Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[compass;]

So. Much. Depression. With. Love. I'l just spread some joy around here. :3

There's a guy I like and we know each other really well now. To be honest I think he's going to ask my out some day, just got to be patient. See, I don't want to ask him in case he says no, that would be embarrassing! ):

Okay bye. >.<

[vulture,]

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My boyfriend is so amazing. I am so happy. I've said that before and I will keep saying it until proven wrong. I just-- the way he massages my hand when we're holding hands, and just mindlessly rubs my back, is the best feeling. He is so much fun to joke around with and his little compliments are the sweetest things. I almost fell asleep on his bed today... in his arms... uggh why do I get so mushy? I keep feeling like this is all some movie or story written in the mind of some heartbroken teenager, but then it's not. I am told that I'm beautiful, even after throwing my head around to mess up my hair, I am hugged when I'm cold, and I even got a kiss under some mistletoe for the first time. I am a proper Christmas celebrator.
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Speaking of kissing. I had some concerns after my first kiss of feeling nothing, of feeling more awkward than anything. I finally opened up and let him kiss me again and I can say that it was much more natural this time around. It wasn't so forced and just... weird, I actually enjoyed it. He had made the observation before that I think too much. He pointed that out to me, that I am very closed and overthink things. Taking his advice was my best decision. He told me not to overthink every little thing. That if I am so worried about every little detail that I will never be able to be comfortable. So, I've worked on opening up and not reading into every minute thing. I can say, for certain, that has made a huge difference.

[kafka]

So. Much. Depression. With. Love. I'l just spread some joy around here. :3

There's a guy I like and we know each other really well now. To be honest I think he's going to ask my out some day, just got to be patient. See, I don't want to ask him in case he says no, that would be embarrassing! ):

Okay bye. >.<

Hope he does, although I really just don't get the "it's so embarrassing to be rejected" thing. Maybe because I overthink a lot, but when you strip it down, it's just:

- I like this person. I'm going to ask them out.
- They said no, which is totally okay since they aren't compelled to like me back. But good on me for giving it a go. What's so embarrassing about being brave enough to ask your crush out?

And people who laugh/tease you are just plain stupid and immature. I mean, I don't get the big joke? Yes, I like this guy's face or personality. What's so funny? Most of us have had feelings for another person, so when people "ooh lah lah" at me, I honestly just don't care.

//end rant.

[BulletRain]

So I like this person who I will not name (he will be called 'Q'), and I don't know if he likes be back. He tried pairing me with his friend, who I could tell has a crush on me Dx (i dont really like his friend, and he is a grade older as well). But Q keeps trying to guess who I like, (I would not tell him. Duh!) and it confuses me because he won't stop asking. Well I decided to ask him who he liked, he said he had a girlfriend from a different school, but I doubt it, he's been in my school for a few years now. I wish I could tell him that I like him but I don't know what to do, maybe it would ruin our friendship, and make the classes I have with him awkard. Help me please.

[swiveller]

How do I get an other girl to like me?

And how do I know if an other girl likes me?

I'm a girl.

[Tailish]

So I'm posting here for my best friend, lets call her Amy, who isn't on this site.
Amy has a guy who she likes and likes her back, "Fred", and they're kind of seeing each other but both too shy to actually date, hold hands, kiss, etc.

That's not the problem though.

"Gary" is.
So Amy and Fred are in a relationship, and Gary knows that. However, Gary is constantly spending time with Amy and tickling her, sitting next to her at lunch (Fred's on the other side), and practically flirting his head off. Fred sees it, I see it, my other best friend sees it, but Amy somehow doesn't seem to and she also seems to enjoy his attention. I can't speak for her, but I know that she still really likes Fred.
Me and my other friend have talked about it, but we decided not to confront either Amy or Gary about it. Should we tell her or confront him?
If someone could give advice that would be great!

[thunderofthedrum]

I'm officially in a relationship now <3 I like him a lot and could actually picture myself being with him for the rest of my life. My parents dont approve though. A lot of people don't actually. They've been messaging me for a while telling me I shouldn't be with him. I dont know what to do. I won't leave him but I hate the messages

Well help us out. WHY do they feel you should not be with him? Perhaps they have a point and you are blinded by attraction? It's happened countless times before and would be understandable.

