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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby raezel » Thu Nov 27, 2014 5:48 am

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ehsaas wrote:
    question: do you think long-distance relationships work? if not, why? if so, how?
    i want to hear several opinions, so if you want to pipe in, then go right ahead c:

Im in a long distance relationship right now... They can work but you both have to be committed and able to trust each other. The things like that that are important in normal relationships are even more important in long distance. It's really really hard sometimes but it will all be worth it. Sometimes I think they're better than normal relationships because you learn to cherish the time you do have together and appreciate the little things more like seeing their face or hearing their voice even if it is just on Skype or the phone or something

    i've been in a long distance relationship with the same guy now for over a year and a half now, so i certainly believe it can be done. uvu
    it can be done, but it requires a lot of trust between you and your partner for it to work. after all, you and your partner both have different lives, and will go out to different places with different people, so you have to be able to trust that your partner won't cheat or do something stupid and you would never find out. the fact that they can hide behind a computer screen makes it easy for those kind of things to happen. you just have to find someone that you know can be trustworthy 100% of the time!

    also, the distance can be a huge challenge, especially if you're already used to a face-to-face relationship. the lack of physical contact can make you feel extremely lonely, but of course, the promise that you will get it with that particular person eventually usually makes it better. most of the time, you have to find a way to beat the distance part of it by finding things to do with your partner. things like playing games together, writing letters to each other and mailing them, sending little gift packages here and there, it honestly makes the distance feel like nothing when you're having a good time. also, facetiming or getting on video chat on skype also makes it a little better to deal with the fact that they aren't there personally.

    personally i stand with the belief that these kind of relationships can work out just as good, if not better, than face-to-face relationships. mainly due to the fact that you end up falling in love with the person, their personality, etc., rather than their body and physical appearance. the distance can also bring out how willing your partner is to stick in a relationship with you, due to the fact that more than likely they're going to be waiting a long time before you meet up with them. i think as long as there's not a huge age gap, and as long as you really know the person you're talking to is the person you're talking to, that long distance relationships can work out fine, even if with a little bumps here and there.
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby Phan; » Thu Nov 27, 2014 6:16 am

This is like my thousandth time writing here but this one needs the most help.

As you all know, I used to like a kid rather than my boyfriend. Well, I got over it. And because of it I felt bad cause I never wanted to be around k (old crush is N bf is K) because I always wanted to be with N. Well, all the sudden I got this huge problem that effected our entire relationship.

I cheated on him.


I swear to god it was just because I felt bad! Some boy asked to dance with me and he liked me for a long time and I felt sooo bad if I said no so obviously I said yes. Well, then my friend made me dance with another guy. Totally forceful.

And then, he was fine about the first guy. But the second? He totally freaked out. He asked me to "prove you don't like anyone else accept for me (K)" So I kissed him.


Well apparently that really messed things up.



He "wasn't ready for kissing"


Which you guys know I am a teenager so I mean really?


Here's the worst part.

He didn't talk to me for a while when finally I just broke out of this pit of darkness and asked him why he was so upset.

I turned out that it was because he was ready and wanted me to do it again. But, because I "cheated on him" he doesn't want my "dirty lips cause he doesn't know where they've been" so I said, "whatever". And I totally lied.

Ok here's how K found out I danced with another guy: The girl who got me a ride to the dance (no I didn't go there to be her date) saw me with the 2 guys dancing and recorded both. And then sent it to him.


So I lied and said that I only danced with the guy in the blue shirt and the other one was the girl who dropped me off *she has hair exactly like mine and it was only from the back and you couldn't see the clothes it was just a head shot* So he believed me.

Thought this couldn't get worse? Wait for it...


I cheated on him again.


*face palm*

This time, it was N. (Ok ready really sexy, discriptive words) with his voice like an angel and hair black like the dark night. Smile so gorgeous with this green and black braces and tall apperance.

He's like freaking God.

And he congradulated me for making it into the school play *he saw I was a lead because it was posted outside the stage room* and all the sudden I went "thanks" and things were rushing at me.

Particularly his closed eyes and lips puckered out.


Ok I was not going to resist this so I totally kissed him.


But that same girl saw me and recorded it.

I told her after that she should please delete it and I watched her delete it.


But on the IPhone, you can recover videos.


I know she's gonna show it.



So tell me, do you think I deserved it or made normal teenaged mistakes?
Pm me so you can help!! :c
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby thunderofthedrum » Thu Nov 27, 2014 6:56 am

Dressage Queen wrote:This is like my thousandth time writing here but this one needs the most help.

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So tell me, do you think I deserved it or made normal teenaged mistakes?
Pm me so you can help!! :c
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I do NOT think that dancing with one dude for one dance is cheating. You were pressured into it and you felt nothing for the guy. How long was the song, like 2-3 minutes? I don't think that should be a big deal. It likely would have been better if you'd been honest and said "yes I danced with him; my friend pressured me into it and it would have become a really rude and uncomfortable situation to turn the poor guy down so I sucked it up and danced with him for a single song".

Kissing the other dude? Definitely cheating. You were emotionally cheating because you have feelings for him, plus it was physical cheating because you kissed him. Not okay.

I don't really understand the whole ready or not ready for kissing thing with your boyfriend, so I won't really comment on that except it sounds like he needs to work on his communication with you.

And why the HECK would that girl record you dancing with other guys and send it to your boyfriend? You need to get rid of her; she doesn't sound like she's looking out for your best interests.

"Ok I was not going to resist this so I totally kissed him."
That was all you. And you need to figure out whether you still want to be with your boyfriend, what you will say, and what you will do to prevent such a thing from happening again. You need to find a way to hold yourself accountable for your actions, and you ought to let him know that you WANT to make the effort to regain his trust.

