Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[thunderofthedrum]

Hello lovelies, I've come with a slight problem that I'm needing some advice on. ^^

Alrighty then, well, you see, I've been dating this guy for about seven months now and before that we were the best of friends. I mean the kinda friends that would go anywhere with each other, making up the craziest songs, go on rides that we were absolutely terrifying. We were very close, like cream and tea. Well, I never really realized that he liked me, only that we would follow each other around like lost puppies, but then one day, about a year or so later, I finally confronted him about it and around Valentines Day he called me and asked me out. Now, everyone at our school had tormenting us about "Are you two dating yet?" "You two are perfect for each other!" "When are you two gonna go out?!" so when we got back to school and he was asked "Are you two dating?" he responded with yes, and the entire class, including the teacher went crazy. :l Seems good so far, right?

Now, both of us are kinda on the social awkward side so the first few months of our relationship we didn't do any kissing, hugging, or hand-holding. But a few weeks later I went up to him for a hug and he rejected it, I was a little shocked but pushed it aside, then a few days later I tried again and he responded with "I'm not in a hugging mood." then I was hurt. Now, he has a history of having a lot of girlfriends (I'm # 24 ) but the thing is, he's nothing but sweet, kind, and loving, he's the only REAL gentlemen I've seen. So, I went snooping around to figure out why they dumped him but honestly found nothing, most of his girlfriends said it was because he didn't call enough but in my case, he does, some of the others said it was because he was a jerk--which I find very, very hard to believe due to the fact he's one of the nicest guys' I know. None of them said it was because of 'lack of affection.'

Weeeeeeeeeellll, it seems like every time I try to hug, kiss, or hold his hand he has to come up with an excuse to why he can't or why not. Now, this doesn't happen all the time, but in total we've only hugged about ten times, most of them I had to ask for, I've only kissed him about four times on the cheek and every time he kinda shy-ed away from me, holding hands is okay now I guess, but I still kinda have to ask. He's never really tried to make a move over on me and if he has I haven't noticed. He's perfect with just about everything else though, he's always getting me gifts without me asking, he even bought me a 130 dollar sterling silver bracelet for my birthday with three cute little charms on it. He pulls out chairs, opens doors, pays for my meals even when I try to pay for them myself. He's never let me pay for my own meal. Never. NEVER. o-o He's smart and funny, cute and silly. I love him to pieces but sometimes it's just really hard to tell if he loves me too. And yes, I have told him that I feel this way, and I guess he's tried to step it up a bit, but it still kinda bothers me when we walk around and I see other couples that have been going out for only a month or so and their sitting there kissing each other.

I don't want it to seem like I'm forcing him to show his love to me, but it's like I have a boyfriend but can't show any "physical affection" to him. Sorry if this is too long. xD I just thought ya'll needed to know. Also, if it helps any, he says I'm the only one he's ever really had trouble showing affection to cause he get scared.

Initially, I do feel that it is very strange for him to shy away from all of your attempts. I'm trying to imagine having to ASK my boyfriend to hold his hand and I just.. can't. I also find is even stranger that someone is keeping count of his girlfriends. Lastly, I'm downright shocked at the high number. Does he date girls for only two days or what? That's ridiculously high and also odd to KNOW the number. If it were 7, sure, but over 20 and I'd start to lose count, even if I didn't necessarily forget names.

Now, as I let your story marinate in my brain juices, I do have to point out that some people are more okay with affection than others. Assuming you guys are still pretty young, 7 months may seem like a long time. All of his previous girlfriends were MORE than 7 months ago - and maybe he wasn't ready for affection then and the girls were young enough that this didn't bother them. Maybe he didn't date them long enough for much to happen. And, as I stated first, not everyone likes physical touching. It DOES sound like he cares about you (that bracelet sounds over the top in price, but still very nice) so I would guess he either feels awkward/unready or just isn't into physical touching much.

[kintsugi.]

Hello lovelies, I've come with a slight problem that I'm needing some advice on. ^^

Alrighty then, well, you see, I've been dating this guy for about seven months now and before that we were the best of friends. I mean the kinda friends that would go anywhere with each other, making up the craziest songs, go on rides that we were absolutely terrifying. We were very close, like cream and tea. Well, I never really realized that he liked me, only that we would follow each other around like lost puppies, but then one day, about a year or so later, I finally confronted him about it and around Valentines Day he called me and asked me out. Now, everyone at our school had tormenting us about "Are you two dating yet?" "You two are perfect for each other!" "When are you two gonna go out?!" so when we got back to school and he was asked "Are you two dating?" he responded with yes, and the entire class, including the teacher went crazy. :l Seems good so far, right?

