Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[vvoland]

This is ridiculous. Having a boy/girlfriend before your 18 is daft flirting, to be perfectly frank with you.

Why is that?

Simply because you're obviously not going to marry your schoolday "crush", which makes it flirting, and flirting is BAD. Why get mixed up with trying to "get boys to like you" before you even know how it works, just because it makes you feel cool?

I've never been in a relationship. But I really disagree with this. First of all, there are actually people who have married their high school boyfriend/girlfriend. Second of all, you make it sound like just because you are an adult, a one night stand is so much more meaningful than a year long high school relationship.
Like honestly. What.?

Bfs/gfs are also considered friends. For the most part, friends do give happiness. What's wrong with falling in love earlier than eighteen.?

and again. Flirting is bad.? I can see kinda where you are coming from, but meh. It'll happen when you're older too.
/endrant/

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All Hallows Eve;
aw, I'm so sorry ;A;
He really isn't worth it though.
But just remember the friend that found you. Real friends love each other. Stay strong for them. And please don't hurt yourself. If you need to talk, my inbox is always open..

[Bye.....]

This is ridiculous. Having a boy/girlfriend before your 18 is daft flirting, to be perfectly frank with you.

Why is that?

Simply because you're obviously not going to marry your schoolday "crush", which makes it flirting, and flirting is BAD. Why get mixed up with trying to "get boys to like you" before you even know how it works, just because it makes you feel cool?

Excuse me, but you're making it sound like all boyfriend/girlfriend relationships are just some stupid follies of one day marrying and having kids. You're also making it sound like a week-long relationship as an adult will last longer than a years-long relationship in high school. Mind you, many high school sweethearts end up getting married and it lasted. When you date, it helps you find yourself. Who you work well with and who you don't, what attracts you to a person, and what qualities you like in yourself that you find in them. So really, if you don't date before eighteen, you'll be pretty lost and won't know what to do.
(And having a crush and talking to them doesn't make it "flirting", as you so imply.)

[bubbly.]

My problem is the typical problem

There's this boy I like, and i'm not sure if he likes me. I mean, we're good friends and he hangs out with us but I really don't know. I like him alot, and he went out with one of my close friends for awhile but she broke up with him because she didn't feel ready for a boyfriend. From what I gathered when they were together, he is pretty sweet. I imagine it's hard to find boys like him. So...should I ask him out?

[Noni Gailin Ayrenin~]

This is ridiculous. Having a boy/girlfriend before your 18 is daft flirting, to be perfectly frank with you.

Why is that?

Simply because you're obviously not going to marry your schoolday "crush", which makes it flirting, and flirting is BAD. Why get mixed up with trying to "get boys to like you" before you even know how it works, just because it makes you feel cool?

......I'm not sure what to say to you now.

First of all, everyone knows that relationships end after highschool, and rarely ever do continue outside of it. Second, if flirting is bad in your mind, than I don't want to know what actually loving someone is to you.

Again, sweatheart, Dating is experimentation. That's how we figure out how it works.


People like you are the type of people who have more than likely lived sheltered lives and will more than like shelter their future children as well.

[Zeee]

This is ridiculous. Having a boy/girlfriend before your 18 is daft flirting, to be perfectly frank with you. :thumbdown:

Why is that?

Simply because you're obviously not going to marry your schoolday "crush", which makes it flirting, and flirting is BAD. Why get mixed up with trying to "get boys to like you" before you even know how it works, just because it makes you feel cool?

May I ask how flirting is bad? And if having a boyfriend or a girlfriend before 18, how are you ever supposed to know how it works up until then? I find THAT ridiculous. And how would having a boyfriend or girlfriend or liking someone or knowing someone likes you make you feel cool?

As Noni Gailin Ayrenin~ said, dating is how we figure out how it works. It's how we figure out what we want in a relationship, which is GOOD thing so we don't constantly go after people that won't work out. Relationships are good, having a crush is good. Cause you get closer with whatever person, and you build trust and friendship. And those are good, aren't they?

