Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[thunderofthedrum]

Thank you thunderofthedrum I know it is bright lol

But ya I guess you would say that I jumped to love because I didn't tell you the story about knowing him for a really long time but he played violin and his are will it broke and he can never play again I give him music and hang out with him but he seems to like my friend better

But ya this will help me thank you

Thanks for changing the color! I appreciate it and the new sig color is quite pretty.

Like I said, spend some more time with him! There's nothing wrong with letting him know that you like him. If he feels the same, then you could see where it goes. Unrequited feelings are really intimidating but ultimately it comes down to taking a chance or wondering 'what if'.

[kafka]

So there is this boy that I've been talking to for a while now. He confessed that he liked me a few weeks ago. I told him that I didn't like him that way, or at least don't right now. He was very understanding and said he didn't care because he was willing to wait for me and even if I never liked him he would still be fine. He says he just wants me to be happy no matter what my choice is. I've actually started to have feelings for him, not enough to date him yet but they're still there. I wouldn't mind dating him if my feelings grow, but I'm slightly cautious. He used to be a really bad boy, cheating and all that kind of stuff. He's stopped that now, but I'm not so sure he won't start again. He is also my older sister's ex boyfriend. She broke up with him so I didn't see a problem in me liking it but she does. She doesn't want me to like him because she will feel awkward. I personally think that's rather selfish but she's still my sister and I don't want to anger her. My mother also does not approve. She doesn't know how much he has changed and how much he genuinely cares about me. I just don't know what to do.

Perhaps if you could bring him over to prove to your family he's changed? Have a talk to him about it first, of course, and tell him to act normally so that he makes a realistic impression.

As for your sister feeling awkward, that's not your problem. They're history - she needs to get over him and unless he also has an issue with it, you should be able to have a normal relationship.

Sorry if this doesn't make sense, I just woke up.

[~IronRose~]

I honestly do not understand these feelings, and really, I don't want to have them. Why do I still love him, I know he doesn't love me, or care about me, so why do I still care? Why do I still have this flame of hope that I can't blow out. I still dream of him, of him loving me, holding me, hugging me, in my actual dreams when I sleep. My dreams are better than reality, I never want to wake up, I cry when I open my eyes. So why do I jave themes dreams, I've had dreams of turning other guys down because I'm still loyal to him. But why? I don't know?? What's happening?!?! What is happening to me! Why can't I move on, a year and 3 months later? Oh why? He's moved on, yes he has, but why can't I? I'm still unwillingly in love with him. And no matter what anyone says I will still chase him, I will forever love him because I know that this is what love is, I've never felt this way before. I need someone to tell me why this is happening to me, please tell me...why?

[FruityPieQ]

So I'm dating this guy (Let's call him Applejack xD), and I heard him talking in spanish. He was saying that he could't break up with me because "that crazy (bad word for female dog)" (AKA my sister) would kill him. I asked him about it, and he said he wants to try to work things out. I know he's lying because he's scared of her. I don't think I really want to date him, but maybe I do. What do I do?? Someone halp x.x (Could you possibly message me, if you can help? I don't really pay attention to forums x.x)

[thunderofthedrum]

So I'm dating this guy (Let's call him Applejack xD), and I heard him talking in spanish. He was saying that he could't break up with me because "that crazy (bad word for female dog)" (AKA my sister) would kill him. I asked him about it, and he said he wants to try to work things out. I know he's lying because he's scared of her. I don't think I really want to date him, but maybe I do. What do I do?? Someone halp x.x (Could you possibly message me, if you can help? I don't really pay attention to forums x.x)

Regardless of your sister, YOU need to decide if you want to date him.
You said it yourself that you think maybe you don't. If you are that doubtful, then I imagine you wouldn't be too sad about breaking up with him.

Don't stay with someone if you are unhappy. And, if you do think your sister might be an issue, talk to her. Let her know that YOU are the one deciding this for yourself.

But yes, ultimately - no one can tell you whether or not you want to date him. That's ridiculous.

