Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[ScarWitch]

My boyfriend just informed me he can come meet my family at our monthly get together this weekend! I'm so excited, but I'm also a tad worried, considering he's not the typical "good guy" boyfriend. He's kinda not allowed to have weapons of any kind until he's 18 (which is soon), due to a fight he got in when he was 14. He has a illegal racing streak and a bunch of other crazy things he's been into, and I'm hoping my family is understanding... ugh...

I have questions.
- Is the monthly get together a thing your family does or is that how often you see your boyfriend?
- How long have you guys been dating?
- How long have you known him?
- How long has it been since he got into trouble? Is he still making bad choices?
- Why the heck would he be allowed weapons before 18?
- Has he made efforts to make better decisions now that you would be negatively impacted by him breaking the rules?
- Does he treat you well? Respect you?

-It's a family thing. My dad's side gets together once a month at someone's house for a dinner.
-Technically 2 weeks, which is why he needs to meet my family.
-I've known him for 4 months now, but many of my friends have known him for years.
-It's been two and a half years since he got into trouble. He's quitting racing and has focused on working at his dad's masonry business.
-Guns for hunting and any knife besides a kitchen knife. From that fight, he can't buy any or use a gun (he can have knives if they are gifted to him and can keep his guns, he just can't use them).
-He's made a lot of better decisions. Or at least, for huge things, he doesn't party anymore or illegally race, or anything else huge like that now. He was turning his life around before we met though, so it's not just because of me. Although I'm encouraging the good habits..
-I've never had a guy treat me better without treating me like I was made of glass. He respects my choices and hasn't pushed for anything thus far.

[thunderofthedrum]

-It's a family thing. My dad's side gets together once a month at someone's house for a dinner.
-Technically 2 weeks, which is why he needs to meet my family.
-I've known him for 4 months now, but many of my friends have known him for years.
-It's been two and a half years since he got into trouble. He's quitting racing and has focused on working at his dad's masonry business.
-Guns for hunting and any knife besides a kitchen knife. From that fight, he can't buy any or use a gun (he can have knives if they are gifted to him and can keep his guns, he just can't use them).
-He's made a lot of better decisions. Or at least, for huge things, he doesn't party anymore or illegally race, or anything else huge like that now. He was turning his life around before we met though, so it's not just because of me. Although I'm encouraging the good habits..
-I've never had a guy treat me better without treating me like I was made of glass. He respects my choices and hasn't pushed for anything thus far.

Thanks for answering, I realize I had quite a list. xD
I don't know your age but I'm guessing a teenager; in that case I guess I can understand two weeks feeling like a long time for him to not meet your people since they are who you live with. I didn't date until college so I can't entirely relate there, so it's more normal for me to be with a guy a couple months or more before introducing him to my family.

As for the rest, sounds like so far so good. It's only been a couple weeks though so just see how it goes! My guy will be meeting my family at Christmas. Eep. So I know how you feel. My ex was terrible on paper (when it comes to education, career, living situation, habits, etc) and I knew my mom wouldn't like him but she was still civil. On the other hand, I also do know what it's like to see someone actually make changes for the better, as well (though it certainly wasn't the ex).

[eli ayase]

I haven't posted here in a while...

I thought I could handle this on my own but I need help now guys


I've been liking this guy since about the fourth week of school, and he's semi popular. I think he knows I like him. At first, it seemed he liked me, because we barely spoke and I wasn't annoying. But as time went on, he started joking about my insecurities and spoke to other girls and ignored me and such.

Well, today, this girl that I think he likes came into our exploratory because her teacher had to go to a meeting and couldn't watch his class so they split. Well, he usually sits by me but today he got up and moved over to her. He talked to her the whole time, and it hurt. And then, my friend sent him this inappropriate text that she saw on tumblr and he got it and she laughed and thought it was funny because she doesn't like him, but now it looks like I like him in a weird way and I don't and ugh

this is really complicated I know. I need to stop liking him because nothing good comes out of it, but I can't stop liking him because my heart keeps thinking there's a chance. But there isnt. Not one chance, because he can get any girls and he wouldn't choose me, the annoying weird girl. He makes fun of me all the time, and then says he's joking or something. He always tells me to shut up and calls me names but I just shrug it off because I remember the good in him when we first met. I feel so awful about admitting this... I haven't told anyone about how he treats me. Sometimes he can be sweet, but its very rare. We have so much in common, and we talk all the time... Its just that... I rarely feel good about him. And I can't /stop/ liking him because there was a time when I was crazy for him.

I need help... He has the power right now, and every time I do something that might be annoying or something he gives me this weird look as if he's too cool for me and it hurts.

[doobie]

Well Me And My Boyfriend (A) Have Been Dating For About 2 Weeks... Wensday He Started Not Talking Or Looking At Me. I Ask His Friends Why He Is Doing This And They Ignore Me Also. Please Help I Really Like Him And Don't Wanna Loose Him.

[claws990p]

I haven't posted here in a while...

