| TheComfortCorner | v.5

[Princess Taozi]

So I'm really scared right now. The thing is my dog is getting old, he's a German Shepherd Chow Chow mix and he's currently very healthy and still acts young even though he's 11 (almost 12). But the thing is that my older brothers keep on talking about what we'll do if he dies or just bringing it up, and it really scares me. He's been there for most of my life, and although right now he's perfectly healthy (except for he has seasonal arthrites and it's hard for him to move when it gets cold) I'm so afraid he's going to die. My brother was talking about how some things like euthenasia and it was really bothering me. I don't want to think about how my dog might die sooner, and I don't want him to, I'm just so scared...I know he's healthy right now but I can't help but worry >_<
Also when my brother was talking about euthenasia and how if Aerek (my dog) get's really sick or is in so much pain when he gets older we'd have to put him down, I kept on thinking about when I watched the documentary "Earthlings" and they showed clips of dogs being euthanized and that scarred me for life, I know it's supposed to end their pain but it still makes my heart break thinking about how the dog doesn't know what's going on :c
I'm just so worried about him now that he's getting older...
I know I'm being immature and I know it's part of life yet I'm still so scared >_<

Ah dear, I know just how you feel - and it really isn't easy.
My precious greyhound Archie (who I've had since I was practically still toddling) had to be euthanized last year in autumn. He was so old, and suffering so much, we knew it was for the best. But that doesn't make it less hard - putting a pet to sleep is damn horrible, and my family have had to take that decision on a few occasions with late hamsters, cats etc. There's just one thing you have to remember - keeping an animal alive just because you want to keep seeing it isn't fair on the pet itself. You'll know when the time comes, and when it does, maybe send me a PM? I can help comfort you <3

So I'm really scared right now. The thing is my dog is getting old, he's a German Shepherd Chow Chow mix and he's currently very healthy and still acts young even though he's 11 (almost 12). But the thing is that my older brothers keep on talking about what we'll do if he dies or just bringing it up, and it really scares me. He's been there for most of my life, and although right now he's perfectly healthy (except for he has seasonal arthrites and it's hard for him to move when it gets cold) I'm so afraid he's going to die. My brother was talking about how some things like euthenasia and it was really bothering me. I don't want to think about how my dog might die sooner, and I don't want him to, I'm just so scared...I know he's healthy right now but I can't help but worry >_<
Also when my brother was talking about euthenasia and how if Aerek (my dog) get's really sick or is in so much pain when he gets older we'd have to put him down, I kept on thinking about when I watched the documentary "Earthlings" and they showed clips of dogs being euthanized and that scarred me for life, I know it's supposed to end their pain but it still makes my heart break thinking about how the dog doesn't know what's going on :c
I'm just so worried about him now that he's getting older...
I know I'm being immature and I know it's part of life yet I'm still so scared >_<

nononooo its ok <3 I promise!! tell your brother to knock it off about putting depressing topics up, because he shouldn't think about the future, when he has the present to worry about.

My dog, Bailey- she is 12 years and going strong! She is actually my family dog also- but let me tell you a (hopefully short-ish) story!! So, Bailey stopped eating, and was looking bad about 2 years ago. She got really, really sick, bleeding at times ( I won't discuss how, since its a little gross, and I don't want to make anyone sick >.<) . My mom took her to the vet and they told her that she would either have to put her down, or get surgery with only like a 5% chance survival rate, or something really low. My mom chose surgery in hopes to keep her alive. Well, me thinking she was getting put down (my mom planned to surprise me with the 'good' news if they said she lived, sorry if this is confusing hahah) my mom went to the vets, telling us we were getting medicine for my other dog. Well, while getting the medicine- she surprised me with a well and kicking Bailey. What is the total point to this story you ask?? well, it's mainly to show that you should love your pets (or family??) while you have them. Just because your brother is thinking about the future, doesn't mean you have to. Think of the good points of life, and give your dog a good hug, and love him while you at least can, so you are prepared for the future <3 hopefully it makes a little sense, and that this post isn't too sad/odd?

