The Love Doctors <3 Advice for Your Love Life! (V.2)

[Nobodeh]

Ahh finally a thread for this <3

Well there's this boy I like, but this person, lets call him D, found out and told him. Now we barely hang out, and when we do, it's barely any fun. We're starting to drift away, but we were best friends. I think it's also because my friends were teasing us, how we would make a great couple. But then I met his friend, who looks like him, 'cept a bit cuter ;3 so now, I like him more, and we've started haning out, but now I feel like the the other person I used to like feels jelous D: I want to be friends with both of them, so what should I do??

[stina]

Ah, so many terrible stories, but when i saw the topic i just thought of one.

I was at a school dance and I have you know, that self confidence problem. I get really nervous when I'm going to try something new, and then usually I wont do it because im too nervous. Then afterwards I get super POed about it and really regret it. Anyway, so boom, its 9:45, the dance ends in like 15 mins. Slow song. Nobody's dancing with him. I watch him weave in and out of the dancing crowd passing me as I talk to my friends. I ask my best friend: should I ask him? She says yes of course, why would someone say no, dont dance with him. And so I get a big fat juicy lump in my stomach that is telling me GO UP TO HIM **** IT!!! YOU KNOW HES TOO NICE TO SAY NO!!!! Of course I dont listen to that fat lump, I barely ever do. And the song ends, and some other fast song comes on. Then he starts dancing like a maniac and gets all sweaty. I still want to dance with him. I guess that dancing with him wouldnt be embarrassing for me, but for him it would be embarrasing. Ive never danced with a boy. I hope that day will come. But that night wasnt it.
Before I know it, the DJ anounces its the last song, and best of all, LADIES CHOICE. Meh, hes still sweaty. I try to make my friend go and tell him, but I wimped out and tell her no. Then here comes the girl who liked him in 7th grade, claiming two weeks ago that she didnt like him anymore. Then it happens. Some girl pushes him and her together and they dance. for. the. whole. song. OK GOODBYE THE DANCE IS OVER!!!!!! I actually CRIED in front o my mom and I had to tell her what happened. Forever I will remember that night. And how one simple stupid action I do can ruin something. For the next dance I will be dancing with him. He will most likely say yes, but then I worry, because I'm asking him.

[WolfWhisperer]

Ahh finally a thread for this <3

Well there's this boy I like, but this person, lets call him D, found out and told him. Now we barely hang out, and when we do, it's barely any fun. We're starting to drift away, but we were best friends. I think it's also because my friends were teasing us, how we would make a great couple. But then I met his friend, who looks like him, 'cept a bit cuter ;3 so now, I like him more, and we've started haning out, but now I feel like the the other person I used to like feels jelous D: I want to be friends with both of them, so what should I do??

Just be friends with someone you want to be friends with, if you want to be friends with both, then do it. You will have to explain to the one who is jealous to let them know the truth. And if it is too hard for them, then so be it. If someone cannot take your decision, then they are not worth being your friend.

Ah, so many terrible stories, but when i saw the topic i just thought of one.

I was at a school dance and I have you know, that self confidence problem. I get really nervous when I'm going to try something new, and then usually I wont do it because im too nervous. Then afterwards I get super POed about it and really regret it. Anyway, so boom, its 9:45, the dance ends in like 15 mins. Slow song. Nobody's dancing with him. I watch him weave in and out of the dancing crowd passing me as I talk to my friends. I ask my best friend: should I ask him? She says yes of course, why would someone say no, dont dance with him. And so I get a big fat juicy lump in my stomach that is telling me GO UP TO HIM **** IT!!! YOU KNOW HES TOO NICE TO SAY NO!!!! Of course I dont listen to that fat lump, I barely ever do. And the song ends, and some other fast song comes on. Then he starts dancing like a maniac and gets all sweaty. I still want to dance with him. I guess that dancing with him wouldnt be embarrassing for me, but for him it would be embarrasing. Ive never danced with a boy. I hope that day will come. But that night wasnt it.
Before I know it, the DJ anounces its the last song, and best of all, LADIES CHOICE. Meh, hes still sweaty. I try to make my friend go and tell him, but I wimped out and tell her no. Then here comes the girl who liked him in 7th grade, claiming two weeks ago that she didnt like him anymore. Then it happens. Some girl pushes him and her together and they dance. for. the. whole. song. OK GOODBYE THE DANCE IS OVER!!!!!! I actually CRIED in front o my mom and I had to tell her what happened. Forever I will remember that night. And how one simple stupid action I do can ruin something. For the next dance I will be dancing with him. He will most likely say yes, but then I worry, because I'm asking him.

