Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Casistrophic]

Before you go off judging, I know this is weird.

I like my own cousin, it just hit me seeing his face. I haven't seen him in about 7 years, so this was a shocker. He is now __ years old, and that's my favorite age in a man. I just can't help it that I like him.
He's shy around me, but sometimes will cuddle with me or hug me from behind. It makes me feel loved and yeah.

Any help?

Stop cuddling with him, first of all. That physical contact, while not inherently inappropriate for everyone, is inappropriate for you currently because it is fanning the flames for an inappropriate attraction. Since you haven't seen him in so many years, it's not terribly unusual for these sorts of feelings to occur. It's nothing to be ashamed of, but it's best not to let it continue.

Mildly unrelated, but does anyone else think that this "no stating your age" rule is not only useless, but actively harmful? I would never give a 13 year old the same advice as an 18 year old, and basically every other virtual pet site on the internet allows users to state their own ages without any problem whatsoever. It's not like you type "15 year old" into google and a person's name and address pops up. Age is an extremely critical element to giving valid advice in this thread.

Yes, I know I was just cold a lot of the times. I'm trying not to like him, but at the same time we're not related whatsoever. Thank you for your advice.

Do you mean that he is in a cousin-like relationship with you, but you are not biologically related?

In that case I would actually have relevant life experience, since I have two "cousins" who are really just the sons of my mom's friend. I did experience a brief attraction to one "cousin" when he was 17 or 18, but the feeling passed. I'm sure your crush will pass too, especially if you re-focus your attention on available boys at your school.

[Retrouvailles]

Do you mean that he is in a cousin-like relationship with you, but you are not biologically related?

In that case I would actually have relevant life experience, since I have two "cousins" who are really just the sons of my mom's friend. I did experience a brief attraction to one "cousin" when he was 17 or 18, but the feeling passed. I'm sure your crush will pass too, especially if you re-focus your attention on available boys at your school.

My mother was adopted by my grandfather, which in a way we aren't exactly cousins, since my grandfather had other kids. One of them is my aunt, who of course had my cousin.

[surfiez]

I just started dating my boyfriend on the 23rd. I haven't seen him since the 24th and now I'm visiting in Colorado for a snowboard trip. I really hope he doesn't get be a Christmas present because we JUST started dating. I'm sure we will date for a long time but it just seems to sudden. I'm gonna try to get him a hat from a gift shop here XD he likes beanies. It's like 4 degrees here 0-0 I miss him and I don't think I can wait a week ;-; do you think Skype will help me feel better?

[Child_of_Death]

I just started dating my boyfriend on the 23rd. I haven't seen him since the 24th and now I'm visiting in Colorado for a snowboard trip. I really hope he doesn't get be a Christmas present because we JUST started dating. I'm sure we will date for a long time but it just seems to sudden. I'm gonna try to get him a hat from a gift shop here XD he likes beanies. It's like 4 degrees here 0-0 I miss him and I don't think I can wait a week ;-; do you think Skype will help me feel better?

Well, Skype is the next best thing to being with him. I think it will quell your impatience for a bit. Yeah, go for it.

[Altaera]

@the previous person who helped me with my issue :: thank you very much for the advice - tho ive tried it before id stay firm with my stand until he gives up uvu

& now heres another issue hahahaa.

brief background info about me, ive never been in a relationship because my parents are really strict about it. not to say that i havent gotten opportunities, but because my ' expectations ' are kinda high hahaha. i idealise about the perfect relationship - which is with a guy whose taller & older than me, as well as loves me for not my appearance but for my personality ( not stereotyping but its just how i visualise a nice relationship to be x: )

so in my current school ive met this guy ( naming him x ) who meet the first two expectation, & we're classmates so it makes it easier for us to talk since I would admit both of us are really shy hahaha. x and i share a common friend, t, where they meet up almost every morning to go to school together. this doesnt trouble me much but when friends disturb him ( eg, send ' i love you ! ' messages using his phone ) - theyd usually send it to her & i but she kinda already likes someone else.