Thank You guys so much for the advice, it's really helping me feel better <3
I guess I'll just cherish the moments I have with him, and I'll try not to think of the future...
Both of your stories and advice are very helpful and I really thank you guys UvU

[ausgdghsag]

So I don't normally like complaining over trivial things on this site, but my dad found literally the #1 way to drive me mad.
So at dinner, my dad was like, oh, you should play some saxophone for me.
As background for this, I'm an avid musician who has been playing saxophone for about eight years now in concert band, marching band, and pit orchestra. My dad doesn't know much about the music world, but last month for my birthday he and my mom bought me a rather expensive good condition nearly professional grade tenor saxophone. I think he likes to know that his money was worth it, because every so often my dad expresses that he'd love to hear me play something.
So, I lug my saxophone upstairs (as a general rule it's best not to drive everyone around me mad with my saxophone, as I play rather loud on some music) and begin to warm up after letting him know I'm planning to practice and he's free to join me as I do. I spend a few minutes orginizing my reeds then about ten minutes warming up, all the while waiting for my dad to show up (his words when I said I was heading upstairs to practice were, "I'll be up in just a minute"). Still no dad.
I spend a bit more time messing around before I give up on waiting and just practice my music. I run through most of the entire show for my pit orchestra before he shows up, and even when he comes up he's messing around with his tablet which apparently isn't working and clearly is paying no attention to me.
Honestly, can you get too much more annoying? Considering I had already practices earlier in the day for a long period of time it wasn't as if I needed to practice tonight, and as my instrument is heavy and I don't have a proper chair for instrument playing it hurts my back to practice at home. And he couldn't even be bothered to listen!
Ugh. It's stupid, but honestly it just bugs the hell out of me when I go out of my way to do something for someone who can't be bothered to pay attention.
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Sorry this is a rather stupid rant. I just sort of need to rant somewhere? Thanks to anyone who read through all of it honestly.

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i agree with you. your dad should've been paying attention. he's the one who told you to play for him.
it gets frustrating when people, especially your parents/guardians, don't follow through.
i'm sorry this isn't all that helpful but if you need someone to talk to hmu, my inbox is open and i reply whenever possible

I've never really posted here much because I don't feel like my problems are as bad as some here, but I Would still like a little comfort a place to rant.

First thing: my roommate. While she is an awesome person she does not and will not clean ANYTHING. And when she does 'do the dishes' she can't seem to get them clean, uses cold water, and only fills up our tiny drying rack before she expects me to dry and put things away. I would not mind this, but I take out the trash, I vacuum, I clean the bathroom, I do the litterbox (for her cat), and I buy 80% of the food. I have 2-3 classes a day Mondays through Thursdays And work a part time job every hour I'm free. My roomie has the entire weekend and friday to herself without anything to do and can't clean? My roommate will not get a job because then she could not collect the welfare money she gets every month for a genetic problem that just causes her to have stiff joints. But shes perfectly fine, she runs a mile every day and when I go with her It hurts me more than her because I had a foot operation a year or so ago. I'm never looking to bash her, but I just want her to care about something you know?

Problem two: Today I broke the first electronic device in my life. I now have a phone that only will charge to 46% and has a HUGE spiderweb crack in the center of the screen. My roommate's cat jumped up and knocked it off the table, and despite the screenprotector and the case, it landed centered on a pointy object. Now it's not a huge issue that I broke it, I'll live even with the hurt pride, but it's an issue to me that my parents won't buy me a new one. I know that sounds REALLY spoiled of me, but hear me out; I have a twin sister and she breaks EVERYTHING. She has broken: 1 laptop, 3 Ipads, and 4 cellphones, the last one being only about a month ago and every time my parents replaced everything right away. My parents tell me this is because she doesn't have a job. Well you know what? I don't have the $200 to buy a new one! I HATE spending cash on myself. I'm a very conservative person and I've probably spent less than $100 on myself in the last two years. Why should my sister just a new phone but not me?

