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[raezel]

so i think im lucky to just have 1 guy ...( cause i think im kinda ugly i guess)
but i found out so many people like me ....how do i tell them i have somone .....but cant prove it cause its long distnce .....help me

first off, i can assure you, you're not ugly at all. so please don't think that! 8(
also, i kind of have been in your shoes before. (i've been in a long distance relationship for over a year now)
i had a few people admit to liking me, and i had to tell them i was taken, but of course since it's long distance it's hard to explain.
honestly, just say that you're taken and tell them you already have someone! if they ask who they are, you can either say that it's a long distance thing or choose not to respond at all. (you don't have to prove anything about who you're dating, if they can't take that you're taken as an answer, that's their problem.)

when i first started telling people i was in a long distance relationship, i expected awful, nasty reactions to it, but surprisingly quite a few people just accepted it and didn't make a fuss about it. it's becoming a more common thing to witness, so don't think that saying you're in a long distance relationship will automatically make them flip out. it's always a possibility, yes, but there's some people that know what they are and may have been in one themselves at one point, and will take it with ease.

[claws990p]

so i think im lucky to just have 1 guy ...( cause i think im kinda ugly i guess)
but i found out so many people like me ....how do i tell them i have somone .....but cant prove it cause its long distnce .....help me

first off, i can assure you, you're not ugly at all. so please don't think that! 8(
also, i kind of have been in your shoes before. (i've been in a long distance relationship for over a year now)
i had a few people admit to liking me, and i had to tell them i was taken, but of course since it's long distance it's hard to explain.
honestly, just say that you're taken and tell them you already have someone! if they ask who they are, you can either say that it's a long distance thing or choose not to respond at all. (you don't have to prove anything about who you're dating, if they can't take that you're taken as an answer, that's their problem.)

when i first started telling people i was in a long distance relationship, i expected awful, nasty reactions to it, but surprisingly quite a few people just accepted it and didn't make a fuss about it. it's becoming a more common thing to witness, so don't think that saying you're in a long distance relationship will automatically make them flip out. it's always a possibility, yes, but there's some people that know what they are and may have been in one themselves at one point, and will take it with ease.

thanks ....hope it works

[raezel]

so i think im lucky to just have 1 guy ...( cause i think im kinda ugly i guess)
but i found out so many people like me ....how do i tell them i have somone .....but cant prove it cause its long distnce .....help me

first off, i can assure you, you're not ugly at all. so please don't think that! 8(
also, i kind of have been in your shoes before. (i've been in a long distance relationship for over a year now)
i had a few people admit to liking me, and i had to tell them i was taken, but of course since it's long distance it's hard to explain.
honestly, just say that you're taken and tell them you already have someone! if they ask who they are, you can either say that it's a long distance thing or choose not to respond at all. (you don't have to prove anything about who you're dating, if they can't take that you're taken as an answer, that's their problem.)

when i first started telling people i was in a long distance relationship, i expected awful, nasty reactions to it, but surprisingly quite a few people just accepted it and didn't make a fuss about it. it's becoming a more common thing to witness, so don't think that saying you're in a long distance relationship will automatically make them flip out. it's always a possibility, yes, but there's some people that know what they are and may have been in one themselves at one point, and will take it with ease.

thanks ....hope it works

not a problem! good luck. 8)

[kafka]

pretty nervous right now, any advice appreciated!

I'll start from a few weeks ago, the nights of our school production. I was backstage crew (set guard), and this really cute guy (M) was in charge of props. My friends and I had always discussed how he was pretty good-looking throughout the year in a joking none-of-us-actually-like-him way. M is the class councillor of my best friend's class, and since I'm nearly always personality first, I never took interested in him. We were working pretty close for the production, I actually liked his personality and started crushing on him.

Recently, a guy (R) I had known since primary school added me on Facebook. He also worked alongside us as backstage crew, and after the final show he kept messaging me, asking me who I liked. Apparently, he's really interested in everyone's crushes, and literally his whole class trusts him with this stuff. In the end, I was tired of bottling everything up, so we agreed on a trade. He told me his crush, and I told him mine. The funny thing is, as soon as I told him, he said "I knew it" and "it was just instinct".

But anyways, the school formal is coming up in four weeks. I'm also a class councillor and the student council gets to plan and pull off the whole thing. To be honest, I really want to ask M, even if it's a casual thing. R has turned into my self-proclaimed wingman [click] [click] [click].

My main fears are that M doesn't notice me at all, making it too awkward to say yes to someone who you don't know, and that I'm going to screw up since I've never seriously asked someone "out" before. I'm hopefully doing it next week so M has time to think about it. My plan is to ask if he's going to the formal, and if he:
a] says yes, I ask who with. If he says noone, then I ask him to go with me.
b] says no, I ask him anyway.

Am I going about this the right way? What do you think M would say? Is R right in trying to help me? How do I combat my shyness and insecurities?

[HRMARCEA]

riptide;
Just give it your best shot!! All I can say is, if he's not going with anyone, he might just be waiting to ask someone... YOU!!

