Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[surfiez]

Sure

[VintageSongBird]

Hello.

So, at my church we have a youth choir, and there is this Guy, and he is the most gorgeous Guy I've ever seen.and he his a great Singer (which I think is very attractive) anyway...I think he likes me! I've caught him looking my way a few times, but I wasn't really sure, but then two of my friends have caught him looking my way a lot too! (well, he could be looking at someone else, but they think its probably me) What a shame he doesn't go to my school. And he is a senior so who knows if he might go off to college somewhere next year. And plus, biggest dilemma is that I'm too scared to talk to him. we have had a few, very small conversations...but i dont really know him that well...I want to get to know him better but dont know how to go about it

Well, that's my story. Any advice? <3. -^ '-' ^-(shoulder shrugging, questioning look)

ALSO
Im in 10 grade and im still on a leash, (like not alowed to go to friends house unless my parents have met theirs, not allowed to wear any trace of makeup, cant go hang with friends without parent supervision, Exd.) anyway, my mom doesnt really believe that any high school relationship can be real, and she doesnt let me hand out with girl friends without parents, let alone a guy. Ive been thinking that I might eventualy ask the guy i like out for a movie or something (if i ever get the courage), but i would need my moms permision. How do i go about asking an overprotective mother about asking a guy out on a date? also, how should i plan the date? should I ask him first, and then plan it out with him? or plan it first. And should i offer to pick him up, or him pick me up? or should we meet at the theater(or other place)


Thank you in advance. I have never been in a relationship before so i literally know nothing..

[Eurydice]

Hello.

So, at my church we have a youth choir, and there is this Guy, and he is the most gorgeous Guy I've ever seen.and he his a great Singer (which I think is very attractive) anyway...I think he likes me! I've caught him looking my way a few times, but I wasn't really sure, but then two of my friends have caught him looking my way a lot too! (well, he could be looking at someone else, but they think its probably me) What a shame he doesn't go to my school. And he is a senior so who knows if he might go off to college somewhere next year. And plus, biggest dilemma is that I'm too scared to talk to him. we have had a few, very small conversations...but i dont really know him that well...I want to get to know him better but dont know how to go about it

Well, that's my story. Any advice? <3. -^ '-' ^-(shoulder shrugging, questioning look)

ALSO
Im in 10 grade and im still on a leash, (like not alowed to go to friends house unless my parents have met theirs, not allowed to wear any trace of makeup, cant go hang with friends without parent supervision, Exd.) anyway, my mom doesnt really believe that any high school relationship can be real, and she doesnt let me hand out with girl friends without parents, let alone a guy. Ive been thinking that I might eventualy ask the guy i like out for a movie or something (if i ever get the courage), but i would need my moms permision. How do i go about asking an overprotective mother about asking a guy out on a date? also, how should i plan the date? should I ask him first, and then plan it out with him? or plan it first. And should i offer to pick him up, or him pick me up? or should we meet at the theater(or other place)


Thank you in advance. I have never been in a relationship before so i literally know nothing.. :oops:

Well first off lets start with paragraph 1. He seems like a good guy, not to old, not to young for someone your age( i know 6th graders going out with seniors which is why i say this XD) .Problem #1 is that you don't know him. You should start off with hanging around him more. Trust me i can't do it most of the time either, but try chiming in.

One guy i like i chime in every once and a while, and they get no hints of course, because there guys, so they think your just being friendly ya know? SO i think that might help. Also they'll probably just act pretty normal around you, even if they like yoou. Don't expect them to be kinda , well, like us girls, cause even at 12th grade they will still be showing you random pointless tricks thye've learned over the years.

Idk much, ive only been in 3 short relationships, ending with " We were dating?", "Im moving" and the classic " Umm whatever"
(not even joking !)

But ive beene rejected to know the top things on what to do, and now i have plenty of guys chasing me so heres a few tips

1) Be flirty! Not like over flirty, but tease them, try and hint off that you should hang out after school, put in things you like, ask them of there interests etc. Not the "FUDGING KISS ME NOW IM OPEN" kinda flirty.
2) Talk more, to there friends! They can put in a good word for you!!
3) Challenge them, and then beat them. Just trust me, it works.
4)When they do things, you should too! Not saying to copy there whole day schedule, but it wouldn't hurt to try a few things they are doing right?
5) Finally, NEVER TELL A FRIEND TO ASK HIM OUT FOR YOU! He will say no :(, because if you can't talk to him now, will you ever be able to? PLus we aren't kids no longer, and when your like 40 something you cant have a friend ask a guy for you.




