Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[hollyglow]

I was about to post this many times but I kept giving up.

In June, I fell in love with this boy I'll call A, and posted about him a few times. I was pretty certain he liked me too, but I never did anything about it, and soon it was the summer break where I didn't see him for 6 weeks. Not sure what happened in those weeks, but when we came back everything changed. We rarely had any moments like we had before even though I kept trying. We started arguing too, before the summer we didn't really argue, and if we did then he usually was the first one to back off (I'm stubborn, he's not), but now I was the one backing off, mostly because I didn't want to ruin anything we had left. Me and my friend, call her R, started arguing too, and our fights were a lot worse because neither of us backed off. All of this was bringing me down quite a bit, but it took a massive turn for the worse on the last three days before the winter break.

I noticed A and R being friends, but didn't think much of it really, the teachers have a thing with putting them next to each other this year, like every single lesson, so they sort of had to get on. In two lessons we sit together, in one it goes me, R, A, and in the other it's me, A, R. On Wednesday (we ended Friday) the two started a horrible joke about me with me there, and at first it wasn't too bad so I left it, but then it escalated until it was out of order so I stood up for myself, and then a fight started between the three of us until I gave up since it was two against one. I had some sort of other disagreement with R, and while it wasn't too bad A jumped in to protect her, which annoyed me as he had nothing to do with it. It all calmed down, but at the end of the lesson R decided to tease me about this other boy (I don't like him just find him attractive , it's a long story) by telling A, and then he started calling the boy stupid, ugly and weak and other things, and I stood up for him and we had a fight until I won. I was still quite oblivious as to why A was so protective of R, until later on I thought about it and realised he might like her.

So Thursday. Before the lesson where we sit me A R, I told R how I felt about the joke on Wednesday, so there was a bit of tension between us two but it actually started off well. Until she decided to tease me and say how she remembers when I liked him, and how I used to talk about him and stuff. I just sat there all bright red while A laughed and went awww, and then I snapped at R how I didn't talk about him because she kept talking about her crush, and then A kept questioning R about it. Then later on he brought up the boy we argued about, and was all like bet you'd love to kiss him etc and then he started to call him names again so I started sticking up for him and then he backed off quite quickly. Anyway that was the end of the lesson and we all seemed fine, me and R got on well for the rest of the day. At lunch, it was me and my other friend (who's supporting me through the whole thing) were talking about my worries about A liking R, and she went up to him and asked him. He said no, but then went up to us and asked why, and if she liked him. Of course we were like no but then he whispered to his friend loudly that he thinks she does, and then we told him she absolutely doesn't and he seemed quite sad.

There isn't much to say for Friday, we got on very well the entire day apart from the occasional tension. The only thing was that I wanted to sort things out with R because I wanted an answer as to why she was being horrible to me, and we had a really big fight about that, A was somewhere else in the room and was about to join in when I mentioned him and how she embarrassed me on Thursday, and he shut up, and I won the argument in the end.

The thing is, I don't understand a lot of things. What happened in the summer? Why has everything changed so much? What have I done? Does he like R? If he hates me so much why does he seem a bit jealous of the other boy, I mean they don't really talk but they never had anything against each other? Why does he find so many things to argue about? Why are they both teaming up with each other to be horrible to me? Will it be the same when we go back? What can I do to change this? So confused and sad :c

Okay, honestly, I don't think that A's worth it. I mean, I had a crush on a boy for three years until he started being a total jerk. My exchange:
*one of his female friends who is kinda in the 'popular kids' group walks into the room from the chess championship*
Everyone: Did you win? Was it hard?
I'll call the girl M: Oh, it was easy.
Me: (irritated because that was rude and the person she beat was my friend) *under my breath* Very humble...
Boy I like (F): Can't you ever just be nice and let someone have their moment?
Me: *Turns red*

THE END!!!

I mean, what the heck! Pretty much after that I wasn't into him anymore. Now I'm crushing on my friend from preschool who I haven't seen in years. My point is, if someone isn't being nice to you anymore, then they aren't really worth it anymore. Anyone, feel free to contradict this, this is just the way I see it.

[Medusa72]

I was about to post this many times but I kept giving up.

In June, I fell in love with this boy I'll call A, and posted about him a few times. I was pretty certain he liked me too, but I never did anything about it, and soon it was the summer break where I didn't see him for 6 weeks. Not sure what happened in those weeks, but when we came back everything changed. We rarely had any moments like we had before even though I kept trying. We started arguing too, before the summer we didn't really argue, and if we did then he usually was the first one to back off (I'm stubborn, he's not), but now I was the one backing off, mostly because I didn't want to ruin anything we had left. Me and my friend, call her R, started arguing too, and our fights were a lot worse because neither of us backed off. All of this was bringing me down quite a bit, but it took a massive turn for the worse on the last three days before the winter break.

