Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Medusa72]

Not looking for advice just wanted to share this story c: This might be kind of long...
I was talking with two (girl) friends and so of course the subject of boys came up. (Don't judge lol, I'm only able to get together with one of them twice a year, we had to catch up.) One of my friends (the one I see every week) said that if I asked a guy (one BP) out he would probably say yes. This actually surprised me because BP and I are friends but not necessarily close. My friend said he seems to like me and pay more attention to me than the other girls in our youth group. (Please note that BP is everybody's favorite person because he's so nice and caring or everybody and yet he's a bit timid but is friends with EVERYBODY.) I thought, surely not. He's just a nice person. I figured, of course he doesn't like me romantically. BP has told my friend that he has been in love with her sister since the 7th grade (he's now a senior). And he's not the kind of guy who would lie about that kind of thing. So I'm rooting him on to woo her but I started noticing how he acted pretty awkward around me and wanted to share the cute awkwardness with you guys.

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So yeah... now I'm under the impression that he likes me but I doubt he'd ask me out. And I'm totally okay with us just being friends.

Oh my gosh you guys! So we stayed up until after midnight chatting on the game trivia crack and he said we should talk more often and I panicked because this isn't supposed to happen and I made a lame joke to change the subject because I thought he was going to ask for my number!
Lol, I'm freaking out.

[Medusa72]

So my boyfriend and I haven't kissed yet… and Im really nervous because I've never really kissed a guy before… I mean I have in like middle school but now that I'm in high school and those boyfriends didn't count. (Middle school romance eck >_<) anyway I've just been hugging him when we leave eachother like when he walks me to my class or leaves school ect… every time we hang out outside of school my dad is there and he's always surfing with us. And it's kinda awkward when we are surfing together because it's an independent sport so normally it's really quiet in the water, and at school I don't want people looking at us when we do kiss… ugh I don't know when or how we should do it… I mean do I just do a peck kiss or ????? Like how long should it be XD HELP PLEASE

Firstly, do you want to kiss him? If so, calm yourself down, you want this right? If you love him (and kissing might be pointless if you don't) then it should come naturally, just leave it too your insticts.

And don't rush anything, you don't have to kiss him right this minute. Do it when YOU feel most comfortable with it.

[surfiez]

Ok thanks ;> I've been really nervous because we haven't even kissed yet and I haven't really ever kissed anyone 0-0 so I'm not sure what to do

[❝steℓℓar❞]

I... I just don't know right now.
I feel like my guy isn't even mine.
I understand that he wants to date me when he's ready
He's pretty much "dating" me like a promise we will escalate to a higher level when he's ready but he could still talk to me.
He's always busy when I try to text him and he doesn't really hang out with me at school.
He wanted to keep the relationship a bit of a secret, only telling people we totally trust and all but it really can't be kept a secret when we start actually dating.
I feel like talking to him about it but I don't want to risk losing him
I wish we had the relationship we had when he was dating my former best friend. Texting for three hours straight... Facetiming all the time.
Should I talk to him about this? ;-;
Sorry things are all over the place.. I just feel I need to get it all out...

This does sound weird to me. Clearly he had no issues talking to you before. What changed?
And I'm confused, so you guys are or are not dating?
Simply wanting to talk to him and make sure you guys are on the same page should NOT have you so worried you would lose him over it. It sounds like you are confused and don't understand why he now spends so little time with you, and that sounds perfectly reasonable to me. Definitely bring it up to him - just don't accuse him. Ask where you guys stand, what he feels your relationship is, does he see it moving forward, and is there any way you guys can schedule more time together.

I honestly don't know what changed.. He's pretty shy and all but I.. I don't know
Thanks for the advice
He only texts me when he's not busy (which is pretty rare) and I just never get a chance to get around to the subject.
I'll make sure to try and talk to him.

[Prince Endymion]

So I have had an interesting day with crushes today... my friends,A, a trans-bisexual man, even though in school we call him a her because, school... K, a bisexual female and C a panromantic lesbian were talking today and somehow the idea of me being shipped with A came up. Of course, it was a joke and I took no notice of it. But later on, K told me that A might actually have feelings for me. I was surprised, but wasn't like dying on the ground. We all tease A and he's a very interesting person to say the least. We joke around, and he knows it! K asked me if I'd ever go out with A and I said, 'Maybe I don't have feelings for him yet... though, later on I might!" So now, my Avatar OC Mika Mizuno and A's OC Kurro Baka are now secretly being shipped, saying how... I'm not supposed to know about A's crush! Kurrika is a cute name though! Later on I asked my straight friend L is she could ever see me shipped with someone for real and she said she shipped me with my bisexual friend S who everyone thinks is my boyfriend...

