Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[vulture,]

But anyway, never do what I did:

dont put anyone in the friend zone. It's a cruel place

I am going to have to politely disagree with this statement completely. "Friendzoning" someone is not some crime. Don't just say yes to any guy or gal who comes onto you because you don't want to be "mean" and reject them. That is a surefire way to unhappiness. If you don't like a person, turn them down. Don't lie and make things miserable for both of you. If you don't like them as anything more than a friend, then a relationship will only be awkward and forced. Ignore those fedora-wearing people who tell you that you need to love them just because they like you. You cannot help who you like or not. Don't be afraid to say no.

Let's have a little story from Mim.

My ex-boyfriend was five years older than me.
Yep.
I'm not older than eighteen, he's twenty-something.
I had absolutely no interest in dating him. I didn't like him, I didn't think he was attractive, he was far too serious for my likes, and he did little more than play video games all day. He never once showed me any affection or complimented me. But, he was bigger than me and we were decent friends. When he asked me out, I thought that turning him down would ruin our friendship or get me hurt. I was intimidated into this. Those weeks led me back into depression after having it under control for nearly a month. I was so distraught about this that I got sick and wouldn't eat. My friends noticed it as did everyone else. It took some time, but my best friend (the only one I dared to tell about this situation) finally helped me build up the courage to dump him. I did it over text as he lived out of town and I wasn't going to stand up to someone who could easily become aggressive. I had her press send.
After the usual back and forth of breaking up, I found my life piecing itself back together. I was feeling better and school life became steady again. It was at this point that I met who is now my current boyfriend: someone who I actually like, someone who is funny, sweet, sometimes a pest, and who I know, without a doubt, cares for me and would never hurt me. I'm not afraid of him like I was of my ex.

The moral of the story is to never be afraid to reject someone. Saying yes to something you really don't want can be a horrible experience. Don't give in to what society tells you to do. Do what you want to do. You don't owe anyone anything.

That's just my two cents on this, I didn't want anyone to be under the false assumption that you are a bad person for not wanting to date someone.

Thanks.

[theatres]

crushing on one of my best friends. kill me

[dogs]

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okokokokokok

so i have a boyfriend and he's overseas
he's coming home on the 18th
and i hope he still feels the same about
me as i do to him.

Do you get to talk to him regularly? I know depending on the situation communication can be sparse; I got lucky in being able to talk pretty consistently though his hours were long.

i talk to him occasionally, and he loves to
write to me. its not really a big deal, i
just know all the cheating stories and
'warnings' i have gotten.

[Fi2000Fi]

Theres this guy that I'm crushing on and I think he likes this other girl. The only scary thing about it is that this girl used to be my best friend, but then she started backstabbing me and we've kinda hated each other ever since. What should I do? I really like him and I hate it when I constantly see him hang out with her.

[thunderofthedrum]

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okokokokokok

so i have a boyfriend and he's overseas
he's coming home on the 18th
and i hope he still feels the same about
me as i do to him.

Do you get to talk to him regularly? I know depending on the situation communication can be sparse; I got lucky in being able to talk pretty consistently though his hours were long.

i talk to him occasionally, and he loves to
write to me. its not really a big deal, i
just know all the cheating stories and
'warnings' i have gotten.

Eh.. I feel like warnings would be more about him seeming different due to the experiences he's gone through. Usually when I hear of someone leaving, it's the significant other waiting at home, not the soldier. And that's incredibly tough because they just went through so much, only to now feel abandoned right when they need a lot of emotional support and may find it hard to open up to new people.

Glad he gets to come back soon! Guessing he's on deployment?

[nightbeat]

i've been really wanting to confess to my crush, but i still haven't had the courage to do so.
is there anything that's a good idea to do before confessing? i've been friends with him for 5 months now, and it's been making me fall for him even more. i don't want to mess things up if i ever decide to tell him my feelings *sweats*

[GIGABITE]

I really need someone to talk to about something involving crushes
it's really bumming me out, and the anxiety from it is killing me
PM me please, it's really long and I am in need of advice so try to hear me out

[SoundAndVision]

I told my crush how I felt who told my dad and now I got my phone taken a way. I can't trust anyone I guess. ❇

[urie]

Ugh. So, I'm now pretty sure I am hetereo flexible, and I like one of my best friends. The trouble is, I don't see myself in a relationship with her, but I do think i like her and I want to kiss her :/ I don't know how to understand my feelings at the minute /sighs/

[ScarWitch]

My boyfriend does not have a very good home life, and it isn't just him being overdramatic, plenty of people have noticed. He says he wouldnt mind if it was just him but he has two younger siblings to look after. I worry a lot about him being there, especially when he was in such a mood as he was last night (mad is a weak term). Nothing happened while he was texting me, but he had to give up his phone for a week and I'm very worried. He wasn't at school today (but that was because he had a doctors appointment), and not being able to hear from him makes me worry even more... I'm sorry, I just needed to rant. I'm praying he'll be happy and fine tomorrow morning when I get to see him, but I cant shake the feeling of something bad may happen...