Life issue3: So my parttime job is at a coffee shop, nothing to cool and it's minimum wage, but whatever. Today my cash draw was about $40 off, and I know exactly where it went. A Customer came in, ordered a latte and gave me a 50. I gave him his change( $45 something) and then went to make his latte. When I came back with his drink he complained I never gave him his change, I nicely as I could told him I did (I even remember because I asked him if he won't mind two 20s and the five in ones because I was out of 5 dollar bills) He get real huffy and called over my manager. She gave him the cash and made me apologize. But when the final tally was in, I was short. It was a totally different manger that finally let me leave (45 min after my shift ended) and she still thinks I took the cash. It will probably be docked from my pay If I can't get the first mager to vouch for me. But that guy probaly made about as much as I did on my 8 hour shift in a two minute scam. What is wrong with this?!

Well thank you if anyone read this, I feel a bit better typing this out and I'm always happy to talk to anyone for whatever reason.

you sound like you've been havin' it rough.
i'll address each thing in parts;;


• one | your roommate needs to take responsibility. have you asked her {non-confrontationally unless it comes to that} to help you out? maybe help her look for a job or something similar? this can get irritating especially for hard-working people like you. try to talk it out with her.
  
  
• two | that's really, REALLY unfair. your sister is no better than you. i'm the same way; i hate hate hate buying things for myself. i'll contribute to causes, buy food, buy gifts, but i stand in the store wondering if that $40 shirt is worth it.
  your parents are definitely showing favoritism. like i said before your sister, unless she's disabled, should also seek out a job.
  
  
• three | that is outright wrong. you know what, the customer is not always right. that's messed up and it gets me angry too. is there any higher-ups? maybe you could complain to them. if they still treat you like you're a thief, heck, i'd leave the place and find a different job.
  
  i'm hoping this helped out a bit! lemme know if you need anything.

I can't stand this mental torture. I beat myself up all the time, I live in constant confusion and am unsure about everything. I hate it so much.

My mom is quite great at messing with your mind, always making you feel like you did something wrong. She's so amazing at being passive aggressive. That's not sarcasm by the way, it's hard to make me feel like this, to make me feel like I'm insane. To make me question myself like this and always feel like this. Always feel insecure and always questioning myself. Sure, my dad wasn't exactly the kindest all the time, but at least he was direct. Direct I can take. Tell me I'm a liar, that I'm terrible, that I'm going to fail and be the worst. I will take it, cry, and get over it. It's this mental game she plays to get what she wants, to get the effect she wants.

Every day she uses another sickness to get a reaction. "Oh, today I feel tired and can barely see and the world is spinning. I hope I don't die. Doing all of this work is going to kill me." Every. Flipping. Time. The first few times I felt bad and fell for it, but I highly doubt she's dying every other day. She also does this thing where she's passive aggressive to make you feel bad. I asked how she was when she woke up from her nap because she seemed pretty cranky. What did she say? "Oh, I'm fine. I mean, I hate that I have to wake up only to clean dishes. I wish I wasn't the one doing this. Oh, but don't worry about me, go ahead and go. I'm fine." Usually, I fell for this and would say, "No! Let me do it!" but I'm done. This time, I literally said, "Okay. Hope you feel better." and walked off. I can't stand this.

What happened just now? She made dinner for me, three of my brothers, one of their girlfriends, her, and my stepdad. Me and one of my brothers sat at the table and were joking and laughing when she said that we should go into the kitchen and eat, where they all were. I said okay and went in with my brother. What did she do then? She said, "You guys eat here." and took the rest of them into the dining room to eat. She said that we were being too loud and that we only talked about video games and cat videos. The night before, when I sat with them, I talked about what they were. In a matter of fact, I barely spoke because I wanted to let them speak.

Now I feel like I've done something wrong, and don't know what I've done wrong. It's tearing me up internally. I hate it so much, and don't know what to do. I hate myself and my sensitivity and my always wanting to please others. I hate that I always blame myself for everything, and I still do.

I can't do this anymore.

mm. sounds cliche but i understand this. mom's manipulative, and being manipulated sucks. if possible avoid your mother. cry wolf like she does. disengage if you have to. she is manipulating you. i hate to tell you that but it's true. she wants you to stick around. my best advice; go far away for college and only answer her calls when you're home.
hang in there and hmu if you need a pal.

i may or may not be being bullied by the members of a clique i used to be in until something happened and i left
isn't stabbing me in the back enough for these jerks?

