The Love Doctors <3 Advice for Your Love Life! (V.2)

[Cirque]

Okayy, so I like this guy, and I think he likes me, too, but...
1. He just broke up with his previous girlfriend about a month ago, how long should I wait to ask him out if I get up the courage to do so?
2. One of my good friends really, really likes him, but he doesn't like her, so..I'm kinda scared of ruining my friendship with her.

And, there are a few guys who like me, but I don't like them like that...I'm friends with them, but is there a way I should gently act uninterested?

1. Whenever he seems ready for another girlfriend. If you can tell he's not over his ex-girlfriend, then wait. All you can do is be there for him as a friend, and then when he's ready, you can be there for him as his girlfriend.

2. Find out if your crush likes your friend. If he says no, or you already know, gently tell her before she has to go through finding out you two are dating. She may be over him by then. If you do tell her, try not to be too sudden. If you blurt it all out at once, it's harder to take in. Take it slow and say something like, "I talked to *his name here* the other day. Sorry, but he said he doesn't like you that way." If she doesn't want him knowing she likes him, add, "I didn't tell him you liked him, just asked if he liked you." Then all you can do is be there for her. She'll thank you later for being a friend when she needed it.

3. If you know for sure you don't like them, then tell them. It's best they find out from you rather than a friend. Like your friend, don't blurt it out all at once. When they're flirting, showing off, or whatever they do that shows you they like you, say when nobody who cares is around, "Sorry, but I like you as a friend, not that way. I like somebody else." They'll be upset, but hopefully you all can stay friends.

Thanks for the advice. :3
I'll definitely try those things and hopefully it'll work out <33

[Mysterious_Viking]

i dont know if i shoud ask Ray out <3 i really like him! and he is like staring big time now ( im not really speical ordeveloped- if you know what i mean.....) and all my friends say its really obious that he likes me! shaould I ask him, or should i wait until he askes me? help please!

i have a little problem. i like these two boys (Ray & Adam ) i think they both like me but im not sure! in science i catch ray looking at me & i sit next to Adam in science . <------- he had on axe today:D(stakerish.....but we were doing an experiment! :[])
and latley, well he's been kinda.....snappy, i guess .but me & Adam are in the same homeroom and whenever we have projects, he's the first one to show me his project ♥♥. he really trusts my oppinon & i'm afraid to ask him out because i dont want to ruin a grate friendship!D: and, at the end of last year, he amitted that he liked me at the beggining! D':


now, Ray's problem.
i like him a lot, but, im torn between the two. he's one of my best guy friends, and as i said before, im afraid to ruin a wonderful friendship D: and, i catch him staring a lot ♥♥ (Ray's tall, brown eyes & short hair..........♥♥ *sigh* & Adam's like my height (5' 4.5") kind long curly brown hair.................borown eyes♥♥*sighs as i imagine them*)

x_____________x its sooo stresful! all my friends say to go wit Adam, but i dont know!!!!! D':

First off, if I were you, I'd go with Adam. It sounds like you and Ray are really good friends, and a big break up would probably ruin your friendship. Second, you should let Adam ask you out, but you should hint him. One way to hint him would be smiling and saying hi whenever you see him. It'll show him that you notice him, and he'll be more likely to ask you out.

[Hoot]

Bookymarking.

[Mysterious_Viking]

Bump!

[Celeritas~]

Okay. I'm pretty messed up.
So, last year, I realized I liked this guy… my first crush ever…
And, well, I kind of happen to hate him also…
So, anyway, on the last day of school last year, I erm… told him that I like him. And that went over like a lead balloon, because toward the beginning of the school year, he told a bunch of his friends that I like him. So, it seems like I'd think "god, what a jerk," and be on my way, no? But it isn't that simple…
I still like him and hate him, but I wish I didn't. I have tried several times to just not like him anymore, but it seems like my attempts are futile, and that… perhaps I am starting to like this kid even more.
And I've never had a boyfriend before, so I don't plan on asking him out or anything, seeing as:
a) my mom would kill me
b) I am not sure if he has a girlfriend/likes someone or not, because I am not his friend, nor am I the stalker-ish sort of person that needs to know EVERYTHING about their crush.
c) even if both other situations were not to be considered, I am not pretty at all, and we argue so much, he probably hates me.