i kinda accidently found out that x and t have been messaging each other during the holidays, which dos made me feel abit down hahaha. but afterwards, on christmas, he sent me a ' merry christmas ' message and we started talking from there again ( our usual conversation was mostly about homework ) c: he then asked something like ' have you been going out with any guys this holiday ? ' and after i answered yes ( i was joking hahaha ) he replied with a ' you can go out with any guy you want ' type of reply. x then asked, ' are you waiting for someone in mind or are you just reluctant to get into a relationship ? ' and im stuck at here at how to reply aaaaa. usually if i give my normal reply he would easily change topic, but i want to know about what he feels uvu

if it helps, i never go out 1 - 1 with a guy, and my first was with him ( we were going out to get school related things hahahaa ) & he may know it

help please ;_;

[amethyst,]

@the previous person who helped me with my issue :: thank you very much for the advice - tho ive tried it before id stay firm with my stand until he gives up uvu

& now heres another issue hahahaa.

brief background info about me, ive never been in a relationship because my parents are really strict about it. not to say that i havent gotten opportunities, but because my ' expectations ' are kinda high hahaha. i idealise about the perfect relationship - which is with a guy whose taller & older than me, as well as loves me for not my appearance but for my personality ( not stereotyping but its just how i visualise a nice relationship to be x: )

so in my current school ive met this guy ( naming him x ) who meet the first two expectation, & we're classmates so it makes it easier for us to talk since I would admit both of us are really shy hahaha. x and i share a common friend, t, where they meet up almost every morning to go to school together. this doesnt trouble me much but when friends disturb him ( eg, send ' i love you ! ' messages using his phone ) - theyd usually send it to her & i but she kinda already likes someone else.

i kinda accidently found out that x and t have been messaging each other during the holidays, which dos made me feel abit down hahaha. but afterwards, on christmas, he sent me a ' merry christmas ' message and we started talking from there again ( our usual conversation was mostly about homework ) c: he then asked something like ' have you been going out with any guys this holiday ? ' and after i answered yes ( i was joking hahaha ) he replied with a ' you can go out with any guy you want ' type of reply. x then asked, ' are you waiting for someone in mind or are you just reluctant to get into a relationship ? ' and im stuck at here at how to reply aaaaa. usually if i give my normal reply he would easily change topic, but i want to know about what he feels uvu

if it helps, i never go out 1 - 1 with a guy, and my first was with him ( we were going out to get school related things hahahaa ) & he may know it

help please ;_;

from what you said, i think it seems like he likes you. c;

if you want him to know, i think you should find a way to tell him. if you haven't replied to that last text yet, you could perhaps respond with something flirty and hinting, such as, "i have someone in mind..." and see if you get an opportunity to tell him you like him from there?

or you could use the classic response where if he asks if you like anyone, say, "yeah, you." then if he replies negatively, correct yourself to, "*yeah, you?" cx

[Altaera]

@amethyst

aaaa that last part killed me !! |D yes i have not replied to him yet cause im really unsure of how to reply him at all, but thank you for the quick response ^u^ though it isnt my usual way of messaging people id definitely try them out HAAHAHA !! again, thank you very much <33

[amethyst,]

@amethyst

aaaa that last part killed me !! |D yes i have not replied to him yet cause im really unsure of how to reply him at all, but thank you for the quick response ^u^ though it isnt my usual way of messaging people id definitely try them out HAAHAHA !! again, thank you very much <33

sure thing. c: hope it works out!

[Medusa72]

I was feeling an attraction to a boy who wouldn't have been a good influence for me. My bff didn't approve when I told her I kind of liked him, and nobody really "likes" him, but I couldn't help being attracted to him. Today I realized those feelings had passed, I'd like to remain his friend though.

Advice: If you know it wouldn't be a good relationship, wait it out. Don't rush into things. Trust me, it'll pay off.

(I probably would've gotten into some sort of trouble had I pursued this boy.)

[Horsegirlmadison]

Theres this guy I know who is a friend of my older brother, and he's so naturally beautiful that its as if hes not human. Or even real. Everytime hes at my house I avoid him so he wont see me awkwardly staring. Everytime I see him I later find myself wanting to see him again. A few times we've made eye contact for a few seconds or more, and it was like time stopped and my heart was racing. Like earlier today when I was babysitting a newborn, he and my brother were walking out the door and he stopped to look at me. Our eyes met and we both froze until I looked away and he walked out the door. I now keep looking to the door and having flashbacks of that moment when we were standing there like that. I wanted to say hello, but I couldn't force words out of my mouth. I have no idea what to do.