The Love Doctors <3 Advice for Your Love Life! (V.2)

[Mysterious_Viking]

Thanks. I have a few classes with him, so I can't just stay away from him. Someone one time asked me if I still like him and I said no… but I feel extremely guilty now because I hate lying… and what if it was the wrong choice…?
Anyway, I almost feel like I just want to impress him in any way I possibly can. While this is good in some aspects, like how I'm suddenly trying a whole lot harder to do really amazing on projects, there are also bad aspects. He curses a lot, and I've noticed that lately I have begun to curse like a sailor, really often (except for in class), and my friends are all blaming my liking him. While I personally have no problem with curse words, I know there are lots of people that do, and I think it is just a terrible habit to get into. I know I should just be myself, but I feel, for some reason, that it isn't enough.
Anyway, there is something about all that arguing that… I don't know… I just love to argue, I guess. I love debating, and I remember last year, I think we both kind of found it amusing, in a way, that we would always argue with each other.
And that's another thing… I don't know whether I want to avoid him or not… in a way, I wish there was a way to force myself to never be around him again… yet… in another way I want him to be around…
And like I said before, I don't know if he has a girlfriend or not. While I have never been in a relationship before, I think he has been in at least a couple, and I'm not sure if he is in one right now. I just don't think it would feel right for me to like someone that already has a girlfriend.
All in all, thanks for the advice, but I was wondering, do you think it seems like it might be real love or just teenage hormones going nuts? (even though that sounds kind of cheesy…)

I think since you two don't have a lot in common and he doesn't like you back, I'd say it's hormones and you're attracted to the badboys like a lot of people. It's perfectly normal.

First, find out if he has a girlfriend. If he doesn't, then work on trying to be his friend. Help him out with homework or something that you think he'll appreciate. Once you're his friend, you should hint him you like him. Then if all goes well and he likes you, you two should be together. Just don't tell your parents about him until you're sure you want to be in the relationship with him. If things don't work out, and they probably won't considering how little teenage relationships last, then they'll get worked up over nothing.

[Celeritas~]

I think since you two don't have a lot in common and he doesn't like you back, I'd say it's hormones and you're attracted to the badboys like a lot of people. It's perfectly normal.

First, find out if he has a girlfriend. If he doesn't, then work on trying to be his friend. Help him out with homework or something that you think he'll appreciate. Once you're his friend, you should hint him you like him. Then if all goes well and he likes you, you two should be together. Just don't tell your parents about him until you're sure you want to be in the relationship with him. If things don't work out, and they probably won't considering how little teenage relationships last, then they'll get worked up over nothing.

I wouldn't necessarily say that we have nothing in common; I mean, we are both in the IB program, so we're pretty serious about school complete nerds, and I think he might actually be smarter than I am, so helping him with his homework certainly won't work.
Anyway, I think I'll try to utilize your advice to the best of my abilities. Thank you so much!

[kirishima]

Okay... big problem.
There's this guy... well, we were together for almost a year, but we didn't do too much together... Anyway, he plays in our school band. Percussion. And so do I... and three others of my friends. All five of us used to always hang out last year.

But, anyway, now... we 'broke up' because of all different reasons and it's been 1... 2... 3 months. I try to forget it all but I almost always see him every day. And I can't help it - it's not my fault - but I think about it... I think about him, and me, and what I did wrong... I think about it every day. To everyone else but one of my closest friends, they think that I don't care anymore. They have no clue what I'm going through. And it kills me to think that he probably thinks I don't like him anymore, too, even as a friend.

But that's not true. Again, I can't help it. But I'm dying to have him back again. I regret thinking everything about 'us' was awkward and embarrassing... really, truly, though- right now, I'm going through a hard time in my life. And when I need it most, I don't have that person to comfort me and tell me they love me. He was my only boyfriend that I've ever had to do things like that, and I think that's the reason I can't let go. I want to let go, but I can't stop thinking about it.

And besides- he always hangs out with other people now. Not our old "group" of friends, barely. See? I should be mad, I should hate him. But I don't. The truth is I just want him to love me again, and tell me. I'm dying to know what he thinks about me now.
And the thought kills me that we can't be toghether for so many reasons. For certain people out there, and issues that always come up... and high school's next year. We're not going to the same one.