[~Beautiful Voices~]

C= my best friend (guy)
H=C's girlfriend

Okay, so my best friend C, and I have been really good friends, especially this year. I was there for him and he has been there for me, and I was there when he finally got "the girl of his dreams", H. H is a little bit of a jealous lady (ok, she is REALLY jealous of EVERY girl C talks to, whether he/she likes him or not) So, I frequently talk to C, as he is my best friend, and recently he told me he couldn't talk to be anymore. I asked him if it was because of H, and he timidly answered yes. H has been jealous because me and Christian talk a lot, and she hates me. I am really angry/sad that C is letting his girlfriend control who he talks to, and I have told him this. What should I do? I have helped him with issues between the two in the past, and I feel like C is just a little puppet to H. Please help, I want my best friend back

[dozy]

C= my best friend (guy)
H=C's girlfriend

Okay, so my best friend C, and I have been really good friends, especially this year. I was there for him and he has been there for me, and I was there when he finally got "the girl of his dreams", H. H is a little bit of a jealous lady (ok, she is REALLY jealous of EVERY girl C talks to, whether he/she likes him or not) So, I frequently talk to C, as he is my best friend, and recently he told me he couldn't talk to be anymore. I asked him if it was because of H, and he timidly answered yes. H has been jealous because me and Christian talk a lot, and she hates me. I am really angry/sad that C is letting his girlfriend control who he talks to, and I have told him this. What should I do? I have helped him with issues between the two in the past, and I feel like C is just a little puppet to H. Please help, I want my best friend back :(

Explain to her that you're not after her guy. She's probably very insecure and if you explain that you're just friends and you've just been friends for ages, it should rest her mind a bit. If you've got someone else you like, great, gush about him/her to her, and then perhaps you can bond over the good and bad points over your love interests. If you get a friendship out of her too, that's even better, since then you can give her some advice on C, as there are some things that he'll only tell you as opposed to her (although don't get involved too much lmao).

Make it clear though that if she still continues to dispute it and control him, that you'll ignore it and still talk to him. She can't control him or you in that way.

[fowauke]

I've got a question...

I recently moved schools, and its great and all, but there is a guy that seems to really like me, and he's always talking to me and such. But in my old school, I went through a really bad experience with a guy I liked (he crushed me), and I don't want to talk to the new guy not because I don't want to be his friend, but I don't want him to begin to like me more. But when I say it like that, I feel selfish... What should I do? I don't want to hurt his feelings... (I would've asked my friend, but they seem to be going through some stuff right now so... I don't want to bother her with my problems...)

[Tigerice7]

So uh, I'd like some advise on what to do, I've tried so much and it doesn't seem to be working.

For the last 6 or so months, me and let's call him A, have been really close friends, sharing the same 'nerdy, video games' sort of personality also helped us get to know each other better. But recently, he started acting strange. I was talking to him over Skype (msging due to it being late and not wanting to wake up our parents) and he told me he suffered with depression, now myself, also have it mildly, told him that I would always be there to help him if he ever needed it. Fast forward a few months and I ended up saving his life, as he had been dragged down by some of the people in our class. This ending on him telling me how he felt about me (that he liked me, a lot), unsure about how to respond, I simply said "hang on, it's late, let me think about this" unfortunately both of us had to go to bed before I could reply. He and A still talked everyday on Skype (due to it being the holidays) and occasionally go places together. Fast forward to around this week and he is acting really strange. Messaging me things like "the darkness has taken control" and "I have conditions and disorders (to the point of being a list)" and he seems completely unstable and dark when he messages. But here's the weird thing. He completely the opposite when I see him or talk to him in person (it's almost like he's forgotten how he messages). I mean, I'd like to believe him, but I'm starting to get the feeling he is making up things for attention, having 2 or 3 disorders is believable, but 13? I highly doubt that, especially when he says that he is and then proves the opposite when I see him. It's really confusing and I'm starting to believe that the person I once knew was fake.

Sorry for the rambling but I'm really confused and I'm hoping some of you guys could help me >_<

[Tailish]

So I'm posting here for my best friend, lets call her Amy, who isn't on this site.
Amy has a guy who she likes and likes her back, "Fred", and they're kind of seeing each other but both too shy to actually date, hold hands, kiss, etc.

That's not the problem though.

"Gary" is.
So Amy and Fred are in a relationship, and Gary knows that. However, Gary is constantly spending time with Amy and tickling her, sitting next to her at lunch (Fred's on the other side), and practically flirting his head off. Fred sees it, I see it, my other best friend sees it, but Amy somehow doesn't seem to and she also seems to enjoy his attention. I can't speak for her, but I know that she still really likes Fred.
Me and my other friend have talked about it, but we decided not to confront either Amy or Gary about it. Should we tell her or confront him?
If someone could give advice that would be great!