, but he don't get to see them that often, and he always sees me.
He was my bestfriend before, and really I don't think we'll be much more than that. He won't kiss me, or anything more. And today my sister told me in the future I'm going to want something more, and there probably won't be anything more for us. She's probably right.
I don't want to lose him, because if I try, and think about life without him, I see myself sad, and miserable. I was already aware of the fact that we probably can't be friends afterwards.
Any opinions? Should I just ignore everyone else, and be happy?

To be honest, I've been in this situation...
But I gave him up, and not too long after, I found someone better, and he and I are perfect.
So if he treats you that way, he doesn't deserve you.

[Dia.]

Do you guys know how many times a day someone says something to me about my boyfriend? "You know you can do better," or "he really don't treat you right!" A few people think he's abusive, but he's not.
Maybe I can do better, but I'm happy, so I don't need/want to do better. Yes, he may ignore me when I'm there, sometimes, when he's around his friends, but he don't get to see them that often, and he always sees me.
He was my bestfriend before, and really I don't think we'll be much more than that. He won't kiss me, or anything more. And today my sister told me in the future I'm going to want something more, and there probably won't be anything more for us. She's probably right.
I don't want to lose him, because if I try, and think about life without him, I see myself sad, and miserable. I was already aware of the fact that we probably can't be friends afterwards.
Any opinions? Should I just ignore everyone else, and be happy?

What you're saying doesn't sound like he's even a boyfriend.
He ignores you. In no circumstance should he /ignore/ you. Yes, he can talk to his friends and hang out with his friends. Of course he can, by all means. But if you are around, he shouldn't treat you any differently than when you two are alone.
You said it yourself. "He was my bestfriend before, and really I don't think we'll be much more than that." So he's your best friend. You already realize that he's not /actually/ your boyfriend.
He won't kiss you? Even after you've been dating for a while?
Yes, you will want more, especially if you really like him. If he doesn't feel the same way about you, which it seems like he really doesn't, he's not going to be able to be the boyfriend that you want him to be.
You have more a chance of losing him if you wait until things fall apart which, from what you said, seems like will definitely happen the longer you wait. You said that he was your best friend and you will never be anything more, which means that nothing should have changed between now and the time before you started dating. Here's one of my experiences to kind of help you out: I had a good guy friend. We started dating. A week later, nothing changed, so I ended it. We were perfectly okay and nothing seemed to have changed. We started dating again a little while later, for a longer period of time. It was a mistake. I ended it. We haven't talked since. If we hadn't started dating again, we probably would still be friends.

You didn't say anything about him being abusive, so I can't give any opinions on that matter.

You need to figure it out if you are actually happy or if you are just thinking that you should be happy and tricking yourself into it. A lot of the time, girls see the world through rose-colored glasses while the people around them see what is actually going on. Your friends, especially if they are good friends, know you well... and they are trying to take care of you. If you trust them, I suggest taking what they say to heart and really thinking about what is going on.
Is it worth it to continue like this is a dead end relationship where the other person doesn't feel the other way?

I'm sorry to be blunt, I just don't like what I read and felt the need to get my point in here.

[hollyglow]

Okay, well, this is awkward. I have an overnight field trip tomorrow, and according to some people who went before, we have to walk into dinner with someone of the opposite gender. Like a date. And I'm terrified, because my crush will be on that trip. But it's also uncomfortable, because my friends were talking about it at lunch, and they were asking if there were any cute boys on my team. Why yes, there are. In my opinion. But another girl said there weren't, and I didn't want to say anything, especially because I'm not the kind of girl who notices boys for their cuteness-actually, I usually judge them on their intelligence and how nice he is. But so awkward!

[~JayFeather~]

Had an amazing day yesterday with my not-a-boyfriend at our local Arts & Crafts Festival. He even helped me serve food when I had to work. Even got our first kiss when he had to go... Jeez I wish we could date. Everyone already thinks we are and honestly we basically are. But we can't. Not yet. Not until he can convince his dad I'm not a devil child...(long story...)

Can't wait until school tomorrow...

Oh, and I stole his jacket...which is very nice and smells like him...

Lol, I stole my crushes hat. >W< I wore it all day at school.

[JustDucky]

Do you guys know how many times a day someone says something to me about my boyfriend? "You know you can do better," or "he really don't treat you right!" A few people think he's abusive, but he's not.
Maybe I can do better, but I'm happy, so I don't need/want to do better. Yes, he may ignore me when I'm there, sometimes, when he's around his friends, but he don't get to see them that often, and he always sees me.
He was my bestfriend before, and really I don't think we'll be much more than that. He won't kiss me, or anything more. And today my sister told me in the future I'm going to want something more, and there probably won't be anything more for us. She's probably right.
I don't want to lose him, because if I try, and think about life without him, I see myself sad, and miserable. I was already aware of the fact that we probably can't be friends afterwards.
Any opinions? Should I just ignore everyone else, and be happy?

