Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Casistrophic]

I knew my current boyfriend was interested in me since last year, and I was flattered, but I honestly didn't think at the time that I would ever be dating him. He was always nice to me and pretty obvious about his interest, but I never felt that I could really communicate in a relaxed way with him. I'd make a self-deprecating comment as a joke, and he would always swoop in with a comforting statement, not really someone I felt like I banter with, which is important to me in a relationship. He eventually tells me that he got back together with a previous girlfriend and I figured that was that, although I couldn't help but feel a little disappointed--as silly as that sounds--because I took that to mean that I had been mistaken about him being romantically interested in me.

Well, the current semester rolls around and it's pretty eventful. I find out for a fact that he was indeed interested in me, and that he still is. He's unhappy in his relationship, which is physically and emotionally unfulfilling, and ends it. We start flirting shortly after and I am constantly flip-flopping about how I feel. First, I want things to be totally platonic between us. Then, I wonder if a casual dating type of scenario would work, and if that would be something either of us would want. Eventually, despite my trepidation, I agree to be his girlfriend.

It's been a couple of months since then and I can honestly say I am very happy with my decision. Pretty much all of the things I was hesitant about have disappeared since we have grown comfortable in the relationship. We can poke fun at each other and banter, and he's not nervous around me like he used to be. We even jokingly refer to his last-semester self as a separate version of him. I was worried about not being able to have an adult relationship with him, but really we just needed some time to learn each other and get settled. I have a lot of fun with him and he's just a great guy that I love being around. I guess if there has to be a moral to this story it's that good relationships can come from unexpected places.

[Bluemare40]

So I've spent a while thinking, I'm ready for a boyfriend, I NEED a boyfriend, it just kind of hit me though... I really don't.
This is partly because I see my sister in bad relationships, jumping from guy to guy hoping the next one will be better.
I'm just thinking, I'm patient enough that I can wait until I'm older, wiser, and more mature...

Lol, I know it's cliché but...

You are a strong and confident woman who don't need no man.

Haha, that quote made my day.
But yeah, I feel 'ya.
I feel like I'm "behind", with the whole dating thing.
But then I realize that I kind of don't want to date, and that really, I would never be able to juggle a boyfriend into the rest of my schedule. (I'm always SUPER busy.)
But yeah. It's okay, I know it seems hard, but you just have to give it time. (Trust me, you're not fighting this battle alone haha.)

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@ chandelier

Hm..Then perhaps build your platonic relationship before asking him. You want to make sure there's no secret hidden side to him that only shows when someone is close to them. I'd say ask him and a couple of his friends/your friends to go out somewhere public and hangout. You have to be 100% sure this is what you want as not to hurt yourself in the end. Once youre sure, try pulling him aside before/after school?

And thank you!

@ casistrophic

Congrats! I'm glad you're happy with your decision. I hope everything goes smoothly for you two.

@ bluemare40

There's no such thing as "behind" when it comes to relationships. Despite what society says is normal for amount of relationships, it should always be about what you are comfortable with! If you feel like it isn't needed right now, then you don't.
Another thing is a relationship should never be something you have to "Juggle." Your significant other should be understanding of your schedule. However, when you are ready and do get into one, make sure you put some time aside to spend time with them. Communication and understanding are very important so make sure you get it down!

[Medusa72]

So I've spent a while thinking, I'm ready for a boyfriend, I NEED a boyfriend, it just kind of hit me though... I really don't.
This is partly because I see my sister in bad relationships, jumping from guy to guy hoping the next one will be better.
I'm just thinking, I'm patient enough that I can wait until I'm older, wiser, and more mature...

Lol, I know it's cliché but...

You are a strong and confident woman who don't need no man.

Haha, that quote made my day.
But yeah, I feel 'ya.
I feel like I'm "behind", with the whole dating thing.
But then I realize that I kind of don't want to date, and that really, I would never be able to juggle a boyfriend into the rest of my schedule. (I'm always SUPER busy.)
But yeah. It's okay, I know it seems hard, but you just have to give it time. (Trust me, you're not fighting this battle alone haha.)

