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[Retrouvailles]

Hello. （＾ｖ＾）

So me and my boyfriend got together Janurary 18th this year. When we're first met each other we completely hated each other, but after two months of talking we became closer and closer to each other. 3 months ago we became best friends, and we told each other everything. I love that I know everything about him. I know that I found love, he is my love. My first ever love, and hopefully my only. Anyways, so for my birthday me and him were going to go somewhere, but my family wants to come, which I understand why. Does anyone know any romantic, but you know kid friendly places? Thanks in advanced! ❤

[jet star]

Can anyone help me? So there's this guy who's my best friend in the world, and I think I've developed feelings for him. But I really don't want to ruin our friendship, and also I'm not allowed to date, and I don't really want to date. (Because in my friend group two people started dating and it made it horribly awkward for all of us, and one of them was my close friend and when that happened he stopped talking to me. So I don't want to do that to anyone else.)
A couple of my girlfriends know I like him, and one's a bit of a blabbermouth and is kind of hinting that I like him, to his face. It really ticks me off, and it's embarrassing. But I don't want to be mean to her, I don't want to ignore him and I don't want to ruin any of the great friendships that took me almost five years to build.
So basically I need help on a few counts. 1. How do I act around him? I don't think he likes me back. 2. I'm really socially awkward and introverted, and I seriously can't flirt. How would someone like me act in a relationship? 3. What do I say to my blabbing friend?
By the way, I don't expect anyone to read all of this. If you did, then, wow. Thank you.

HELP PLEASE

[shrimp.]

Mega help plz!

I used to have a boyfriend, but he moved. We talked on this one website,and then we had a big fight. I thought we got back together, but he started dating another girl. A few days later, i got banned from that website. Plz help me!

//I'm a homo now, so don't ask about me dating anybody pls

[Kleinkat]

Sigh, there's this guy on my Knowledge Bowl team(don't know what it is then look it up)... He's very cute and I've grown to like throughout the years, the issue at hand is that he seems too cool for me(He's not like that personality wise). I really want to get him to notice me and possibly be interested. He isn't a complete stranger, I used to sit with him at lunch, but I hardly know anything about him. Any tips on trying to talk with him or get to know him, my typical way is through social media, but is that a turn off?

[thunderofthedrum]

Mega help plz!

I used to have a boyfriend, but he moved. We talked on this one website,and then we had a big fight. I thought we got back together, but he started dating another girl. A few days later, i got banned from that website. Plz help me!

//I'm a homo now, so don't ask about me dating anybody pls

To be blunt - why would we ask about you 'dating anybody'? That doesn't make sense to me. I also don't understand you saying 'homo now', as if you recently 'decided' this? Clarification would be helpful.

Sounds to me like he isn't good for you. Either he led you on and then started dating someone else or he was moving on but you were hopeful and desperate and assumed things were fine. No matter what happened, it sounds like he's no longer interested and has made that pretty clear. And you mention this website - is that your only form of communication? If it is, then you may simply be stuck. If it isn't, it's ultimately up to you whether you want to use other means to contact him. If you DO contact him, don't accuse him and be calm. Asking to know where y'all stand just to know what you should do next would be reasonable in my opinion. Just to clarify that you guys are done and that you should move on. If you can't contact him or he doesn't answer, unfortunately that's how life goes.

[cautiousculpeo]

Mega help plz!

I used to have a boyfriend, but he moved. We talked on this one website,and then we had a big fight. I thought we got back together, but he started dating another girl. A few days later, i got banned from that website. Plz help me!

//I'm a homo now, so don't ask about me dating anybody pls

Ok. I need to ask a few things, but I will try and analyze and answer as best as I can.

Are you a "younger" person? Like still in school? (I don't need to know age but the severity of the relationship, ie. If it was a serious relationship, or a "middle school" relationship if you understand that.

Ok, you say "I used to have a boyfriend but he moved away."
Long distance relationships have been known to work out quite well.

"Big fight .... Thought we were back together ..... Dating another girl."
Fights happen yes, but it's odd you wouldn't know if you two were still a couple. I'd Make a point of asking to make sure, and to clear things up before you start getting into him dating another girl. And if he is, did you hear it from him? Because lots of rumours start that may not be true.
If he did break up with you I'm sorry to hear that. But to put it bluntly, he just waesnt the guy for you, and that guy is still out there waiting for you. Goodluck finding him keep your head up *hugs*


Also to say "I'm a homo now." I don't quite understand, homophobic? Homosexual? Please specify. Also I feel it may possibly offend some people by using the term "homo" it can be very slanderous to some.

[E c h o]

Can anyone help me? So there's this guy who's my best friend in the world, and I think I've developed feelings for him. But I really don't want to ruin our friendship, and also I'm not allowed to date, and I don't really want to date. (Because in my friend group two people started dating and it made it horribly awkward for all of us, and one of them was my close friend and when that happened he stopped talking to me. So I don't want to do that to anyone else.)
A couple of my girlfriends know I like him, and one's a bit of a blabbermouth and is kind of hinting that I like him, to his face. It really ticks me off, and it's embarrassing. But I don't want to be mean to her, I don't want to ignore him and I don't want to ruin any of the great friendships that took me almost five years to build.
So basically I need help on a few counts. 1. How do I act around him? I don't think he likes me back. 2. I'm really socially awkward and introverted, and I seriously can't flirt. How would someone like me act in a relationship? 3. What do I say to my blabbing friend?
By the way, I don't expect anyone to read all of this. If you did, then, wow. Thank you.

It's funny how you say this - I am in nearly the exact same situation as you, and I have been in that exact same situation in the past as well.

