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[Aloes]

I just realized today what death really means. I lost my father unexpectedly at the beginning of this year. I was really calm about it for some reason and I thought I was okay. Today it just kind of sunk in, when I was dealing with some of his paperwork. I finally understood that the person who was always there for me will not return.

[spencer]

Could I please get a PM? <3

[fika.]

I feel so alone, constantly feeling like no one is there for me, and I don't know how to fix it.
I think it began when my only best friend left to move eight hours away, which left me feeling pretty upset. I cried a lot, I still do. I want to skype her or something, but she always blows it off.
I went to my sisters house in the city for a couple days and came home today, we went to the beach, snorkeling, had a picnic, went to the zoo, and a couple of other things, I had a great time, and for the first time in forever, I was smiling, and it wasn't forced. but when I came home, and she said good bye and left, I instantly burst into tears, I knew just by sitting in the kitchen where I was when she left that things would go back to how they always where. my mum and dad are always fighting about stupid stuff they shouldn't, and it makes me frustrated. I want to move away from this town, there's never anything to do, and school is coming soon, and I really don't want to go. like, really, really don't want to go. I'll have to make new friends, and it's hard because I've been here for so long. mum keeps talking about all of us moving, and I want to so bad, but they say dad needs to get a job offer to move somewhere, and all the current ones they don't want to go to, I just want to go anywhere. it's times like this I wish they would get a divorce, forcing mum to move away from this heavy weight. I can't talk to them about it, as much as I try to, they don't understand how I feel. mum just says I'm being stupid and petty.
I just can't anymore, every day is the exact same, sit in my room and do nothing, go to bed, wake up and the cycle starts all over again. why me? why when I'm only a teenager, everyone says this is supposed to be the best years of my life, it sure as heck ain't. I can't wait to go to university, I'll just live on campus if I can, if not I'm surely buying a house. I want a cute little two story by the beach, it would be expensive for sure, but just imagine it. I'll be able to control my own life, get away from everyone. oh joy.

i get it, life is tough
maybe ask your friend to skype on the weekend?
and tell her not to blow it off this time
it's not fun when people do that.
as for your sister, try to contact her and ask
if you guys can do that again.
it seemed amazing!
as for your parents, i hope it works out
for all of you.
try and find a hobby outside of the house?
maybe fishing, or horse riding,
or dog walking! you can also go to cookery
classes. those are fun.
i hope you're okay soon,
good luck <3

backstory: used to date a dude who wanted to follow his dreams and go to Africa to be a game ranger
was like, cool, do that, but pls come back
in the end he cheated on me 4 times, lied to me for over a month and abandoned me
he never came home, he just disappeared

present day: current partner wants to follow his dreams and asks me about mine. I don't have any. I barely know how to be human.

he's applied for a PhD which could take him to various different countries for however long they need him there, whenever they need him there

past that he also wants to take random trips around the world and apply to be an astronaut and he keeps trying to talk to me about it because he's EXCITED as he should be but I don't see it as a good thing, I don't see it as him following his dreams

I'm mentally ill and I see it as being abandoned all over again

Why can't I find someone who will just stay in one damn country

i say move with them
maybe staying in the country is what is making you feel like this?
moving to a new country is a fresh start (trust me, i know. done it four times)
and it's a great way to build a relationship!
good luck <3

Nope, I'm just done. Absolutely done.
You were pretty much the only friend in school that I could actually look up properly too.
All because of a freaking stupid person who decided that they weren't popular enough and just come to you and shame me.
That's just amazing, you know?
Now you just completely despise me. All for a loner who had nothing to do with anything. All for nothing. Sure you can hate me, but you just CAN'T reply to my email with this DISGUSTING reply!
Honestly, you used to hate her too, why have you started acting like that she is worth gold while I was worth rubbish? Just why?!
I've gone through enough in this amazing school of stupidity. You know that too. My self-esteem isn't high at all. I like to talk about the online games I play with friends to escape the reality, yet you like to barge in and act like I'm addicted.