[Thalassic]

I've never really posted here much because I don't feel like my problems are as bad as some here, but I Would still like a little comfort a place to rant.

First thing: my roommate. While she is an awesome person she does not and will not clean ANYTHING. And when she does 'do the dishes' she can't seem to get them clean, uses cold water, and only fills up our tiny drying rack before she expects me to dry and put things away. I would not mind this, but I take out the trash, I vacuum, I clean the bathroom, I do the litterbox (for her cat), and I buy 80% of the food. I have 2-3 classes a day Mondays through Thursdays And work a part time job every hour I'm free. My roomie has the entire weekend and friday to herself without anything to do and can't clean? My roommate will not get a job because then she could not collect the welfare money she gets every month for a genetic problem that just causes her to have stiff joints. But shes perfectly fine, she runs a mile every day and when I go with her It hurts me more than her because I had a foot operation a year or so ago. I'm never looking to bash her, but I just want her to care about something you know?

Problem two: Today I broke the first electronic device in my life. I now have a phone that only will charge to 46% and has a HUGE spiderweb crack in the center of the screen. My roommate's cat jumped up and knocked it off the table, and despite the screenprotector and the case, it landed centered on a pointy object. Now it's not a huge issue that I broke it, I'll live even with the hurt pride, but it's an issue to me that my parents won't buy me a new one. I know that sounds REALLY spoiled of me, but hear me out; I have a twin sister and she breaks EVERYTHING. She has broken: 1 laptop, 3 Ipads, and 4 cellphones, the last one being only about a month ago and every time my parents replaced everything right away. My parents tell me this is because she doesn't have a job. Well you know what? I don't have the $200 to buy a new one! I HATE spending cash on myself. I'm a very conservative person and I've probably spent less than $100 on myself in the last two years. Why should my sister just a new phone but not me?

Life issue3: So my parttime job is at a coffee shop, nothing to cool and it's minimum wage, but whatever. Today my cash draw was about $40 off, and I know exactly where it went. A Customer came in, ordered a latte and gave me a 50. I gave him his change( $45 something) and then went to make his latte. When I came back with his drink he complained I never gave him his change, I nicely as I could told him I did (I even remember because I asked him if he won't mind two 20s and the five in ones because I was out of 5 dollar bills) He get real huffy and called over my manager. She gave him the cash and made me apologize. But when the final tally was in, I was short. It was a totally different manger that finally let me leave (45 min after my shift ended) and she still thinks I took the cash. It will probably be docked from my pay If I can't get the first mager to vouch for me. But that guy probaly made about as much as I did on my 8 hour shift in a two minute scam. What is wrong with this?!

Well thank you if anyone read this, I feel a bit better typing this out and I'm always happy to talk to anyone for whatever reason.

about the roommate thing, have you tried really talking to them about it?
I mean, even if they have problems, you share the living space and thus share the responsibility to care for it. It's possible that they just don't care about cleaning as much as you do (like, I could not be bothered to actually clean my room more than once a month and it would drive so many people crazy), but you could try to set up a schedule, for example, they have to clean the bathroom/flat every X days or every other week or every month or something like that. I think you just have to really talk this trough with them and come to some sort of a compromise that you're both comfortable with (like, they can't do nothing and just slack around, but they also don't have to clean everything every 2 seconds - just find some kind of middle ground).

[milion167]

i may or may not be being bullied by the members of a clique i used to be in until something happened and i left
isn't stabbing me in the back enough for these jerks?

I'm sorry, I know how you feel. I was bullied all 7th grade and it was awful, I eventually moved schools for a fresh start. If you can, that's what I'd suggest. Or maybe it'll get better in a different way? You could try talking to one of the nicer members. Or you could completely ignore them and have a 'screw you' attitude. It might work. If they stabbed you in the back, they don't matter. Just try not to let them get to you. Remember, you're a wonderful person who deserves to be happy, no matter what. If you feel the need to talk, feel free to PM me ^^

[~NinjaCatBlue~]

I don't know how many times I've written up something to post here. I always end up deleting it all once I'm done typing it up. Once I post it, I can't take it back. Who knows. I might post it this time.

