Crushes, Boyfriends and Girlfriends | V3

[Pongo.]

I need some advice, and quick! Me and my crush are working together on a project in history, and we have very short, quiet, small talk conversations.. what could we possibly talk about/do?

Thanks in advance!

[Fluffy:3]

I find it really weird that my best friend's boyfriend does these things to me:

1) He's constantly talking to me and starting up an inside joke with me even when his girlfriend is there. He seems to talk to me more than her at school and waits for her to speak to him first. But with me he just talks or answers when I talk to him.

2) He notices little things about me all the time. Just yesterday he was the first person to notice the inch haircut I got on Saturday. And it wasn't even noticeable to me! Also he can tell when I don't want people to talk to me and he'll leave me alone or if I'm lonely and want to talk, he'll come up and start talking about something that happened yesterday or something.

3) He's always smiling and laughing at/with me and pays little to no attention to his girlfriend. I tend to kind of back off when she's there even though she's my best friend. Well, sometimes she seems kind of "cold" when I turn to talk other after saying something to her boyfriend.

Anyone have suggestions, comments, or advice on this?

[jetlag]

@Fluffy - I'm no expert on this by any means, but to me it sounds like he either likes you, or really isn't interested in his current girlfriend- or both. Probably both, because he seems to give you a lot of attention. Ive been in this situation before. Since you're best friends with his girlfriend, I would try to subtly steer him back towards her, and maybe casually ask how their relationship is to see if everything's alright. If you want to be a good friend and they still want to salvage their relationship, try not to let you and her boyfriend become close - at least for the time being. You don't want your friend to think you're stealing her boyfriend! But that's just my two cents.(:

@Pongo- Im in your same boat on this! Things that I've brought up before would be what classes he's taking next year, mention a sport you know he plays/likes, or talk about an interesting upcoming/past event. To keep up a conversation, avoid the "yes" or "no" questions. Hope I could help.(:

[thunderofthedrum]

So my boyfriend wants to break up with me because he doesn't want to hurt me anymore.

He thinks he's a terrible boyfriend because he chats up other girls and pushes me around.
What do I do in a situation like this? I don't want us to end; not after we've been together for so long, after everything we've been through together, after I have him that one thing I can't get back...

He has his flaws, but I love him. I want us to be happy together, not apart. I have to find a way to fix everything... Because if I don't, this could have a terrible ending.

Well that will require some really hard thought and facing your fears and accepting how the situation really is.
Does he make you feel unhappy more than he makes you feel happy?
Do you maybe want to stay together more because it's scary to be alone?
Has being able to say you are in a relationship been something important to you, like an accomplishment people respect you for?
Have you guys tried to do anything to fix the situation?

I know a lot of girls want to stay in relationships because they like the IDEA of being in a relationship and are in denial that the guy (or girl) isn't right for them. Similarly, some people tend to fall for guys they feel they can 'fix', but the reality is that this probably won't happen.

You need to do some hard thinking on what it is you don't want to let go of. Is it his personality? Simply having company, a boyfriend in general? Is it that you feel all that time with him will have been wasted or all for nothing?

By identifying what it is you do and don't like about your present situation, you can then better decide what your next step will be.
Maybe breaking up is a good idea. Maybe you will give it a trial period where he tries harder and you also try to make some changes like speaking up. And as much as it sucks, if that doesn't work then maybe it's time to call it quits, or maybe you guys will find that you really value each other and can continue the relationship. Relationships aren't easy; I get really frustrated with my boyfriend sometimes but we have to communicate, make sure there is still love and affection and time spent with each other and understanding each other. It really bugs him when after a disagreement we still disagree, but part of that is because he wanted me to agree with HIM, and as much as I love him, I will not always agree. That's what you get for having a smart girlfriend, haha. But yeah, it's hard to come to terms with ending a relationship so you really do have to spend some time thinking about it to see what the right decision is for you.

[Pongo.]

I need some advice, and quick! Me and my crush are working together on a project in history, and we have very short, quiet, small talk conversations.. what could we possibly talk about/do?

Thanks in advance!

[garnet.]

I need some/an opinion here guys.