I noticed A and R being friends, but didn't think much of it really, the teachers have a thing with putting them next to each other this year, like every single lesson, so they sort of had to get on. In two lessons we sit together, in one it goes me, R, A, and in the other it's me, A, R. On Wednesday (we ended Friday) the two started a horrible joke about me with me there, and at first it wasn't too bad so I left it, but then it escalated until it was out of order so I stood up for myself, and then a fight started between the three of us until I gave up since it was two against one. I had some sort of other disagreement with R, and while it wasn't too bad A jumped in to protect her, which annoyed me as he had nothing to do with it. It all calmed down, but at the end of the lesson R decided to tease me about this other boy (I don't like him just find him attractive , it's a long story) by telling A, and then he started calling the boy stupid, ugly and weak and other things, and I stood up for him and we had a fight until I won. I was still quite oblivious as to why A was so protective of R, until later on I thought about it and realised he might like her.

So Thursday. Before the lesson where we sit me A R, I told R how I felt about the joke on Wednesday, so there was a bit of tension between us two but it actually started off well. Until she decided to tease me and say how she remembers when I liked him, and how I used to talk about him and stuff. I just sat there all bright red while A laughed and went awww, and then I snapped at R how I didn't talk about him because she kept talking about her crush, and then A kept questioning R about it. Then later on he brought up the boy we argued about, and was all like bet you'd love to kiss him etc and then he started to call him names again so I started sticking up for him and then he backed off quite quickly. Anyway that was the end of the lesson and we all seemed fine, me and R got on well for the rest of the day. At lunch, it was me and my other friend (who's supporting me through the whole thing) were talking about my worries about A liking R, and she went up to him and asked him. He said no, but then went up to us and asked why, and if she liked him. Of course we were like no but then he whispered to his friend loudly that he thinks she does, and then we told him she absolutely doesn't and he seemed quite sad.

There isn't much to say for Friday, we got on very well the entire day apart from the occasional tension. The only thing was that I wanted to sort things out with R because I wanted an answer as to why she was being horrible to me, and we had a really big fight about that, A was somewhere else in the room and was about to join in when I mentioned him and how she embarrassed me on Thursday, and he shut up, and I won the argument in the end.

The thing is, I don't understand a lot of things. What happened in the summer? Why has everything changed so much? What have I done? Does he like R? If he hates me so much why does he seem a bit jealous of the other boy, I mean they don't really talk but they never had anything against each other? Why does he find so many things to argue about? Why are they both teaming up with each other to be horrible to me? Will it be the same when we go back? What can I do to change this? So confused and sad :c

Please don't be sad. Not going to lie, A and R probably like each other and tease you to try to make the other laugh. I've actually done this before, I teased a friend so that a boy would laugh and I didn't realize I had actually hurt her feelings. I felt horrible when she told me that what I said made her feel bad. And R is probably mean to you because you also like A.
My advice? Try to make your peace with them, because under such sever circumstances I don't think you and A will be dating anytime soon.

I'm really sorry, and if you ever need to rant more you can PM me.

[Jinhwan - LEFT]

I need some advice (wow, usually I'm the one giving advice!), my guyfriend H said he liked me. No big deal, I told him I didn't feel the same way and left it at that. Now, he won't stop bugging me about it, trying to get me to say I like him (which I don't). I still want to be his friend but I don't want things to be awkward between us. What should I do?

[Aaron✦]

I need some advice (wow, usually I'm the one giving advice!), my guyfriend H said he liked me. No big deal, I told him I didn't feel the same way and left it at that. Now, he won't stop bugging me about it, trying to get me to say I like him (which I don't). I still want to be his friend but I don't want things to be awkward between us. What should I do?

❖xxx Try to let him down again, firmly but gently. Maybe the next time he bugs you, throw something like "I'm just glad we're still friends", or something that gets the point across as to how all you feel.
In the end I'm sure he'll get the message aha, it might just be the 'buzz' from telling you of his feelings cx

[vulture,]

Hey guys, so I've got a little bit of a problem.

From the start of my relationship with my boyfriend my parents have been super protective of me and not directly against it, but also not extremely supportive of our relationship. They have told me that they like my boyfriend, that he's a good kid and all this stuff, which I obviously knew, but when it comes to either of us showing affection for the other, they flip out. I kissed him goodnight and my mom looked at me like I was some disappointment to the whole family. They acted like I had kicked a puppy when I had my head on his shoulder on the car ride to another town and he had his hand on my knee.

