Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[riptide .]

i got a problem ;~;

so i like this guy that is a year older than me, and he already *had\has* a girlfriend. they are both on the gymnastics team, and gymnastics is basically their life. heck, i'm only in offseason track. they broke up not too long ago, and they still have a lovey dovey vibe... he rides my bus, and I've known him for 1 or 2 years.. hes a little bit of a trouble maker, and i told my friend that also rides my bus, that i liked him. i want to tell him that i feel something special for him, without having to talk much or to get on the bad side of his ex ( which i think he still likes ) i don't think he likes me, but i just want him to know. he is someone i can trust, and i feel that i should tell him this in a smooth quiet way... without it being too embarrassing... and i'm aware of there isn't very many ways to do that, but i need to know! <:c

help? ;~:

You should definitely tell him, even if you think he doesn't like you back. Nothing bad can come from admitting your feelings! As for how, you can pull him aside sometime, or sit next to him on the bus maybe? You could always give him a note if you feel like you can't speak.

I wish you the best of luck!

aw oki thanks c: words of encouragement help me quite a lot. i'll tell him sometime by the end of the year before he leaves. xc

[dionaea]

hi everyone. I've only posted here once when I was muuuuuch younger.

well, I just went on my first 'date' pretty much ever. we went to see the new hunger games movie~
he was shy and goofy and sweet, we talked for a while and his dad drove me home. nothing happened,
we literally just sat there, watched, and talked. I guess I shouldn't expect like a kiss or anything because he's so shy,
but how do I let him know it's, like, okay? he goes to my school, a tiny private school, so I'll see him every day,
but I feel so awkward around him! how do I give him subtle hints that I want to go out with him again, or that
I even treated what just happened as a date? he's a year younger than me, but he's in my advanced upper-grades classes
at our high school/middle school combination.

he's super sweet and we have a lot in common, but...how do I let him in on the fact that I want to be more than friends
without freaking him out? we text a lot, and he bought everything at the theater despite my begging to pay for at least something.

we got snacks, drinks, pretty much everything, and he was so sweet to me. I know it was just a first 'date' (or just a hang-out sort of thing) though. he had already seen the movie but insisted on seeing it with me because I wanted to?

do you guys think he likes me? I dunno, my self esteem is pretty low so I'm always sort of surprised when I find out if someone likes me or not haha.

anywho, thank you, and I'm looking forward to any responses!

--nighty

[Dia.]

hi everyone. I've only posted here once when I was muuuuuch younger.

well, I just went on my first 'date' pretty much ever. we went to see the new hunger games movie~
he was shy and goofy and sweet, we talked for a while and his dad drove me home. nothing happened,
we literally just sat there, watched, and talked. I guess I shouldn't expect like a kiss or anything because he's so shy,
but how do I let him know it's, like, okay? he goes to my school, a tiny private school, so I'll see him every day,
but I feel so awkward around him! how do I give him subtle hints that I want to go out with him again, or that
I even treated what just happened as a date? he's a year younger than me, but he's in my advanced upper-grades classes
at our high school/middle school combination.

he's super sweet and we have a lot in common, but...how do I let him in on the fact that I want to be more than friends
without freaking him out? we text a lot, and he bought everything at the theater despite my begging to pay for at least something.

we got snacks, drinks, pretty much everything, and he was so sweet to me. I know it was just a first 'date' (or just a hang-out sort of thing) though. he had already seen the movie but insisted on seeing it with me because I wanted to?

do you guys think he likes me? I dunno, my self esteem is pretty low so I'm always sort of surprised when I find out if someone likes me or not haha.

anywho, thank you, and I'm looking forward to any responses!

--nighty

Just ask him to hang out again. Tell him you had fun and want to make plans again. You've already done it once, so it shouldn't be too hard to do it again. ^^
The more interested you seem, the more comfortable he'll feel.

[dionaea]

thank you for a response.

I did just that, and he said;

'I'll let you know when I'm free :-)'


what do you guys think? does he like me?

the way I got him to go out with me the first time;

we were texting for a while, and I mentioned that if he wanted to, we could see each other over the break.

he responded right away with 'sure! when are you free?'

[ardentsongbird]

I can't stand it. Ever since my ex dumped me, I keep thinking about all of the things I did wrong that may have caused him to break up with me. He said that his parents didn't approve of me... which is really insulting to me. I've never met his parents, either, which confuses me. Now, I can't let him go. I know I have to move on, but I just can't. He was the only guy I've ever dated, and our relationship only lasted 6 days. Why? I dunno.

Anyone, please help? I just don't understand, and it's driving me bonkers...

[kafka]

I can't stand it. Ever since my ex dumped me, I keep thinking about all of the things I did wrong that may have caused him to break up with me. He said that his parents didn't approve of me... which is really insulting to me. I've never met his parents, either, which confuses me. Now, I can't let him go. I know I have to move on, but I just can't. He was the only guy I've ever dated, and our relationship only lasted 6 days. Why? I dunno.

