Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[*Midnight Stars*]

I'll be using this thread a lot. So if anyone is really good with relationships pm me and you might have to help me out for the next couple of weeks. xP

I think I'm actually staring to make friends with my crush. Sure, the first conversation we had was because his friends pushed him over to me and it was really awkward but this whole texting thing is a lot of fun. Especially with him. What would be a good thing to say to him to hint I like him, but not obviously give it away and make a fool of myself?

You could ask if he wants to go do something, and avoid saying "not like a date" unless he asks if it's a date. If he doesn't, you're either one step closer, or LOTS of steps closer!

[thunderofthedrum]

So I'm super excited. This will be my first Christmas spent with my girlfriend. Well, it'll also be my first New Years with someone as well. I guess it doesn't help that she lives in Florida and I'm all the way up here in ------, Canada.
We were close to meeting up, though. Of course, things took a turn and my car broke down so I was left without any way to get to her. On the plus side, she should be coming back over in the summer of '15. Fingers crossed! c:

Please don't state personal information such as your city; that is against the rules and will have a mod pounce on you.

I'm curious - you were going to drive all the way down to Florida? That would take so freaking long; my guy is flying to see me - only takes half a day and likely costs the same since driving would mean gas, food, lodging.

I do understand the excitement though; my dude arrives in less than two weeks.

Ok so over the past weeks I've had this crush. All my guy friends know him and one introduced him to me and I just smiled and nodded, awkwardly. he did the same then we both looked off. Then my friend had to go to the bathroom leaving us alone.. Me and him just told each other our names then I sat on the Ground. My friend then came back and walked off. Now every day he says hi and watches me walk off. My friends hate him so yeah... Haven't told them and won't until I'm ready to. Advice?

What I understood:

- It's only been a couple weeks
- You've only been introduced, and even that just barely
- You've progressed to receiving a 'hi' - do you even return it?

I don't see why you should have to tell your friends yet.

Also, you didn't give us any information regarding why your friends hate him.

So I've noticed something over the past few days. Now this doesn't bother me in the slightest, I actually find it kind of entertaining. My boyfriend does not like other guys doing anything remotely close to flirting with me. He also seems to have an awareness of those guys that won't get off my back and try to hit on me every day. The other day, him and I were talking with a few other friends outside of my classroom. One kid (whom I have posted about before as being creepy, not taking a hint, trying to touch me, etc.) tried to join in our conversation and said hello to me, but no one else. My boyfriend gave him a look that is the closest thing to a glare I have ever seen him make, then grabbed me into a hug in the middle of a conversation. I've told him before about that kid and, before we were dating, he witnessed the kid trying to put his hand on my knee or something, he knows that I hate the kid and I'm pretty sure he's trying to make a statement. He had a brief conversation with the kid whilst I was trapped then let me go once the kid left.
We went out for coffee not too long ago and I was talking to the barista who was being rather friendly. I wouldn't say he was flirting, but he was being nice and smiley. My boyfriend decided it necessary to stand right next to me so that my back was against his chest. When it had been a female barista, he stood like a normal person next to me.

Now, all that said, I don't want anyone under the impression that he is trying to keep me from talking to any other guy. He is perfectly fine when I am with other guy friends, so long as none of them try to flirt, he is content. He has no problem with me hanging out with other guys just as I have no problem with him hanging out with other girls.

Eh, I have mixed feelings about this. If my boyfriend was often doing that, I think I'd kind of feel like he didn't trust me to handle it on my own. I don't need someone to protect me 24/7; I'm a grown woman and if it's just a barista or something, that really doesn't feel worth being so obvious about the relationship and his presence. He can't prevent anyone from ever making eyes at you; it's a part of life.

Now, to be fair - I love when my guy is protective of me. I love that I feel safe with him. I love that I can count on him to be super aware of things and always keeping an eye on the situation. But I wouldn't want him to step in for every little thing, you know? Just my own opinion on the matter.

Im just curious...but why does it seem like everytime I get a crush on them and talk to them...and then I dont like then anymore? XD like I dont like then in that way anymore lol XD. I think thats odd. XD, is anyone else like that? Im just super curious.

That's incredibly normal. In your head they are perfect and then when you talk to them, you realize it was just fluff and that you aren't as interested as you thought. They may not live up to the fantasy you had in your head, they may not seem as compatible as you had assumed, etc. Plus, you might simply lose interest.

[y i n]

;-; I don't know what to do...
I am dating my best friend and I don't know what to do, I really like him, but it feels really weird and I honestly don't think I'm ready for an other relationship, we've only been together for a week and I just don't feel right.
I want to tell him that I just want to be friends again, but I'm scared of loosing him, and that we'll drift apart, he says that if I ever break up with him he'll still love me and everything will go back to normal, but how would it go back to normal when you know in the back of your mind that dating it wasn't a dream, that it really happened :c

Good way to ruin a best friends relationship Tech ;-;

[dragonsealpup]

Can we start a relationship if we both like the same stuff and we both like each other and we both flirt alot

[thunderofthedrum]

Can we start a relationship if we both like the same stuff and we both like each other and we both flirt alot

There is no magical standard for what a relationship is, and I wish people would stop assuming there was.