So yeah! I am being shipped with two of my friends!

And to help that, I was Jasmine in Aladdin. I once had a dream that at the wedding scene the Aladdin, was A instead of the boy who was supposed to be Aladdin!

I also can't talk to A with out feeling like I'm flirting even though I'm not. I feel that because K told me about this, everytime I speak to A I'm giving away the fact that I know about the crush. I don't feel that way towards A YET and I mean yet because I'm Demisexual. A crush might form... It feels weird... Can someone help me with this last part?

[ardentsongbird]

I found out my ex-boyfriend (whom I wanted to be friends with again) didn't want anything to do with me. My friend tried to tell him I wanted to be friends again, but he ignored the subject. I finally decided to move on, no matter how hard it hurts. For some, odd reason, I still have feelings for him. He cared for me, like no one else, but I guess it didn't matter at all in the end. So, now I'm stuck alone. I want to tell my best guy friend about my problems, but I don't think he'll take it seriously enough to help. Oh well, though luck, I guess.

Sorry for ranting, but I just need to let my feelings out.

[paradise,]

ah, i've been looking for a thread like this, guess i should have checked the general discussion topic sooner cx

ok, so i'll call the guy i like a and the other girl g.

well, me and a have liked each other for a year and a half now, and have "dated" once before. there was a lot of problems during that year and a half, but it was better at times, and worse at times. anyway, we are currently friends, pretty good ones i would say. he knows i like him, and i know he likes me. so, today, he decides to ask our male teacher for advise on how to talk to this girl g, may i add in front of the whole class. he said he has a crush on her, and needs advice on how to talk to her. of course, i got a bit jealous, i mean, who wouldn't? cx
so, i was a bit upset after that, and didn't talk to him much for the rest of the class period. to make this story short, we were better by the end of the day. [i had gotten him mad earlier, so we both had cooled down.] then, later this night, he sends me a message asking for advice on how to talk to g. now, i'm wondering why he would ask me this, i mean we both like each other, why would i help him flirt with another girl?

i'm just wondering what i should do, also, i'm curious, do you think he is just trying to make me jealous?
any advice is appreciated, thank you! c:

[kboys]

I am so insecure about myself .
The guy I like is all amazing looking and an even more
amazing person (I volunteer with him , he's an absolute
angel ) , he hangs out with all the pretty girls ,
and I would say I'm decent but I'm so .. undeveloped ?
Like he would never even think of me as someone
of the same age ! I look like and 8 year old ! I know he
isn't shallow enough to only care about my appearance
but it's always considerable. I like him a lot , if he liked
me back it would be a miracle.

[Casistrophic]

ah, i've been looking for a thread like this, guess i should have checked the general discussion topic sooner cx

ok, so i'll call the guy i like a and the other girl g.

well, me and a have liked each other for a year and a half now, and have "dated" once before. there was a lot of problems during that year and a half, but it was better at times, and worse at times. anyway, we are currently friends, pretty good ones i would say. he knows i like him, and i know he likes me. so, today, he decides to ask our male teacher for advise on how to talk to this girl g, may i add in front of the whole class. he said he has a crush on her, and needs advice on how to talk to her. of course, i got a bit jealous, i mean, who wouldn't? cx
so, i was a bit upset after that, and didn't talk to him much for the rest of the class period. to make this story short, we were better by the end of the day. [i had gotten him mad earlier, so we both had cooled down.] then, later this night, he sends me a message asking for advice on how to talk to g. now, i'm wondering why he would ask me this, i mean we both like each other, why would i help him flirt with another girl?

i'm just wondering what i should do, also, i'm curious, do you think he is just trying to make me jealous?
any advice is appreciated, thank you! c:

How do you know that he is interested in you? Has he said it directly, or have you interpreted it from his actions?

Either way, regardless if he likes you, he may also like her at the same time. If dating you in the past did not work out, he might want to pursue a relationship that has, in his opinion, more potential.

[Medusa72]

I am so insecure about myself .
The guy I like is all amazing looking and an even more
amazing person (I volunteer with him , he's an absolute
angel ) , he hangs out with all the pretty girls ,
and I would say I'm decent but I'm so .. undeveloped ?
Like he would never even think of me as someone
of the same age ! I look like and 8 year old ! I know he
isn't shallow enough to only care about my appearance
but it's always considerable. I like him a lot , if he liked
me back it would be a miracle.

I used to be the same way, I hated it.
No worries, your time will come.
As for confidence, there's nothing I can do. It's a mental thing. For me, it was just like, I'm tired of being insecure, once I got over my insecurities my life just felt so much better. You have to be strong. Mentally, that is. You can do it!