♥Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V5♥

[Pyrrha Nikos]

Holy moly.
One week.
One week and then I will be packing my bag to get on a plane.
I can't wait to see him.
I get to see the Army base and his platoon-mates and meet his absolutely closest Army-friend in the whole world and see the beautiful upstate New York landscape and go to their Memorial Day cookout and experience summer where 90 is considered really hot.
xD
And I finally get to try that pizza he keeps getting that sounds super awesome..
And I can cook for him as our cabin will actually have a stovetop I think.
^____^

That's awesome! I'm so excited for you! Just gotta hold out one more week o.o

[Ssilnah]

ArtemisWolf@ Ah well, as unnerving the thought is to actually sum up the courage and try and have a conversation, it's worth pursuing!

Try not to think of it as such a big deal, he's just another human being like you, or your friends.

Honestly if I was in your circumstance, I'd try and start with a friendship. Just talk with him, the more you're around him, and the better you get to know each other, the more comfortable you'll be. :>

If you're scared that your feelings for him will be obvious, sometimes that's not a terribly bad thing in itself. He'll probably be flattered if he figures you have a crush on him.

He's tried to talk with you before? (Did he initiate it?) And out of curiosity, how many times have you been in a conversation with him? c:

Thanks for the advice. I think I just need to woman up. Apparently confidence is attractive, or something like that haha. Whenever he talks to me he always initiates it. We used to talk a bit a when we first met and he usually says hi to me every Friday because we do scouts together. We don't have any classes together this year unfortunately for me haha. I always seem to imagine him discovering my crush on him and thinking I'm the creepiest stalker ever D= Idk he seems like a good guy but I think I'll just have to deal with the possibility of rejection. I've waited three years so far and I've had enough so I think I'm just gonna make an attempt at friendship first >~<

[thunderofthedrum]

That's awesome! I'm so excited for you! Just gotta hold out one more week o.o

thunderofthedrum@ awwwhaha that sounds so great <33 I'm so excited for you ! I'd totally love to read a summary of how it went when you get back <3 best o'luck!

THANKS GUYS I'M SO EXCITED.
And he just got his guard shift switched and his leave officially approved by the sergeants.
I'll be calling to make sure our cabin reservation on base is still good.
Then I need to finish some things for deadlines AND THEN I GET TO PACK.

[sjmaef5]

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how long did it take you to move on from your first relationship?

[spring.]

how long did it take you to move on from your first relationship?

from my first real relationship, i'm still moving on and it's been over a year. however, from my first 'fling' relationship, i moved on the next day.

i think it depends, because with j, the guy i had my first real relationship with, he treated me like a princess. but c, my first 'fling' relationship, treated me like just another girl, he didn't really make me feel special in his life.

[broker]

ArtemisWolf@ No problem :)

If he's making the initiative, I'd take that as a good sign :D It probably means he wants to talk to you, and enjoys your company. You don't need to be so hard on yourself, c: do you have any reason to believe he would think you're weird if you admitted your feelings to him?

thunderofthedrum@ yay! everything's falling into place :D<3 and no problem <33

sjmaef5@ ah I see.

From what you're saying, it sounds like he's pretty smitten, but I'm sure he didn't mean to cause any ill feelings for you. When he does contact you, what does he talk about? What does he act like around you? Has he introduced this girl to you? pm me if you'd like~

People we grow up around often seem like family. Going on a whim here, he may just see you as a sister, and sort of overlooked the possibility of a future relationship.

Also, just because he's not talking with you as often, may just be because of his infatuation. His feelings will die down after a little bit, and he'll likely start talking with you more often, even if it's just as a friend. :)

[luxray;]

ahhh I walked my crush home today and we sung fob songs all the way
christ, she's the best, I really wish I knew if she liked girls or not
I'd ask her out in a heartbeat if I knew

[Pyrrha Nikos]

how long did it take you to move on from your first relationship?

It may be because it ended so terribly bad, but it took me an entire year to stop feeling the after shocks of it *looks down at feet* I can smile looking back on it but sometimes it still stings when I reread my diary entries of our relationship. I've moved on, now it's just bittersweet if I think about it too much *shrugs* it may be different for everyone

[thunderofthedrum]

how long did it take you to move on from your first relationship?

Eh.. it was an off and on thing. He'd want to see me a lot and then he wouldn't talk to me for months. We weren't good at communicating about the relationship - I didn't have the guts to speak up and he was too uncomfortable as well. I finally had to ask where we were and he couldn't really answer. I realize we both sent a lot of mixed signals, and ultimately that lack of communication was why I ended it. We both wanted to know what the other wanted without showing our own hand for fear of looking stupid and it just made it a mess. I felt relieved. My interest in him was fading, it didn't feel like it was going anywhere, and we weren't comfortable talking about the important things together. Meh.

As for my first long term, serious relationship? It took me a couple months to realize I was no longer happy. I felt I couldn't trust him to make decisions I agreed with or that were in my best interests, and despite being vocally appreciative, he still made no move to improve the crappy situation he had put me in (long story). I finally realized that I no longer wanted to be in that relationship. I spent a good week crying and feeling generally upset and really on edge with stress about how to tell him but at the same time so relieved that I'd come to that decision. It took another 2-3 months before we officially broke up. He was still out of town and then I was gone for an internship for that whole time and finally we 'took a break', both knowing we wouldn't be getting back together. Well... I did, anyway. He still somehow had hope despite hearing how unhappy I was. I'd been WAY more tolerant and patient and helpful than I should have been. I put up with more than I should have but also I wasn't good at communicating that I was unhappy (and I think he knew he was lucky I was so tolerant and that finding someone as accepting would be really hard). I had never seen myself marrying him so it felt like time to move on. That was a year ago now. Oddly, I met my boyfriend about a week before officially being done with my ex, though by that time I'd already grieved the relationship and gotten over it 3 months prior. Boyfriend swooped in once I was truly available (srsly, he wasted no time and I was like O.o') and we are quite happy.

My mother has said that if you don't see yourself growing old with someone and watching the grandkids, then don't be with them. But it takes a while to fully figure out whether you can see that future or not. And hey, I never wanted my first serious relationship to be the guy I married. Sure I have some regrets, but I was able to explore having a serious relationship and better understand what I wanted and needed in a partner, and now I feel more ready to make a commitment with someone.