And a word of caution - if you only just started dating this guy, it's rather over eager to think you already want to be with him forever. Forever is a long time! Financial stress, children, passion fading, wrinkles... it really is a long time. And besides, you are young! There is no reason to be thinking of forever just yet. I'm likely a decade older than you and I'm just now feeling that way about someone for the first time (that we are in it for the long haul).

So. Much. Depression. With. Love. I'l just spread some joy around here. :3

There's a guy I like and we know each other really well now. To be honest I think he's going to ask my out some day, just got to be patient. See, I don't want to ask him in case he says no, that would be embarrassing! ):

Okay bye. >.<

I find this ironic.
I don't mean to point a finger at you in particular but rather use this as an example.

Why do guys always have to make the move? I so often see girls posting about how they are too nervous or worried about rejection.
Guys get nervous and worry about being turned down also!
I just find it very unfair that guys are expected to take all the risk and do all the work.
I'd love to hear from others - why do you expect guys to make the first move, do you think that's fair, do you think you'd ever have the courage to try it yourself, etc? What have been your experiences with asking a guy out or making the first move? How did the rejection feel? Was it worth it?

Yes, my guy made the effort as well. I'd just like to think that since then I have also pulled my weight. It's a team, a partnership.

[Medusa72]

So. Much. Depression. With. Love. I'l just spread some joy around here. :3

There's a guy I like and we know each other really well now. To be honest I think he's going to ask my out some day, just got to be patient. See, I don't want to ask him in case he says no, that would be embarrassing! ):

Okay bye. >.<

Now you know how guys feel except that they have expectations riding on them, people don't expect girls to be the one to ask a guy out, we don't feel that kind of pressure from our peers.

Nobody seems to realize that teenage boys actually aren't very different from teenage girls.

[darkinjinx]

um haha its been a bit since I've been here, but i have issues again xD

right now, i know that 3 different guys like me (J, T and W)...

J is one of my best friends, but not many people like him (he is extremely mean to some people, but SUPER nice to me) I talk to him all the time, in school and out of school, and we dated for a short period of time. I broke up with him because he was being mean to T. I still kind of like him.

T is my best friend, by far. He and I are always talking, hanging out and laughing. His sister is also my best friend and we do stuff together all the time. T hates J and is best friends with W. He likes me and I like him.. the only problem is that he is such a good friend to W and feels that if he and I dated that it would hurt his best friend.

W is the quiet, shy guy. He is really awkward around girls, is always forgetful and is T's best friend... he told me that he liked me last year and has made it obvious that he still likes me.

J and T are both obviously jealous of each other's time with me. In front of each other, they will do things like try to put their arm around me while the other is watching. It makes me feel really awkward and uncomfortable being around them both at the same time.

Question is: I have no idea who I should like (J or T) or both? I mean, how could i possibly choose between two of my best friends?

[darkinjinx]

So I like this person who I will not name (he will be called 'Q'), and I don't know if he likes be back. He tried pairing me with his friend, who I could tell has a crush on me Dx (i dont really like his friend, and he is a grade older as well). But Q keeps trying to guess who I like, (I would not tell him. Duh!) and it confuses me because he won't stop asking. Well I decided to ask him who he liked, he said he had a girlfriend from a different school, but I doubt it, he's been in my school for a few years now. I wish I could tell him that I like him but I don't know what to do, maybe it would ruin our friendship, and make the classes I have with him awkard. Help me please.

I would be careful with this.. on one hand, he could like you and on the other, he might not.

i mean obviously, setting you up with someone else seems like a big "HE DOESN'T LIKE YOU" but one, his friend may have begged him to do it; two, he might have wanted to see your reaction; three, he actually wants to help his friend and does not like you. If he seemed really earnest about it and mentioned it various times, its probably the third. If he only mentioned it once and took your negative response pretty happily, it might be either of the first two.

Asking who you like is a different story. if someone asks who you like, it either means they want you to say that you like them, or they are just a nosy friend. Both of these are likely.

Basically, you can't know just yet. Wait it out and see how things go. Maybe, if you really want to know, ask one of his close friends if he likes you. (Just make sure they won't go tell him that you were asking) Hope I helped!