Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Siddy]

Erg I'm so happy ;v;
Yet scared at the same time- I actually just have a ray of feelings right now.
The guy I said I liked awhile back finally broke up with his gf, because they just stopped talking.
He's the most respectful guy I've ever known, we have a lot in common, and we're comfortable around each other since
we've known each other for 5 year's now. Recently my gf (best friend, don't really consider her my ex, since we dated like 14hrs...?)I will admit, I'm not over that girl yet, she was everything I ever wanted in a relationship, she is just a sweet heart <33 But I'm happy with just being friend's with her, don't know what I would do without her tbh, so if it cant be more I'm fine with that as long as shes in my life, (who is now dating my other good friend)
So, I was all upset over that, which is now slowly fading, and I just gave up on my Guy friend, he had a gf for 2yr's I wasn't gonna worry about it anymore, I gave up on it. Well~ I heard him talking to a girl, because she asked if he was dating Lauren still, (I wasnt stalking, she just shoved her way right up to us.) and he said no, I squealed inside, wanted to ask him right there, right after he said it, but I stopped myself, because I be shy ;v;
Well today I decided to ask him out, worrying and such, because I'm a very paranoid person.
he's not in the same school as me, since he's 3yrs younger, so I had to wait for him to get out before I could ask,
I drug him away from everybody, and asked him, (also adding to just ignore all this if he ended up saying no)
He blushed, I blushed, I had my hands on my face, I almost started crying, I told you I panic a lot lol.
"I don't knowww" He whined, then he looked at me, and must have seen how freaked out I was and yelled "Yes"
we didn't know what to say to each other after that- he just went home, I feel bad that I like freaked him out or something.
I'm kinda worried, I don't want us to loose our 5yr friendship because of my stupidness ;n;
What's your guy's opinions?
I don't date, so um, I'm kinda confused. ;w;
(I can give dating advice, which makes my confusion even more confusing XD)
Do you think I weirded him out? Or is this just normal???

[GIGABITE]

So I've found the recurring pattern in guys I find attractive on sight (though everyone, whether a casual friend or crush, becomes just gorgeous to me once I get to know them. Fascinating how that works, really) is....

Hoodies. Guys in hoodies.

Now that irks me, that my mind tweaks to something so simple so easily. I like being in control of my own mind, and noticing this has mildly infuriated me. Especially since I tend to gravitate to and therefore gain a stronger attachment to the people in question, only making the crush situation worse. All over a silly quirk. It has gained me some new friends, my friends JM and NX both started out as a random point of interest due to this. But, I did go through a crush stage with JM, and am currently in that phase with NX. I mean, they're amazing people, both of them, but still. JM is one of my closest friends now, even. But as good as the benefits are, the quirk is still irritating. I don't need crushes. Seriously, brain. Get your act together

On a related note... NX. Well, his friend AN found out I like him; I was relayed this information via my sister. He said to her, and I quote, "your sister is interested in (NX)"

How did he find out? I have no idea.

I've never talked to the guy, never told my sister about NX (even then... He wouldn't tell her again if she told him), and NX and I have only been around each other during school once, for 10 minutes when we walked around together. But guy-girl friendships are very common in my school. My theory is that NX mentioned something while talking to AN; and that has made me a bit nervous, and now I generally find reasons to be away from NX. Pretty easy, we don't see a lot of each other since Driver's Ed got out. It's a stupid worry, yes, but I'm now uncomfortable with the idea of my sister's weird unofficial-boyfriend knowing more about me than most of my friends do.

I want to try to get his number, but I feel awkward asking again (last time he didn't remember it) since I feel like I'm pestering him, plus, with the weird situation with AN... It brings up a lot of questions. If he knows I like NX, who knows how much NX might be saying.

Annoyed/paranoid rant over, feel free to ignore

[ProudHufflepuff]

He's having one of those nights again...but...everything was fine, he was on Skype all happy then he shut it off and was all upset and it worried me, then I thought it was okay so I was starting to relax, then I accidentally fell asleep for a bit and he got upset again....now idk if he's still awake but I won't be able to sleep well if he's not....