Anyone, please help? I just don't understand, and it's driving me bonkers...

I think the only reason it's "driving you bonkers" is because it was your first relationship. And let's put it bluntly: your relationship was short, and probably not all that serious. Depending on how old you are, perhaps his parents didn't allow him to date at all? Maybe they didn't think he was ready? If it's really bothering you, just go ask him directly. Speculating won't help, it'll probably just generate heaps of theories that cloud up your mind even more. I suggest that until you can talk to him, just calm down a bit, because it might not be your "fault" after all!

[mars]

I thought I'd share a cute little thing with you guys. <3

My crush made a video and posted it on Instagram to wish me a happy birthday! It was stop motion at the beginning of him taking out his art journal, then it went to normal video as he wrote a message to me and sped up a little as he drew a smiley face and cupcake with a candle in it. In the background was some really nice music, he knows what genre I like and chose one of my favorite songs ; / / v / / ;

I can tell that he put a lot of time and effort into making it, having taken all of the photos for the stop motion and everything. It was just so sweet! He hasn't done something like this before for anyone, so I think there might be a chance he likes me.. even if it's quite small x3

He also tagged me about an hour ago in a post about the people who made his year, so I'm crossing my fingers.. <3

[vulture,]

So my boyfriend is coming over on Saturday.
I have been over to my boyfriend's house plenty of times before. I know his parents really well and am not afraid to chase his younger siblings around the house while threatening to beat them with a bat. It's normal. I don't feel self conscious about anything I do or worry about them commenting on what we do.
But, he has just only met my parents very briefly before. He has had a very short conversation with my dad and a slightly longer one with my mom, but that's it. He hasn't come over and hung out here before. I'm really nervous at what my parents are going to do. My boyfriend and I are really close, but I don't think they realize that. We've been dating for more than a month now, but have been friends for years, so we're not shy of intimacy. I know I shouldn't be too worried, I know he'll get along great with my family, I'm just afraid of them giving me crap if he kisses me or we're caught snuggling.
I'm sure that all these nerves will be for nothing, after this first meeting, I'm sure there will be no concerns. I'm just nervous.

[malteser]

So yeah its christmas.
But I cant believe I just went off at my bf.
Hes been talking to this girl and he sent me a screenshot of her saying
"I might aswell cut im no use with a cry emoji and gun emoticon" (Im so specific c:)
Yet if you were in depression you wouldnt use emojis..
This really got me ticked because dealing with depression myself I do sometimes cut and... ugh
Hes been talking to her ALOT and saying 'shes a friend'
I asked him nicely to please stop sending me screenshots and stuff like that
and he was being a brick and playing stupid.
So I said "Just dont send me anything at all"
He didnt understand and said he was going to bed, so i just said night and while i was talking to my friend I get another message saying "Im really stressed rn, 25 percent is you"
And at this moment I was shaking and on the verge of throwing up when i replied "Whos the other 75."
He of course replied with that girl.
I'm just so, sadly unamused or something because the girl is one of those people who seek attention, ik this by I DIDNT STALK HER I SWEAR.
You cant just suddenly get it.
And im afraid its coming, very soon
Im just scared.

[amethyst,]

So yeah its christmas.
But I cant believe I just went off at my bf.
Hes been talking to this girl and he sent me a screenshot of her saying
"I might aswell cut im no use with a cry emoji and gun emoticon" (Im so specific c:)
Yet if you were in depression you wouldnt use emojis..
This really got me ticked because dealing with depression myself I do sometimes cut and... ugh
Hes been talking to her ALOT and saying 'shes a friend'
I asked him nicely to please stop sending me screenshots and stuff like that
and he was being a brick and playing stupid.
So I said "Just dont send me anything at all"
He didnt understand and said he was going to bed, so i just said night and while i was talking to my friend I get another message saying "Im really stressed rn, 25 percent is you"
And at this moment I was shaking and on the verge of throwing up when i replied "Whos the other 75."
He of course replied with that girl.
I'm just so, sadly unamused or something because the girl is one of those people who seek attention, ik this by I DIDNT STALK HER I SWEAR.
You cant just suddenly get it.
And im afraid its coming, very soon
Im just scared.

that sounds so frustrating and upsetting. i'm sorry that happened.

i don't know what you should do, since i've never been in that situation before. but i do know that if my boyfriend was talking to another girl like that, i'd be pissed.

but then again, i'm a bit of the jealous type, so maybe it's just me overreacting.

anyway, i would say that you should sit down with him and just have a talk. tell him how it makes you feel when he talks to this other girl. try not to get mad or yell at him, but just calmly and respectfully tell him your thoughts. tell him you love him, but this is really upsetting you and you'd like him to stop please.