Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[empunich;]

Hi... Well my mum has managed to ruin and make my summer awesome at the same time. We are going camping after Australia Day, with my parents, brother, parents friends and their children. I had a leavers soirée on Friday and my bf (let's call him R) kept walking over to talk to me, like a lot. It turns out that my mum was talking to his Dad at the time, so know he's coming camping with his sister and Dad to! Pretty cool for me :3

Also, R is pretty scared of my best friend... A, she teases him constantly and makes fun of him. Well, I have to admit that I do sometimes and she is hillarious. But, it means that when I hang out with her I get less time to hang out with R, and we are going to different schools next year So A and R are both going to different schools from me ;-;. But anyway, how can I deal with R being scared of A? Thanks in adavance for any advice!

[sky dancer.]

okay.
so, one of my best friends likes is guys.
another one of my best friends likes the same guy

and I think this guy likes me.

not such a big problem, but those two of my friends
have started to fall apart in their friendship.
this guy has always been like a best friend to me.
and i don't want the guy they like, liking me
then ruining their friendship. :/

pardon my little rant/vent

[ScarWitch]

okay.
so, one of my best friends likes is guys.
another one of my best friends likes the same guy

and I think this guy likes me.

not such a big problem, but those two of my friends
have started to fall apart in their friendship.
this guy has always been like a best friend to me.
and i don't want the guy they like, liking me
then ruining their friendship.

pardon my little rant/vent

Do you like him back? If not, this has a kind of simple fix. However, if you do like him, then if your friends were true friends they would get over their animosity. I don't agree wiyh the idea of never going after a guy if he likes you but your friend likes him too. Yes, its hard on the friendship, but I've had it happen and I still went for him. My friend got over it as real friends do. Friends before boys is a good motto, however, your friends shouldnt try to hold you back. Anyway, I got off on a tangent, your situation just depends..sorry

[SoundAndVision]

My crush is 30 years older than Me...

[Warriorcatwindclan]

I have known my crush since the fifth grade, and he was in my sixth grade class. Now he is In a separate class than me this year, and he recently got a girlfriend who he doesn't really know. As in they don't share any classes, or ride the same bus. To me, I dint know what to do... Any advice?

[Pyrrha Nikos]

I have known my crush since the fifth grade, and he was in my sixth grade class. Now he is In a separate class than me this year, and he recently got a girlfriend who he doesn't really know. As in they don't share any classes, or ride the same bus. To me, I dint know what to do... Any advice?

I mean, there really isn't any 'doing anything' right about now. His relationship is his business. I mean, you can be concerned for him, but you shouldn't tell him you think him and his girlfriend aren't a good match. If you and him are good friends, then it would be okay to express a little concern, if you guys are just okay friends then just be his friend. If you guys aren't, then no flirting with him should happen while he is dating someone. Just be a friend to him and if him and his girlfriend break up, then you have an opportunity. I know this probably isn't what you want to hear right about now.

[kotalicious]

So I haven't seen my crush since Nov. 11. He left on the 13th to go see his brother who just got back from the army. We talked over text a little bit while he was gone, but not a lot. I was going to text him yesterday, but I felt like I talk to him too much. I don't want to annoy him and scare him away. He's been talking to me less and less lately. I don't know if he still likes me or not. I feel like I did something wrong. I want to ask him if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore or if he's just going through something right now, but I get too nervous whenever I try. I don't want him to think I'm doubting him or I don't like him anymore..... Maybe I'm just too weird for him... Usually when I first start liking a guy I'm a little more reserved when I talk to him, but with this guy I was just myself. I must admit I am a pretty strange girl, and I'm slightly manly(lol), but it didn't seem to bother him before. Do you guys think I'm just over reacting?

[thunderofthedrum]

So I haven't seen my crush since Nov. 11. He left on the 13th to go see his brother who just got back from the army. We talked over text a little bit while he was gone, but not a lot. I was going to text him yesterday, but I felt like I talk to him too much. I don't want to annoy him and scare him away. He's been talking to me less and less lately. I don't know if he still likes me or not. I feel like I did something wrong. I want to ask him if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore or if he's just going through something right now, but I get too nervous whenever I try. I don't want him to think I'm doubting him or I don't like him anymore..... Maybe I'm just too weird for him... Usually when I first start liking a guy I'm a little more reserved when I talk to him, but with this guy I was just myself. I must admit I am a pretty strange girl, and I'm slightly manly(lol), but it didn't seem to bother him before. Do you guys think I'm just over reacting?