Me...
Bah. Boys. They are all sometimes really dumb. But they are handsome and our significant others. We can't leave them alone. Oh well. Best to go on dreaming about the future.

[Starry Night]

;-; well technically I hae a "boyfriend" man...I did not expect this...well now I must explain to the other guy crushing on me that another girl REALLY likes him....and the girl who likes my "boyfriend" to chill. ^^ well yeah starry out.

[SakuraNinja]

so i like this guy and, i think he just broke up with his girlfriend because he's gay and I've like him before and after he got a girlfriend. I put little bags of treats into his locker when nobodies looking but, he doesn't know who they're from . I've been meaning to tell him that i'm bisexual and that i love him but i just can't do it. i like him because reminds me of my dad, he makes me feel protected, he plays sports, is really active, tall, and is just so cute when he's upset . Though, there are other things like how he talks so much that he gets in trouble with his teachers in chemistry . i'm just so scared that he won't like me or he likes someone else. if any body has advise i'll be glade to use it

[.rin okumura.]

Okay so I have a crush on this guy (Let's call him T) and I have liked him for a while. Now T is very athletic and plays football, wrestling, basketball and track. He also is in choir and band. Now here is the crazy part. So technically we are the same age, but because his parents held him back a year because that's what the state said was best to do, he is a grade lower than me. He and I both know each other well since we have homeroom together and I was his wrestling manager last year we get along pretty well. The problem is I have no idea how to talk to him even though we have some things in common but I just don't know how to get a convo started and keep it going.... Advice?

[ayeo]

Reply to post above, codeword: O

You should be confident and believe in yourself. You always need to know that it is not important what others think, and when they say that O is not so attractive, it only matters what you think of him to you. It usually comes across as cute, so I suppose he wouldn't be so weirded out, guys don't usually get weirded out. In. The worst case he'd just ignore it.
Have you spoken to him??
How does he act around you??

You shouldn't feel so pressured about it, nor should you overthink it, it's a whole natural thing that comes with everything, and even if he finds out, so what? It can only be good for you. If he doesn't like you back, you have more time to get over him. But if he likes you back then you have a huge chance and you would get what you possibly wanted.

You should be confident around him, because guys like confident girls, who can stand for themself. Then they can see along with your many qualities also that you can be brave enough to say your feelings out. It's much easier once you've told a person you like them.
If he doesn't like you when you come into class, the only thing that you can let him do is just lightly poke your heart.
Show him you're better then that if he infact ends up being one of those guys.

thank you so much for responding! c:

anyways, I have yet to meet him face to face, since we've never really seen each other around. Plus, he goes to a different school then me and so Its kind of hard because I don't think he's really acknowledged my presence before? I mean, I've had a conversation with him over the phone, and he was really sweet and kind.

and from what I've heard, hes also super playful and really chill.

My friends know thats the kind of guy im into. I love playful relationships, where we can goof around and make fun of each other without hurting anyones feelings. or we can just cuddle for long periods of time and watch movies together.

What you said about guys thinking its cute relieved a huge weight on my shoulder. I know that at the high school Im currently attending, the kid that sits beside me in chemistry also knows O. I've brought him up in a conversation with the guy that sits infront of me, and I believe the kid I spoke of before over heard it. I didn't make any comments though, I just asked if my friend knew him or not.

two days later I found out that this Kid, (I'll call him J) or J, plays on the same hockey team as O. I was kind of scared that J told O, but the only reason why I was scared was because J is known to twist storys around to make them more ... um. Im not sure what the right word would be, but I'll just say "Interesting."

But anyways, Im generally a confident girl, but when it comes to guys, I completely shut down and turn into this really shy mess. I've been told by a lot of my male friends that guys find it cute, but others might not, since -like you said- they like girls who can stick up for themselves.

I can do that, its just theres something about a boy being in my presence that really screws with my brain. Im so used to hanging around mainly girls, and talking with them, that I don't know how to start up a conversation with a guy. Im sure its super easy, but if you're like me, then you would understand how TERRIFIED I am to say the wrong thing.

Especially to O, since he's obviously a guy I really like.

haha, Its kind of a sucky trait to have, I guess.

and by 'lightly poke your heart', may I ask what exactly you mean? c:
also, thanks to your advice, I feel more confident about O.

When I end up switching high schools, and If I end up in one of his classes - I'll try to be a little more talkative. Show him that Im putting myself out there, and that maybe one day he'll put the effort in to starting a conversation with me?

haha, a girl can only wish, right?

although I have one more question.
now like I mentioned before, Im usually really shy around guys (except for my guy friends, of course) and I was wondering - how can I get over that? I want to be able to go into my new school (his school) knowing if I wanted to chat with O, I can do it and not make a huge fool out of myself? xD

[surfiez]

Does anyone have that one crush who makes you feel… just… ahh… /)^~^(\ literally my life and I think he might like me back because he always gives me his waves and rides behind me when we surf and he always high fives me and is really nice. I mean idk if he likes me or not… he came to a surf contest for me and he gave his friend a strange smile when we went on the same wave… any opinions?