I know that I'll find somebody else in high school, but it's near to impossible to survive this year for me. Sorry I kind of wrote you a novel, but I can't just explain in a few simple words how much this means to me. Please tell me any and every piece of advice you can...?

[Mysterious_Viking]

Okay... big problem.
There's this guy... well, we were together for almost a year, but we didn't do too much together... Anyway, he plays in our school band. Percussion. And so do I... and three others of my friends. All five of us used to always hang out last year.

But, anyway, now... we 'broke up' because of all different reasons and it's been 1... 2... 3 months. I try to forget it all but I almost always see him every day. And I can't help it - it's not my fault - but I think about it... I think about him, and me, and what I did wrong... I think about it every day. To everyone else but one of my closest friends, they think that I don't care anymore. They have no clue what I'm going through. And it kills me to think that he probably thinks I don't like him anymore, too, even as a friend.

But that's not true. Again, I can't help it. But I'm dying to have him back again. I regret thinking everything about 'us' was awkward and embarrassing... really, truly, though- right now, I'm going through a hard time in my life. And when I need it most, I don't have that person to comfort me and tell me they love me. He was my only boyfriend that I've ever had to do things like that, and I think that's the reason I can't let go. I want to let go, but I can't stop thinking about it.

And besides- he always hangs out with other people now. Not our old "group" of friends, barely. See? I should be mad, I should hate him. But I don't. The truth is I just want him to love me again, and tell me. I'm dying to know what he thinks about me now.
And the thought kills me that we can't be toghether for so many reasons. For certain people out there, and issues that always come up... and high school's next year. We're not going to the same one.

I know that I'll find somebody else in high school, but it's near to impossible to survive this year for me. Sorry I kind of wrote you a novel, but I can't just explain in a few simple words how much this means to me. Please tell me any and every piece of advice you can...?

I think first you should try to get your old group of friends back together, or at least try to be friends with him. Show him that you still care about him as a friend, then tell him how you really feel; about you wanting him back, about you needing a shoulder to cry on... Remember, no relationship is perfect, but anybody can make the best out of any relationship. If he doesn't want you back, then you need to move on and find somebody else that will treat you how he did. There's nothing you can do to change his mind if he doesn't like you.

Hope this helps!

[Hoot]

Okay... big problem.
There's this guy... well, we were together for almost a year, but we didn't do too much together... Anyway, he plays in our school band. Percussion. And so do I... and three others of my friends. All five of us used to always hang out last year.

But, anyway, now... we 'broke up' because of all different reasons and it's been 1... 2... 3 months. I try to forget it all but I almost always see him every day. And I can't help it - it's not my fault - but I think about it... I think about him, and me, and what I did wrong... I think about it every day. To everyone else but one of my closest friends, they think that I don't care anymore. They have no clue what I'm going through. And it kills me to think that he probably thinks I don't like him anymore, too, even as a friend.

But that's not true. Again, I can't help it. But I'm dying to have him back again. I regret thinking everything about 'us' was awkward and embarrassing... really, truly, though- right now, I'm going through a hard time in my life. And when I need it most, I don't have that person to comfort me and tell me they love me. He was my only boyfriend that I've ever had to do things like that, and I think that's the reason I can't let go. I want to let go, but I can't stop thinking about it.

And besides- he always hangs out with other people now. Not our old "group" of friends, barely. See? I should be mad, I should hate him. But I don't. The truth is I just want him to love me again, and tell me. I'm dying to know what he thinks about me now.
And the thought kills me that we can't be together for so many reasons. For certain people out there, and issues that always come up... and high school's next year. We're not going to the same one.

I know that I'll find somebody else in high school, but it's near to impossible to survive this year for me. Sorry I kind of wrote you a novel, but I can't just explain in a few simple words how much this means to me. Please tell me any and every piece of advice you can...?

Okay, first of all, you shouldn't hate anybody. Hate is not the correct term; the term that people should use is detest. It's much more effective.

