The Love Doctors <3 Advice for Your Love Life! (V.2)

[Mysterious_Viking]

I've had crushes, but none of them turned out well. One guy found out I liked him and never talked to me..Ever..Another guy, Ryan we were friends for a long time, until he found out I liked him and he turned his back on me and said mean stuff about me behind my back. Kaleb, we are still friends but we haven't seen each other for a long time, since like June. It's not easy anymore, I'm homeschooled and to have friends that want me to come back to public school, and Kaleb misses me a lot.. Me and Kaleb have been through a lot as friends, rumors, fights with his friends, etc.. I was considered the peacekeeper in his life, the one that had to make his problems dissapear... Ahh...But he's just a friend now. I think I'll be done with crushes until I get old enough, maybe I'll go back for 9th grade..Who knows..

I'm in 8th grade now, last year too much happened..

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ok im tired of this...
it started when i met him. we became best friends and did everything together. everyone said we would make the best couple ever, i mean, 2 emo dorks/ Star Wars geeks are supposed to be with each other they said. but he loved my best friend but she was a jerk and got with him, then dumped him. all thru that time, i talked to him and helped him. he told me after she dumped him that i was his best friend and that he loved me and would do anything for me.

then i fell in love with him and told him. i thought that he liked me back. he was acting kinda weird to me, like if he liked me. but he told me he didnt at all. then he started hanging with the quote on quote "cool people" at our skool. hes a super cool guy, dont get me wrong, but he was cool cause he was a geek and he didnt care what people thought of him. now he's all wanna-be cool, turned into a complete jerk, he's player-ish and says all this bad stuff to me when he's with them. we still text, laugh, and such, but when we're with them its like he hates me. we're still friends but he denies the fact that he ever told me that we were best friends and that he loved me (as a friend).

he says he just wants a girl that is like him and likes him for who he is not for what he looks like (hes a super cute bass player btw). but i asked if im his "dream girl" but he says no. we have almost EVERYTHING in common and i love him for who he is. he still says that im not even close to his type of girl. and i for some reason i still love him. so my question is, how can i handle this? some tell me i should forget him and some tell me to still try. what should i do?

First off, it seems like you really like him. If you try to forget about him, it might make you really upset not being able to be around him, so that's not the best idea. There's a quote that goes, "When you forgive someone, it means you still want them in your life," or something close to that. The fact that you two text each other and are still friends even though he shows off in front of his cool friends shows that you still want him in your life and he still wants you in his life. My advice would be to try and restore the friendship you two had before he hung out with the cool people. If he liked you before, being friends like you were when he liked you might make him like you again. If he never did, then he might start to like you.

Oh, wow. I love this thread; it's a great idea!

Well, as pretty much all the other people have said, I like this guy. Let me start off by saying he's one of the smartest people I know, a great athlete, and is adorable. But he's also mean, annoying, oblivious, and, well... Ian.
I've liked him for the longest time; since January of last year when we sat by each other in Science. (the longest time I've ever liked someone that much)
At the end of the year, my friend told him that I liked him, and he said he didn't like me, probably only as a not-so-close friend. But, despite this, I was not deterred. I don't like him nearly as much, and I don't blush bright red when I see him or steal his stuff anymore, of course. I've gotten more mature. (you'd only hope )
Right now, I'm trying to become a friend of his. Only then will I...you know.

What should I do to accomplish this?

Find out what he enjoys doing. If you two have something in common, talk to him and use what you two have in common as the subject. Since you said he's a great athlete, talk to him about sports. If you don't understand something in your homework, ask him about it. Anything that will start a conversation. As you find more that you both have in common, the better friends you'll be.

Just the place I needed!

Okay so I used to hang out with these really inappropriate people. They swore and talked about, {shudder} well you know.... bad stuff.

So the boy I like hangs out with them and he used to ask me "how are you doing?" like twice a day when I hung out with them. Now he asks me like once a week. I hate those people but love him. I am being pulled two ways. We are... young, so I don't want to freak him out incase he is just being polite. But even more we were at this retreat for my church and he asked me how I was doing and everyone was like "Ooh, T likes S, T likes S." And he just blushed and I don't know if he knew I heard. I hope he does like me and I am not overreacting. So I need adult advice, how should I handle this?