OHHH I SEE
I EMAIL you for the last time about this piece of trouble my enemy sent, yet your reply was "keep me out of this"?!
That was pretty much the last thing I would ever send you. Why couldn't you have replied with some more understanding? You already know that I have pretty much no dignity.
For goodness sake! I KNOW that she's not in our school anymore! I only asked you for help because you're the other person who hates her!

Sorry, I really had to get this out of me..

Just why.

that person isn't worth it,
they seem horrible.
try to either go talk to them and talk it out,
or try and find (ugh dare i say it) new friends.
some shy ones are nice, and are the coolest
people ever, and you can just go up to them and
be like "hey" and do small talk (such as what's homework,
how's your day, what's up, etc.)
i hope things work out
good luck <3

i miss him.
i miss him badly.
i don't know if he even likes talking to me.
i don't know if anyone likes talking to me.

i feel like i'm a burden to everyone i love.
i just want to feel better about myself.

i try being happy around my friends to show i'm okay
but then later i just zone out.

once someone genuinely asked me if i was okay,
but
i just lied and said im fine.

i miss him.
i miss him.
i want him to be safe and happy.
and i want him with me.
he makes me feel happy.

whatever it is, you'll be okay
the brain is a cruel thing
it makes you think people hate you but in reality,
they don't!
they don't hate you, you're not a burden.
don't stop being yourself.
and when people ask, tell them the truth
tell them how you really feel
it'll help you and them have a closer
relationship, and it'll help your health.
don't keep it bottled up.
good luck boo <3

I jjst woke up and im just really sad idk I want to cry and I cant even put my finger on why...

cry <3
you can cry
there's nothing against crying
infact, it's good!
try and distract yourself today by
doing chores, work, reading, writing,
maybe even painting.
try baking cookies and then eat one
with a warm drink.
mmm<3
good luck!!<3

i'm so nervous
first day of school - using public transport
i'm scared that i'll be late or i'll go the wrong way and whatever
i could even forget the document mum gave me to give to the office
and it's only in two days
eeeeek

i just want hugs and happiness

you'll be fine!
i tell you what, make a list
of all the things that could go wrong
and then read them over and think
"that's ridiculous"
and tear the paper up!
boo nothing will happen <3
i've moved to a lot of different countries
(each one involving a new scool obvs.)
and it's not as terrifying as you think!
you'll do great<3

I just realized today what death really means. I lost my father unexpectedly at the beginning of this year. I was really calm about it for some reason and I thought I was okay. Today it just kind of sunk in, when I was dealing with some of his paperwork. I finally understood that the person who was always there for me will not return.

that's horrible,
rest in peace to your father.
maybe going through his paperwork is a good thing,
you can remember all the good times and
smile and cry about it.
your dad would be so proud of you,
and he only wants you to be happy.
maybe talk about him with a family member.
good luck <3

Could I please get a PM? <3

totally! sending one now<3

[bergamot.]

an ex friend spread nasty rumors about me
it got back to me from her boyfriend [ my ex crush ]
and he told a mutual friend
who told me

and now i'm sick
because the rumors were so horrible
i can't believe she'd say that
she almost spilled some secrets

i want to hit her in the face
please don't make this visible
and if you quote this please put 'removed' or something

i am going to remove this soon out of fear that one of them may find it
hhhhhHH

Would you like to talk about it through pm? My inbox is always open!

I feel so alone, constantly feeling like no one is there for me, and I don't know how to fix it.
I think it began when my only best friend left to move eight hours away, which left me feeling pretty upset. I cried a lot, I still do. I want to skype her or something, but she always blows it off.
I went to my sisters house in the city for a couple days and came home today, we went to the beach, snorkeling, had a picnic, went to the zoo, and a couple of other things, I had a great time, and for the first time in forever, I was smiling, and it wasn't forced. but when I came home, and she said good bye and left, I instantly burst into tears, I knew just by sitting in the kitchen where I was when she left that things would go back to how they always where. my mum and dad are always fighting about stupid stuff they shouldn't, and it makes me frustrated. I want to move away from this town, there's never anything to do, and school is coming soon, and I really don't want to go. like, really, really don't want to go. I'll have to make new friends, and it's hard because I've been here for so long. mum keeps talking about all of us moving, and I want to so bad, but they say dad needs to get a job offer to move somewhere, and all the current ones they don't want to go to, I just want to go anywhere. it's times like this I wish they would get a divorce, forcing mum to move away from this heavy weight. I can't talk to them about it, as much as I try to, they don't understand how I feel. mum just says I'm being stupid and petty.
I just can't anymore, every day is the exact same, sit in my room and do nothing, go to bed, wake up and the cycle starts all over again. why me? why when I'm only a teenager, everyone says this is supposed to be the best years of my life, it sure as heck ain't. I can't wait to go to university, I'll just live on campus if I can, if not I'm surely buying a house. I want a cute little two story by the beach, it would be expensive for sure, but just imagine it. I'll be able to control my own life, get away from everyone. oh joy.

