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[anathema]

So...could use a little help since my situation has taken some major turns.

Let's just start with the fact that I have a huge crush on my best friend - let's call her A. I've had feelings for her for well over a year, maybe more like a year and a half, and while she knows I'm not straight she thinks I'm more aro and is completely oblivious to my feelings. And, frankly, I'm clueless; the biggest part of me just wants to wait for a few more years, but part of me just wants to spill it and hope she's at least okay with it. A's really accepting of most sexualities - that's no problem - but I really worry that if I told her she'd try and break things off. And I can't have that; I can barely take the idea of her going off to college and just walking out of my life, you know? Yes, I like her romantically, but I'm way attached to her platonically. I'm just not sure whether a year is really enough to determine anything or whether I should just sit back and wait.
And yes, I have very lightly hinted at liking her, but she's oblivious. I've talked crushes with her (neither of us have had any major crushes, except for mine), putting up with her habit of slapping me when she's asleep, condescendingly asking if she wants me to hold her hand as a joke, etc. but she's super oblivious, and I don't know if I can tell any of my other friends and trust them to keep it under the radar.
And, to make matters worse, this guy from my church is high key crushing on me. I do not like him back at all but a friend of mine (unrelated to A) mercilessly teases me and tries to get us together. I don't know how to just straight-up say that I don't like him and that I'm not straight. I don't even want to go to church anymore because it makes me so uncomfortable (poor guy, I feel kinda bad).
In short, I have a crush on my friend, a guy has a crush on me that I don't reciprocate, and I don't know what to do with any of this.

if i was in this situation, i'd straight-up tell her. i'd say "i like you as more than a friend. what do you think about that?" if she doesn't feel the same way, simply reply, "alright. i know this may be awkward for you, and i don't want this to affect our friendship." and that'd be that. this is worst-case scenario—there's a thousand ways she can say yes and only one way she can say no. as for the boy at your church, be completely straight to the point. don't beat around the bush because you're not interested in him and lingering on the situation will only make matters worse between you and him.

[Emma Swan]

PM me please... It's a hard situation to put out to everyone

[VintageSongBird]

Sigh* my friends keep telling me to tell my crush how i feel, because if he rejects me he is going to college anyway, and if he feels the same, he'll make an effort to keep in touch. And they have told me they think he might like me back,because of the way he acts when he talks to me, even though he hasn't said anything or made a great effort to spend time with me.

But a lot of people online are saying, don't pursue him, there is no point. if he hasn't directly approached you, he probably isn't interested, and he would be too busy at college for you anyway. Basically I should give up and forget him.

But i just don't know. And I've liked him so long, I think it will be hard to forget him, and I'm afraid I'll regret not telling him. but I'm still scared to tell him...I'm afraid i haven't got the guts.

I don't really know what I'm asking, maybe some advice on how to forget and get over him? or some advice on how to muster up the courage to tell him? please?

[NopesaurusRexx]

Sigh* my friends keep telling me to tell my crush how i feel, because if he rejects me he is going to college anyway, and if he feels the same, he'll make an effort to keep in touch. And they have told me they think he might like me back,because of the way he acts when he talks to me, even though he hasn't said anything or made a great effort to spend time with me.

But a lot of people online are saying, don't pursue him, there is no point. if he hasn't directly approached you, he probably isn't interested, and he would be too busy at college for you anyway. Basically I should give up and forget him.

But i just don't know. And I've liked him so long, I think it will be hard to forget him, and I'm afraid I'll regret not telling him. but I'm still scared to tell him...I'm afraid i haven't got the guts.

I don't really know what I'm asking, maybe some advice on how to forget and get over him? or some advice on how to muster up the courage to tell him? please?

It's all bout risks. If you think that you will regret not telling him, you should tell him. He's either not going to have similar feelings, or he will and you'll go from there.
What my friend's and I use as a pep talk can't be said here, so I'm going to try getting to the same point without using our words.
If you've ever seen "We Bought a Zoo," there's one line about having 20 seconds of insane courage. Plan out how you want to tell him. Are you going to do so in person? Or over a message?
If you are telling him via message, write up what you want to say, have a friend or two look it over, and send it. I've done this before, and I've always had one of my friends sitting with me. That way if things go wrong, they are there to help and comfort you.
If you are telling him in person, ask to talk to him privately. When you get him alone, tell him how you feel.
I would not just forget him just yet. Take the risk and tell him. You will never know if it could work unless you tell him.

[broker]

:Devil:@ It's always a little reassuring if the guy you're approaching is actually interested.

What's your personal opinion? Do you think he's interested, just judging from how he acts around you? It's really easy to interpret anything into something more, especially when you have the crush. Try to take it from a rational point of view, and see how he treats other people. Is the way he treating you any different?

Also if you know he's staring, instead of ignoring it, look up at him, and see how he reacts. I know something as simple as returning a glance is hard to do, but just commit yourself and see how it turns out.

Find something to turn into a conversation, even small talk like the weather, and see how he treats your company. Try and take things slow. I take it you don't have his number or anything?

Universal@ Awkward. Well, I agree with you, you need to let him know you're not interested in that way, and while there's better ways of handling it, there's no easy way out. Guys appreciate honesty, so even if he's upset about in the moment, it's better in the long run. Don't leave him wondering.

If you're scared, write a note out, and give it to him next time you see him. If you're alright with saying it to his face, just take him aside, and explain your feelings to him. Just like you said here.