I've always tried my hardest to make my mom proud of me and happy. This looks like it is impossible the harder I try. When I was younger and made a mistake, I would hide it because I was scared of how she reacts. I still am. It didn't matter if I passed a class with 67%, or 99%. I still should have done better. After all, she did better. Most of middle school and high school when she would drive me in the morning, she would say mean things. Things that hurt. Things that I know have affected me physically, emotionally, and mentally. I've mastered crying out of one eye because of this. If she saw me crying at what she said she would get mad. I was always early to school so I could go to the bathroom and hide how red my eyes had gotten with some simple cover up. I hid in books too. I would pretend to read while she talked to me. I would pretend to read when I heard other people talking about me. I knew little about what it meant to be female, and a girl until my friends helped me. I had to buy my own feminine things, and my mother refused to believe what my bra size was and only got me training bras through 10th grade. It physically hurt. I've always struggled with making friends, and over time I only got worse. Almost every single one of my friends moved away at some point. My mother always said it was my fault. That they left to get away from me. I'm in college now, and have some kick ass friends! But I feel like I can't talk about my family or past with them. My mother says that my friends are depressing people, when I'm the depressed one, and they are some of the liveliest people I know. She also says that I bad mouth her to my friends. That I manipulate them into feeling sorry for me. That I'm just using them to get attention. I fear that she's right. I fear that when I do tell them the small things and they take my side that I'm manipulating them. That I'm just using them for sympathy. I don't want to do that. My friends are great, wonderful, and kind people. I don't want to use them like that.

Logically I know that she is toxic to me. But I still care about her. On some level. She is still my mother. I try to hide out in my room when I'm home. But at least once an hour, without fail, she calls out my name at the top of her lungs to have me do something for her. Help her take her shoes off. Help her get the remote. Get her a glass of water. ect. Many times if there is an argument she always says 'I hope I die, then how will you survive with out me? You can't.' This tears me up. I don't want her to die. She uses this and other things to manipulate me. I know she's doing it, but I let her. I don't know what else I can do. I'm scared to do anything. So scared that my best friend has offered me a room at her house should I need to leave. I'm just so scared. I make a small mistake years ago, and it is still brought up as evidence against me almost daily. I keep giving her chances, and sometimes she's kind, and pleasant. Others, the first moment we are alone together it's complaints, and berates. Accusations and bold faced lies. I know I';m going to still love her in some way always. I know I will always give her a chance because she is amazing when she's kind. It is just so hard. So hard for me to feel like I deserve anything. To be my best. She keeps putting chains and locks on me. And every time I finally break through one, she puts 2 or 3 more on for the heck of it. I just feel so trapped. So small. Scared.

I always smile. And if I can't smile anymore I pull out a book and hide. I always ask how people are doing, and make sure that if I can help them with something, that I do. I try my best every day. I don't know what else I can do.

[Kazin]

I feel like I have been so worn out, stressed out, and mentally exhausted since September... I can't seem to catch a break, even where I want to be happiest...

I've been at home for not quite a month since I am on break from college right now. I go back in 8 days. (needless to say, that place is also not where I want to go back to either). And things have been so angry, tense, stressful... I don't even know what to do. I have been on the verge of tears so much since September. I couldn't catch a break at college, and I can't catch a break in my own home.

Since September it seems I have lost all the people that I cared about in my life; partly my fault because I am terrible at keeping in touch with people and partially because the ones I did try to keep in touch with just stopped answering me... Which makes me not wan to try anymore. And my college roommate and former college roommate admitted to talking behind my back, instead of sticking by my side when I needed it most. Yet my roommate still wants to be best friends, but she isn't willing to talk about what she can do to help me. I've been up front about what I've been going through, and what I need her to do so I can feel less stressed in my rooming situation, but she ignores all of it. And I have nowhere to escape to at college; the friends I thought I had stopped answering my texts. No explanation. Yet when I see them and I address that with them, they just brush me off and say "we'll be sure to text you when we hang out again!" and I get no text, ever, but I see many photos on Facebook of what game they are playing, what movie they are watching, or whatever... And it makes me honestly really sad inside.