Now, both of us are kinda on the social awkward side so the first few months of our relationship we didn't do any kissing, hugging, or hand-holding. But a few weeks later I went up to him for a hug and he rejected it, I was a little shocked but pushed it aside, then a few days later I tried again and he responded with "I'm not in a hugging mood." then I was hurt. Now, he has a history of having a lot of girlfriends (I'm # 24 ) but the thing is, he's nothing but sweet, kind, and loving, he's the only REAL gentlemen I've seen. So, I went snooping around to figure out why they dumped him but honestly found nothing, most of his girlfriends said it was because he didn't call enough but in my case, he does, some of the others said it was because he was a jerk--which I find very, very hard to believe due to the fact he's one of the nicest guys' I know. None of them said it was because of 'lack of affection.'

Weeeeeeeeeellll, it seems like every time I try to hug, kiss, or hold his hand he has to come up with an excuse to why he can't or why not. Now, this doesn't happen all the time, but in total we've only hugged about ten times, most of them I had to ask for, I've only kissed him about four times on the cheek and every time he kinda shy-ed away from me, holding hands is okay now I guess, but I still kinda have to ask. He's never really tried to make a move over on me and if he has I haven't noticed. He's perfect with just about everything else though, he's always getting me gifts without me asking, he even bought me a 130 dollar sterling silver bracelet for my birthday with three cute little charms on it. He pulls out chairs, opens doors, pays for my meals even when I try to pay for them myself. He's never let me pay for my own meal. Never. NEVER. o-o He's smart and funny, cute and silly. I love him to pieces but sometimes it's just really hard to tell if he loves me too. And yes, I have told him that I feel this way, and I guess he's tried to step it up a bit, but it still kinda bothers me when we walk around and I see other couples that have been going out for only a month or so and their sitting there kissing each other.

I don't want it to seem like I'm forcing him to show his love to me, but it's like I have a boyfriend but can't show any "physical affection" to him. Sorry if this is too long. xD I just thought ya'll needed to know. Also, if it helps any, he says I'm the only one he's ever really had trouble showing affection to cause he get scared.

Initially, I do feel that it is very strange for him to shy away from all of your attempts. I'm trying to imagine having to ASK my boyfriend to hold his hand and I just.. can't. I also find is even stranger that someone is keeping count of his girlfriends. Lastly, I'm downright shocked at the high number. Does he date girls for only two days or what? That's ridiculously high and also odd to KNOW the number. If it were 7, sure, but over 20 and I'd start to lose count, even if I didn't necessarily forget names.

Now, as I let your story marinate in my brain juices, I do have to point out that some people are more okay with affection than others. Assuming you guys are still pretty young, 7 months may seem like a long time. All of his previous girlfriends were MORE than 7 months ago - and maybe he wasn't ready for affection then and the girls were young enough that this didn't bother them. Maybe he didn't date them long enough for much to happen. And, as I stated first, not everyone likes physical touching. It DOES sound like he cares about you (that bracelet sounds over the top in price, but still very nice) so I would guess he either feels awkward/unready or just isn't into physical touching much.

I didn't keep up with the number, he told me the number, then listed out all of his girlfriends... And yes, most of his girlfriends only dated him for one to two weeks, but even then he'd hug on them and stuff. And we're aren't "THAT" young, we're sophomores in high school. Thanks for responding though, I just. . . Really, really like him and don't want to breakup with him but he's just not acting like a boyfriend to me. He even shy's away from complements.

[thunderofthedrum]

Initially, I do feel that it is very strange for him to shy away from all of your attempts. I'm trying to imagine having to ASK my boyfriend to hold his hand and I just.. can't. I also find is even stranger that someone is keeping count of his girlfriends. Lastly, I'm downright shocked at the high number. Does he date girls for only two days or what? That's ridiculously high and also odd to KNOW the number. If it were 7, sure, but over 20 and I'd start to lose count, even if I didn't necessarily forget names.

Now, as I let your story marinate in my brain juices, I do have to point out that some people are more okay with affection than others. Assuming you guys are still pretty young, 7 months may seem like a long time. All of his previous girlfriends were MORE than 7 months ago - and maybe he wasn't ready for affection then and the girls were young enough that this didn't bother them. Maybe he didn't date them long enough for much to happen. And, as I stated first, not everyone likes physical touching. It DOES sound like he cares about you (that bracelet sounds over the top in price, but still very nice) so I would guess he either feels awkward/unready or just isn't into physical touching much.

