Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[X-Cat]

Ok so I have a friend, were really really close. The obvious thing for me is I like him a lot. I got him a birthday present since his birthday was on New Years and I couldn't give it to him then since he didn't go to my other friends party (his birthday was also New Years.) Ok, so maybe I'm overdoing it if I don't want him to know I like him, I mean I love being his friend and I don't think I could ever bear not being his friend. But all week, I just been looking up when I'm distracted with my friends and I see him looking at me, smiling. Ok so maybe he likes me, but I don't want to ask him cause that would be reeeaally awkward. Of course then, my friends all ship him with me they think we like each other, which obviously in the accordance of his reactions he seems kinda embarrassed. And the worst part about that is,we have a Google hangout and we also text, so he leaves his Google hangout on and someone posted in his hangout to me "i love u." Great, so I have that to deal with. And of course, I can't even do group work with him anymore cause our whole freaking class freaks out and says "Why would you go over to him, it's obvious you like him?"

And then of course, there is this other girl I think he likes, life so confusing, I feel like I should tell him but then we won't be friends if he rejects me. I'm just so scared and nervous in a way and today, I noticed when I had nothing else to do I couldn't help but just stare at him in that dreamy ish way. And every time he looked over I'd try and pretend to be doing something else. One thing is a tease him a lot in a friendly way the way he teases me, I do it cause I like him but I don't know if he likes me.


Oh and I sent him an email after a letter I wrote him for christmas with a little gift was ripped by one of the kids in my class. Maybe that's why he was smiling at me and he waved and smiled only at me when he saw me, things are weird.

guess the point is, I like him, I think he likes me but I don't know how to tell him how I feel or make those assumptions to him

[snowdrake]

@TheFacilePoet
Dont worry Im not upset or anything cx
But it akways ends in us fighting when I try to have a serious talk with him...

@~TheSandwichVendor~
I dont think about breaking up with him yet but a demand change seem to be impossible since he thinks Im not going to do something like that.

[Himalaya]

Okay so for a long time I have had a crush on my best friend, Ellen. We've both know both of us are bi.. um I am really really good friends with her and she means a whole lot to me. I tell her I love her, and she says I love you too, but I know that in her mind its probably a "friend" kind of like.. I want to be with her, but I am scared to admit it, and also I am scared that if we get together our friendship is in jeopardy. I just.. I really like her and I dont know what to do and Its depressing me because I feel like I cant have her.

Weve even jokingly been in a "will you go out with me" kind of situation, and either me or her says "no sorry" and at some point I sort of hinted it when we had one of those situations, like " I would go out with you though because youre awesome but it might be awkward" and she said something like "I wouldnt want to because what if we break up and arent friends" We have a whole lot in common, and we share a tooon of interests. We've never fought and we are really good friends, and even OUR ZODIAC SIGNS go together. Because I am cancer and she's a scorpio.. anyway, I think we get a long great, but we both get super nervous and worried easily and I dont know how to handle this situation. Please help, its depressing me because I feel like I cant have her or something..

T^T

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[~IronRose~]

Does anyone know how to drop small hints that suggest you like someone without it being weird? Because i'm not very good at that.....like...at all. So i need advice.
And also how can you tell if a guy likes you? I don't have this guy's number or facebook but he is in one of my classes and is on the speech and debate team with me and he tends to look at me a lot, smiles every time he sees me, makes lots and long eye contact even when i can't, and as it can up in a convo about a debate topic he said "I have faith in you"
So help i don't want to mess up this one please. I like him way to much to lose him. I get butterflies just thinking about him or talking about him unlike any other guy i have liked.
Advice?
Oh and i talked about how i broke my wrist in gymnastics and how i became too scared and ended up quiting he acctually said "I'm sorry" and it sounded like he meant it. No one ever has really said that to me or has sounded like they meant it

[snowdrake]

Okay...
So just forget about everything said from me...
He just broke up so its not important anymore...

[Iduna]

@Ava. Okaaaay I'm replying because your situation is exactly like a situation I was in a couple years ago, almost word for word. Myself and my friend were very close, we had a million common interests, had confessed to each other we were bi, and she was a scorpio too. Like I read your post and had serious flashbacks to me and my ex. Since that happened I've become extremely cautious about dating people I consider friends, because Jen and I turned out horribly. I don't want to deter you though! You and your friend could turn out to be the healthiest, cutest couple around. Just... consider this a cautionary tale, okay?

You should probably consider these things: are you willing to lose a friend if things go south in the relationship? Really think about this one. I didn't. I ended up losing more than one friend in the breakup because it was... really messy. Second, do you think you could handle getting into a fight with her? Because it'll happen sooner or later. You say you've never had a fight with her, and while that's good, it also means you have no idea what to expect when something actually happens. Three, will your other friends support both of you? Through the good and the bad? This is also important, because if they take one side or the other during a fight your friendship group may fall apart like mine did :\ It doesn't always happen, but when it does, it sucks.

I mean, essentially just sit down and think about all the consequences that come with the decision to date her - both the good and the bad.

If you decide it's worth the risk, then go for it! You shouldn't live life with regrets, friend. And you'll never know if you don't try, right?

[E c h o]

Please help. I feel that this situation is very unique, in its own way. It's not one that can be fully understood through words, unless you know us personally. I will try my best to make things somewhat clear.

For my entire life, I have been much closer to boys than girls. I have more friends that are boys than girls to this day, and I can get along with nearly all of them without any trouble. As the years have passed, I have had tons of crushes, have had to reject several friends, and have even gone through a small, mutual middle school crush phase.