Another thing is that they never talk about our relationship like it's going to last. It's always "when you two break up" or "I'm just afraid of how you're going to be when you two break up". Now, I'm not dumb, I know very well that a relationship can easily end in flames and is probably more likely to do so than to go on for a long time. However, having their support would be at least a bit reassuring. Last year I had some horrible struggles with depression. This year I am happy and confident. I really wish that they could just see that and maybe not try to bring me down so much. They've said that they like my boyfriend, that he's a good kid, which I of course knew. He's an all around great guy with, of course, the small flaws that everyone has. But, today, for example, my dad stated that I needed to find a different boyfriend that lives in town because mine is too much work.

My older sister never had much of a serious relationship with anyone and I never told my parents about my past relationships that turned sour. They don't know all that I've been through, they have been treating me like a complete child, as though I'm some kindergartener with a crush on the playground. They're such hypocrites sometimes too. They'll tell me that I need to do stuff with friends more or get out of the house, and now they throw a fit when I want to do something with my boyfriend. I can't win with them and it's driving me insane. I have my license, I can drive myself places, but, oh wait, they won't let me drive. They won't let me drive and then they complain about having to take me places. It's like????? I don't understand. I've somewhat given up hope on trying to make them happy.

That turned into a rant more than anything, but it's something that's been bothering me a bit lately.
Thanks guys and gals <3

[Kleinkat]

Hey guys, so I've got a little bit of a problem.

From the start of my relationship with my boyfriend my parents have been super protective of me and not directly against it, but also not extremely supportive of our relationship. They have told me that they like my boyfriend, that he's a good kid and all this stuff, which I obviously knew, but when it comes to either of us showing affection for the other, they flip out. I kissed him goodnight and my mom looked at me like I was some disappointment to the whole family. They acted like I had kicked a puppy when I had my head on his shoulder on the car ride to another town and he had his hand on my knee.

Another thing is that they never talk about our relationship like it's going to last. It's always "when you two break up" or "I'm just afraid of how you're going to be when you two break up". Now, I'm not dumb, I know very well that a relationship can easily end in flames and is probably more likely to do so than to go on for a long time. However, having their support would be at least a bit reassuring. Last year I had some horrible struggles with depression. This year I am happy and confident. I really wish that they could just see that and maybe not try to bring me down so much. They've said that they like my boyfriend, that he's a good kid, which I of course knew. He's an all around great guy with, of course, the small flaws that everyone has. But, today, for example, my dad stated that I needed to find a different boyfriend that lives in town because mine is too much work.

My older sister never had much of a serious relationship with anyone and I never told my parents about my past relationships that turned sour. They don't know all that I've been through, they have been treating me like a complete child, as though I'm some kindergartener with a crush on the playground. They're such hypocrites sometimes too. They'll tell me that I need to do stuff with friends more or get out of the house, and now they throw a fit when I want to do something with my boyfriend. I can't win with them and it's driving me insane. I have my license, I can drive myself places, but, oh wait, they won't let me drive. They won't let me drive and then they complain about having to take me places. It's like????? I don't understand. I've somewhat given up hope on trying to make them happy.

That turned into a rant more than anything, but it's something that's been bothering me a bit lately.
Thanks guys and gals <3

I'm going through almost the same exact thing trust me, My boyfriend came over to meet my parents for the first time and everyone was all kind and polite to each other. Then it happened; I asked my dad if I could go to Rocky Mountain Fur Con with C(My boyfriend), and my dad is pretty reasonable and said that I could go. Then the morning of the con as I am eating breakfast, my stepmom comes in and says, "This has to stop I don't like him[C] he's creepy." (I mean he has his quirks...) Then, so me and her got into this debate about how can she claim he's creepy when he hasn't even done anything creepy. She goes upstairs and complains about it to my dad who still let me go because his rule is if he says I can go that he has to follow through with it. Also, I've been with this guy since July of this year and they still won't let us hold hands,kiss,ect. I can;t even hang out with him on a regular basis. They treat me like I don't grasp the concept of relations even though I've been in a couple before, I know they only care but they need to let me experiecnce things on my own. They use my autism as a way to say I will probably be taken advantage of by men, it's very frustraiting.

[thunder shibe]

so, my crush has kinda been "flirting" with me (tbh i dunno if what he's been doing is considered flirting). i'm just gonna list the things he's been doing/saying around me since the first month if school
▪he put his hand on my leg when i was about to cry during a school event where we had to tell a group of people about our lives
▪he hugged me when i actually cried during the school event ^^
▪before i was moved down a chair in band, him and i did this thing where i nudged his french horn with my arm, and in return, he would tap or rub the octave key on my clarinet
▪when i got a few burns on my hand from someone shoving me up against a really hot container of food in the cafeteria, he was really protective of me when he found out about it
▪my friends, my mom, my stepdad, and my grandma approve of him o.o

so...what do you guys think? any opinions?