I didn't keep up with the number, he told me the number, then listed out all of his girlfriends... And yes, most of his girlfriends only dated him for one to two weeks, but even then he'd hug on them and stuff. And we're aren't "THAT" young, we're sophomores in high school. Thanks for responding though, I just. . . Really, really like him and don't want to breakup with him but he's just not acting like a boyfriend to me. He even shy's away from complements.

I DO consider that young, though middle school would make more sense. Him knowing the number and listing the names (I feel) was odd and a little inappropriate; that's HIS information and he shouldn't be sharing that to people. That almost sounds to me like bragging, even if the tone doesn't suggest it. My boyfriend doesn't tell me all the girls he's dated, except for the rare moment of referring to a characteristic or incident regarding one of them.

It does sound like he tries to treat you well, but if you don't feel comfortable or wanted, that's worth breaking up over if it can't be changed. You could always bring it up to him, like ask if he was more comfortable with you guys as friends and if he'd prefer going back to that. I'm no expert; my boyfriend is very different (in more ways than one).

[vanilla kitten]

hello c: so things were going great with me and my crush. that is, until thursday. i go over to his house all the time--we aren't dating or anything. his mom considers me a second daughter, and the twins (my crush's little brother and sister), consider me their older sister. which is cool, and i fit in with them. it was a normal night; he and i were flirting, kissing, doing things teenage couples would do (even though we're not dating). things were fine.

except, that night he kept punching me in the thighs. which of course, hurt; my thighs are still sore. i blew it off, because we had been play fighting, but it happened again the next day. but this time, he was also digging his chin into my shoulder blades as well as punching me. he never hit me in the face, only the legs. he also kept hitting me with this weird stick thing. in the end, i slapped him twice to get him to stop. at which point, he got mad at me.

he then proceeded to calling me dirty names, as well as the names of other girls i hate (because they're nasty, like literally. i can't even -_- ew oh my gosh no). then, we were standing in the bathroom and he and i were about to kiss and he says, "it's funny that you think i would actually kiss you. which made me tear up and i went into his bedroom and watched tv with p, one of the twins. it really hurt my feelings, and we made up later.. but honestly, i don't think i feel anything for him.

i don't know, i just wanted to vent. and his apology was sincere. he has bipolar disorder and a whole mess of others, but still.. i don't know if i should trust him. he's gone at his dad's so i won't see him until next week when we go to cedar point. should i talk to him about it & how i feel now, or should i just let it be?

thanks!

[gleebees]

Hello lovelies, I've come with a slight problem that I'm needing some advice on. ^^

Alrighty then, well, you see, I've been dating this guy for about seven months now and before that we were the best of friends. I mean the kinda friends that would go anywhere with each other, making up the craziest songs, go on rides that we were absolutely terrifying. We were very close, like cream and tea. Well, I never really realized that he liked me, only that we would follow each other around like lost puppies, but then one day, about a year or so later, I finally confronted him about it and around Valentines Day he called me and asked me out. Now, everyone at our school had tormenting us about "Are you two dating yet?" "You two are perfect for each other!" "When are you two gonna go out?!" so when we got back to school and he was asked "Are you two dating?" he responded with yes, and the entire class, including the teacher went crazy. :l Seems good so far, right?

Now, both of us are kinda on the social awkward side so the first few months of our relationship we didn't do any kissing, hugging, or hand-holding. But a few weeks later I went up to him for a hug and he rejected it, I was a little shocked but pushed it aside, then a few days later I tried again and he responded with "I'm not in a hugging mood." then I was hurt. Now, he has a history of having a lot of girlfriends (I'm # 24 ) but the thing is, he's nothing but sweet, kind, and loving, he's the only REAL gentlemen I've seen. So, I went snooping around to figure out why they dumped him but honestly found nothing, most of his girlfriends said it was because he didn't call enough but in my case, he does, some of the others said it was because he was a jerk--which I find very, very hard to believe due to the fact he's one of the nicest guys' I know. None of them said it was because of 'lack of affection.'

Weeeeeeeeeellll, it seems like every time I try to hug, kiss, or hold his hand he has to come up with an excuse to why he can't or why not. Now, this doesn't happen all the time, but in total we've only hugged about ten times, most of them I had to ask for, I've only kissed him about four times on the cheek and every time he kinda shy-ed away from me, holding hands is okay now I guess, but I still kinda have to ask. He's never really tried to make a move over on me and if he has I haven't noticed. He's perfect with just about everything else though, he's always getting me gifts without me asking, he even bought me a 130 dollar sterling silver bracelet for my birthday with three cute little charms on it. He pulls out chairs, opens doors, pays for my meals even when I try to pay for them myself. He's never let me pay for my own meal. Never. NEVER. o-o He's smart and funny, cute and silly. I love him to pieces but sometimes it's just really hard to tell if he loves me too. And yes, I have told him that I feel this way, and I guess he's tried to step it up a bit, but it still kinda bothers me when we walk around and I see other couples that have been going out for only a month or so and their sitting there kissing each other.