You don't have to like the same things to have a relationship. Yeah it's great to have some things in common, but more importantly it's good to share some viewpoints, especially as you start to consider being with someone for the long haul, such as religious standpoint, their opinion of proper manners and behaviors, how to treat others, how to handle money, etc. I certainly wouldn't want to date some clone of myself who has all of the exact same interests, but I'd want to feel like I could trust the person to tell me when something is wrong, discuss things with me before making big decisions, etc. I'd want to feel comfortable potentially raising children with this person, trusting my life and possibly finances with this person, introducing them to family and friends, etc.

Granted, it sounds like you are much too young to be viewing people as potential spouses, but my point is still there - get to know the person. And it's more about feeling comfortable with them than liking the exact same TV shows. Plus, it's fun to have some differences; that provides new things to share with that other person, new things to learn about them, things to playfully bicker and disagree on, and also a way to give you two some space from each other with your own interests and friends as well.

[SoundAndVision]

So first I think I should state I am saphioromantic-homosexual female and I think I'm in love with this amazing girl i know. I found out she has psoriasis and arthritis (I also have JIA) and well its not like I don't like her because of that, I actually don't mind either one of those because its just as part of who she is and I love her for that. I just don't know how to show her my full support, I'm always scared I'll say the wrong thing or cross a line. I'm honestly scared to death to tell her how I feel...

[ardentsongbird]

Today, my crush N asked me to our school dance on Friday. I said yes. Then, he asked me out. Of course, I said yes ^-^

I feel like when I go to the dance, and he asks me to dance with him, I'll make a fool out of myself. Ever since he started liking me and I liked him, people assumed we were dating because we were so close. Then, at the dance, I'm afraid people will tease us like my friends did today at lunch.

[spring.]

a = a kid i am having problems with
j = an ex-boyfriend
lex = my best friend
pop = a friend of mine
t = the girl who started it all

okay, so i have a friend, t, who told me about a problem she was having with a. she said he messaged her saying he has a crush on her, etc, but he doesn't know her. so, she said well, spring can set you up with someone/ you can ask her out. well, i don't want to go out with this kid. he messages me and wants to get to know me, and then he starts asking if i know anyone single. i am over here, snapchatting my friends pop, lex, and my ex, j (i still really like j, too). so i am putting on snapchat SOS and things like that, because i really don't want to get involved with this kid. so j starts snapchatting me regarding the situation, so i ask him for help. i ask him for things i can say to get out of it, things like that. j gives no indication of helping me. so i am over here, scared because of some of the things this kid is saying. i am asking pop and lex for help out of this, but they can't offer any help (i have been in situations like this before, and they couldn't help then. .-.). so finally, a starts letting up. but yesterday, he said, 'tbh, i wish i could be in a relationship with you', 'i wish you were single', things of that nature. i'm sitting over here like, but i am...?

the first thing i do is snapchat j and ask what he said to a, because he is the only one that has seen conversations between him and i. he says nothing, and finally this morning when i asked again, he responds with 'did he stop?' i said yes, and i asked what he said. he said nothing back.

i don't know what to make of it. lex thinks he's trying to hint at something.

pop says he's just trying to screw with my head because he suspects i still like him.

but it is especially weird because this would have been j and i's anniversary. i don't know if that plays into it, but i didn't think about it. this whole situation was not like the one i was in before, this has taken a turn for the worse... much worse than it has to be. now i'm stressed about what j said. i want to call him but i'm not supposed to have a phone. my mom knows a little about this situation, but not today's updates.

any ideas for help?

update -- i went to guidance for help, but i don't know how much good it will do. this kid is mentally disabled, and getting the hint across is difficult, but i don't have the heart to be rude and tell him to buzz off.

[Pyrrha Nikos]

I have a question for everyone:

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Do you guys believe in the whole 'opposites attract' thing?

I mean, I don't. Just because of personal experience. My first boyfriend and I didn't have much in common and the relationship only lasted a few months. We ended up not really having anything to talk about. On the flip side, my current boyfriend and I have a lot in common and our conversations about the things we love can go on and on. I guess in my experience (which isn't much lol) is that opposites may attract, but it can be difficult to find things in common in which you can talk about. But I want to hear your answers and opinions on the matter!

[ardentsongbird]

Do you guys believe in the whole 'opposites attract' thing?

Honestly, no. In my opinion, people with the same likings and qualities are better than people whom disagree with different things. In some cases, yes, opposites do attract, but it's a small thing I frown upon.