Oh T how could you do this to me?

Ask one of his friends if he likes you, or ask one of your friends (that you trust) to ask him himself. If he likes you, then hint him that you like him. If he doesn't like you, then there's nothing you can do to change that but try to be better friends with him.

[Supernuk]

thanks a bunch! ill try that

[Canadian Toast]

I have a question.

Put simply: there's a guy in my band who likes me, but I don't "like" him like that back. He knows this, and I'm pretty sure he's trying to sway me. He sat with me to and from each and every competition we had, and flirted with me by offering me food. Recently he asked to be my friend on Facebook, and now he spends what seems to be all his free time on Facebook waiting to talk to me.

Did I make a mistake by accepting his friend request? If so, what should I do?

I mean, he's a great guy I'd love to have as a friend, but I'm just not looking for a relationship right now.

[Mysterious_Viking]

I have a question.

Put simply: there's a guy in my band who likes me, but I don't "like" him like that back. He knows this, and I'm pretty sure he's trying to sway me. He sat with me to and from each and every competition we had, and flirted with me by offering me food. Recently he asked to be my friend on Facebook, and now he spends what seems to be all his free time on Facebook waiting to talk to me.

Did I make a mistake by accepting his friend request? If so, what should I do?

I mean, he's a great guy I'd love to have as a friend, but I'm just not looking for a relationship right now.

No, you didn't make a mistake. You said you'd love to have him as a friend, so it wasn't wrong to accept his friend request. You should just explain to him that you just want to be friends, and that will never change. He will probably be hurt, but it will save him from an even bigger heartbreak later. If he still has a huge crush on you, then there's nothing you can do to change that but act like a friend and eventually he'll get over you.

[Canadian Toast]

Thank you!

[Spotedleaf5]

Just the place I needed!

Okay so I used to hang out with these really inappropriate people. They swore and talked about, {shudder} well you know.... bad stuff.

So the boy I like hangs out with them and he used to ask me "how are you doing?" like twice a day when I hung out with them. Now he asks me like once a week. I hate those people but love him. I am being pulled two ways. We are... young, so I don't want to freak him out incase he is just being polite. But even more we were at this retreat for my church and he asked me how I was doing and everyone was like "Ooh, T likes S, T likes S." And he just blushed and I don't know if he knew I heard. I hope he does like me and I am not overreacting. So I need adult advice, how should I handle this?


Oh T how could you do this to me?

Ask one of his friends if he likes you, or ask one of your friends (that you trust) to ask him himself. If he likes you, then hint him that you like him. If he doesn't like you, then there's nothing you can do to change that but try to be better friends with him.

Well doesn't seem like much I can do so maybe I'll just have to be attentive and watch for myself.

[CaliDutchess]

have no clue what to do and I need advice.

The guy that likes me- Ever since school started 4 months ago, he's had a crush on me, and he makes it obvious. Every time he walks by me, he rubs against me and says, "Hey babe," then keeps walking. He also asks me out 2 or 3 times a week, at least. There are a lot of other guys that like me (I think 6 or 7 right now,) but I've handled them. I tell the other 7 to stop, and they do. I've been telling this one guy to stop ever since school started, but he doesn't. What should I do?

The guy I like- He's been one of my good friends ever since I met him 4 months ago. We have a lot in common, we trust each other, and he's always been there for me when I need him and I've always been there for him when he needs me. When people try and bully me (or the guy that likes me bothers me) he stands up for me. His looks are pretty indimidating, so it's not that hard for him to protect me. Somebody spread a rumor that made the person he likes hate him and he was sad, I was there to comfort him and get him through it. Our friendship is like a big brother and little siser relationship, without the fighting. He's 4 years older than me, but 1 grade older because I started school 1 year early and he stared 2 years late. Whenever I see this one girl hug him for 15 seconds per hug (I see them hug twice a day, but they might hug more and I just don't see it) I get sad and wish it was me. He doesn't like her back, though. He's everything I look for in a guy and I can see us together, but that's also why we're such good friends. As far as I know, he only sees me as a friend. I don't know whether I should just be his friend, or try to be more. Any advice?

