Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Country.]

I'm not really sure what to do anymore...

So, my boyfriend and I... Don't talk. Like at all. We text and all, but we never talk. I'm always trying to talk to him, but when I actually get near him, he walks away. I was talking to him about it yesterday, and he decided to put the blame on me. He says whenever he get near, I always shrimp away, and it's not like I make any effort to talk to him... I've been the only one really making any effort, and all my friends are like: You should break up with him. We've talked about not talking before, and he keeps saying he'll try, but he never does. I almost spazzed at him last night when he said I don't make any effort, but I just ended up spazzing at my friend. I'm really tired of having to put up with all of this, but I also don't want to break up with him, because I still like him. The only person making me feel better right now are both my best friends, who happen to be dating each other. The problem is, my best friend is probably the best boyfriend anyone could have, while mine just treats me like a rag... I've been giving Jackals too many chances lately, but that's the problem with me. I give people other chances that they don't even deserve...

What should I do?

If you don't want to break up, take a break, its good for people to take a break and just enjoy themselves. It gives you time to think about whats happening & what you want to do. But honestly if you aren't happen in the relationship, it may be time to end it. Your happiness should come first. Communication is everything, and if he can't do that, he's not right for you.

[bawnbawn.]

Hey guys, I'm stuck in a weird love triangle, with me being the literal target. The names I'm using are not their real names, just random ones from the top of my head. It all started around a month ago; I began walking home with my friend Michael, who I've known since grade 5 so we're kinda close. However, we're the complete opposites. We have different likes, we don't share the same interests and straight out, we're nothing alike. I mean sure, he makes me laugh sometimes, but he's not someone I'd like to be with as a partner. Back to the walking home part; so yeah, we'd stroll around together and before we went our separate ways, we'd spend about an hour just talking and it got boring really quickly, no offence to him. We only did this around 6 times before the incidents began to occur and I stopped hanging out with him. Michael seems to think that I like him as a boyfriend and now he literally won't stop stalking me; my best friend says that she's getting creeped out as well.

Basically after school, I always get my things from my locker and whatnot before hanging out with my friends Bree, Jess and John. We hang out at the lockers for around 20 minutes before walking home together; the opposite way from Michael. This is where it gets trippy. Michael just waits for me and he always just stares at me and honestly, I'm always feeling uncomfortable now. He never stops looking! Jess and Bree literally try to hide me so he'd think I'd gone home and left. He just doesn't seem to get the point however, and waits for me everyday, and he seems to be getting closer to my locker as time passes. Even at recess and lunch, he'd try to find excuses to get to see me and it's beginning to annoy everyone. I've told him a few times to leave me alone and I've left hints, but he doesn't get the message. Jess even suggested going to a teacher about it but that would make things even more awkward... What should I do?

He also doesn't know that I have a boyfriend. Only recently, about a week ago, Alex asked me out and I accepted because we're like, exactly alike and I really like him. Michael doesn't know about him and Alex doesn't know about Michael because he'd most likely get jealous and try to do something about it. Alex also doesn't go to the same school as me, so there's something to worry about. I'm afraid that Alex would think that I'm not trying hard enough to get Michael to back off and I don't want him to get the wrong idea >_< Should I tell Alex about him and how Michael is beginning to freak me out?

[greysilence]

Hey guys, I'm stuck in a weird love triangle, with me being the literal target. The names I'm using are not their real names, just random ones from the top of my head. It all started around a month ago; I began walking home with my friend Michael, who I've known since grade 5 so we're kinda close. However, we're the complete opposites. We have different likes, we don't share the same interests and straight out, we're nothing alike. I mean sure, he makes me laugh sometimes, but he's not someone I'd like to be with as a partner. Back to the walking home part; so yeah, we'd stroll around together and before we went our separate ways, we'd spend about an hour just talking and it got boring really quickly, no offence to him. We only did this around 6 times before the incidents began to occur and I stopped hanging out with him. Michael seems to think that I like him as a boyfriend and now he literally won't stop stalking me; my best friend says that she's getting creeped out as well.