I don't want it to seem like I'm forcing him to show his love to me, but it's like I have a boyfriend but can't show any "physical affection" to him. Sorry if this is too long. xD I just thought ya'll needed to know. Also, if it helps any, he says I'm the only one he's ever really had trouble showing affection to cause he get scared.

Honest to goodness, I think he actually is scared to show physical affection to you (As he said). Personally, I think that means he is really, really into you and that he doesn't want to do anything that would push you away. My boyfriend and I waited four months for our first kiss, and a whole year and a half before anything past that (making out, kissing in public, etc), and that was because we didn't want to mess up and turn each other off or push the other away. He may just be afraid of pushing you away.

He may just not be into affection as well. He may warm up to it, he may not. It may just take time. Try not to worry about it too much, and if he gets worried about it and apologizes all the time for not being super affectionate with you, just tell him it's okay and that you can wait for him to feel comfortable/whatever.

[Cirque]

I'm so thankful my boyfriend's parents adore me.
I've known both his mum & step-dad (who live in my town), & his dad & step-mum (who live further away) since around Christmas time, when my boyfriend & I started dating. I've been around his mum & step-dad a lot, but I only met his dad once. Yesterday my boyfriend brought me to his dad's house for the first time & it was wonderful.
I'm actually more comfortable around his dad & step-mum then his mum & step-dad. xD
His dad & his wife are so fun to be around & easy to talk to & they took us to see The Rocky Horror Picture Show at midnight. I really hope my boyfriend brings me more often. cx

[DecafBunny]

Now onto E...Oh my lovely friend E!I adore him so much...I know he doesn't like me though...I-I feel a bit ashamed to call him my crush...I know it probably wont happen... I mean Im not pretty...he knows that but he calls me amazing on the inside...He hates when i call myself ugly or gross.He playfully flirts with me,not meaning it,as he said"He is just messing with me".I shouldnt like someone 4 years older than me who lives in a different state...I shouldnt laugh at all his jokes,but they are all so funny!I just... I dont know... he is very supportive and I can say almost anything to him.He makes me smile and all!We chat on skype for hours and once called each other over skype... i couldnt stop blushing.Ok so yesterday i got up at 6 pm and he was sad and lonely because i wasnt there to talk to him...i guess...it kinda back fired on me tonight. ;___; I was up all night and day ,i was dozing off and all a lot and he knew that.Well anyways , I woke up at 9:02pm and checked skype then saw he went to bed like 4 mins ago!He said goodnight and that he was mad at me...I-I...I...It makes me so sad.I dont even like when he is pretending to be mad at me.I usually always say good night sweet dreams and all...but i missed my chance.

He confessed ;w; he likes me but i dont know what to do know he wont ask me out but i cant ask him out.He said he wants to be with me but im so fare away!What do I do?I like him so much

[kintsugi.]

Hello lovelies, I've come with a slight problem that I'm needing some advice on. ^^

Alrighty then, well, you see, I've been dating this guy for about seven months now and before that we were the best of friends. I mean the kinda friends that would go anywhere with each other, making up the craziest songs, go on rides that we were absolutely terrifying. We were very close, like cream and tea. Well, I never really realized that he liked me, only that we would follow each other around like lost puppies, but then one day, about a year or so later, I finally confronted him about it and around Valentines Day he called me and asked me out. Now, everyone at our school had tormenting us about "Are you two dating yet?" "You two are perfect for each other!" "When are you two gonna go out?!" so when we got back to school and he was asked "Are you two dating?" he responded with yes, and the entire class, including the teacher went crazy. :l Seems good so far, right?

Now, both of us are kinda on the social awkward side so the first few months of our relationship we didn't do any kissing, hugging, or hand-holding. But a few weeks later I went up to him for a hug and he rejected it, I was a little shocked but pushed it aside, then a few days later I tried again and he responded with "I'm not in a hugging mood." then I was hurt. Now, he has a history of having a lot of girlfriends (I'm # 24 ) but the thing is, he's nothing but sweet, kind, and loving, he's the only REAL gentlemen I've seen. So, I went snooping around to figure out why they dumped him but honestly found nothing, most of his girlfriends said it was because he didn't call enough but in my case, he does, some of the others said it was because he was a jerk--which I find very, very hard to believe due to the fact he's one of the nicest guys' I know. None of them said it was because of 'lack of affection.'