[Starry Night]

oyi. So. Many. Problems. In one day!!
;-; sorry to bug everyone again.

So as I said this guy asked me to the dance, I said as "friends" and so on and so forth...but it turns out that this guy, I've known him forever, actually does like me a lot...I don't particularly like him more than a friend though. I'd describe him as being "a cute jerk" he's a friend and that's really all I can see us ever being, unless he can mature a bit, but he's been really sweet to me for the last couple months and it makes me feel a little awkward. Seeing as he plays the same sport as me, is older by a year and still acts like a ten year old...and is fun to be with but with other people I don't mind being closer frinds...but friends is really the only word for it, and if he ever admitts officially that he likes me than I might have some issues.

more bad news the "friend" is hitting on this guy, hard. Flirting in all sorts of ways from the typical lending pencil, to trying to steal his Jacket. but the nice thing is he's terribly friendly about it and it's really funny how he deals with it. The whole dance thing is under radar currently, both of us being terribly awkward about it which is good since she won't decapitate me now...but the bad thing is she's debating wether to ask him to the dance or not...do you see the problem? but that's not de main issue.


The real problem is we got new seating in math, and of course the teacher put me next to my long time crush ( a guy I've liked off and on for as long as I've known him)) and well it's REALLY REALLY awkward since we've known each other for awhile, and my conversation skills suck. I'd love to talk to him, but I'm not sure how...and if he'd even be interested in talking to me. He is the type of guy that's tall, and very popular with the "upper class" girls status and grade. He plays hockey, and well in a different "social circle". I don't know how to talk to him, if he has a girlfriend already, or if he even cares that I exist. The only conversation we've had was talking about how his sister loves me since I was an assistant coach for her. He's a lot more level mannered then he was and he acts more gentlemanly, I guess you could say, around me then his social circle, from what I've picked up. But that's only math...

last thing, and fun fact(s) Through out the ages, we've been called the "should be couple" or told "we look good together" till we drastically split apart from each other in everyway. This year he picked up an again, and according to his friend I quote "He really wanted to be in the same class as me, and her" and looked at me slightly then as I continued by the guy I liked said "so you do think she'll be in next year, right?" Now their is a beginning and advanced music class, and none of his "friends" are in beginning so he's doing it for something, also the advanced group is mostly seniors so logically speaking "she" wouldn't be in their next year.

I'm probably reading into this too much, it's just stressful and confusing, so thanks for putting up with me, and ANY help is appreciated

~Starry

[Kawartsii]

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I've been recently having this tiny crush on this guy... let's call him S, and I can't help but feel really jealous when other girls flirt with him. Let's start from the beginning, shall we?

Well, S is a very popular guy... especially with the girls. I can tell from first sight when girls are flirting with him... and this makes me so jealous and annoyed, it's quite weird. I've had a crush on him for a few years now... only getting stronger this year.

Only problem is... is that he is two years younger than me, which sucks. At my age, it's labelled as "weird" if you date someone at your age. Completely understandable... but, I believe that love is love, and their is no stopping you from loving someone. But in my shoes, I would be so embarrassed is people start teasing me about it, as I have social anxiety and I worry too much about what others think of me. Also, another problem is that he goes to a different school... a boys school.

But, I swear that every time if look at S, I just want to stare at his face forever. We only see each other at our sports that I do... and that he also does. Sometimes, I catch him looking at me in the corner of my eye... but when I look at S, he awkwardly looks away. We've talked a few times, and it's always decent and quite enjoyable chats, but my feelings always get in the way. Especially when those girls flirt with him. Being honest, but any girl would kill to date him... he is absolutely gorgeous. I probably have no real chance with him... I'm not the prettiest girl in sight. There are plenty of more pretty girls than me... and no one ever wants anything to do with me.