Well thank you for responding!

so i flew over to missouri to get my boyfriend on the 17th.
on the 19th he flew back with me. later that day he left
for a few hours then came back. i wasn't too sure what he
was doing and i was a bit suspicious.

when he came back, he took me to dinner with some friends
and proposed at the end of the night and i just...gkhkjhm
i love him so much i cant stand it. im going to absolutely
hate it when he gets deployed

Oh my god congratulations! *huggles* I'm so happy for you! I wish you the very best!

Congrats!!!!

[Bluemare40]

@ bluemare40

There's no such thing as "behind" when it comes to relationships. Despite what society says is normal for amount of relationships, it should always be about what you are comfortable with! If you feel like it isn't needed right now, then you don't.
Another thing is a relationship should never be something you have to "Juggle." Your significant other should be understanding of your schedule. However, when you are ready and do get into one, make sure you put some time aside to spend time with them. Communication and understanding are very important so make sure you get it down!

Thank you for your response! Yeah, that is some pretty good advice, I really appreciate it!
I know that I have plenty of time, and that it's the least of my worries, it's just kind of difficult sometimes to remember, haha especially when so many people my age are in relationships..

[Solarize]

Recently, my friend group has been getting to know some new people. Out of these, one of the guys has been talking to me alot. A few weeks ago or so, he confessed that he liked me. He's really sweet and nice and all, but hes just more of a good friend. Ive told him this, but he doesn't seem to understand that I don't like him that way. I really don't want to say anything to upset him, because he is a really nice guy, but I don't know what else I can do.

[Pyrrha Nikos]

Hehe...1 month and 2 weeks.
That's how long i've been dating my boyfriend.
Wanna know why else it's important?
Cause we just had our first kiss together :3
*squeals* I just can't!
I'm the happiest girl ever!
We were playing basketball and he said if I made the shot, and he made the shot, we'd kiss. Since we were both too scared to do it. So we let it rest on fate, our basketball abilities, and my crooked basketball goal.
And I made it
And he made it
And he led me over in front of my garage by my hands
And kissed me
And....I liked it
It wasn't weird or unpleasant like my previous kisses
It was nice...and long hehe
*squeals again*
Sorry, i'm just so happy! It was perfect and I couldn't ask for a better first kiss with him <3
And then we kissed again a little bit later when I told him that if I beat the first level of geometry dash I would kiss him...I beat it with flags...but it still counted hehe
uhh yeah so everyone have amazing lives! Just so happy... *flails*

[amethyst,]

dec. 13th was my boyfriend and i's one and a half year anniversary. hehe. c: i'm so in love with him, and he's the best thing in my life.

[Casistrophic]

Hehe...1 month and 2 weeks.
That's how long i've been dating my boyfriend.
Wanna know why else it's important?
Cause we just had our first kiss together :3
*squeals* I just can't!
I'm the happiest girl ever!
We were playing basketball and he said if I made the shot, and he made the shot, we'd kiss. Since we were both too scared to do it. So we let it rest on fate, our basketball abilities, and my crooked basketball goal.
And I made it
And he made it
And he led me over in front of my garage by my hands
And kissed me
And....I liked it
It wasn't weird or unpleasant like my previous kisses
It was nice...and long hehe
*squeals again*
Sorry, i'm just so happy! It was perfect and I couldn't ask for a better first kiss with him <3
And then we kissed again a little bit later when I told him that if I beat the first level of geometry dash I would kiss him...I beat it with flags...but it still counted hehe
uhh yeah so everyone have amazing lives! Just so happy... *flails*

That's such a cute story!

I really psyched myself out over my first kiss. I actually dated a guy very early in high school for more than a year and never kissed him on the mouth...a little crazy, but I was only 14. My second boyfriend I was very nervous to kiss because I wanted to ensure it was a special moment that I would remember for the rest of my life. We kissed, and my throat made a gurgling noise. Poor 18-year-old me was pretty bummed out about it, but I think it's pretty funny looking back on it.

The first time I kissed my current boyfriend, we weren't dating yet. He was hanging out in my room, but had to leave for the night, so we both got up and I put my arms around his shoulders as we were saying our goodnights. Then we both just leaned in and shared a quick kiss. It was very natural and a fond memory

[She _ wolf]

Ugh I'm so jealous of you guys!!! You have such cute heart warming stories and all mine are swirling messes of pain and confusion