Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[DraconisSumeris]

Owo

Ok, so ive liked this one dude in my marching band, ill call him timpani because thats his main instrament.
But, yea, we are really good friends. He is a year or so older then me, but a junior while im a freshie. I really like him, and i think he might like me too, because my friend bre, invited me and him, and a couple other people to her birthday party. In the beginning, he took his jacket off and gave it to bre. Bre didnt want it so i put it on, and kept it on for the rest of the night, he didnt mention anything, later on, we where both 'trapped' on her trampoline as he put it. So after we both are off the thing everyone decides to go back in, and i ended up twisting my ankle. By the time i made it to a couch, because no one was listening to me when i asked them to quit jostling my ankle, and took off my sock he was right next to me, asking if i was ok, and he stayed witg me untill i had to go home. And when jordan made a rude comment about how she could use her broken arm when she broke it, Timpani said "i would like to twist her ankle until she cant walk on it and see how she likes it."

So, i want to ask him out, but i have no clue what to say. Ive never asked anyone out before.

[pizzas and scream]

Well I think it's entirely possible to end up with a happy medium-? As in, not everyone needs to start dating in 5th grade but at the same time I completely understand worrying as you get older that you missed your window of opportunity, your chance to step into the dating pool. I didn't date until college which was well past my friends but I still felt young enough that it wasn't awkward. Well, my incompetence was awkward and there were signals I should've picked up on, but my lack of experience was generally fine. There can be a lot of anxiety over timing and experiences. Did I wait long enough? If I don't do it now, will I have another opportunity? Now that I'm older, is it weird to be just starting? Now that I'm older, has the game changed?

yeah but having the experance of a 2 month old(i over exaderate) maybe if I look and act cute enough and don't go into spirals of "anxiety" and ugly manias of angry tears(thank you medication) it's going to be "better"?

not exactly that I would need a guy version of "manic Pixy dream girl"(although that is a questionable idea for a stomach churning romcom full of artifical sweetner you will get some kind of cancer, or i not just hope someone writes a love story with mentalillness, developmental delays as the stuggle. or the genderbent version of "40 year old Virgin" which is almost what "Love is Silver/Golden" would be, only the woman is pretty much a type of person I lack the descriptive words for it due to a shallow vocabulary, but anything but love shy))

is it possible to have a responsible manchild? do they make "decent" romantic prospects

[thunderofthedrum]

I'm not saying it'd get 'better'. But first and foremost we have to be okay with ourselves before we can expect someone else to like us. That's not to say it can't happen or doesn't. There are plenty of cases of someone else seeing in you what you couldn't. I've experienced it and many others, and at least in my case it definitely helped me as a person to hear that positivity and slowly be able to feel a little more confidence in myself.

Also I think there's just often a sort of desperation to have the role filled of 'significant other', and that either we let our standards slip because we just want ANYONE to fill that spot, or we are so preoccupied finding someone that fits such an exhaustive list of criteria that we pass up many other would-be opportunities. I really like someone. Is he super hot? No. Does he have perfect vision? No. Is he that model height of 6'? No. Is he set up to make a lot of money in his career? No. Does he handle every situation well? No. The list goes on. But looking at each of those things, it's still that we fit together, we get each other's humor, he is taller than me, stronger than me, he is smart and hard working. I didn't initially view him as a possibility but I feel like I gave him a chance and kept talking to him and yeah, now I have feelings for him. I'm not saying go after someone you despise or feel disgusted by, but if you keep coming up with no results, then change your strategy.

[Aaron✦]

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Also I think there's just often a sort of desperation to have the roll filled of 'significant other', and that either we let our standards slip because we just want ANYONE to fill that spot, or we are so preoccupied finding someone that fits such an exhaustive list of criteria that we pass up many other would-be opportunities.
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☁ Randomly popping in to say I agree with this, and I think it's something that more people should think about.
Become less occupied finding "The One", and they will find you. Probably when you least expect it, possibly when you need it most, and when it happens I guarantee it will feel a lot easier ^^

[greysilence]

So this boy and I have been friends since junior high. We've been talking the past couple months, and we went to homecoming in September. It was definitely the best dance I've been to yet. Today he finally asked me to be his girlfriend. ^-^ Not that significant or interesting for everyone, but I'm just kind of really happy.

[Oh My Mercie]

Seems I may need help and advice guys... I havent heard from my boyfriend since last friday and we have never fought or had a difference. I have sent fb messages over the last 4 days now and see he has seen them all but has not replied... I see him active on the forum we share and i tried tok message him through there... But recieved nol reply... I just dont understand... I have never been left on my own so long and its a long distance relationship where contact online is all we have...
Anyone know what to do or what could be up???

[global concepts]

So this boy and I have been friends since junior high. We've been talking the past couple months, and we went to homecoming in September. It was definitely the best dance I've been to yet. Today he finally asked me to be his girlfriend. ^-^ Not that significant or interesting for everyone, but I'm just kind of really happy.

oh my gosh that is so cute! c: it always makes my day reading happy stories ah. c:

[global concepts]

Seems I may need help and advice guys... I havent heard from my boyfriend since last friday and we have never fought or had a difference. I have sent fb messages over the last 4 days now and see he has seen them all but has not replied... I see him active on the forum we share and i tried tok message him through there... But recieved nol reply... I just dont understand... I have never been left on my own so long and its a long distance relationship where contact online is all we have...
Anyone know what to do or what could be up???

LDR's are hard ... these are just assumptions but he could be busy, or maybe he got his devices taken away and it isn't him reading the messages ... or maybe he just wants some space at the moment. do you guys text? you could always try calling him, etc. i hope everything turns out okay.

[claws990p]

so i have always been a loner ..like 4 to 9 friends then one day that person i needed came now he says he loves me and i love him but im worried he could be with other girls due to he out of state

[greysilence]

Seems I may need help and advice guys... I havent heard from my boyfriend since last friday and we have never fought or had a difference. I have sent fb messages over the last 4 days now and see he has seen them all but has not replied... I see him active on the forum we share and i tried tok message him through there... But recieved nol reply... I just dont understand... I have never been left on my own so long and its a long distance relationship where contact online is all we have...
Anyone know what to do or what could be up???

Honestly, I'm not too sure on this one. Long distance relationships are already tough when little communication is happening, and online communication only is a lot harder. There's not really a simple solution for this one. Maybe just leave him be for a couple days. He might be trying to break up without saying anything. He could also just be busy, not able to reply, or something could be going on. There's a lot of different possibilities on what could be going on.

So this boy and I have been friends since junior high. We've been talking the past couple months, and we went to homecoming in September. It was definitely the best dance I've been to yet. Today he finally asked me to be his girlfriend. ^-^ Not that significant or interesting for everyone, but I'm just kind of really happy.

oh my gosh that is so cute! c: it always makes my day reading happy stories ah. c:

I know, I love reading other people's stories that are happy. Especially when you can feel the excitement just through the text. :3

so i have always been a loner ..like 4 to 9 friends then one day that person i needed came now he says he loves me and i love him but im worried he could be with other girls due to he out of state

There's nothing wrong with having a minimal amount of friends. I'm like that too. That's one thing that's harder with long-distance relationships. You'll just have to trust him. If you can't do that, then just wait.