Okay, there's this girl I like. We have a strange friendship, we like to tease/insult each other jokily. Well more I insult her, she teases me. But we both know we don't mean it and we get on really well I think. We aren't in the same form and we don't hug (no time between lessons) and I really like her so I might just be imagining stuff.
This first thing was weeks ago. She awwwwed at me, multiple times. I don't know if that's just her or what or whatever but it happened. She awed at the thought of four year old me being read Harry Potter in the bathtub (don't ask) and at the fact I was bisexual and liked someone two years older than me.
Secondly, we talk quite a lot. The way we sit in maths though, she has to turn around and, though I'm not sure she fully needs to do this, when she's talking to me, she leans right back and turns her shoulders toward me. She smiles and her eyes seem to glisten a little
Thirdly, staring. Mostly, we're in awkward positions to catch each other staring (as in it's impossible to most of the time due to seating) as either I'm behind her and she can't see me or the other way around, so if this happens quite a lot when I'm in front and she's behind, that would change things. However, twice, I am sure I've caught her staring at me. There is a possibility that I've caught her other times but I'm not sure with those. The first, our whole band was in the main school hall being reset for PE. She was nearer the front than me, so should have been facing the front. I looked toward her and I swear she was looking at me. I swear. It really did look like it, she was turned in my direction. The second, we were in a different maths seating plan that we have once a week, I'm in front, she's behind, and as I was talking to the person next to me, out of the corner of my eye, I think I saw her staring or at least looking at me.
Finally (for now), we were in maths on thursday and I was commenting on how the weather was perfect and beautiful, and my favourite temperature and she said. 'That's so cute.' which was completely unexpected. I couldn't believe it!
Any opinions are well appreciated!
Sorry it's so long >3<

We were in the maths room with a different seating plan today and I'm sure I saw her looking at me again. I don't know if I'm just imagining things or not. I've never heard her call anyone else cute before, or tease anyone really, let alone the adorable way she teases me. Help is still appreciated here but that's not my only problem.

I feel weird, the way I like her. It feels so strong and even though I've liked her just under two months, the way I feel just seems so strong. Every time I see her, I feel butterflys and feel light headed, every time she smiles at me, I want to explode. Being away from her really, really hurts. She is beginning to distract me to the point where my brain can not fully function in the proper way it should. I'm not thinking properly, I can't concentrate, even when I'm not in a lesson with her in it. But when I am, it's so much worse. I just want to laugh with her and talk to her and smile with her. I think I might be in love with her but is it too early to say that? I feel like I do but it seems so sudden and fast and I don't know if I am or if I'm not or what and it's scary.

[shim]

theres this guy in my class that I like and he likes me back he told me buts theres 2 problems
my teacher said we aren't allowed to date people in our class
he likes me but he like 2 others too (I think)
any help please??

[jetlag]

@Fluffy - I'm no expert on this by any means, but to me it sounds like he either likes you, or really isn't interested in his current girlfriend- or both. Probably both, because he seems to give you a lot of attention. Ive been in this situation before. Since you're best friends with his girlfriend, I would try to subtly steer him back towards her, and maybe casually ask how their relationship is to see if everything's alright. If you want to be a good friend and they still want to salvage their relationship, try not to let you and her boyfriend become close - at least for the time being. You don't want your friend to think you're stealing her boyfriend! But that's just my two cents.(:

@Pongo- Im in your same boat on this! Things that I've brought up before would be what classes he's taking next year, mention a sport you know he plays/likes, or talk about an interesting upcoming/past event. To keep up a conversation, avoid the "yes" or "no" questions. Hope I could help.(:

[Outlander]

theres this guy in my class that I like and he likes me back he told me buts theres 2 problems
my teacher said we aren't allowed to date people in our class
he likes me but he like 2 others too (I think)
any help please??

Your teacher can only dictate what goes on in school. She has no bearing on your personal life.

You'll have to talk about that with him.

[shim]

theres this guy in my class that I like and he likes me back he told me buts theres 2 problems
my teacher said we aren't allowed to date people in our class
he likes me but he like 2 others too (I think)
any help please??

Your teacher can only dictate what goes on in school. She has no bearing on your personal life.

You'll have to talk about that with him.

but when because he live half an hour away and I only see him at school