Well have you known him a long time, been talking to him a long time? How recently did you guys start talking less? If it's just since November 11, then I wouldn't worry about it. My guy is Army and especially if the brother is back from deployment or finished his years of active duty, they may be having a lot of family time getting him moved and discussing future job plans, catching up, etc.

You could perhaps just send him a little text letting him know you're there if he ever wants to talk?

Also I understand you about being yourself. I've been myself with this guy and I don't know what you mean by 'manly' exactly, but I'm definitely weird (or so he frequently informs me haha) but hey, he likes it. He likes ME, so he likes everything that comes with that. I flail and I chat on forums and I'm goofy and I have a pet bunny that I often send him pictures of. But it's ME, it's what he's come to expect. Now if I changed, he would notice.

So be yourself. Don't ever become someone else; you will worry they don't care about you for you and you will be discontent, living behind a mask. Even if things don't work out, like he meets someone else or decides he likes you but not enough to really make a move - whatever it is, at least you will have been yourself and given it a try.

[OceanBlast]

Okay so I....have a problem

I'm living in Brazil right now for the next 2 years or so (I'm from England though), and I go to a brazillian school. All of my friends at the school are boys (since the girls are rude and obviously don't like me) and holy crap some of the boys in my class are good looking xD but anyways, during my first month, this guy admitted to me that he really like me, rIGHT INFRONT OF EVERYONE. It was awkward, but I just said I'd think about it and yeah. Later on I sent him a text (I know it's best to say it irl but I have social anxiety and would just freeze up and not say anything if I had to do it so I decided texting him would be best).

I told him I just wanted to be friends, but instead of replying with something like 'I understand', he said to me 'oh no I don't like you at all I was just pretending to like you so people will stop calling me gay'

1. I have never seen anyone call him gay before
2. If it's true that's honestly a rude thing to do to me
3. He's lied to me and my other friends before...he's a bit strange and I think he was just saying that to make him sound like he was better than me

Then, to make it worse he started showing everyone the text message I sent him and laughing about it even though I told him not to show it to anyone. And NOW he keeps trying to be friends with me again and flirting with me and ugh me and my friends hate him now.

And also, I like 3 guys in my class, but one of them is oblivious to it...no matter what I do he doesn't seem to realise I really like him lol. The second guy has seemed to like me back in the past few days, he keeps sitting next to me and smiling at me, yesterday was the last day of school before the summer holidays (I'm in Brazil and summer is in November - February) and he kept sitting very close to me and his friend pushed him over and he grabbed my hand even though there was like 6 other girls near him he could've grabbed...idk he's just being more 'closer' to me, ya know? And the third guy, well in the past month he's been much closer to me, now he likes to come and sit really close to me in class and listen to music with me and show me stuff on his phone and keeps looking at me in the class. He also texts me first a lot and we talk a lot on fb and he keeps saying jokes like 'marry me rose' and 'rose is so pretty' xD I'm not sure if he likes me though, he seems too good for me....idk I always think guys like me and then I end up realising they're just being friendly or they like someone else or something. ;-;

This was sorta a rant but yeah...do you think any of them may like me...maybe?

Sounds to me like he was trying to save face from being rejected. However, he did it in a way that was rude to you and I do NOT approve of that behavior. If you feel able to, I'd suggest bluntly telling him that what he did wasn't okay and that you don't trust him not to do it again. Unless he makes a clear effort to be more considerate, I wouldn't waste much time on him.

Second guy sounds like he might like you, but it's soon and he may not have figured out how much he likes you or if he wants to do anything about it.

Third guy.. I don't like the phrase 'too good for me'. So far you sound reasonable and may have two guys interested in you. That's pretty exciting! (I didn't have anyone interested in me until college, and my first dates with someone I thought were just as friends!)

As for guys liking someone else - it's not black and white. They may still like you, but feel that they don't like you quite enough to really do something about it. Or they may feel they like someone else more, or choose someone else based on other things like who their parents would approve of, who they have more in common with, etc. It's all a learning process and every experience is a little different!

I know this isn't concrete 'do this' sort of advice, but at least it's some of my thoughts regarding what you posted

Thanks for the really nice advice! It really helps <33333

[eli ayase]

this hurts me so much. I had no idea he was this cruel and selfish. Can someone PM me?