Oh dear.
When things aren't that great at home, it can be really hard to come back from a really fun, and enjoyable place, and return to the regular grind of things. I wouldn't worry about school to much either, it might really suck for a month or two, but you will probably get into a groove where it just seems normal.
I am really sorry to hear about your friend moving; that can be really tough. Skyping or face timing might be a good idea, and maybe there will be a school break or something where you can go on a road trip trip visit her.
Best Wishes and Big Hugs!

backstory: used to date a dude who wanted to follow his dreams and go to Africa to be a game ranger
was like, cool, do that, but pls come back
in the end he cheated on me 4 times, lied to me for over a month and abandoned me
he never came home, he just disappeared

present day: current partner wants to follow his dreams and asks me about mine. I don't have any. I barely know how to be human.

he's applied for a PhD which could take him to various different countries for however long they need him there, whenever they need him there

past that he also wants to take random trips around the world and apply to be an astronaut and he keeps trying to talk to me about it because he's EXCITED as he should be but I don't see it as a good thing, I don't see it as him following his dreams

I'm mentally ill and I see it as being abandoned all over again

Why can't I find someone who will just stay in one damn country

Don't worry, the world is filled with mediocre and untrustworthy people, but there are many people out there who are kind and compassionate. Just because things aren't working out between you and one person, that doesn't mean that no one in the world is right for you. Just give it a little time. You are a wonderful person, so stop doubting yourself.

Nope, I'm just done. Absolutely done.
You were pretty much the only friend in school that I could actually look up properly too.
All because of a freaking stupid person who decided that they weren't popular enough and just come to you and shame me.
That's just amazing, you know?
Now you just completely despise me. All for a loner who had nothing to do with anything. All for nothing. Sure you can hate me, but you just CAN'T reply to my email with this DISGUSTING reply!
Honestly, you used to hate her too, why have you started acting like that she is worth gold while I was worth rubbish? Just why?!
I've gone through enough in this amazing school of stupidity. You know that too. My self-esteem isn't high at all. I like to talk about the online games I play with friends to escape the reality, yet you like to barge in and act like I'm addicted.

OHHH I SEE
I EMAIL you for the last time about this piece of trouble my enemy sent, yet your reply was "keep me out of this"?!
That was pretty much the last thing I would ever send you. Why couldn't you have replied with some more understanding? You already know that I have pretty much no dignity.
For goodness sake! I KNOW that she's not in our school anymore! I only asked you for help because you're the other person who hates her!

Sorry, I really had to get this out of me..

Just why.

People can be really frustrating, especially when they act like that. Sometimes when people feel vulnerable or scared, or they are troubled, they will choose to take it out on others, which isn't fair to anyone.
Maybe you should try talking to them? Sending lots of big hugs your way!

i miss him.
i miss him badly.
i don't know if he even likes talking to me.
i don't know if anyone likes talking to me.

i feel like i'm a burden to everyone i love.
i just want to feel better about myself.

i try being happy around my friends to show i'm okay
but then later i just zone out.

once someone genuinely asked me if i was okay,
but
i just lied and said im fine.

i miss him.
i miss him.
i want him to be safe and happy.
and i want him with me.
he makes me feel happy.

