♥kittyfaith2210♥ wrote:My sister said she was gonna help type a project due tomorrow for me
now she says no :C
I can't type fast I am gonna fail like always
That is annoying. I feel you. It's probably too late now (sorry) but next time she promises to help you with something, and you know you need her, don't hesitate to knock on her door or send her a text saying, "Hey, sister, remmeber your promise to help me? I'm totally swamped and I could really use your assitance. But if you can't, no big, maybe you should just not promise if you can't keep it. Anyway, no big." And I recommend you try to find a backup helper, like a friend or parent. No human is one hundred percent reliable! slowtown wrote:k i need to vent.
my best friend says i need a datemate. i agree, and i know a lot of people that would want to go out with me, but none that i know are good for me. good for me as in -- one that can put up with my mood-affecting disorders (i'd rather not talk about my mental state on here). so, that's my situation. HOWEVER, i kinda like this boy. let's call him C. and C has a serious brolationship with my best friend M. and M is completely straight, but we're almost certain C is gay because he's never dated anyone (that we know of) and he's in high school. so i've told C i'm attracted to him (i'm not one to keep my romantic feelings secret) and he shrugged it off. i'm not really sure what to do because i've never been in a relationship situation as complicated as this one. i know he can help me through my life and i can help him through his because he's such a great listener and i love listening to other peoples' problems and trying to help out with them. and he's also s u p e r attractive. great jawline. so yeah that's what i've gotten myself into haha. woops :^)
Hmm. How awkward that must be, telling some your feelings and getting only a shrug in return. The boy you are interested may just be shy, maybe. This is a tough spot! You should probably either ask a mutual friend if you think they like you, and if they say yes, go for it! Do you think he shrugged you off because of differing sexualities, or what? overcaffienated. wrote:1 day
i couldn't go 1 day without going right back to my anxiety
i thought things were better, i thought that because my best friend and i talked all night last night and all day today that we'd end up okay, but now she's not responding to the last text i sent and i'm suddenly terrified
i don't know if i offended her or drove her off but i can't gather the courage to ask or apologize or say anything
i'm so frustrated with myself it's not even funny
my therapist canceled on me so now i have to wait several weeks until another session with a new therapist and i'm not sure i can take this
especially with school leaving me so thoroughly whipped i can't do anything after school but sleep
it's not healthy, the way i sleep and eat and shower and all, i know that, but it's so hard to change
i'm so angry that i didn't plan out this week and now i'm turning into a harried ball of anxiety over every little thing
i'm so stuck???
i just need to vent and sort myself out 'cause god am i tired
Hey, anxiety is a sickness, just like a cold. And you know as well as I do that a cold can't be healed easily. I find that anxiety is the same way.
I'm sure your friend is NOT ignoring you. Someone who spent all of last night and all of today talking to you wouldn't abandon you that easily! She or he may be grounded, or have family over, and lost their phone\charger and just can't access it now. Don't jump to conclusions or they may get offended and end the friendship, which would be shooting yourself in the foot, right? I recommend spending some time composing a "Hey man, are we cool? Sorry if I offended you. You matter to me and I don't want to lose you. Call me when you can." Take your time writing and editing and rewriting that. The worst thing that could happen would just be them saying they're busy. I'm sure you didn't do anything wrong, and if you did and they're mad, then they aren't a friend worth having, because you are amazing just the way you are. 
Maybe you should ask for help? it would be better than having your family finding out the hard way. Take time to sleep instead of Pintresting, or binge watching TV. Eat when hungry. Eventually you'll fall into a healthy schedule again, but if it takes longer than you'd like, do get help because you are worth it and you're important!fletch wrote:could i have a pm? it's a bit of a personal matter and concerns some matter that might be a bit...odd.
I will PM you. mads, wrote:this isn't really a comfort needing kind of post but im not sure where else to put it. if this isn't the right place, then please pm me and ill remove it, but provide me with other forums where i could post this.
here's a scenario that has occurred before and id like to know the proper way to handle it if it comes up again, ill use simple names for convenience:
bob: hey joe, what'd you get on that assignment?
joe: oh, i got a hundred percent/*and or shows paper to bob*. what'd you get bob?