Basically after school, I always get my things from my locker and whatnot before hanging out with my friends Bree, Jess and John. We hang out at the lockers for around 20 minutes before walking home together; the opposite way from Michael. This is where it gets trippy. Michael just waits for me and he always just stares at me and honestly, I'm always feeling uncomfortable now. He never stops looking! Jess and Bree literally try to hide me so he'd think I'd gone home and left. He just doesn't seem to get the point however, and waits for me everyday, and he seems to be getting closer to my locker as time passes. Even at recess and lunch, he'd try to find excuses to get to see me and it's beginning to annoy everyone. I've told him a few times to leave me alone and I've left hints, but he doesn't get the message. Jess even suggested going to a teacher about it but that would make things even more awkward... What should I do?

He also doesn't know that I have a boyfriend. Only recently, about a week ago, Alex asked me out and I accepted because we're like, exactly alike and I really like him. Michael doesn't know about him and Alex doesn't know about Michael because he'd most likely get jealous and try to do something about it. Alex also doesn't go to the same school as me, so there's something to worry about. I'm afraid that Alex would think that I'm not trying hard enough to get Michael to back off and I don't want him to get the wrong idea >_< Should I tell Alex about him and how Michael is beginning to freak me out?

I honestly think you should tell Alex. If you don't tell him, he might think you're trying to keep it a secret, and then he might feel he has a need to worry. Just tell him that you've tried getting Michael to leave you alone, but he won't, and you don't know what else to do.

[frogpaws]

So, I need some advice.
I once again started talking to my ex-boyfriend who hasn't spoke to me in 5 months. Let's just call him C.
You may think this is odd, but this is the 2nd time this happened.
The first time me and C dated we were going pretty strong, then he dumped me out of nowhere. I was confused for about 6 months until he started talking to me again and said he had dumped me because of family problems. We dated again, but it didn't go so well as the first time (we didn't talk or hang out or anything). C eventually broke up with me, this time not even talking to me but changing his relationship status on Facebook. Then now, after waiting 5 months, he started talking to me again. He said he waited so long because he wanted me to focus on school.
My friend asked C, from my phone, what he thought about me and that he should ask me out again. C said, and I quote, "She (me) is amazing." But said he wasn't ready to be in a relationship and that when he is he'll ask me out.
My friend (let's call her V) talked to her own boyfriend about it (let's call him T). T said that that's what guys say when they don't like a girl, or they're gay. They say the girl is amazing but they don't want a relationship. V told me what T said, and that she didn't agree with him because "C isn't like that." I guess I agreed with her, but it still bothers me.
So my question is, is that true? Do you guys think that C said what he said because he doesn't like me?

I know him very well. We've known each other for about 7 or 8 years, but I still wonder if he's just saying that or not.
From what I know about T, he's your sorta typical guy I guess. He probably used that line on a bunch of girls..

[Kisiel]

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It's been a week.

A week.

A week with no hugs, no kisses an not even a single "I love you." I saw him at school a couple of times, but mostly he's just been smoking with his friends and I didn't want to interrupt. He talked to me between classes a few times, but the conversations have been short and so far from what it used to be. Oh. He put his arm around me once. I guess even that little contact is better than nothing, but now I crave more and I know I won't be getting any. We've been texting a little, but he usually just replies really vaguely or with an "ok"; no smiley faces or hearts either... He called me a couple of times, but when I call him it's unlikely that he'll bother to pick up the phone... He was being cute and making me laugh the other day, and we actually spent about an hour on the phone, so I suppose things aren't as bad as they were five days ago.

But he won't take me back.

I won't be crawling to him and asking him to give me another chance, even though I wish he would. I don't think I could handle it if he rejected me, although, I haven't actually heard that he's rejected a girl before-- of course, I don't know what it'd be like with one he dumped a week earlier, but meh. I won't ask him to take me back. I can hint that I want him to, but he has to be the one to make the move. He's the one who ended our relationship, and I think he should be the one to decide if, and when, he wants me to be his again. I have a feeling this is us over for good though... I don't know... Maybe he just needs some time away from me. Maybe he needs to miss me, I don't know.

I've spent almost two years with this guy.