I could really use advice as to what exactly I should do in this situation. I am not the type of girl that can't function properly around him; I mean, I have held several conversations with him this year about various things relating to stuff we have had to do in class (and most of those were us arguing over anything and everything humanly possible.), and I have yet to be all freakish around him (other than that time I told him I like him…that was pretty freakish…). But I really need advice as to how to deal with this, because it seems like this little crush is getting out of control, and it is no longer just a little crush; I think I might love him, but I'm not sure…

[Mysterious_Viking]

Okay. I'm pretty messed up.
So, last year, I realized I liked this guy… my first crush ever…
And, well, I kind of happen to hate him also…
So, anyway, on the last day of school last year, I erm… told him that I like him. And that went over like a lead balloon, because toward the beginning of the school year, he told a bunch of his friends that I like him. So, it seems like I'd think "god, what a jerk," and be on my way, no? But it isn't that simple…
I still like him and hate him, but I wish I didn't. I have tried several times to just not like him anymore, but it seems like my attempts are futile, and that… perhaps I am starting to like this kid even more.
And I've never had a boyfriend before, so I don't plan on asking him out or anything, seeing as:
a) my mom would kill me
b) I am not sure if he has a girlfriend/likes someone or not, because I am not his friend, nor am I the stalker-ish sort of person that needs to know EVERYTHING about their crush.
c) even if both other situations were not to be considered, I am not pretty at all, and we argue so much, he probably hates me.

I could really use advice as to what exactly I should do in this situation. I am not the type of girl that can't function properly around him; I mean, I have held several conversations with him this year about various things relating to stuff we have had to do in class (and most of those were us arguing over anything and everything humanly possible.), and I have yet to be all freakish around him (other than that time I told him I like him…that was pretty freakish…). But I really need advice as to how to deal with this, because it seems like this little crush is getting out of control, and it is no longer just a little crush; I think I might love him, but I'm not sure…

If you still want to like him...

Then stay away from him for a while so you can think about what to do without you falling for him harder or you two arguing. Don't try to avoid him, because that will start rumors about why you're trying to avoid him. Just ignore him unless you have to talk to him. Staying away from him should either make you miss him, so you know you really like him, or you'll feel happier, so you know you're better off without him.

If you want to get over him...

Try to avoid him, and if people ask you why, just say that he annoys you. There will probably be few rumors, but just say they aren't true and you're really avoiding him because he annoys you. If he asks you why you're avoiding him, say he annoys you and walk away. If he tries to follow, ignore him and keep walking.

If you don't know what to do...

Do a combination of the two. Avoid him and use he annoys you as an excuse, but only until you figure things out. If he asks you if you like him, say you don't. Then if you decide that you do want to like him, hint him. Smile when you see each other, say hi... Act like friends. If you decide you don't want to like him, then you already told him you don't like him and things should clear up.

[Hoot]

Okay, you guys, I know I'm like a part-time doctor here, but I could really use you guys' advice. Me and Tyler (my boyfriend, the original Hoot) have been fighting lately, and I'm afraid he wants to break up. And I know it sounds horribly cliche, but I really do love him. What should I do to make sure that we stay together???

[Mysterious_Viking]

Okay, you guys, I know I'm like a part-time doctor here, but I could really use you guys' advice. Me and Tyler (my boyfriend, the original Hoot) have been fighting lately, and I'm afraid he wants to break up. And I know it sounds horribly cliche, but I really do love him. What should I do to make sure that we stay together???

I think you should apologize for whatever you did/didn't do. Explain to him that you don't want to fight and you love him (if you two are that far into the relationship,) and you don't want to lose him from the fight. (Sorry this advice is so short, I can't really think of anything else.)