And again that girl recorded it?! Does she not understand boundaries? I would be livid at her and want to smack her.
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby Phan; » Thu Nov 27, 2014 7:19 am

thunderofthedrum wrote:
Dressage Queen wrote:This is like my thousandth time writing here but this one needs the most help.

-snip-


So tell me, do you think I deserved it or made normal teenaged mistakes?
Pm me so you can help!! :c
-Dressage Queen


I do NOT think that dancing with one dude for one dance is cheating.

-le clip-
I totally get it thank you, minor detail.. totally missed on the kiss o3o Went completely off to like the air and felt so awkward that I didn't try again I just ran. She recorded the leaning and what looked like me kissing but actually tripping over a water bottle on the floor. But what I think is the fact that I even tried makes me guilty. Thats why I posted this. If I did kiss him I would totally keep it a secret and not post this cause obviously thats just letting more people know.
However, thanks for the help on everything else c:
(btw the song was 1 minute long)
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby thunderofthedrum » Thu Nov 27, 2014 8:08 am

Dressage Queen wrote:
thunderofthedrum wrote:
Dressage Queen wrote:This is like my thousandth time writing here but this one needs the most help.

-snip-


So tell me, do you think I deserved it or made normal teenaged mistakes?
Pm me so you can help!! :c
-Dressage Queen


I do NOT think that dancing with one dude for one dance is cheating.

-le clip-
I totally get it thank you, minor detail.. totally missed on the kiss o3o Went completely off to like the air and felt so awkward that I didn't try again I just ran. She recorded the leaning and what looked like me kissing but actually tripping over a water bottle on the floor. But what I think is the fact that I even tried makes me guilty. Thats why I posted this. If I did kiss him I would totally keep it a secret and not post this cause obviously thats just letting more people know.
However, thanks for the help on everything else c:
(btw the song was 1 minute long)


One minute - another reason why I don't think that was cheating. That was out of guilt/sympathy/whatever.

That you did at least lean in for a kiss isn't so good, but I think if you sit down and are honest with yourself you can figure out a plan. Then if you talk to him about it and give it a try to keep your relationship with him, then you know you tried. It's hard to know when to confess and when to keep it a secret. Confessing is scary but risking them finding out the secret is also scary. Also, with confessing you are getting it off your shoulders but placing it on theirs and sometimes they might wish they never knew. But if they find out later and know that you kept the secret? Also terrible! So it may feel like there's no way to win but really.. just try to feel out the situation. Make a decision. And try to let him know you are sorry. Lastly, maybe talk about a way to be accountable to each other. At some point, it may also be good to bring up him trying hard to communicate with you as well.

Good luck!!
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby Elix » Thu Nov 27, 2014 8:25 am

This is a little poem i wroght

I think you have a crush on me....

You smiled and laughd when you dint want to tell me the time i think you have a crush on me
You always walk slower so i can walk with you out of school,i think you have a crush on me
Your eyes get wet when people say you have a crush on me,i think you have a crush on me
You blush when people say you like me,i think you have a crush on me

I think i have a crush on you
I smiled and laughd when you dint want to tell me the time,i think i have a crush on you
I always walk fast so i can walk with you out of school,i think i have a crush on you
I look away when people say i have a crush on you,i think i have a crush on you
I blush when people say i like you,i think i have a crush on you

I think i have a crush on you........
Do you?


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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby Retrouvailles » Thu Nov 27, 2014 8:27 am

    I can't get him out of my head. Yeah, he'll be back next week, but I miss him like crazy. Yeah he's not my boyfriend, but I think I know what love is. I just -- I yeah I dunno how to explain it.
    How can I get him out of my head for the week? I don't think I can because I love him so.
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby Mystial Entity » Thu Nov 27, 2014 9:33 am

FoxTail255 wrote:
    I can't get him out of my head. Yeah, he'll be back next week, but I miss him like crazy. Yeah he's not my boyfriend, but I think I know what love is. I just -- I yeah I dunno how to explain it.
    How can I get him out of my head for the week? I don't think I can because I love him so.


Do something that might get him out of your system. Write about him in a diary --- write ANYTHING!!

Then move on with your day and focus on other things that make you happy!
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Re: Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

Postby GIGABITE » Thu Nov 27, 2014 2:01 pm

Well, it happened again
I'm apparently so obvious when I like someone that it's easy for said crush to figure it out very quickly
Because NX found out. He didn't confront me about it. He didn't even act like he knew. We talked like normal several times, while I was quite oblivious as to the fact that he did indeed know.
I found out because my sister, who is friends with NX's friend, told me that both NX and AN (his friend) knew about my liking to him, and apparently I am a common topic of discussion between NX and his friends
But I see now it's likely hopeless. NX is simply not mentioning the topic to me, or showing any signs of mutual feeling. He's seems to be ignoring the existence of the feelings I have, perhaps just awaiting the time they'll go away
Now I'm paranoid, that somehow I'll jack things up further without realizing it. I just want him to be my friend. But if every conversation I have gives away so much, how can I make it stop?
I can move along. I can let the feelings fade. What I can't handle, is losing a friend because I can't handle myself or my stupid awkwardness
Curse this sensory processing disorder, the stupid effects it causes
Curse it into eternity
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Postby compass; » Thu Nov 27, 2014 10:28 pm

      Eeeeee, being very much happy right now aha.
      So, my crush is currently talking to me on facebook and he's being so nice. He's been telling me about the sports he plays after I asked and he's being so funny. He's making up jokes and it's like we're long lost friends.
      I think he likes me ... I like him a lot, should I go for it or wait for him to make the first move? ..
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