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Aww I'm sorry to hear.

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Mine is leaving to go to Australia for 6 months on Wednesday. We used to talk all the time but we let our snap streak go and have kinda stopped talking to each other... But I mean we've talked about maybe seeing if there's still something there when he comes back. But I think that I just need to not talk to him while he's gone; I've muted him on some social media so that I can distance myself as much as possible... Ugh. This is almost worse (for me) than a break up because at least with a break up there's a clear end but we kinda just muted/paused/exited whatever this was, at least for the time being.

tl;dr I hate boys and feelings suck

why do you think you have to 'ignore' him? do you think it's really healthy if
you decided to stop communicating with him? if you have your own reasons
to mute dow your relationship in the timespan, you should know if you are
ready for such a change.
is it a burden to try and talk to him, cause it sounds like u really need to re-
kindle your relationship, the last thing you want is a watered down connection
as soon as he gets back.
know that you need to talk to him, even if it's for a short while. is he doing the
same thing as well, like, trying to chip off the relationship while he's away?
you really need to talk to him, it's a natural feeling but also try to convince yourself
not to be too dependent on that medium. communication can go either way.

I also broke up with my girlfriend, I'm afraid I will never find some girl amazing as her (She's the only one who never made me down.)

you will. i'd like to think breaking up is just a vacant spot for you to find another
person that shall entirely turn your life upside down in a good way of course.
this is just for the current time, and i think this feeling is highly powerful due to
the recent event that triggered it.
moving on is definitely not easy, literally the most difficult thing to do. it's like
trying to pull away a splinter from your skin.
not only does it takes time, but also maturation of your own emotion, and time
doesn't do this work alone, you need to have control and convince yourself that
everything will be steady once more.

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whew. it's been a long time that i need advice here, but PLEASE. i need urgent help.
idek what to do.
this is entirely serious, i rarely get into relationship problems with my bf so this is
very very very heart wrenching.
so, two of my best friends, call the girl s and the guy r. just so you know
r is bisexual.
so, s texted me out of the blue and she sounded very serious so i was literally
panicking because she's not one with many problems and is always cheery. anyhow,
she stalled a lot in that text saying that she was sorry for what's about to come and
i'm a pretty chill person so i was very open about anything.
i'm just going to quote what she said out of pure seriousness:
"listen ally, i'm really planning to say this for such a long time, but i'm so so sorry for
saying it now. the truth is, r and i have been crushing on <my bf> since two/three
years ago and we haven't moved on..."
i was super shocked. i don't even know what to do. i've been dating my bf since 2012
and is still v happy in our relationship. and to think that they've been crushing on him
since 2013? that's literally... ughhhhhh idk what to do anymoreeeeeeeeeee.
r is a great friend of mine and my bf, he even convinced a coach in my school
to get him into the school's official sports team or something. and he's been so nice
to my bf and like.... what.
ugh, currently my bf doesn't know about this. i feel like telling him but idk, and what
should i do please thanks for reading and for your consideration.

pm is highly highly encouraged but it's ok to put it here.

[thunderofthedrum]

Mine is leaving to go to Australia for 6 months on Wednesday. We used to talk all the time but we let our snap streak go and have kinda stopped talking to each other... But I mean we've talked about maybe seeing if there's still something there when he comes back. But I think that I just need to not talk to him while he's gone; I've muted him on some social media so that I can distance myself as much as possible... Ugh. This is almost worse (for me) than a break up because at least with a break up there's a clear end but we kinda just muted/paused/exited whatever this was, at least for the time being.

tl;dr I hate boys and feelings suck

Honestly, you really need to sit down and think about what you want. Do you only talk to him through social media? You already stopped talking to each other? You feel you don't want to talk to him for six months? You have distanced yourself? WHY have you distanced yourself? Are you unhappy? Are you moving on?

It takes two to tango and you both are contributing to the silence and awkwardness. You may both be confused or making assumptions about how the other feels. If you want to know where you stand, you need to ask and also work on where YOU want to be and where you want things to go.



To other person - Have they done anything to interfere with your relationship, act inappropriately with your bf, etc? If not, then I kind of say let it go. She wanted to get their feelings out there but if they have been appropriate and respectful and good friends thus far then I don't see why that has to change. YES, it makes it weird knowing that. But they see that you guys are happy. You can think long and hard whether you want to tell this new information to your bf or not but at the very least, sit on the information for a day or more. Let it sink in until you can think more rationally.

[SoundAndVision]

My friend has this really irrational boy friend that she is trying to get a way from. Her parents have a restraining order going g trough the court system right now but he still wants to be with her and she doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore. What would she do and is there anything I could do to help? The court day for the restraining order is on July 12th.