Don't be too worried or stressed over one guy. If you really have to do it, go out and get it done! You go girl!
Just hide all that fear and put all your strength into it. But just remember that you don't have to ask him out, you always have friends around you to be with, a guy isn't worth everything.

[stina]

Thanks for the advice!!!

[CaliDutchess]

The guy I like- He's been one of my good friends ever since I met him 4 months ago. We have a lot in common, we trust each other, and he's always been there for me when I need him and I've always been there for him when he needs me. When people try and bully me (or the guy that likes me bothers me) he stands up for me. His looks are pretty indimidating, so it's not that hard for him to protect me. Somebody spread a rumor that made the person he likes hate him and he was sad, I was there to comfort him and get him through it. Our friendship is like a big brother and little siser relationship, without the fighting. He's 4 years older than me, but 1 grade older because I started school 1 year early and he stared 2 years late. Whenever I see this one girl hug him for 15 seconds per hug (I see them hug twice a day, but they might hug more and I just don't see it) I get sad and wish it was me. He doesn't like her back, though. He's everything I look for in a guy and I can see us together, but that's also why we're such good friends. As far as I know, he only sees me as a friend. I don't know whether I should just be his friend, or try to be more. Any advice?

Well I followed your advice in a different way. I'm in 7th grade and he's in 8th, and those are the only two grades at my school. When we were talking about his new crush, I said he should aim lower and go for normal-unpopular 8th graders or popular-unpopular 7th graders. I really told him what I thought would help him get a girlfriend, and I didn't just say that so he'd go out with me. I asked if he had a problem going out with 7th graders, and he said no. Then everything is normal for a few weeks, then we went on vacation. We come back, and everything is normal for a few days. I was walking to PE through the 8th grade area since it was a shortcut. On my way there, I saw him staring at me with the look he has when he stares at his crushes. A few days later on the bus, he asked me if he could call me Amandy, since my name is Amanda. I say sure, and from then on he's called me Amandy most of the time. When I get off the bus, I normally say goodbye to him, but he doesn't say anything back. A few days after he gave me a nickname, it was the last day before vacation. I get off the bus for the last time I'll see him in two weeks and I say goodbye like always, but this time, I heard him say, "See ya Amandy." That was the first time he's said goodbye after I get off the bus and say it to him. So when we get back from vacation, I was on the bus when I hear, "Hey Amandy." I look up and I see him sitting two rows in front of me. A few more weeks pass by of him calling me Amandy and sitting near me every day. Today, he was barely tapping this one 7th grade girl's shin with one of those metal shock pens, but he didn't have the batteries in, when she starts crying. To show how lightly he was tapping her, he did it to me and I barely felt it. The girl and I get off at the same bus stop. He still felt bad, so we came up with a plan that would help make her feel better. The plan was when she gets off, he would scream, "Ow!" and I would tell her that I kicked him... in a place... She got off the bus too fast, so I'll have to tell her tomorrow. But my point is, he would never let anybody pretend kick him, but he let me. So yeah that was everything important that happened since I last posted. Any advice on what to do now?

Edit: Today we were playing Truth or Dare on my iTouch when my friend suggested that he should get off at our bus stop and play Truth or Dare outside of school/bus, and he said he didn't want to. I said something like, "Come on, please!" Then he changed his mind and he said, "Okay, I'll come on Monday." I only had to ask him once for him to say yes, and he only said yes when I asked him. What should I do?

[Riverr Song]

Hmmm~

I don't know if I should actually be saying this but meh, kind of a vent I guess.