[Hoot]

I think you should apologize for whatever you did/didn't do. Explain to him that you don't want to fight and you love him (if you two are that far into the relationship,) and you don't want to lose him from the fight. (Sorry this advice is so short, I can't really think of anything else.)

It's fine. We made up, at school. So it's all good. (: It turns out, it was all a big misunderstanding.

[Celeritas~]

Okay. I'm pretty messed up.
So, last year, I realized I liked this guy… my first crush ever…
And, well, I kind of happen to hate him also…
So, anyway, on the last day of school last year, I erm… told him that I like him. And that went over like a lead balloon, because toward the beginning of the school year, he told a bunch of his friends that I like him. So, it seems like I'd think "god, what a jerk," and be on my way, no? But it isn't that simple…
I still like him and hate him, but I wish I didn't. I have tried several times to just not like him anymore, but it seems like my attempts are futile, and that… perhaps I am starting to like this kid even more.
And I've never had a boyfriend before, so I don't plan on asking him out or anything, seeing as:
a) my mom would kill me
b) I am not sure if he has a girlfriend/likes someone or not, because I am not his friend, nor am I the stalker-ish sort of person that needs to know EVERYTHING about their crush.
c) even if both other situations were not to be considered, I am not pretty at all, and we argue so much, he probably hates me.

I could really use advice as to what exactly I should do in this situation. I am not the type of girl that can't function properly around him; I mean, I have held several conversations with him this year about various things relating to stuff we have had to do in class (and most of those were us arguing over anything and everything humanly possible.), and I have yet to be all freakish around him (other than that time I told him I like him…that was pretty freakish…). But I really need advice as to how to deal with this, because it seems like this little crush is getting out of control, and it is no longer just a little crush; I think I might love him, but I'm not sure…

If you still want to like him...

Then stay away from him for a while so you can think about what to do without you falling for him harder or you two arguing. Don't try to avoid him, because that will start rumors about why you're trying to avoid him. Just ignore him unless you have to talk to him. Staying away from him should either make you miss him, so you know you really like him, or you'll feel happier, so you know you're better off without him.

If you want to get over him...

Try to avoid him, and if people ask you why, just say that he annoys you. There will probably be few rumors, but just say they aren't true and you're really avoiding him because he annoys you. If he asks you why you're avoiding him, say he annoys you and walk away. If he tries to follow, ignore him and keep walking.

If you don't know what to do...

Do a combination of the two. Avoid him and use he annoys you as an excuse, but only until you figure things out. If he asks you if you like him, say you don't. Then if you decide that you do want to like him, hint him. Smile when you see each other, say hi... Act like friends. If you decide you don't want to like him, then you already told him you don't like him and things should clear up.

Thanks. I have a few classes with him, so I can't just stay away from him. Someone one time asked me if I still like him and I said no… but I feel extremely guilty now because I hate lying… and what if it was the wrong choice…?
Anyway, I almost feel like I just want to impress him in any way I possibly can. While this is good in some aspects, like how I'm suddenly trying a whole lot harder to do really amazing on projects, there are also bad aspects. He curses a lot, and I've noticed that lately I have begun to curse like a sailor, really often (except for in class), and my friends are all blaming my liking him. While I personally have no problem with curse words, I know there are lots of people that do, and I think it is just a terrible habit to get into. I know I should just be myself, but I feel, for some reason, that it isn't enough.
Anyway, there is something about all that arguing that… I don't know… I just love to argue, I guess. I love debating, and I remember last year, I think we both kind of found it amusing, in a way, that we would always argue with each other.
And that's another thing… I don't know whether I want to avoid him or not… in a way, I wish there was a way to force myself to never be around him again… yet… in another way I want him to be around…
And like I said before, I don't know if he has a girlfriend or not. While I have never been in a relationship before, I think he has been in at least a couple, and I'm not sure if he is in one right now. I just don't think it would feel right for me to like someone that already has a girlfriend.
All in all, thanks for the advice, but I was wondering, do you think it seems like it might be real love or just teenage hormones going nuts? (even though that sounds kind of cheesy…)