Sure, you probably aren't going to marry your crush/boyfriend/girlfriend from highschool or college or whatever, but it does happen. It can happen. I know you have your opinions and such, but all I'm saying is that I fail to see real proof of how all of this is bad.

[Cosmi]

Today was sooo embarrassing.
So My friend A was all like ''Would you be mad if I went up to G and told him if he likes you then run away really quick?'
Then later during lunch I told C and D that then G sat right at our lunch table.
So what does D go and do? Shouts out really loud ''Do you like (Insert name here)''
And he just stared blankly then she precedes to shout it out 10 more times.
I was not a happy camper.

[Anuran]

So yeah, I'm super upset.
The guy I was hangin' with this weekend, who kissed me (more than once, so wasn't no accident) seems to not want anything to do with me. He doesn't text at all anymore. He didn't even see me in the hall at the time we usually meet up to talk a bit. Nope. I went up to him and hugged him, and all he says is, "_____, I didn't see you." Da heck. I try texting him, and it's all one word or no answers.

And on top of that, this guy I dated for a good three years (We'll call him Pocky) was someone I wanted out of my life. I dumped him last December because I found out he was cheating, and when I did confront him, he said a lot of hurtful things to me and I couldn't deal with him anymore. Well, now, nearly a year later, we've made up and get along again and in school, we were texting (he lives in a different state) and he says all this stuff that made me cry in seventh period and is sounding like his normal self again that I absolutely love and miss. I can't do this. I know, deep down, that I'm still in love with him. It wasn't 'lust' that we had when we were dating, it was true and amazing and incredible when we were both good to eachother. We're both much more mature now (it's amazing how much a year changes people) and I really miss him. I do. I'm admitting it to myself right freakin' now. I think he's doing the same, considering the text he just sent me as I'm typing this sentence. Why is it so hard to stop loving someone?

Ugh.
<3,
mwah.

[Horsegirlmadison]

Someone beat up my crush today. His face was all bruised up and we were both crying.

[annakesha]

This is ridiculous. Having a boy/girlfriend before your 18 is daft flirting, to be perfectly frank with you.

Why is that?

Simply because you're obviously not going to marry your schoolday "crush", which makes it flirting, and flirting is BAD. Why get mixed up with trying to "get boys to like you" before you even know how it works, just because it makes you feel cool?

Okay I cant help but comment here. There are quite a few people who end up marrying their "schoolday crush", not that many, but still a few. Also, flirting isnt bad, what makes you think so? Flirting can be fun and friendly, and lets other people know you like them in some way. I know flirting can be misleading but theres a bad side to everything. And 'trying to get boys to like you'? They are simply asking for advice on how attract someone, not because it makes you feel 'cool', but because they LIKE them. How else are you going to figure out how things work without gaining experience through your middle-high school years? These years are the times when people have the most time to figure out dating, flirting and relationships because you arent studying your head off or working to sustain yourself. And where on earth did you hear that people flirt just to make themselves feel cool?

[annakesha]

Question. How do you know if the guy you like/ likes you is just playing you? Because last weekend, him and I hung out and cuddled and kissed and all this cute stuff, but today my friend said that she'd asked one of her friends why _____ hadn't asked me out yet, and her friend answered with, "Oh, he flirts with everybody. He doesn't ask people out."

So. Uhm.
What do I do?
I'd been wondering when he would ask me, but.. ugh.
I really like him, too. :c

I can definitely relate!
Best advice I can give you is move on with your life. Dont completely stop caring about him or anything but dont let your life start revolving around him(cause thats what happened to me, and I wasnt exactly happy). You can't really tell if a guy likes you or is just playing with you because everyone has a different way of expressing themselves. I used to think that the guy I liked/like liked me back to, but then it felt like he was just playing me. I still am not sure about my opinion on him to be honest, Im kinda confused on whether I like him or not. In any case, I would say go with the flow, dont stress too much about it and dont focus on him too much. It sounds like he might be playing you but as I said, you never know.
Hope this helped :3