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[Paranoia]

Figured i'd try this thread. I need some advice or some comfort right now.

I have a friend whom i'm very close with. I've helped them through a lot and they've done the same for me. But i feel as our friendship has taken a turn for the worse.

Back in November 2014, they told me they liked this girl, and that they were both dating. All was fine until the girl cheated on them and pretty much used them. They broke up a bit after.

Fast forward to April 2015, my friend and i started to get very close and we both had feelings for each other. We pretty much had a platonic relationship to say, and we only got closer and closer.

A bit after April, i don't remember exactly when, the girl who cheated on them in the past tried to reconnect with them again. She told them that she felt bad and that she had changed and was in love with them apparently. Myself and a few other friends tried to warn them about being careful as she might go and do the same. After some consideration they ended up dating yet again. A few weeks after they were dating, the same happened. She cheated and lied to them and they broke up and i never heard about them again. Until now.

My friend and i have gotten extremely close, to the point of dating to say the least, we had both forgotten about her and moved on. I found out last night that my friend had been talking to her, claiming that she had matured a lot and changed over the past few months and that she was also moving far away. But the worst, they like her.

I have mixed feelings about it. I want to be the supportive friend but it makes me sick to my stomach to think that after all we've been through, they like her. I'm mainly upset as they told me that if they and her date, that their feelings for me would stay the same and they'd love me just the same. And that i thought they loved me, that i was good enough and that they wouldn't want anyone else i guess. I'm not sure what to tell them right now. They aren't talking to me either.

What should i do? Should i be the supportive friend and help them and sit in silence with how i feel? Or should i simply try to stop it from happening? Or am i just being oversensitive about this entire situation as they might not even end up dating?

Sorry for such the long and confusing post, i hope i explained it well.

Personally, I wish people weren't so trusting, but even myself I'm open to practically everyone :/
I'm a little confused about your situation since you mention dating them but only talk of them as a friend?
Have they done long distance relationships in the past? If they haven't I would recommend not worrying about them dating the girl, but talk to them and see if they're considering it. Don't keep your feelings to yourself, if you're as close as you say you are they should understand where you're coming from. I'd say it's especially easy to cheat when you don't see each other every other day and after it's happened twice I certainly would try to convince them that she may do it again, and is just using the trust against your friend. Just because she's matured while talking to them in a friendly way doesn't mean she's gotten past cheating on her significant others, that doesn't just take maturity, that takes self control and discipline. Two not entirely related concepts.
Really, just talk to them though. Communication truly is key in both friendships and partnerships. Don't be rude, but politely bring up to them that you're worried about your guys' relationship and what might happen between your friend and her.
They also definitely shouldn't date someone if they have strong feelings for two people.

[Sameen_of_Nohr]

A Boy That Likes Me Wont Tell Me To Be His Girlfriend But We Like Each Other And My Friends Are Trying To Hook Us Up But He Is Very Shy.. What Should I Do? I Mean People Keep Saying Were Ment To Be But I Don't Know What To Do, I Need Tips On Dating And Relationships. But Also Don't Know If Im Ready.. Because After I Found Out He Liked Me He Would Avoid Me I Don't Know If He Still Likes Me Anymore.. I Mean He's Smart And Caring But I Don't Know What To Do.. Do I Tell Him How I Feel About Him Too Or Just Letting Him Avoid Me? Im Just So Comfused! What Should I Do?

ok well have you tried asking him out? its sounds weird and uncomfortable i know but writing a sweet note asking him would be a good idea if you yourself are shy he may be shy or he simply may want you to show you are interested... guys like it when you take steps on your own... i personaly started my last relationship but my current one he started... it all depends on how you really feel about him.. another thing you could try hanging out with him you say he avoids you so confront him about that and explain you feel is hurting your friendship... hope that helps even just a little

[Guest]

Sigh.

So like my boyfriend tells me that like he's been hit on 3 times. That also some gay guys told him he smells delicious. Like I don't know if he's trying to make me jealous or perhaps to say something like, "aw I wish I was there to rip the girls eyes out and show those guys your straight and taken." But I find that weird and something I rather bottle up in my head lol.

Just a weird rant. Feel free to reply I guess xD

[C0RGIS]

\\\Omg I feel so weird for using this thread, it's completely out my personality to do this >.>

! I am extremely emotional and sometimes really don't understand how to cope with my own emotions and am really shy. !


Ok long story short (cause I wrote something else which was like 2 paragraphs long)
I like some one who is as some people may say 'out of my league'
I can't even //look// at him now if he talks to me cause my whole body just shakes out of nervousness.
My school is harsh and know everyone would probably gang up on me and be horrid about it which is pretty much the only reason holding me back (as well as the shaking and him being really confident and me being the shy emo child (he's also way taller than me, my head is under his arms if he stretches them out sideways. So his height is kinda intimidating to me.))

I thought of getting one of my friends to maybe tell him the last day before my next school holiday so if everyone does find out they can kind of 'calm down' about it before we go back. Is that a good idea?? I really can't speak to him I'm just wayyy too shy :(
Hahhh omg I've never sounded so pathetic

[alleyway]

Agh..I need help. I keep putting of skyping, as face to face, he said he would open his cam first I just am really nervous

[dozy]

Ahh, relationships. Can I blow off some steam for a bit?

So recently, my sort-of-on-and-off-long-distance-more-platonic-than-anything thingy ended. It was kind of around a year and a half that the thing went on for. One evening, I was drunk and asked her to confirm if we're dating/basically asked her out again, and she was like 'aww babe, I'd love to date you but I don't do online relationships.' I've just ignored her since, I really cannot be bothered anymore. I'm devastated, obviously, I had FINALLY saved up enough money and worked and worked and worked to get over my fear of escalators just to be able to fly out and surprise her. I had it all planned and everything down to the T, what I was going to do.