Anyhow, is anyone can help me, that would be fantastic! Please just help me with what I should do...? I just don't even know.

you could always mentally berate yourself for the jealousy and call it unwarranted feelings of possessiveness
and beat yourself up for wanting the young pretty guy.

because you know "yearning for someone because they are pretty, that is such a sad sad thing because looks should never matter and blahblahblah I am so bad because I want someone who is young and pretty. I feel now like how they rant, how the guys only want young and pretty women, and I understand how they feel so I can't hate the guys who want that because I want the younger pretty man all to my self"

that is what I do to my head.

but your guy is popular, and you will never have him 100% to your self. and if you got him, the other girls might rip you limb from limb, or bully you relentless half to death. because their jealousy will be horrible.
and he is popular, so you can't get the satisfactions of feeling like you rescued him. there is nothing better than if a cute loner who was sad for being lonely, had the lover, two of you sweet together, and because they would be unpopular, you have them 70% to yourself because they don't have a lot of friends they should give attention to. so many bad things come of "i have a lover now, my pals are now 20% of importance and don't need all that attention,"

and this is why I will be bad at writing romantic movie scrips. because this is how I can break away from sterotype trope town.

you could try guilting your self out of a crush. if you wish to do that expermentation to yourself. and tell us how it worked

And that's what I'm so scared about. Girls can do pretty much anything when their jealous to end a relationship.
I've see it happen before... and it sure hell wasn't a pretty sight.

If I sure had more confidence in me to mentally brace myself from that possibly happening... sure. I'd give it a go. But then I would have hella trouble trying to get him at least more interested in my to ask me out. I couldn't ask a boy out, no way. Too much feelings for me to handle.

About S, he is taller than me... which makes things feel better when I think about the age difference. He's quite... grown for his age, which makes me feel more comfortable about it. But geez, your right about other girls jealousy... and it would be horrible. I'm not sure he will be alone for too long... he has like, a line of girls wanting him. Trust me, I can tell when these other girls all admire him. Probably why he went to a different school xD

Thank you for your feedback on how I should handle this. Your advice is completely true in most ways, and I guess that's how things go.

With me though, I'm not really the type of person to date. I want to wait till I'm older, out of school and more mature to reach that point in my life where I want to look into having a deep relationship with someone. Maybe, one day... I'll meet him again. But right now, everything is in a nutshell.

[tsunkinaga]

i just feel like getting this out there, but also maybe getting some advice ;w;
pretty much i have a crush, lets just call him C. ive known him for about 6 months, and we're really close, like a brother and sister, but he keeps giving me mixed signals and confusing me. another nail in the coffin is that hes 5 years older then me, and we live across the world from each other. i've asked him out before, but he never gave me a straight answer. honestly... hes a manipulator, but im able to avoid it most of the time, im just scared of what he may be planning or anything to do with him really... im not sure if his mixed signals are legit or not, i just dont know what to do. its been eating away at me ever since we became close, about 5-4 months ago, i've had a crush on him for that long. he just seems so amazing, and hes helped me through some of my darkest days.
i just dont really know what to do, i cant get this crush to go away until im older, im too hung up on him.

[pizzas and scream]

About S, he is taller than me... which makes things feel better when I think about the age difference. He's quite... grown for his age, which makes me feel more comfortable about it. But geez, your right about other girls jealousy... and it would be horrible. I'm not sure he will be alone for too long... he has like, a line of girls wanting him. Trust me, I can tell when these other girls all admire him. Probably why he went to a different school xD

I had just read a thing about mean girls and how not to raise them. a woman was saying how her daughter lost all her firends because the most desireable guy said yes to going to the 7th grade dance.
so they gave the girl the cold passive agressive treatment.
and other girls have died due to bullying over boys.

or you could fight them for him. highschool girls do that right? sabers at dawn, get the guy?
0_o

With me though, I'm not really the type of person to date. I want to wait till I'm older, out of school and more mature to reach that point in my life where I want to look into having a deep relationship with someone. Maybe, one day... I'll meet him again. But right now, everything is in a nutshell.