I do have one more friend there, but he is rarely around because he lives nearby and goes home a lot. And I know he goes through a lot too, maybe even similar to what I go through at home. But he's like me in that he doesn't really contact people a lot and when he does it's short and simple. I truly enjoy hanging out with him at college though, being in his room... I feel like he keeps me sane. Yet he has been hanging out with me less and less and I don't know if it's because I am unintentionally pushing him away because I ended up going home a lot as well last semester, if he was just busy, or... I don't know. I don't want to think about him not liking me as a friend anymore. I don't know if I could handle it.

The one other person that I had in my life doesn't have a Facebook, a decently working phone, and he's not on Skype / my Skype won't work on my computer much anymore so I can't message him like I used to. And I miss him so much it hurts me to think about how I haven't been able to talk to him since the end of September. I don't even know if he still wants to be friends.

And now at home... Everyone is so angry all the time. I can't do it. I feel like I am so emotionally imbalanced because of it. And it makes me feel so down, so mentally exhausted that I don't know how to ask others around me for help, like my friend from college or my old friend who I wish I could talk to. I feel like talking about my problems to them would just weigh them down, and seem selfish, because they both also go through a lot.
Just today my sister, who is my twin so we are the same age so it is highly unacceptable of her to act like this, threw a very angry fit because there was no yellow squash. And for the past weeks I've been on break it's been not stop anger at my parents for everything they do. I ask her why she's so mad, and her response is usually "because they're being annoying" though she gets mad as soon as one of them even walks in the door after not being home for 12+ hours. How can someone be annoying when they haven't even seen you all day?

And it has been that way with her for nearly my whole life. She is so hostile, angry, sets off at the drop of a hat... And I can't take it. And my older sister just feeds into it. So then my mom, dad, and sisters are all yelling at each other and even worse, my older sister tries to drag me into an argument I want nothing to do with and says something like "well you know that this is true" so she's basically putting words in my mouth and not letting me have an opinion on the matter, no matter what it is. The other day we were talking about dog training and she says "well [my name] doesn't put her dog in a kennel because she knows it's wrong" (that was a hypotehtical example. I don't even remember what they were yelling about).

I don't know how much more of this I can handle... No one seems to understand anymore. I have no where to get away, no one that is willing to talk to me... I can't wait for the summertime and for the camp season to begin... I can be a camp counselor again, see some old friends, and get away from toxic college people and my toxic family members...

Sorry that was a long rant, but this has been pent up since I got home in December... And I am honestly miserable here, and miserable that I have to go back to my dreaded campus room... I am going to try to switch rooms, so that might help a bit... I am hoping for a single so I can steer clear of anymore people like my current and old roommates.

[mr.robot]

just... really suffering from PTSD right now haha
i hate the flashbacks
i didn't do anything to deserve the trauma
i mean sure i was intoxicated during two of the traumatic of events but i didnt ask for anything to happen to me
and the first time i certainly didnt ask for broken bones
im so miserable

[emoji movie]

Just a terribly coded message to everyone right now
because I'm tired and felt like it.

Remember to believe in yourself, never give up, and
you are beautiful, both inside and out

[Khrusolophos]

I have two oral presentations tomorrow that have a lot of impact on my grades and I don't think I can do it. The worst part about it is they're both group presentations and I'm going to weigh down my partners as well. I'm so close to crying right now just out of sheer frustration with myself. Why am I so terrible at presentations? I'm friends with almost everyone in one of the classes, and the other one I still do have friends in, and it's a shorter, easier presentation. When in just in front of my friends talking, I'm so outgoing and dorky and dramatic, but when you put me on a stage, I freeze up. Why? Why why why? Mom, dad, this is why you should have let me do that hobby I wanted to do. It would have helped this.

[PikaPerfect]

I was going to post, but my problems are nothing compared to what some of you guys are dealing with Here's a little something to cheer you up

MY ART, DONT STEAL. I TRUST THAT YOU GUYS WOULDNT BUT WHATEVER XD


You're all awesome, don't forget that Even if you have a tough school assignment, I believe in you ^_^