It really isn't easy being away from him... </3

[~Melantha~]

I've been having some 'boy problems' lately. So I'm still pretty young. I won't say my age but it's still pretty young. But lately, some things have been bothering me. There's actually two boys in my class that I'm confused about. The first one (we'll call him JM) is blond haired gray eyed and I suspect that he likes me. He's been teasing me for a while and usually just pops out of nowhere and randomly says hi to me. Back when I was still in school, he told me straight out that he liked me although I'm still not sure if it's true or not. I've heard his friends talking about a girl that he likes so I'm not sure if he likes me or her. Now the other boy is the one I actually like. (Lets call him JF). He has black hair and dark brown eyes and plays soccer so he's really athletic. He's also been teasing me as well, saying hi here and there but while I was going from the bus to my school, his bus passed me and his friends stuck their heads out the windows and began shouting "HEY ____, JF LIKES YOU!!!" I'm not sure if he does but after that happened, he did continue his teasing but now, if we pass each other in the halls, he calls my name and says 'what's up' or something like that. I also kinda caught him staring at me on the last day of school. So if anyone could tell me if either of them likes me, I would really appreciate it. I don't know if they like me or if they're just pretending or if they just feel like doing it. ARGH! Please help. And if you could I'd prefer it if you PM me the answer as well. I might not be able to find my post after a while. Thank you if you took the time to read this.

[shim]

I've been having some 'boy problems' lately. So I'm still pretty young. I won't say my age but it's still pretty young. But lately, some things have been bothering me. There's actually two boys in my class that I'm confused about. The first one (we'll call him JM) is blond haired gray eyed and I suspect that he likes me. He's been teasing me for a while and usually just pops out of nowhere and randomly says hi to me. Back when I was still in school, he told me straight out that he liked me although I'm still not sure if it's true or not. I've heard his friends talking about a girl that he likes so I'm not sure if he likes me or her. Now the other boy is the one I actually like. (Lets call him JF). He has black hair and dark brown eyes and plays soccer so he's really athletic. He's also been teasing me as well, saying hi here and there but while I was going from the bus to my school, his bus passed me and his friends stuck their heads out the windows and began shouting "HEY ____, JF LIKES YOU!!!" I'm not sure if he does but after that happened, he did continue his teasing but now, if we pass each other in the halls, he calls my name and says 'what's up' or something like that. I also kinda caught him staring at me on the last day of school. So if anyone could tell me if either of them likes me, I would really appreciate it. I don't know if they like me or if they're just pretending or if they just feel like doing it. ARGH! Please help. And if you could I'd prefer it if you PM me the answer as well. I might not be able to find my post after a while. Thank you if you took the time to read this.

I will pm you

[boat]

I'm pretty young, so I'm not used to all the dating and stuff. But I've been asked out a couple of times, and then I always became really awkward with those people. Recently, just a few hours ago after school ended for me, I texted my crush. It meant to be a friendly chat, but he ended up saying that he liked me.

So I'm pretty sure that he already knew that I liked him because all my friends were giving him clues. And I was almost certain the he liked me back beforehand. But we were really close friends for the past year, doing a ton of things together. It wasn't awkward at all for us then, because I guess we weren't certain of each others feelings.

Now, I'm not sure how this will work out. It became really awkward when we were texting, and then I finally left the conversation. Later in a group chat, he was acting normal though. But I'm worried that next year at school, our friendship would end up breaking apart because of this. Is there a way that I can try to avoid being awkward? Should I just act as though nothing ever happened, or should I acknowledge it at times? I'm so confused >.<

[Country.]

So I had a crush on this guy, we were almost in a relationship, he was really close to asking me out...my ex BFF 'stole' him from me. & they just broke up last week. I saw him yesterday outside the dollar tree..(I had to sit in the car with my dog to wait for my mom). I was staring at him...-.- because I saw his shoes and I swore they looked familiar..(he was wearing sunglasses & a hat). Then he looked up from whatever he was doing and he looked at me and was just about staring at me so, i pretended to 'act casual' (FAIL). The problem is...is that I just finally got over him. Now I miss him again. We used to talk all the time. & the best part is that my friends didnt even have the intention of telling me. I want to talk to him, I have his number, but I don't think he has mine. (Exbff probably deleted it. figures.) Ah. Life why must you be complicated...? Im thinking of just waiting until july 31st (our county fair, july 31-aug 3) to txt him and ask him to come to the fair. Is that a good idea, so it casual, no pressure? What should we do? just walk through the animal barns and talk & maybe sit somewhere to eat?
Sorry my life has so many problems...dont worry, I hate it too.

[cobalt.]

@Niall; i believe the best thing you could do is just take a risk and text him, strike up a conversation. c:
the worst thing that could happen is that you find out you don't like each other more than as friends.
but by the sounds of it, you used to get along and be "friends" with him before, and maybe as time goes on you'll get back to where you were before your ex bestie ruined your chances with him. cx

i hope this helps xP