for my self now I think the oppsite, the younger the better so you don't look like an akward dang fool, who just ate some derpcakes of love. "oh I'll just watch tv to know how to act and learn how to have romantic feelings"

[Kawartsii]

About S, he is taller than me... which makes things feel better when I think about the age difference. He's quite... grown for his age, which makes me feel more comfortable about it. But geez, your right about other girls jealousy... and it would be horrible. I'm not sure he will be alone for too long... he has like, a line of girls wanting him. Trust me, I can tell when these other girls all admire him. Probably why he went to a different school xD

I had just read a thing about mean girls and how not to raise them. a woman was saying how her daughter lost all her firends because the most desireable guy said yes to going to the 7th grade dance.
so they gave the girl the cold passive agressive treatment.
and other girls have died due to bullying over boys.

or you could fight them for him. highschool girls do that right? sabers at dawn, get the guy?
0_o

Yeah... and it's quite sad that some girls end up all alone with no friends... just for one guy. As I said before, I'm more of the person who is going to wait till I think I am more mature enough to handle a star relationship with a guy... wait till I think about the more serious side of it.

It's just sad to see when girls fight over boys. Sometimes it can be ridiculous o ^ o

[thunderofthedrum]

About S, he is taller than me... which makes things feel better when I think about the age difference. He's quite... grown for his age, which makes me feel more comfortable about it. But geez, your right about other girls jealousy... and it would be horrible. I'm not sure he will be alone for too long... he has like, a line of girls wanting him. Trust me, I can tell when these other girls all admire him. Probably why he went to a different school xD

I had just read a thing about mean girls and how not to raise them. a woman was saying how her daughter lost all her firends because the most desireable guy said yes to going to the 7th grade dance.
so they gave the girl the cold passive agressive treatment.
and other girls have died due to bullying over boys.

or you could fight them for him. highschool girls do that right? sabers at dawn, get the guy?
0_o

Yeah... and it's quite sad that some girls end up all alone with no friends... just for one guy. As I said before, I'm more of the person who is going to wait till I think I am more mature enough to handle a star relationship with a guy... wait till I think about the more serious side of it.

It's just sad to see when girls fight over boys. Sometimes it can be ridiculous o ^ o

Well I think it's entirely possible to end up with a happy medium-? As in, not everyone needs to start dating in 5th grade but at the same time I completely understand worrying as you get older that you missed your window of opportunity, your chance to step into the dating pool. I didn't date until college which was well past my friends but I still felt young enough that it wasn't awkward. Well, my incompetence was awkward and there were signals I should've picked up on, but my lack of experience was generally fine. There can be a lot of anxiety over timing and experiences. Did I wait long enough? If I don't do it now, will I have another opportunity? Now that I'm older, is it weird to be just starting? Now that I'm older, has the game changed?

The key is finding some sort of balance, some level of contentment with yourself. I hate how complicated things can be, like the drama I hear of some people in high school. I'm so glad I never felt peer pressure like that, but it also perhaps makes me less able to relate to those who are going through such experiences. I've been fortunate in many ways, and I know many are not so fortunate. This is why, as I work this week on planning my friend's birthday (she's nearing the end of her mid-twenties), I DO feel pressure to make it special because she's always such a ridiculously good friend. v_____v

[dandelionmaze]

okay so over the summer this girl came up to my town for a week and I really really liked her and she seemed to like me and when she left we talked over facebook and long story short we're dating
but like
I'm so bad at long distance. it's way easier for me to talk to someone in person, with body language. and I really like cuddling and whatnot. which I can't have.
now I've got this commitment to her and I really do like her and she's fun to talk to, and really cute. but far away. and then there's this other person who lives closer to me, whom I see more often who is also really cute and fun to talk to. and is cuddly. which is really nice.
so I dunno what I should do. I don't want to break up with her because like I said, I really like her, but then I also kinda need that physical stuff and the in person conversation. should I just try and make it work, or ask girlfriend about an open relationship where I can cuddle with this person or WHAT?