*bob slouches a bit in his seat and whatnot, embarrassed*
bob: not that great *mumbles and doesn't show paper/shows paper*
etc, etc. every scenario will not play out the same exact as this, but you get the point. how should joe respond to bob when he see's his score and its, well.. terrible? should joe say "aww, better luck next time!" or "you still did great!" im not thinking thats right. id like to know what other people here think joe should say to bob that kind of brings bobs spirit up. if:
joe: "you did great though!"
bob: "im a fail.."
basically the same thing as before but if bob keeps putting himself down, what should joe do? any advice on anything joe should say to bob would be great. (and if you didn't already know, these are fake names but this could be a real scenario and im seeking advice on it should be solved).
I'm assuming you're Joe? Hmm, this is a tough situation, but I'll do my best.
if you're Joe:
Your friend keeps putting themselves down in front of you.
They won't believe that they did good.
Well, there really isn't anything you can except for:
Encourage them. "Hey, I think you're actually doing quite well. Your grade has improved." if they don't believe you, there's nothing you can do.
Try if something at home is bothering them. oftentimes people may be putting themselves down to get some praise for once because of neglectful and\or abusive home lives where they don't get credit where credit is due. If number one fails you may try to find the root of the problem.
If you're Bob:
Don't put yourself down! You're trying, aren't you? Well, anybody who wants more than your best is a jerk who doesn't know what they're talking about. You can't do anymore than your best.
Hint: if you are Joe, try saying that ^^^^^^
GlitchyMoon wrote:Ugh. I really need some advice right now
Ok so I have this math test tomorrow, and I don't understand a single thing that we've been learning. When the teacher is explaining stuff to us, I just can't comprehend it so I doodle on my paper instead of paying attention. Now I'm trying to study for this test but it's so confusing, and the teacher's really scary and I'm just really stressed right now....honestly I wouldn't be surprised if I failed the class.
I'm someone who has trouble focusing, too, so I get it. Hmm. maybe you should ask a parent or friend for help. if you don't get it, you don't get it. I'm sure a lot of people are struggling with math too. it doesn't make you dumb, worthless, or an idiot. It makes you you, and i happen to think you're pretty cool. peridot1029 wrote:I don't know how long it's been but I've been thought in this infinite loop for hours I don't Sven know what I'm solving but I can't do this help me
Edit: The thought is I'm somewhere and there's this math problem or something I don't even know what the question is but I've been trying to solve it for 6 hours and I can't get it out of my head
You've prolly got it down my now- or given up, either is understandable- but in the future, don't be afraid to ask for help. if you're worried about annoying someone who is teaching you, they'll probably feel a lot worse if you don't pass a test than taking an hour to help you out. if they act cross when you ask, tell them that, because it's important. Just like you. <3 Ζan wrote:For the last 3 days I've just been feeling constantly nauseous. And any time I eat anything at all, it just makes it 5 times worse.
I went to lunch with my coursemates (who in that short amount of time managed to be both homophobic and racist and I was too chicken to say anything to them) and about 2 hours later, coming home from school I damn near threw up.
Ugh.
I can't eat. I hope not eating anything for a day or two will help it go away because I really can't go to a doctor right now.
I cannot give our medical advice so I can't really help you with this one, but all you need to do is tell someone how you feel who can help, know that those people are just stupid and judging and how they feel about you doesn't matter, and to try and get some sleep, if that will help you feel better. If you need something to chill yourself out, take a bath, a walk, or make some tea, or all three of those. paint. Draw. Sing. Write. Listen to music. Your mental health is most important. Inky. wrote:hello ;o
i want to talk to someone but im too scared to talk to a counsellor or someone at school. i dont really have any friends to talk to about this, and id prefer not to.
could someone pm me? please, could you be mature and accepting of lgbt+ communtity as its partly that. also if you are knowledgeable on depression, perhaps?? id like to chat now, i have built up the courage for once.