[JustDucky]

So I am perfectly happy in my relationship, but I have never had one like him before. He is super clingy, and don't get me wrong, I love it. But yesterday I went to go spend time with my family and he got mad at me cuz I didn't reply to his message when I don't get signal where my grandma lives. I replied as soon as I seen it and before I got home yesterday his mom told me how he was at her house and he was pretty upset. And I don't want him to be unhappy, but really I don't think I did anything wrong it's just he has separation anxiety

[Keletheryl]

So I am perfectly happy in my relationship, but I have never had one like him before. He is super clingy, and don't get me wrong, I love it. But yesterday I went to go spend time with my family and he got mad at me cuz I didn't reply to his message when I don't get signal where my grandma lives. I replied as soon as I seen it and before I got home yesterday his mom told me how he was at her house and he was pretty upset. And I don't want him to be unhappy, but really I don't think I did anything wrong it's just he has separation anxiety

That's a very toxic relationship.
I'm not saying this is going to happen, but there are warning ads online about this kind of relationship. He starts getting more and more mad, and next thing you know, he hits you. But he apologizes and you say it's okay and you keep going back to him and it's a viscous cycle.

Honestly there's no way to sugar coat this. He's not going to change and I absolutely say you should get out while you can. I know you like clingy but that's not just being clingy. That's being controlling. And that's disgusting.

You should be allowed to hang out with your family. You should be allowed to hang out with your friends. You should be allowed to hang out with those of the opposite gender to you. A proper relationship consists of trust from you and your partner, and if that's not there (especially with family... wth!) then the relationship is not good.

[WastedSpace]

My friend has this really irrational boy friend that she is trying to get a way from. Her parents have a restraining order going g trough the court system right now but he still wants to be with her and she doesn't want to be in the relationship anymore. What would she do and is there anything I could do to help? The court day for the restraining order is on July 12th.

It sounds like her parents are doing the best they can to get it taken care of. All you need to do is be there for her as a friend. Be the shoulder to lean on or to cry on. Be the ear she can rant to or talk to.

That sounds like a scary situation. I hope your friend and you stay safe. <3

[QUITTINGDELETE!!!]

I have a boyfriend, which i am pretty much fine with. We used to be going "click, click, click" But now i feel like are relationship is going down and is no longer going click, etc. it started going down when he moved. I still email and send letters to him sometimes. But i feel like i need a new one i haven't see him in 3 years, and thats not a lie. I haven't got a reply from him for at least 1 month i don't wanna break his heart? What to do what to do?

[britneyrox]

I have a boyfriend, which i am pretty much fine with. We used to be going "click, click, click" But now i feel like are relationship is going down and is no longer going click, etc. it started going down when he moved. I still email and send letters to him sometimes. But i feel like i need a new one i haven't see him in 3 years, and thats not a lie. I haven't got a reply from him for at least 1 month i don't wanna break his heart? What to do what to do?

Maybe he's feeling the same way. If you haven't heard from him in over a month, it doesn't sound like the relationship is much of a priority to him, to be completely honest. Perhaps letting it go is best for the both of you.

[thunderofthedrum]

So I am perfectly happy in my relationship, but I have never had one like him before. He is super clingy, and don't get me wrong, I love it. But yesterday I went to go spend time with my family and he got mad at me cuz I didn't reply to his message when I don't get signal where my grandma lives. I replied as soon as I seen it and before I got home yesterday his mom told me how he was at her house and he was pretty upset. And I don't want him to be unhappy, but really I don't think I did anything wrong it's just he has separation anxiety

Firstly - does he know that you don't have signal there? Did he mention before you left that anything important was going on for him? Generally, my interpretation of the situation is that he over reacted, but that leads me to ask - is this a recurring issue? I think it'd be okay to let his mom know that you didn't have signal there, but at the same time if you guys are both adults then you don't technically owe her an explanation. Not replying for a few hours when you are with family is perfectly normal and it's important to discuss that with him if you haven't already. Does he feel you don't spend much time with him? Does he not have anyone else to talk to or spend time with such as friends? If he feels you've been overly busy lately then I could understand somewhat, or if he has no friends and is overly dependent on your relationship for all social needs then that would explain it (but not necessarily be healthy), but generally it does sound like a bad pattern forming.

My boyfriend and I have nearly constant communication but because of that, I know when he will be out with friends and such and may NOT reply for a while. I know he can't respond while at work usually. He knows I get wrapped up in spending time with family sometimes. But that patience and understanding is key.

I have a boyfriend, which i am pretty much fine with. We used to be going "click, click, click" But now i feel like are relationship is going down and is no longer going click, etc. it started going down when he moved. I still email and send letters to him sometimes. But i feel like i need a new one i haven't see him in 3 years, and thats not a lie. I haven't got a reply from him for at least 1 month i don't wanna break his heart? What to do what to do?

I feel that 1 month is a fairly significant amount of time to not hear from someone - especially someone you are in a relationship with! He may also be losing interest or have other things going on, and I would totally find it reasonable if at this point you tell him that with the lack of communication, you are struggling to find reasons to stick around, or that you aren't sure how to interpret the silence for this long other than his disinterest in continuing things.