Also if you're okay with being friends, let him know. :) g'luck!

ethan.@ I'm guessing you need permission? Honestly the points you brought up here make sense. There should be no reason why you can't do that, so long as your parents are comfortable with your relationship.

Try and ask.

[kay.]

I just really hate my emotions right now.

I've had a crush on a guy for a year, but he is not really the point right now. We only see each other at school as he lives very far, so I won't see him for another few weeks,

A couple months ago I met this guy at another school that is friends with my friend, and he was such a well mannered boy, we saw each other quite a few times walking home since he doesn't live that far and I started falling for him at the beginning of summer. All my friends who don't usually like my crushes approved of him, saying he is such a polite boy. Well, when we met up, I wouldn't quite call him polite and well mannered.

We set up a meet up with many friends, including the guy, and he was very friendly with me and my best friend, I can't really get much into it here. That would put a lot of people off, but not me, I actually prefer the flirty, confident type to polite and respectful, so that made me to like him out of my mind since I also know my best friend won't do anything (she has a crush on my friend).

We met up a few days later with only four of us including me, my best friend, him, and my friend. I kid you not, 5 minutes later, these girls from their school come and they hug, I think alright they always hug. But then my crush decides to get even friendlier than he was with us, and he pushed the rest of us away, and my friend is his best friend, so it wasn't just me feeling hurt. Basically I put up with it for about half an hour before saying I'm going to go home, I knew if I stayed any longer I'd cry or something.

2 or so weeks go by because of holidays and whatnot, I think my friend is annoyed at me for some reason because he ignores my messages but I don't know what I did. Me and my best friend saw my crush around and he did say hi but not much else since I also just found out he is a 'popular' at his school which I'm definitely not. He and my friend keep falling out and making up, I don't really know what's going on.

I got a few words out of my friend the other day, he said he is free Tuesday but he was in a bad mood so I decided to leave him alone and I'll message him Monday, but I don't know if we are still gonna go and if my crush is going to go. My best friend is forcing me to babysit this kid with her, and I hate children, so I said I'll go if you get a guy to come, and she asked my crush. He agreed, but he thought we meant swimming which he is going tomorrow, so we can't see each other, and I don't know, I feel quite down about it.

I'm also missing my main crush, but it's pointless until school starts. The person I have a crush on now, he is such a bad influence, our popularity is opposite, and he hurt me so much with the girl thing, but I can't forget him. He is the perfect guy for me personality wise, I can't explain why on here because it would go against the rules, but I know we would never work out.


- kay.

[VintageSongBird]

so, the guy i like is leaving this week for college. today was the last i would see him. And i didnt tell him. I sent him a kind of cheesy message on facebook, because ive never known him to check it anyway, and figured he probably wouldnt see it. well, the message said "Seen" so im kind of freaking out. at least if he doesnt feel the same, i wont have to deal with seeing him in person anymore anyway.

[Kaidaft]

okay, so here's the thing.
I was talking to an old friend, I kind of like him,
So yeah.
But while I was talking to him, two other boys that were friends
of the boy walked up behind them and started talking.
I overheard just a bit, but the part I heard was
"Hey, is that *Name*'s girlfriend?"
I was so embarrassed, but I don't think he heard it,
and I definitely don't think I was supposed to hear it.
What do I do?
=~=

[Fox,]

Help me ;-;

So:
There's this guy, named J, and he likes me. He flirts all the time with me. I have small feelings for him, but nothing strong.
That I'm fine with, but it's the situation. He told me he also likes this other girl, which I shrugged off. He asked her out, she said no, blocked him on everything, you get the point.
Thing is, he still likes me and her.
I asked him the other day,
"Who do you like? I'm curious to know. Is it me or ____?"
He responeded with,
"Why?"
I told him,
"Because I don't know who you like anymore.." [;-;]
He responded, saying,
"I don't know either,"
"I guess both of you,"
"But your nicer to me than ______ is,"

I'm over here, questioning my whole exsistance atm.
Any advice on what to say, or do? I'm so confused Dx

[val.]

@cookiepaw

Hmm, well you need to ask him who he has the strongest feelings for. If the other girl is ignoring him, then it seems he's gonna
go for you now. If you don't like him, and you're just feeling sorry for him because the other girl denied him, don't date him!
Tell him how you feel.

@Cursed at the Heart

Ask him about it maybe...? If he likes you maybe he'll admit his feelings, or if he doesn't he'll probably just brush it off as joking from the other boys.

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I'm so confused with 'A'. So basically we are best friends now, but he told me he has feelings for me, and would in time like to get back together but would like sometime. But he broke up with his ex technically for me, but he was also beginning to dislike her, and she was also very rude and inappropriate over social media to me and him. I want to give him time, because I do in fact share those feelings, but not in the same way anymore. It's like I've lost interest as I've waited for him to get comfortable. And I always now have this very sickening feeling (like physically sickening) that he is cheating again. I'm going to ask for a little reassurance, because this insecurity and basically jealousy is just eating away at me.
Anyways, Jay basically has stopped talking to me all together. I'm just going to assume he's busy, and also my slight crush on him
is gone now >.<
'S' I'm still not sure about. He's cute and funny and all, but I'm still waiting for 'A' to make a decision. So for now, 'S' will be at
the back of mind right now, only friends.
I feel like I fall for guys too easily it seems ;-;