1. There are two options here:

a. Now, for one option, I would say that you could act perfectly normal around your special someone. Pretend that there is nothing going on, and that everything is alright. Perhaps you could casually let him know at some point of your feelings for him, and if he doesn't return them, then just laugh it off and pick up from where you were last at (of course, if he likes you as well then congratulations!). Of course, you don't have to confess at all, and see how things settle out as time passes, but that won't let you go anywhere. Remember, if he likes you too, then after a long while he might move on!

b. For the second option, it may conflict with your second question, but I will inform you of it anyways. I would say that you could give him a little push to let him know of your feelings. Give him small hints. For example, if there is an upcoming school dance, go with him (in a group, so it's not awkward), and when the slow dance music comes on, ask him to dance. If he's your best friend, he shouldn't have a reason to say no! I'm sure that he likes you as a person, and would love to dance. You could try the guessing game to try to get him to "guess" who you like, or have your friends drop tiny hints.

Over all, you could take the closed path, almost as if you are watching through a window and closed doors to see what happens, or you could take the open path, and be a bit more forward about things. Whichever one should work equally, though the second option may take things much quicker than the first.

2. I have a guy friend that sounds a bit like this description. That is perfectly alright if you can't flirt! Simple compliments here-and-there are thrilling enough, as long as you truly mean them. Perhaps he got a new haircut - you could say that you like it. Or, perhaps he got new shoes, or a new shirt, and simply commenting on it, to let him know you noticed, should be rather flattering. If you are socially awkward, then small compliments shouldn't be a problem. You do talk to him normally every day, right? So there's no difference there!
As for how I think you would act in a relationship, I think that you should choose a guy who wouldn't be afraid to take the lead. Of course, I don't know your crush, and perhaps he isn't a leader, but would be a perfect match for you. I think that you would be the shier one of the relationship, or the one being led. I would also think that there is a chance that you would get clingy, as most people experience at least once, and I would advise you away from that. Give him some space, if you are in a relationship. Of course, cuddling and hugs and all are great, but trust me, they get old all too quickly if they're overused. Keep them at the occasional rate, or even at a rare rate, and each one will mean so much more. Same goes for time spent together.

3. As for your blabbering friend, I would say that you need to just flat out tell her to stop. It wouldn't be mean, but just tell her that you don't like what she is doing, and it may mess up the flow that you are trying to run your relationship with your crush with. Try to say it in the nicest way possible, of course, and hopefully she will understand. Unless you are straightforward, I don't think she will get the hint.

I hope that this helped! (:

[kavv]

hey guys, I need some advice - or clarification, really.

so a lot of the friends I hang out with are really pretty, those kind of gorgeous inside-and-out kind of people. and that's great and all, i love them for it, but i sometimes feel a twinge of jealousy whenever i see guys fawning over them ( which would be all the time, or at least it seems so to me. ) so when i kind of picked up that a guy friend of mine might like me, i started texting him more often; not in a terribly flirty way, but still. i decided to invite him to come along with me and some of my friends to go skiing. i admit, i didn't do it because i adore his company ( don't get me wrong, i love having him around, he's great ) but because i want to see if he'd flirt with me in front of my friends. is that leading him on? is that just awful of me to do? i'm just tired of being that girl. what girl, you ask? that's it exactly. the girl no one really thinks much about.

[VintageSongBird]

I think he likes me!

So heres the deal. This guy does not go to my school, but he goes to my church. I usualy only saw him sitting in the back of the service, and I thought he was really handsome. Then, my church put together a youth choir, and we are both in it. Now let me tell you, Singing. is. my. life. And the fact that he has a beautiful voice just made me like him so much more. And I have talked with him a few times, just casual conversation, and he is so nice! Welllately he has started to come to sunday school and youth group as well. I find myself waiting for sunday just to see him, even if we dont really talk or anything. Of course I should probably mention I catch him looking at me a lot. At first I thought I was just imagining, wishfull thinking you could say, but two of my friends have agreed he seems to look at me a lot. I talked to him yesterday for like 15 minutes, just casual,and when we were done talking I felt like I was floating on a cloud. I was thinking about giving him a note on valentines day, (or week or whatev) that simply says "I'd like to get to know you better." since we have only talked to him a few times to telling him I liked him would be kind of premature. I dont know, What do you guys think about all of this?

[malteser]

I was on here ages ago helping people and being happy for them, and even for myself but.
I broke up with my boyfriend because it wasnt a benefit to me, I decided I want to change and be myself without the pressure of sadness by him.
I found it really stupid why I even went out with anyone in the first place.
I dont know what Im doing until yesterday it hit me.
We dont have school yet and I just wanted to get it off my chest to him so I had to horribly tell him I couldnt stay in a relationship with him online, but it felt normal because we would talk more there than in real person.
But today he saw the message and didnt reply.
Then I get messages from people
asking me why I broke up with him
I told them to please just leave me alone because I dont want them to tell him that It was stupid of me from the beginning.
And then came the hurt.
IT wasnt that I broke up with him, that was fine to me and I thought hed take it alright because hes usually fine with my desicions but I started getting messages and started seeing screenshots of what people said about me.
I broke up with him because I wanted to be happy, and now theyre all calling me stuff that hurts me because Im not a harsh person, i dont intend to be at least, people call me caring and nice and apparently I do this one thing and everyone hates me.
I dont like it and I cant tell my parents because thatd be stupid, I hope it just blows off.
I feel so horrible.

I also got messages later from him, and I told him not to blame himself and he just said "I dont want you to make things worse so goodbye"