((we could also perhaps chat on skype if thats eaiser?))
thank
i have no Skype and wouldn't Skype a stranger anyway, although I know you're lovely, but you can send me a PM if you would like. ♥kittyfaith2210♥ wrote:I have this Youtube channel
But some boys laughed at me about my one funny video of me singing
3 dislikes
One comment from a boy in my grade saying "Please stop"
:c
I just want to be popular
and liked but apparently making videos is not helping
I just might stop making them then
You don't have to be popular to be wonderful! Most "populars" are shallow anyway. Not all of them, but most. What you can try to do is make a friend. You can try and friend a Popular if you'd like, but I think someone else on the sidelines would really like to get to know you. You're beautiful just the way you are! And if someone doesn't realize that they aren't worth your time, anyway! Remember, BE UNAPOLOGETIC OF WHO YOU ARE! Don't give up on your dreams just because of rude people! i know you can do it. You are kind, smart, and important. You ALL are! Click these links: http://www.wikihow.com/Socialize%2C-Be- ... ke-Friendshttp://www.wikihow.com/Make-Friendshttp://www.wikihow.com/Make-a-Best-FriendSwordboy wrote:I don't know what's wrong with me anymore. My medication isn't working, nothing has changed and it's been months. I still have the same problems I had before. I just can't control my emotions. I get mad suddenly for no reason. I cry randomly with even the smallest triggers. I hurt people I love and I don't even realize it. It's like when I get mad my personality and my thoughts completely change. I don't even know how to explain it. I don't care about anything when I'm mad. I don't even realize what I'm doing until after and by that point it's too late. I feel terrible. I don't want to hurt the people I love. I know I have depression and anxiety, that's what the medicine is for but I don't know. . . I feel like something else is wrong and I don't know what to do.
Hello, Swordboy. i believe we have met before! *smiles*
Life's been a jerk again, huh? Man, i am so sorry. *Hugs*
Nothing is wrong with you.
Wow, you're in a tough spot. But I have good news.
You are going to get through it.
You have before, and you can again.
But you can't do it alone. No way. You need to ask for help. I think you should try to get professional help. It's worth a shot!
You see, mental illness is like physical illness, except you can't see it. But that doesn't mean it's not real. You can't see or touch your brain but you know it's there because you wouldn't be alive without it. And like physical illness, you will need time to get better. But you can't do it alone. Get help, friend. Because you're worth it.
When you feel like you're about to blow up, think of something. Anything. Think of your sternest teacher in underwear, of a funny moment in the past, or go watch some farting dog videos. Whatever makes you smile again, find it. And if your family really loves you, which I'm sure they do, they'll know. They'll understand. And if they don't, then they aren't your real family, because families never give up on each other. PM me anytime.
♛Queenie♛ wrote:I’ve given comfort to a few people, but I feel like I need a turn in the comfort corner.
So I’m an intelligent girl in high school who also happens to be overweight. The fact that I’m intelligent (top in my class so far, in fact) is usually overlooked. Sometimes I feel like people look past all of my good qualities and only choose to see my bad ones- especially the blindingly obvious one, my weight.
There’s also this new girl in my class. We’re very similar; good grades, long, blonde, curly hair (I love my curly hair, and the fact that someone else has my exact hair bothers me for some reason), etc. But she’s skinny. I compare myself so much to her, and it breaks my spirit, honestly.
I act like a super confident person, and people buy it, but inside, I am always filled with crushing anxiety, self-doubt, and general bad thoughts about myself. Is there any way to solve this? And please don’t start off by telling me that I’m beautiful/my fat is beautiful/etc. I know it’s not, I don’t need to be lied to about it. I just need some reassurance that I can still be liked, despite my appearance.
Photoshop.
Mirrors.
Magazines.
Commercials.
Parents.
"Friends."
All of these things can take the most confident person and tear them down in a moment. Tongues are superpowers, and these are always abused.
Not in a dirty way.
But here's what you need to remember.
it's all FAKE!
Society has created the "perfect" girl- curvy hips, tiny waist, full lips.
But that's not real!
It just isn't believable. But society has such a grip on mankind that it's tricked them into believing you can be size zero.
Yes, some may be zeroes.
But tell me...
why is that considered beautiful, all ribs and bones?
When we see that on a dog, we see it as a sign of a hard life.
So why, when we see it on a woman, we consider her to be beautiful?
Nobody can be Barbie. It's just true.
You can paint your face and reshapen your body, but all of those things you see are reached through makeup, Photoshop, and lack of food- which is what a human needs.
And why is it shameful, to have a little extra weight? Who doesn't love cookies? Pie? Pizza?
There is nothing wrong with weight.
Because we will all be ugly in the end.
How you look may seem important now, but a pretty face won't get you a steady income.
It's NOT REAL.