Sometimes social anxiety can get the better of us. It happens to me all the time. When you don't know what to say, when you don't know if someone hate or likes you, when you try your best to please your friends by faking a smile, by lying about your feelings. I get it. These things start to come naturally after a while. I would suggest summoning up all of the courage you can muster, and talking to someone about your feelings. Or, at least when someone close to you asks a question, try to answer truthfully. It can be scary, but you can do it.

I jjst woke up and im just really sad idk I want to cry and I cant even put my finger on why...

It's alright, if you want to cry, go ahead. Sometimes our feelings just get all pent up inside, and when you don't let it out, it continues to build up. And hey, you don't need to know why.

[fika.]

• i'm getting really worried...
• since friday, i've been getting random headaches. i've never had problems like this... what should i do?

don't be too nervous
i constantly have a head ache and my mum
does too. it's mainly because if i take off my glasses
for a long period of time it hurts.

if it keeps up though, or you're extremely worried
about it i suggest going to the doctors or telling
someone close to you about it.
good luck <3

[spooks.]

can someone pm me? thanks in advance.

[Thalassic]

• i'm getting really worried...
• since friday, i've been getting random headaches. i've never had problems like this... what should i do?

Has there been anything making you stressed? Are you getting enough sleep, drinking enough water? Those are the most common causes for headaches, but if you're really worried, it never hurts to consult a doctor.

[Guest]

I have a bit of stuff to let off right now.
For one- I feel like I'm being too paranoid. It seems like the symptoms of my condition are coming back, but my siblings tell me I'm fine. Sometimes I just look in the mirror and my skin is too pale. My arms seem thinner. But when my family looks, they tell me I'm fine. I'm just too paranoid, aren't I?
I'm also very worried about me and social situations. Being kept from the public for (unmentioned amount of years) probably has something to do with it. Now, I still never go anywhere so I'm worried I'll never make friends in person or anything. The first time I did make friends we moved away from that place, and they kind of hated us after a while. I'm just scared, of any social situations, I never know what to say or do, it's always so awkward. And I never meet anyone anyway. It's just... troubling.
If you read this, thank you. <3

[fika.]

I have a bit of stuff to let off right now.
For one- I feel like I'm being too paranoid. It seems like the symptoms of my condition are coming back, but my siblings tell me I'm fine. Sometimes I just look in the mirror and my skin is too pale. My arms seem thinner. But when my family looks, they tell me I'm fine. I'm just too paranoid, aren't I?
I'm also very worried about me and social situations. Being kept from the public for (unmentioned amount of years) probably has something to do with it. Now, I still never go anywhere so I'm worried I'll never make friends in person or anything. The first time I did make friends we moved away from that place, and they kind of hated us after a while. I'm just scared, of any social situations, I never know what to say or do, it's always so awkward. And I never meet anyone anyway. It's just... troubling.
If you read this, thank you. <3

if you feel as your symptons are showing,
tell your family and say you WANT to go get checked out
just in case. better safe than sorry.
as for people, go slow
maybe just start for a walk somwhere
and start to smile at strangers.
and then if you go shopping, make a small
topic conversation such as "how's your day going".
good luck boo<3

[Guest]

I have a bit of stuff to let off right now.
For one- I feel like I'm being too paranoid. It seems like the symptoms of my condition are coming back, but my siblings tell me I'm fine. Sometimes I just look in the mirror and my skin is too pale. My arms seem thinner. But when my family looks, they tell me I'm fine. I'm just too paranoid, aren't I?
I'm also very worried about me and social situations. Being kept from the public for (unmentioned amount of years) probably has something to do with it. Now, I still never go anywhere so I'm worried I'll never make friends in person or anything. The first time I did make friends we moved away from that place, and they kind of hated us after a while. I'm just scared, of any social situations, I never know what to say or do, it's always so awkward. And I never meet anyone anyway. It's just... troubling.
If you read this, thank you. <3

if you feel as your symptons are showing,
tell your family and say you WANT to go get checked out
just in case. better safe than sorry.
as for people, go slow
maybe just start for a walk somwhere
and start to smile at strangers.
and then if you go shopping, make a small
topic conversation such as "how's your day going".
good luck boo<3

Thank you. I'll see if this can help. <3