It's pretty obvious that she wanted to say she was dating me to get back at her (engaged) ex. It really didn't work since none of us care about that old romance-y situation anymore. Also she's pretty transphobic and I'm trans, so yeah.

My ex (cisgender male, I'm not into cisgender men) kept pressuring me to 'help out' his intimate needs since his girlfriend wasn't ready to, and his lovely quote of 'I only need your hand' when I told him I was a lesbian almost drove me to tell his girlfriend, but ever since seeing the lovely date pictures on facebook and how happy she looked, I couldn't break them up or cause trouble. I told him off and he seems to have backed down for now, but keeps going on and on about how 'cute' I am and how 'deprived' he is because she won't, basically, put out. SIGH.

And then my college friend, who has previously said homophobic things asked me out, days after splitting up with her boyfriend who she could potentially be pregnant by. He's claiming that she lied about not being able to have kids and taking emergency contraception and wants nothing to do with the baby, while she's over the moon and praying she's pregnant, and when I jokingly said that we could be the coolest lesbian parents if he didn't stand up to the plate, she was like 'seriously if u were a lesbian i'd be first in line to b ur girlfriend!!'

I was about to inform her that I was a lesbian before she sent another message saying that 'ive been a lesbian b4 and changed my mind but im sick of boys and i could change back.'

I introduced her to the wonderful world of bisexuality but yeah, dunno if she's just confused and wants support with the baby or if she genuinely likes me? (I do feel bad since I don't like her back)

And then there's the cute guy at work who I'm basically super compatible with but he has a boyfriend and I'm not sure if he's poly (I'm not sure if I misheard him when he mentioned relationships - "I've had two relationships," or "I have two relationships.")

lordy loo, my relationship life. I can't wait for uni, maybe I'll meet someone simple.

[VintageSongBird]

OK PEOPLE

So, i have never had a real boyfriend, never had a guy hit on me, never had my first kiss, and i am going into my third year of high school. And i dont know what to think of it. One one side, me being self-conscious, maybe there is something wrong with me? maybe im not the datable type? or im just weird? On another side, me being a hopless romantic, Im just super sad that I dont have a really nice relationship, or a guy that would do anything for me, or a cute story about my first kiss.Also, my friends really want me to go to junior prom, and I know its totaly fine to go with friends, but i would really like a date... Finally, me being practical, do high school relationships even matter? I mean, should i even be worried about guys at all at this point in my life?

Id really like as many opinions as possible

[aespa]

guys, i need some help. i broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago
and i recently caught up with my bestfriend who goes to the same school & same group my ex,
was, in. well the problem is, ever since i broke up with, uh, lets call him paul,
apparently he's 'changed' into what i would call a troy. basically troys are the type of boys
who would go out and party all night, do illegal things and talk to girls. i'm really worried
that its my fault now, because this happened before with my other ex, oscar.

i really don't know what i did wrong, and this is actually the thing i was worried about the
most. him turning into one of them. i can't but feel responsible for this and feel like i did
something wrong for him to change.

yes, i broke up with them, but they fully understood why i did what i did.

[Dèvil]

Im so happy right now guys and here it goes from the start!:
I met this person called T on FB (my friends know him) and when he inboxes me first saying "hey" we started hitting it off well, we first talked about what we do in our lives and we have so much things in common! Apart from him dating 2 girls throughout his life and me dating 0 guys lol XD, he is such a sweet,attractive,cute and friendly guy that I'm just shocked, words cannot describe this to be honest! Soon after a week or so I asked for his phone number and his snapchat user and he told me them which was good and practically we've been talking to each other all night on snapchat about everything! He has opened up to me and I've opened up to him about anything and we've even played truth or dare which was fun because he has told me secrets and I've told him secrets and at one stage he asked me do I have a crush on anyone and because I was sick and tired of being a wimp or a chicken I told him the truth that I've started to have a crush on him and I think he was satisfied and we've even started sending each other kiss emojis as a joke! Whenever I told to him he makes me smile and be weird which he likes and I really want to get to know him in real life but I want advice from guys for his part, if it was your first date where would you want to hangout with a girl? (Of course I'll bring a friend to watch me) just in case something happened.

[Paranoia]

OK PEOPLE

So, i have never had a real boyfriend, never had a guy hit on me, never had my first kiss, and i am going into my third year of high school. And i dont know what to think of it. One one side, me being self-conscious, maybe there is something wrong with me? maybe im not the datable type? or im just weird? On another side, me being a hopless romantic, Im just super sad that I dont have a really nice relationship, or a guy that would do anything for me, or a cute story about my first kiss.Also, my friends really want me to go to junior prom, and I know its totaly fine to go with friends, but i would really like a date... Finally, me being practical, do high school relationships even matter? I mean, should i even be worried about guys at all at this point in my life?

Id really like as many opinions as possible :D

I'm going to be a senior in high school this year and I just got my first boyfriend when last school year ended ^^;
And it's hard to say if highschool relationships matter, a LOT of them do end but why not just have fun with it anyways?
My friends parents have been together for 20+ years and they started dating in highschool. There's too much that goes into if they matter of not. I can see the hype of "needing" a boyfriend but not having one isn't the end of the world by any means.
The whole you not having one yet doesn't mean you aren't datable, it just depends on what you do and who you meet.
My boyfriend didn't even go to my school at the time (I honestly met him online// and he graduated soo clearly he won't this year either haha)
But you'll find the person who thinks you're worth dating and you think the same for. Some people don't even have a bf/gf until they go into college or are 20 years old.
Don't worry about any of it, especially since prom likely isn't until later in the school year. You may meet new people and maybe meet a guy by then.