But that doesn't mean you need to be ashamed for not liking how you look. Everyone only sees their flaws, when in reality, they probably aren't looking at how you look because they're busy looking at how they look!
What's the point of being beautiful if you make others feel ugly?
There isn't one.
So you just keep being you, girl or guy, because honestly, I think you're dang awesome.
Don't ever let anybody tell you differently.
There is nobody like you.
I'll bet someone in your school is wishing they had your teeth, your eyes, your sense of humor, or all of the above.
Much love,
Braveheart
CommanderOfLaserCats wrote:I want to cry. I want to curl up into a tiny ball, and cry until I physically can not cry anymore. Then I want to sleep, and never wake up.
I'm not an attention-crazy person. I don't want a lot of attention, but my parents give me NONE. At all. I've tried everything. I rake the leaves, I do everything, I tell jokes, I tell stories, I try to join in conversations. My mom just glares at me and shrugs me off if I try and talk, she blatantly ignores me, or simply says "Thanks." if I do an extra chore. I don't know what I've done. I really don't.
She LOVES to hurt me. I'm not just saying that. I'm really not. You know what hurts? When you're doing your homework, watching TV, or just playing a game, and you hear your mother saying hurtful things JUST loud enough that you can hear them. "I swear, all she does is sit on that computer." "Why doesn't she have friends? I guess that people don't like her." "God. She left this can out? She's such a slob. No more snacks for her." I don't know. It hurts so bad.
She said that when we changed custody to her, things would be better. That it wouldn't be a tyrannical rule like with my father. My father, who didn't give us any free time and believed that school was your only life. At least he let us eat after school. At least he laughed at jokes and listened. At least he would look at things I wanted to show him. My mom? No snacks anymore. Going 7 hours without food wouldn't be so bad if it wasn't that I had P.E. and a 30 minute walk home after school lunch. She puts everything on times now. She's more of a tyrant than he is.
I really don't know what I did. Today was amazing at school. I got everything done, everything turned in, found what I had lost. I answered everything right, had down time, and the jerk-guys didn't bug me. I was so happy when I got home, only for my mom to ignore me. What a surprise. I tried to tell her something funny at school, and she ignored me. I said, "Mom?" and she looked at me and asked if I had said something. Then my brother came in and she wanted to hear all about his day.
It's eating me up, and really hurting me. I want to cry so bad. My self esteem is even lower than it was before. I already have zero self esteem, and now I see nothing good in me. I suck at art, as she said, I'm ugly, like she said, I have no friends, like she said, I'm not very smart, like she said, and I'm a horrible, mean, petty person. Like she said. I get bullied at school, and now at home. I used to look forward to going home, but now I don't. I don't look forward to school, I don't look forward to home. I only look forward to the walk between the two. Where I'm alone, and where I can take a few steps without an insult being thrown my way.
I don't know what to do. I don't want to give up. I'm only in high school, and have so much more time to go on. But waiting for those years until I can get into college and leave this heck-hole, I don't know if I can do it. I can't cry it out because if my mom sees that I cried, she'll act all sad and apologize. And I believe her, which is my flaw. I TRUST TOO MUCH. Then once I think that she'll finally pay attention to me again, that she won't glare, she goes back to normal. Her only "nice" time with me is when she thinks that I'll tell someone.
I hate myself, and I hate life.
I don't know what to do.
Oh honey.
I am so, so sorry.
I have tears in my eyes because I can relate.
Your mother doesn't know what she's taking about. because you are great. You may not believe me, but it's true. You should believe me. Who would you rather believe? The woman that constantly rides on you because you aren't "good enough?" or me, who's comforting you and making you feel important? (Um, because you are.)
There isn't anything you can do about your mother. Some just need to complain, complain, complain. But here's the catch.
Your
mother
is
a
liar.