I thought I could handle this on my own but I need help now guys


I've been liking this guy since about the fourth week of school, and he's semi popular. I think he knows I like him. At first, it seemed he liked me, because we barely spoke and I wasn't annoying. But as time went on, he started joking about my insecurities and spoke to other girls and ignored me and such.

Well, today, this girl that I think he likes came into our exploratory because her teacher had to go to a meeting and couldn't watch his class so they split. Well, he usually sits by me but today he got up and moved over to her. He talked to her the whole time, and it hurt. And then, my friend sent him this inappropriate text that she saw on tumblr and he got it and she laughed and thought it was funny because she doesn't like him, but now it looks like I like him in a weird way and I don't and ugh

this is really complicated I know. I need to stop liking him because nothing good comes out of it, but I can't stop liking him because my heart keeps thinking there's a chance. But there isnt. Not one chance, because he can get any girls and he wouldn't choose me, the annoying weird girl. He makes fun of me all the time, and then says he's joking or something. He always tells me to shut up and calls me names but I just shrug it off because I remember the good in him when we first met. I feel so awful about admitting this... I haven't told anyone about how he treats me. Sometimes he can be sweet, but its very rare. We have so much in common, and we talk all the time... Its just that... I rarely feel good about him. And I can't /stop/ liking him because there was a time when I was crazy for him.

I need help... He has the power right now, and every time I do something that might be annoying or something he gives me this weird look as if he's too cool for me and it hurts.

i had the same problem but he acted really nice then totally embarrassed me infront of everyone at lunch ....sigh

[_MaddieRose_]

I haven't posted here in a while...

I thought I could handle this on my own but I need help now guys


I've been liking this guy since about the fourth week of school, and he's semi popular. I think he knows I like him. At first, it seemed he liked me, because we barely spoke and I wasn't annoying. But as time went on, he started joking about my insecurities and spoke to other girls and ignored me and such.

Well, today, this girl that I think he likes came into our exploratory because her teacher had to go to a meeting and couldn't watch his class so they split. Well, he usually sits by me but today he got up and moved over to her. He talked to her the whole time, and it hurt. And then, my friend sent him this inappropriate text that she saw on tumblr and he got it and she laughed and thought it was funny because she doesn't like him, but now it looks like I like him in a weird way and I don't and ugh

this is really complicated I know. I need to stop liking him because nothing good comes out of it, but I can't stop liking him because my heart keeps thinking there's a chance. But there isnt. Not one chance, because he can get any girls and he wouldn't choose me, the annoying weird girl. He makes fun of me all the time, and then says he's joking or something. He always tells me to shut up and calls me names but I just shrug it off because I remember the good in him when we first met. I feel so awful about admitting this... I haven't told anyone about how he treats me. Sometimes he can be sweet, but its very rare. We have so much in common, and we talk all the time... Its just that... I rarely feel good about him. And I can't /stop/ liking him because there was a time when I was crazy for him.

I need help... He has the power right now, and every time I do something that might be annoying or something he gives me this weird look as if he's too cool for me and it hurts.

I hear ya and feel really bad for you. Even though this is very hard you should tell him how you really feel and don't be afraid to call him a jerk because he deserves it for playing with your feelings like that.

[ScarWitch]

Thanks for answering, I realize I had quite a list. xD
I don't know your age but I'm guessing a teenager; in that case I guess I can understand two weeks feeling like a long time for him to not meet your people since they are who you live with. I didn't date until college so I can't entirely relate there, so it's more normal for me to be with a guy a couple months or more before introducing him to my family.

As for the rest, sounds like so far so good. It's only been a couple weeks though so just see how it goes! My guy will be meeting my family at Christmas. Eep. So I know how you feel. My ex was terrible on paper (when it comes to education, career, living situation, habits, etc) and I knew my mom wouldn't like him but she was still civil. On the other hand, I also do know what it's like to see someone actually make changes for the better, as well (though it certainly wasn't the ex).

My parents are really protective and old fashioned so they have to meet him before we can go on any real dates (besides football games after school and such).

Yeah, we were flirting for quite a while before we actually started dating. His dad had to give him the okay (due to the incident years before) and make sure I was a good girl with no bad record. His father finally relented the day before Halloween, so it's all good. Christmas is a good time to have people meet though, usually there is a bit more cheer in the air.

Anyways, thanks for talking!

[the batter]

mom banned me from talking to my girlfriend because they got in an argument..

[diana,]

Okay, so there are two guys... Let's just say this.

Okay. There are these two guys.. I really like one of them, but I actually think he likes one of my good friends. And then there's another guy who I think likes me, but I just don't like him back.. In fact, most of the time I hate him. A lot. So I don't know what to do... I'm going away really soon, and school's about to break up as well.. So yeah. Any advice? :c

[imp.]

guys how do you know if a guy is into you!?!?

I have a crush who knows i like him (BY COMPLETE ACCIDENT!) and evertime i walk past him we both are quiet and start talking to our friends once gone, what does this mean!?!?