[Karia]

Thunder shibe i think that is a little flirty.

I have a big crush on my ex classmate for a year already... And one time one of my ex classmates was nice to me more than he had been usually.

[TheSiren]

This is exactly what I was afraid of. My brother { D, not my real bro } really wants to know who my mystery man is that I keep talking about. T { mystery man } is currently my crush and we are talking. We've been talking for about three months now, but we've been friends for over a year. I have seen T at his worse and his best. His worse being him hurting himself and me walking to his house at ten breaking my curfew just to talk and make sure he's okay. This was last year, so yeah it was a little awkward because my boyfriend at the time A wanted to go with me and it was supposed to be a onexone talk. T did a lot of bad things last year. Played with girls hearts, flirted, cheated, discovered himself. I see that he has matured. He's not like that anymore. My main issue is R { my friend } Well R and T were the best of friends last year. R got suspended over something T would go chill at his house all day after school or something. They were inseparable unless they were at each others throats trying to kill each other. Officially over the summer they stopped being friends.. Why? I was told T claimed R stole his shoes.. I can believe that R did it cause he does a lot of stupid things, but why would he do it? I don't know if that is true, so I'm not really going to go into depth about it. They just keep butting heads, so it wasn't a good idea for them to be friends in the first place. Always knocking each other down. T lives like ten minutes from me in another city. R lives in my old neighborhood about twenty minutes in the same city and my brother lives in a whole different area of the state, but he's here to visit. Last year they saw the childish side of him and nobody talks to him from our school other than Taylor {guy}, Brandon, and Deon. Everyone else pretty much dropped him and he was really hurt by it. My sister { K, not my real sister} told me that he could be doing all these things behind my back and I wouldn't know.. I mean.. When he hangs with his friends and they have females over he literally sits on the end of the couch with a pillow covering his torso looking highly miserable. I don't think my sister wants to see me happy. I don't care for her opinion. I get vibes about situations and people, so I can handle myself fine. I feel that if I ever bring T around D and R they will try and kill him and look at me like I'm nuts. Another thing that bothers me.. I'm scared to even tell anybody at school other than my close friend { MK, kayla..} This guy named Toot had made rumors about T last year making him look gay and it really drove T up the wall because he never did it. He said he sees more female in toot than male. Toot is a male that's openly gay and dresses like a female. Don't ask me why we call him toot. Sounds like a fart I know. I've learned to accept T for his past year mistakes. We live and learn from the mistakes made. Last year they all thought me and T had something going on. No I just cared about the kid and protected him. This girl { P } who was his girlfriend for about a month had wanted to fight me.. Why? She heard I kissed her man over a dare.. When they weren't dating. If I know someone is taken I'm not going to mess with them. That's wrong. I show respect unlike some of these females out here. Then P and Toot decided to become fake friends.. They talked about each other behind each others backs, so I say fake friends. Plotted against me to jump me. I never told because I was so scared and when I found out they were planning against me I rolled around surrounded by my friends. Nope wasn't getting jumped, shot, or anything like that. I've been through a lot for this kid. I didn't think I'd ever like him though. I'm sorry for the rambling. Well. I have so many issues here it's crazy. I just need help. I'm sure the guys won't accept him because they think they know him. I think I know him better because I've actually sat down and talked to T eye to eye no phones, laptops, distractions, just us. T means a lot to me, but really all I want to know is what can I do to prevent World War III from breaking out when they find out who he is. My resolution that I came up with in my head was that I wouldn't tell anyone about him till I'm 18. He's already 18 as of new years day, but I just want to keep us a secret until I feel it's time. Is that a good solution to my issue?

[SoundAndVision]

so, my crush has kinda been "flirting" with me (tbh i dunno if what he's been doing is considered flirting). i'm just gonna list the things he's been doing/saying around me since the first month if school
▪he put his hand on my leg when i was about to cry during a school event where we had to tell a group of people about our lives
▪he hugged me when i actually cried during the school event ^^
▪before i was moved down a chair in band, him and i did this thing where i nudged his french horn with my arm, and in return, he would tap or rub the octave key on my clarinet
▪when i got a few burns on my hand from someone shoving me up against a really hot container of food in the cafeteria, he was really protective of me when he found out about it
▪my friends, my mom, my stepdad, and my grandma approve of him o.o

so...what do you guys think? any opinions?

To me it just sounds like a good friendship that could possibly form into a romantic relationship.