She does not know you. She does not know your quirks, your strong points, your flaws, what makes you tick, and if she does, she doesn't care so she is not worth your time. Your mom won't ever understand that, and though it's so hard- "But she's my mom! My own mother hates me!"- she doesn't get to define you. She doesn't get to take away everything about you that everyone loves- your friends, grandparents, whatever. Your mother does not have a right to tell you that you are not good enough. it is not her place to point out your flaws. She is a liar, a liar that doesn't deserve to be called Mom. [u]Never[/u] forget that.
ignore her. She's done trying with you, so be done with her. because you are so kind, so sweet, so innocent, and so very important. And if there comes a point you can't handle it, don't be afraid to open up because this is a form of abuse, a form of abuse that hurts the worst. It's okay to be scared. It's okay to cry. But it is not okay to let the warped opinion of some stupid woman define who you are, because you are more than that! it is YOUR life and if she doesn't accept that then that's her problem. Please don't be afraid to get yourself out of there. She will drive you mad. She will without thinking twice. Maybe find a grandparent to stay with? Don't be afraid to stand up for yourself because
you
matter
more
than
you
will
ever
know.
If you didn't you wouldn't be here. Ghost Penguin wrote:what the heck?
i was talking with my friend on Facebook.i asked he if she had heard the dubstep remix of "this is Halloween" , she replied "no, i'm not trash"
Excuse me? you have a crappy taste in music and i don't call you trash even though you deserve it.
rant over
People can be so mean! Tell him that hurt you very much and that you don't dis him, so you would like some respect for your beliefs. Or you can ignore him, or ignore the comment. Listening to a type of music doesn't make you trash, it makes you who you are, and I think you're amazing! censored; wrote:so i just moved to my current location and i currently have no friends. so does anyone have any helpful tips for a weird person to make friends? cx
thank you to the kittens who help me
Click the links above ^^^^ WikiHow amazes me. God luck! And remember, you have me!☆Pyronica★ wrote:My 'friends' aren't treating me nicely. Heck, they never have. They physically hurt me even if they don't mean it sometimes. They ignore me. One of my friends downright hates everything I like and when I'm trying to talk to her about something she just rolls her eyes and ignores me. She always talks about her friend WHO DOESNT EVEN GO TO OUR SCHOOL and when I went to a sleepover with her she invited said friend and ignored me the entire time. I have symptoms of Asperger's syndrome and may have it. Whenever I try to explain this to someone they just dismiss it. I have no one to talk to about my interests because absolutely no one has common interests. I'm the kind of person who literally NEEDS to share things with other people. I can't keep things to my self I physically can't it doesn't work. And this 'friend' always takes my phone away from me. She thinks I'm on it too much when I don't really get that much time to use it during the day. My phones been broken before and I don't want her to break it. She's broken things of mine, sure it was an accident but it made me angry and a bit upset. Another one of my 'friends' acts crazy and is actually kind of gross. She hurts me on a daily basis. I know it's just a joke to her and she doesn't mean it but when I tell her to stop she doesn't. Then if i hurt her back (which I rarely do) she makes a big scene.
Then in school. Teachers. My math teacher says I'm too shy and I don't participate. I want to be included! But he won't even give me a chance! He never calls on me and I honestly try my best! I feel like my only friend is my Geography teacher but he's so nice and everyone loves him so I can never even talk to him! And no one even talks to him about important things! He was showing us beautiful pictures and explaining how great the native people of the rainforest are. I was in awe in the entire time while everyone else was just weirded out. I even agreed with my teacher when he said these people are more human then we are. I feel really strongly about it, and when I got mad at my younger sister I showed her a picture of a person native to the rainforest and argued that they were more beautiful than us. She grimaced and ruined my life. I felt so strongly about it and she just made everything worse than it already was.
I just want a friend who doesn't pretend to be nice to me.
When I start crying at lunch my friends try to make jokes and think they're helping.
They're just making it worse.
I'm just sick of my friends and all those other imbeciles who can't see my geography teacher's true points. I can't even talk to my teacher about how strongly I relate to his beliefs because I'm too shy and he's always to busy with everyone else.
Seems to me you need to make some new friends ^^
I think maybe you should click the links above
Hope it helps!
Oh, and your sister doesn't know what she's talking about. No offense, but sometimes people think that just because someone doesn't look, talk, or think like them they aren't people. Which is a lie. You can either try explaining or let her figure it out on her own ^^
Listen up, you all. You are ALL amazing, perfect, kind, nice, wonderful, important, and smarter than you think. My PM box is always open to everyone of you no mater who you are, okay? About anything. I am here for you whenever, so please don't hesitate to message me if needed. And now for some cuteness!
I do not own the above photos. I got them all off of Pinterest. Now, if you'll excuse me, my cat needs me. 
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