[WolfWhisperer]

have no clue what to do and I need advice.

The guy that likes me- Ever since school started 4 months ago, he's had a crush on me, and he makes it obvious. Every time he walks by me, he rubs against me and says, "Hey babe," then keeps walking. He also asks me out 2 or 3 times a week, at least. There are a lot of other guys that like me (I think 6 or 7 right now,) but I've handled them. I tell the other 7 to stop, and they do. I've been telling this one guy to stop ever since school started, but he doesn't. What should I do?

The guy I like- He's been one of my good friends ever since I met him 4 months ago. We have a lot in common, we trust each other, and he's always been there for me when I need him and I've always been there for him when he needs me. When people try and bully me (or the guy that likes me bothers me) he stands up for me. His looks are pretty indimidating, so it's not that hard for him to protect me. Somebody spread a rumor that made the person he likes hate him and he was sad, I was there to comfort him and get him through it. Our friendship is like a big brother and little siser relationship, without the fighting. He's 4 years older than me, but 1 grade older because I started school 1 year early and he stared 2 years late. Whenever I see this one girl hug him for 15 seconds per hug (I see them hug twice a day, but they might hug more and I just don't see it) I get sad and wish it was me. He doesn't like her back, though. He's everything I look for in a guy and I can see us together, but that's also why we're such good friends. As far as I know, he only sees me as a friend. I don't know whether I should just be his friend, or try to be more. Any advice?

Okay, with this first guy, maybe you should try and explain to him, very briefly, that you dislike him in that way and you seriously are getting annoyed by him. You should just make sure that he knows that you just seriously... don't wanna go out with him.
But also it may be a joke to do with his friends, I dunno... but you should explain to him that you want him to leave you alone. If you just wanna be friends with him then tell him, but if not just tell him to go away and leave you alone. Make sure you show him you are being 100% serious about it. Or else he would take it as a joke. But if this keeps happening, try and ignore him and pretend he is not even there. Sometimes it may be hard to do, or seems slack, but sometimes it calls for dramastic measures.

And with the guy you like... maybe you should try and see what he would do if you ask him if he likes you. Keep posting for that one.

[honeydont]

Hmm...I guess I'll give this a shot.

I'm actually going through my first major crush. At the end of 8th grade I realized that I really liked this guy. I shall just call him "Bob" for now. x3 So. I've known "Bob" since 1st grade (I am a freshman) and I think I may or may not of had a playground crush on him. I don' quite remember.

I'm not quite sure why I like him. He can be a bit annoying at times. But we have a lot in the way of similarities. I'd list them, but I don't want to bore you guys. "Bob" has no idea I like him and I don't plan on telling him. I mean, both my sister and my best friend find my crush on him amusing. Ech.

I'm not quite sure what to do.

[sad magic]

I'm posting this here too.

I would have had a boyfriend today.

If my ex best friend hadn't been mad at me for moving tables to sit with someone else, because I was having no fun, and was being ignored. Would you guys like to hear the events on how I ended up and broke down crying? I don't care. I'm going to explain anyway.

My ex best friend, Let's call her.. 'R'. Last night R made a huge deal about this morning. How something was going to happen. Yet, I had no idea what. So I instantly assumed the worst. Guess what? Nothing happened this morning. So yeah, you would be a little ticked too. So then there was lunch. As I explained earlier, I sat with someone else today because I was ignored and not feeing very welcome. So my punishment? My friggin punishment was that: She told him, told him, not to ask me out. She told him not to. Because I was pissed. So now, why am I here? My best friend is now my ex friend, and now my crush won't talk to me. Great. Whoop-dee-doo. What a great day. I miss talking to him already. I'm hurt. I've been crying. She really went too far this time. After all the crud she pulled, this is by far the worst. Because it was just mean. I am SO hurt. And now she's trying to blame it one me. No.

What do I do about my crush?