In grade nine, I met Mac, and he seemed like the best thing in the world-- being able to act, sing, speak French, and be hilarious and cute to boot. I had had crushes before, I had even had a semi-lasting one on one of my old friends, and thought that this one would go away like the others. It didn't.
Grade 10 came and I never had a single class with him, forget to try out for one acts, but was in choir with him. Alrighty, guess I still have a crush.
Grade 11: Choir, one acts, a math class and an english class. Around April I actually broke down and cried on my friend's shoulder over him, and she suggested talking to him, which I knew I couldn't do. By the end of grade 11 I was forcing myself to face the fact that I would never even be friends with Maclean, and I was actually cool with that fact.
Grade 12 though... best year of high school combined with some weird relationship dealies. This is going to get a little off track but bear with me folks. Facts: Grade 11 I "dated" this one guy for a week. He was not as smart as me and was considered generally annoying. My best friend got a car, thus leaving me alone at lunches. Enter Nathan, considered generally annoying, not quite sure on his intelligence, but failed a few classes (Actually kind of a deal for me, since I was a 4 year honor roll student). Alright, so I have this dude who I have deep conversations with alone, who eventually pretty much tells me he loves me... WUT. Feeling not reciprocated, he's just a good friend. Other friend of mine, Wyatt, who I had some sort of attraction towards, finds himself a girl at his own school and turns into major jerk =.= I still stick by him and be a friend, practically jumping for joy when I see him. I never felt so good (Good, not happy or giddy) as when I was with him. Keep in mind I was NEVER the type to open my heart to guys, so afraid I was of getting hurt, and how sure I was that nobody around was worth it (A sentiment shared by my friends).
BACK TO MACLEAN. Fall musical, one act festival, one English class, choir, and vocal jazz. Despite the fact I kept saying I was over the crush, and that I was most likely never to see him after grad, I really couldn't help it. Everything he did was interesting and beautiful, and to top it off, during the summer he FINALLY hit a growth spurt so he didn't look like a 12 year old anymore. Blonde hair, piercing blue-gray eyes, and talented... oh boy... OH, and Christian. Yay. For a couple years I even had dreams where we were friends. Just friends. Not too much to ask. He was the only thing guaranteed to make me smile.
I want to badly to cut this rant short... grr. Well, grad night rolls around, it's been a couple months since he broke up with his (admittedly) really bad choice of a girlfriend, and we'd gotten a whole lot closer. Grad night, he finally asks me out, I have a million reservations but I say yes and all that jazz. Apparently I was acting hella strange after that, like sad and angry, and he got worried (My best friend told him that I actually wasn't acting weird, that that was actually kind of normal for me to make corners for myself and say "I must feel safe" and stuff. It's true, but it's still not a good thing to do).
Skip some of the story... By December I feel I'm completely over Mac, but I see him back in town one day and accidently gush about how great he looks to my friend... in front of my boyfriend... derrrrp. Nevertheless, I still felt completely over him.
Now for the actual question: Recently I've been feeling sort of reminiscent of how I used to feel about Maclean in high school, and since I started dating Wyatt there's always been a thought at the back of my head saying "Is Wyatt just a pattern? Not as mature, not as smart, knows tonnes about stuff you don't really care about but super sweet" It's a really stupid thing to think, and he's a whole lot more but... Mac was different from all the other crushes I ever had, and lasted the longest. Is there any way to really sort out my feelings? I am definitely not looking for anyone to replace Wyatt, it's also that I don't have any other friends that I see right now :\
I may be a university first year but I'm definitely not independent or the norm (I'm just a 18 year old preteen I guess) so consider that I understand what you're saying, but don't take my age into account at all XD


Sorry for the rant y'all. Some of this just needed to be said for my own sake o.o

[Riverr Song]

Oh, and it's noted that Wyatt's still in high school... and won't graduate this year (DUR STUPID RIVERVIEW MESSED HIM UP)

[musubilou]

Both of my best friends have boyfriends and everyone i know has had a boyfriend.
But i haven't. I haven't even been asked out.
I'm just wondering if thats weird because all my friends have had boyfriends in like 4th grade......

Sorry if this is really dumb but its strange to me

[Mysterious_Viking]

Both of my best friends have boyfriends and everyone i know has had a boyfriend.
But i haven't. I haven't even been asked out.
I'm just wondering if thats weird because all my friends have had boyfriends in like 4th grade......

Sorry if this is really dumb but its strange to me

Yes, 4th grade is waaay too young to be dating. Depending on the couple, I think the standard age to date would be ages 13 and up, and maybe 12 if the couple is really mature. I've also heard stories of people not getting their first kiss until their early 20s, so don't worry about anything. Don't try to rush anything either. If you get a boyfriend just to see what dating is like, you'll probably just be disappointed and end up with a broken heart. Wait for the right guy to date and everything will be special. Remember, the guy doesn't always have to ask the girl out. Girls can ask out guys too, but it's just more common for guys to do it.

[musubilou]

Thanks
I just feel super akward when all my friends are talking about their relationships and stuff like that and i'm just sitting there like "..."
XD