TALK TO YOUR MOM ABOUT HOW PROTECTIVE SHE IS! My parents have always let me do whatever, which you wouldn't want either BTW; So i can try and relate, but i practically disciplined my self once i turned about 9 and parents said "JUst be home when the street lights come on" , and honestly, since im an only child, i was suprized my parents weren't protective like that. Now im only in like 8th grade (this may sound young to you, but its only 2 grades away) and i wear makeup, i go out every friday, and usually have a t least 1 sleepover (usually with my not so blood brother - jack- who seems to be over at my house way to much XD) every weekend. Me and my friends go skating, go to the movies, go out to eat. Its quite insane, and frankly, if an honors class geeky 8th grader can do it, SO CAN YOU :D XD. MAybe bring up these points to your mom, maybe she will cut u some slack.

[Dia.]

Ghostwing, I really don't agree with the advice you gave in that last paragraph. XD
You can't just convince a parent to quit being protective all at once and it'll be huge /no/ to bring up the points that "my internet friend told me their parents let them do this!"

But I do agree that talking to your mom would be a good idea. Start with little things such as asking if you could wear a little bit of natural looking make up that she helps you pick out. Don't ask to go hang out with the guy unsupervised right off the bat. XD Let her know she can trust you with whatever. Tell her you'll text or call with updates and say what's going on. Make sure you are home when she wants you to be home. Only do what you tell her you'll be doing.
The more you include her and the more in the loop she feels, the more comfortable she'll feel.

Hanging out with a guy doesn't have to be romantic. Girls and guys CAN just be friends. The first time I hung out with my boyfriend, it was just as friends... and it was like that for a while. If you ask him to the movies or to hang out to get to know him, just be clear that it's as friends with your mom.
Maybe she'd feel better if you invited him to your house while she is home so she could get to know him too. ^^

[Inevitablis Orbivium]

How do you get the courage to tell him I love him?
When do I ask?
How do I get him alone?
How can I make it nice and romantic without it being awkward

[compass;]

How do you get the courage to tell him I love him?
When do I ask?
How do I get him alone?
How can I make it nice and romantic without it being awkward

It can be hard to find the courage to ask someone out, but lets say this, what have you got to loose? If it doesn't work out how you planned ask if you can still be friends, I'm sure it won't hurt to stay at least friends.
You should ask when you feel most comfortable and confident.
Ask if you could see him alone for a few minutes, just to talk to him.
Take him somewhere pretty looking, like near a couple of oak trees with flowers.
Hope this helps. <3

[Inevitablis Orbivium]

can I pm you
It makes everything so much easier

[thunderofthedrum]

How do you get the courage to tell him I love him?
When do I ask?
How do I get him alone?
How can I make it nice and romantic without it being awkward

If you don't know him well enough to be alone with him, then you shouldn't be telling him you love him. Those are very strong words.
It's as simple as that.
Feel free to tell him you LIKE him, but many people would feel uncomfortable with being told "I love you" by someone they don't even know very well. It's overwhelming and might make him feel pressured to return your feelings.

Feeling awkward at first is normal.

How do you get him alone? Well one way to do it is to simply ask, "Hey, can I talk to you alone for a minute?"
Randomly pulling him aside in school will likely NOT be romantic, but when is school ever romantic? Romance can come a little later.
Just start with letting him know that you are interested in him.

[spring.]

K so I think I like this guy but Idk because he and I are really similar in a weird way but I hardly know him because he's in a different clique and there is no such thing as interaction between cliques. You can switch, but it is a huge process. Also I am gonna be in college but he applied to two of the same colleges I did. So idk it's weird but this is the kid I catch staring at me in class but my friend thinks he's just staring off into space.

[X-Cat]

I like this boy a lot. He's cute, he's smart, he's athletic, he's musically talented and he's nice to everyone. I talk to him a lot, we have each others phone numbers so we text each other too much you could say. But sometimes when I'm bored it kinda just stare at him and sometimes I look to see him looking at me smiling. Also on the first day back to school the first moment he saw me he smiled and waved. I was just way to embarrassed to wave back without staring at the ground lol but I think eh got it. I also gave him a birthday present which he never thanked me but I have a feeling he was too embarrassed too since he seemed pretty embarrassed I gave him a present. But the thing is, I want to ask him out but in a friendly ish way, I mean, I'm not ready to be in a relationship at ALL. But it would be too awkward plus as a member of the eco club who knows he never goes out to lunch I made my teacher make him check the recycling fridays at lunch (I feel bad now.) Since I only go out to lunch on fridays and so do all my other friends except him. But I'm just so scared, I want to just ask him out but I don't want to be rejected, I should have done this sooner I've grown so attached to him as a friend and my crush. I just love him so much as my friend and I could not bear to loose him.

Help?