Weeeeeeeeeellll, it seems like every time I try to hug, kiss, or hold his hand he has to come up with an excuse to why he can't or why not. Now, this doesn't happen all the time, but in total we've only hugged about ten times, most of them I had to ask for, I've only kissed him about four times on the cheek and every time he kinda shy-ed away from me, holding hands is okay now I guess, but I still kinda have to ask. He's never really tried to make a move over on me and if he has I haven't noticed. He's perfect with just about everything else though, he's always getting me gifts without me asking, he even bought me a 130 dollar sterling silver bracelet for my birthday with three cute little charms on it. He pulls out chairs, opens doors, pays for my meals even when I try to pay for them myself. He's never let me pay for my own meal. Never. NEVER. o-o He's smart and funny, cute and silly. I love him to pieces but sometimes it's just really hard to tell if he loves me too. And yes, I have told him that I feel this way, and I guess he's tried to step it up a bit, but it still kinda bothers me when we walk around and I see other couples that have been going out for only a month or so and their sitting there kissing each other.

I don't want it to seem like I'm forcing him to show his love to me, but it's like I have a boyfriend but can't show any "physical affection" to him. Sorry if this is too long. xD I just thought ya'll needed to know. Also, if it helps any, he says I'm the only one he's ever really had trouble showing affection to cause he get scared.

Honest to goodness, I think he actually is scared to show physical affection to you (As he said). Personally, I think that means he is really, really into you and that he doesn't want to do anything that would push you away. My boyfriend and I waited four months for our first kiss, and a whole year and a half before anything past that (making out, kissing in public, etc), and that was because we didn't want to mess up and turn each other off or push the other away. He may just be afraid of pushing you away.

He may just not be into affection as well. He may warm up to it, he may not. It may just take time. Try not to worry about it too much, and if he gets worried about it and apologizes all the time for not being super affectionate with you, just tell him it's okay and that you can wait for him to feel comfortable/whatever.

Ya know, I've thought about this before but never really talked to him about it. Oh, and I might have left out an important part out of the story. ;^^ Well, you see, he's never had his first kiss and neither have I. I guess all I can really do now is let him know that he might be scared, so am I, and I'm willing to wait for the right time. But what am I gonna do about hugs and complements? xD Oh fiddlesticks.

[minho]

hello c: so things were going great with me and my crush. that is, until thursday. i go over to his house all the time--we aren't dating or anything. his mom considers me a second daughter, and the twins (my crush's little brother and sister), consider me their older sister. which is cool, and i fit in with them. it was a normal night; he and i were flirting, kissing, doing things teenage couples would do (even though we're not dating). things were fine.

except, that night he kept punching me in the thighs. which of course, hurt; my thighs are still sore. i blew it off, because we had been play fighting, but it happened again the next day. but this time, he was also digging his chin into my shoulder blades as well as punching me. he never hit me in the face, only the legs. he also kept hitting me with this weird stick thing. in the end, i slapped him twice to get him to stop. at which point, he got mad at me.

he then proceeded to calling me dirty names, as well as the names of other girls i hate (because they're nasty, like literally. i can't even -_- ew oh my gosh no). then, we were standing in the bathroom and he and i were about to kiss and he says, "it's funny that you think i would actually kiss you. which made me tear up and i went into his bedroom and watched tv with p, one of the twins. it really hurt my feelings, and we made up later.. but honestly, i don't think i feel anything for him.

i don't know, i just wanted to vent. and his apology was sincere. he has bipolar disorder and a whole mess of others, but still.. i don't know if i should trust him. he's gone at his dad's so i won't see him until next week when we go to cedar point. should i talk to him about it & how i feel now, or should i just let it be?

thanks!

man, if he's got a bipolar issue i'm not sure if you should confront him. especially if you're supposed to be going somewhere with him. i think you should clear it up that he isn't a dog and you're not his chew toy.

[Wild.One]

Maybe I do miss him. He was just my friend but i haven't talked to him all summer. But I'm pretty sure my sister ruined it for me. I hope he talks to me when school starts. I didn't really miss him recently but now he's been in my dreams! Like all week?!? Why? I haven't really thought about him for a while. I was really sad and missed him a lot when school ended because of something my sister did that made it super awkward and made me embarrassed for him to see me at the end of the last day of school. Even though the whole day before what happened we had so much fun together. Great, now I miss him even more than I did before writing this. Just 25 more days till I have to hide my face and miss him even more at school. *sigh*