Username;
Thani
Which kit?
Pansexual
Kalon name;
Avery
Kalon gender;
Agender; They/Them
Pride flag;
I grew up in a very religious household,
where it was wrong to be anything but straight.
Because of this I was afraid to come to terms with
my own identity and actually go out and
explore and find myself as a person.
It took myself a very long time,
And I am very happy and proud of myself for
who I have become as a person.
From a very young age I felt as if something was wrong.
I didn't want to be "Feminine"
and found myself constantly wishing I could dress and be more like my brothers.
I was tired of being told to "Act like a lady" and that what I wore wasn't very "Ladylike"
I didn't know much about the LGBTQ+ Community until my moms very close friend
told everyone they were "Transgender" and that they were gonna begin their transitioning soon.
I immediately knew that this feeling might be what I was experiencing,
Hence the Transgender Flag in the very back of my Flag.
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High school was a very big time for me and my own self discovery, as it is for a lot of people.
I had many relationships, all with boys and all lasting less than a few months.
I never had anything serious and I was terrified of hurting someone, I would always leave.
I had my first "Girl crush" back then.
It terrified me.
I knew my family would not approve, I knew what they would say and I knew that It was wrong.
but why did it feel so right?
I knew for myself that I liked all genders, and that was enough for me.
This was the hardest time of my life but also the most life changing.
Represented by the Pansexual Flag in my own Flag.
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The more I grew up and learned about the LQBTQ+ community I came across the term, "Agender".
As someone who was unsure about permanently changing their gender and transitioning,
this term made more sense to me.
It became what I told people I was, because unlike being Pansexual,
It had nothing to do with my preferences in the other sex.
They were confused at first, but ultimately didn't care as long as I was happy.
They were used to me being more "Masculine" in the way i dressed and did my hair anyways.
This became my identity for a long time, and it was one of the things i felt i could share with my family.
Hence why It is represented as a heart, with the Agender flag.
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A few years ago, after exploring myself throughout my late teens/ early 20's.
I started to question myself and my choices on who I was.
Was I sure that the Labels I put on myself accurately defined me?
With all these new terms coming around in the LGBTQ+ I didn't know what to do with myself. I was overwhelmed and didn't know what to do with myself.
This is represented by the "???" in the background of my flag.
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Eventually I came to the realization that I, as someone who was very different now, didn't want to put myself under all these labels anymore.
I didn't want to be Pansexual, Gay or Agender. I wanted to be Myself.
It was easier to strip away everything that other people would define me as, and just say that I loved who I loved and I was who I was.
With no restrictions or Stereotypes.
Why constantly change my Labels as I grow and change as a person, when I can simply Say that I am ME?
No one needs to accept me but me, and coming to that realization, has changed my life for the better.
This is represented by the big X and the very bold and defined "ME" in the center of my flag.