And secondly, just because he's hanging out with other friends, doesn't mean he despises you as a person. Have you eve thought that maybe he feels the same as you do, but is afraid to show it? I mean, for some reason today's males are horrified at the thought of revealing their true feelings. (Stupid males.) I think you should wait until both you and him are alone, then take his hands and explain your feelings. The best part of holding hands and venting is that you don't have to look directly into each other's eyes.

And third of all, band rocks. (: I play trumpet, and my boyfriend is a percussionist.

[kirishima]

Thanks. I'll try and use your advice the best I can(:

[IzzyBee]

I've had crushes, but none of them turned out well. One guy found out I liked him and never talked to me..Ever..Another guy, Ryan we were friends for a long time, until he found out I liked him and he turned his back on me and said mean stuff about me behind my back. Kaleb, we are still friends but we haven't seen each other for a long time, since like June. It's not easy anymore, I'm homeschooled and to have friends that want me to come back to public school, and Kaleb misses me a lot.. Me and Kaleb have been through a lot as friends, rumors, fights with his friends, etc.. I was considered the peacekeeper in his life, the one that had to make his problems dissapear... Ahh...But he's just a friend now. I think I'll be done with crushes until I get old enough, maybe I'll go back for 9th grade..Who knows..

I'm in 8th grade now, last year too much happened..

[Supernuk]

ok im tired of this...
it started when i met him. we became best friends and did everything together. everyone said we would make the best couple ever, i mean, 2 emo dorks/ Star Wars geeks are supposed to be with each other they said. but he loved my best friend but she was a jerk and got with him, then dumped him. all thru that time, i talked to him and helped him. he told me after she dumped him that i was his best friend and that he loved me and would do anything for me.

then i fell in love with him and told him. i thought that he liked me back. he was acting kinda weird to me, like if he liked me. but he told me he didnt at all. then he started hanging with the quote on quote "cool people" at our skool. hes a super cool guy, dont get me wrong, but he was cool cause he was a geek and he didnt care what people thought of him. now he's all wanna-be cool, turned into a complete jerk, he's player-ish and says all this bad stuff to me when he's with them. we still text, laugh, and such, but when we're with them its like he hates me. we're still friends but he denies the fact that he ever told me that we were best friends and that he loved me (as a friend).

he says he just wants a girl that is like him and likes him for who he is not for what he looks like (hes a super cute bass player btw). but i asked if im his "dream girl" but he says no. we have almost EVERYTHING in common and i love him for who he is. he still says that im not even close to his type of girl. and i for some reason i still love him. so my question is, how can i handle this? some tell me i should forget him and some tell me to still try. what should i do?

[correlate.]

Oh, wow. I love this thread; it's a great idea!

Well, as pretty much all the other people have said, I like this guy. Let me start off by saying he's one of the smartest people I know, a great athlete, and is adorable. But he's also mean, annoying, oblivious, and, well... Ian.
I've liked him for the longest time; since January of last year when we sat by each other in Science. (the longest time I've ever liked someone that much)
At the end of the year, my friend told him that I liked him, and he said he didn't like me, probably only as a not-so-close friend. But, despite this, I was not deterred. I don't like him nearly as much, and I don't blush bright red when I see him or steal his stuff anymore, of course. I've gotten more mature. (you'd only hope )
Right now, I'm trying to become a friend of his. Only then will I...you know.

What should I do to accomplish this?

[Spotedleaf5]

Just the place I needed!

Okay so I used to hang out with these really inappropriate people. They swore and talked about, {shudder} well you know.... bad stuff.

So the boy I like hangs out with them and he used to ask me "how are you doing?" like twice a day when I hung out with them. Now he asks me like once a week. I hate those people but love him. I am being pulled two ways. We are... young, so I don't want to freak him out incase he is just being polite. But even more we were at this retreat for my church and he asked me how I was doing and everyone was like "Ooh, T likes S, T likes S." And he just blushed and I don't know if he knew I heard. I hope he does like me and I am not overreacting. So I need adult advice, how should I handle this?


Oh T how could you do this to me?