What you're saying doesn't sound like he's even a boyfriend.
He ignores you. In no circumstance should he /ignore/ you. Yes, he can talk to his friends and hang out with his friends. Of course he can, by all means. But if you are around, he shouldn't treat you any differently than when you two are alone.
You said it yourself. "He was my bestfriend before, and really I don't think we'll be much more than that." So he's your best friend. You already realize that he's not /actually/ your boyfriend.
He won't kiss you? Even after you've been dating for a while?
Yes, you will want more, especially if you really like him. If he doesn't feel the same way about you, which it seems like he really doesn't, he's not going to be able to be the boyfriend that you want him to be.
You have more a chance of losing him if you wait until things fall apart which, from what you said, seems like will definitely happen the longer you wait. You said that he was your best friend and you will never be anything more, which means that nothing should have changed between now and the time before you started dating. Here's one of my experiences to kind of help you out: I had a good guy friend. We started dating. A week later, nothing changed, so I ended it. We were perfectly okay and nothing seemed to have changed. We started dating again a little while later, for a longer period of time. It was a mistake. I ended it. We haven't talked since. If we hadn't started dating again, we probably would still be friends.

You didn't say anything about him being abusive, so I can't give any opinions on that matter.

You need to figure it out if you are actually happy or if you are just thinking that you should be happy and tricking yourself into it. A lot of the time, girls see the world through rose-colored glasses while the people around them see what is actually going on. Your friends, especially if they are good friends, know you well... and they are trying to take care of you. If you trust them, I suggest taking what they say to heart and really thinking about what is going on.
Is it worth it to continue like this is a dead end relationship where the other person doesn't feel the other way?

I'm sorry to be blunt, I just don't like what I read and felt the need to get my point in here.

He's not abusive, people think he is for some reason. I know he feels the same way, and he tells me more than I tell him. He started liking me before I knew I liked him. Things have changed since we started dating. (He holds my hand, and he's been really sweet, and he calls me bae) He just don't act the same as when we're alone, and when we're with friends.
He actually made me wait for him to break up with this girl, and by the time he did that I was trying to move on. He was still my bestfriend at the time, and whenever I was around him he was talking about another chick, or I believe trying to make me jealous. It worked, so I gave in, and asked him out. He said yes, and started being really sweet, and never really talked about another chick again.
So, it kind of feels like I was forced into the relationship. (Not just by him, but a friend told me he would treat me right, and I was different from all the other girls he played) More or less I don't yet regret that. My sister says that he's always hitting on other girls at school, when I'm around, and it looks like he's trying to play me. Maybe I trust him too much, but I don't think he would do that for a few reasons. The number one reason is that he waited three years to be with me, and I don't think he would mess that up.

[Aragami]

Okay so, I have been rather moody this entire month(no, I swear I'm not pregnant, just... Moody) and I'm usually like this every once in a while, since its quite natural for me. Its an odd thing I have. So I've been noticing that it feels as though my boyfriend is more into the video games until he tells himself to stop... Whenever he spends the night, he plays until 3 or 6am and finally cuddles up next to me. It saddens me, actually, not being able to feel his touch when I first lay down, we just kiss each other(or I have to peck him on the cheek) and say goodnight. I feel like I'm a mother rather than a girlfriend, and that makes me feel... uncomfortable... Since I truly love him, and never wish to lose him in any stupid or reasonable way. Its just we only have good, and deepish conversations when he decides to go have a smoke, usually we never talk at all! I try talking to him while hes gaming, but I end up getting a "What did you say, hun?" "What was that?" no matter how loudly I speak, he still barely listens! It tears me in half. I would play the video games with him, but its hard enough trying to also get back into the computer games, and xbox has been worse for me, due to my bottled up anger coming out. Plus, all of the games are only one player except for a few that we never play unless I beg him to... I feel like.. I'm no longer his interest, like he just comes over to only play more video games without having to wake up his grandma(he has to help her around the house ever since her husband was put in a nursing home), and it just hurts so much knowing that it wont be the same as I first saw him again. I missed that jelly feeling I got when I got to see him again, it was a wonderful feeling, a feeling I've never had before, and I miss all of the cuddling we always had. Now its just things that make me feel as though he isn't interested anymore... I would try to talk to him about it, but what if I hurt him? I don't ever wish to upset my lover, and he doesn't like to see me upset. I have to usually fake a smile and that hurts worse...

I don't know what to do... He acts interested, then he ends up getting distant on me... Help? Anyone? Please...