But never have I hit so hard as this time.

I met this boy in freshman year, a year ago, on the first day. Now, I am completely serious when I say that when I first met eyes with this boy, something clicked. No, it was not "love at first sight", or anything sappy like that. I was only able to recognize something unique about him-a cute boy, fit like a seasoned athlete, with kind eyes and an awkward "hello stranger" smile.

Now, things have moved quite quickly since then. For two months or so, we never talked. That was, until he began to sit with my group and I at lunch. Then, things really began to speed up. We became best friends in no time, discovering that we have the same interests, play the same instrument in Band, have the same classes, are just as smart as each other, and heck, I even discovered that I absolutely love puns-which, I guarantee, he has an endless library of. We are both fairly conservative people, and we do not flirt, nor do we make any physical contact except on rare occasions. I realized a month or so into our relationship that I had developed a small crush on him. No surprises there. He is unanimously, hands-down the kindest, most caring guy in our school, and not to mention that he is the fastest runner around.

I'm going to sum up freshman year now, as this is getting a bit ramble-y. There were several other girls trying to get on the same track as me, but every girl was either rejected in a sort of indirect way, or gave up on him. I am the only one left, and I have always been the closest to him, therefore nobody has been in "that" sort of reach of him since (of course, I do not openly express my feelings for him).

Now, on to this year. I have fallen for him hard. Things are just as great as ever, we laugh until our stomachs hurt, we talk every day, and rumors are buzzing throughout the school of a possible relationship. Now, I know he is not the relationship type. He is too innocent, and just seems to be untouchable in that area. Friends, yes. Boyfriend, I have no clue. He is unreadable, unlike all boys I have known in the past, and sends such mixed messages. One minute he's complimenting me, sitting next to me at dinner, staring at me, or talking to me a few inches too close. But, the next minute, (yesterday to be exact) when the slow dance music came on, we met eyes for a long moment, but a few seconds later he beckoned for me to exit the dance floor with him. Not to mention that he was following me around the entire time at the Formal, though he was the only boy in the group for about an hour. It's been on-off in this way for such a long time; I could write an essay about it.

Now, see, I am in a completely confused state at the moment. I relatively know the nature of boys inside and out, but never have I met a case such as this one. I have been hoping that if he shares my feelings, then he would make the first move, but I am beginning to think otherwise. Currently I am thinking of casually asking him for a dance next Formal (in a couple months).

Has anyone experienced something remotely like this, or have any idea what this boy may be thinking? I have had tons of advice from friends who know him well, but I believe that outside opinions may help as well. Please, can somebody help?

[VintageSongBird]

Hello.

So, at my church we have a youth choir, and there is this Guy, and he is the most gorgeous Guy I've ever seen.and he his a great Singer (which I think is very attractive) anyway...I think he likes me! I've caught him looking my way a few times, but I wasn't really sure, but then two of my friends have caught him looking my way a lot too! (well, he could be looking at someone else, but they think its probably me) What a shame he doesn't go to my school. And he is a senior so who knows if he might go off to college somewhere next year. And plus, biggest dilemma is that I'm too scared to talk to him. we have had a few, very small conversations...but i dont really know him that well...I want to get to know him better but dont know how to go about it

Well, that's my story. Any advice? <3. -^ '-' ^-(shoulder shrugging, questioning look)

ALSO
Im in 10 grade and im still on a leash, (like not alowed to go to friends house unless my parents have met theirs, not allowed to wear any trace of makeup, cant go hang with friends without parent supervision, Exd.) anyway, my mom doesnt really believe that any high school relationship can be real, and she doesnt let me hand out with girl friends without parents, let alone a guy. Ive been thinking that I might eventualy ask the guy i like out for a movie or something (if i ever get the courage), but i would need my moms permision. How do i go about asking an overprotective mother about asking a guy out on a date? also, how should i plan the date? should I ask him first, and then plan it out with him? or plan it first. And should i offer to pick him up, or him pick me up? or should we meet at the theater(or other place)


Thank you in advance. I have never been in a relationship before so i literally know nothing..

[Babypoke]

I myself like a guy I asked him out once last year but then he told me he had a girlfriend now he doesn't but im scared to ask again as he probably will say no to me. I have dated some guys my relationships mostly last over a year then something just happens as after two years I dated a guy he cheated on me and it was 5 days after our two year anniversary now im just nervous to even ask or talk about guys

[nimuulap]

I myself like a guy I asked him out once last year but then he told me he had a girlfriend now he doesn't but im scared to ask again as he probably will say no to me. I have dated some guys my relationships mostly last over a year then something just happens as after two years I dated a guy he cheated on me and it was 5 days after our two year anniversary now im just nervous to even ask or talk about guys

Hello (so many responses ;v; I'll answer this one for now)

Honestly, I've never been in any serious relationships... I don't usually bother however I'm that one friend that every friend comes running up to ;v;

Briefly, I believe that if you're still recovering from the heartbreak, it's best not to possibly hurt yourself anymore. I mean, if you're already really disappointed and sad, then you should wait for yourself to heal a bit and then ask him out <3

However I usually use the quote "those who risk are the happiest.", but for this situation, it's really if you're ready or not. If you are, you never know what his answer might be.

Overall, it's a matter of readiness and if you feel comfortable enough. Of course, it's only my opinion ;v; Hope it helps TTvTT