Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[misty onyx;]

Okay guys, so I have a crush on someone of the same gender and I honestly don't know what to do. This person and I have been best friends for over 11 years and I'm afraid that if I tell them, they won't want to be friends anymore/it will be awkward. Whenever she talks about liking someone else I get so jealous to the point that I try to tune it out. I don't think she is bi/lesbian either, but I feel like if I tell her my feelings it will help me to have it off my chest. I also haven't told her that I am bi yet. Should I tell her or should I just keep it a secret?

I know the feeling too. First off I would tell her that you're bi, and see if she accepts it. If she doesn't, I wouldn't want to be friends with that person anymore. I want a friend who accepts me for me, and nothing else, but if she does accept that you're bi, I would wait a few weeks before telling her your feelings. I know it's going to be hard to wait, but it may work out at the end! Good luck <3

[darkinjinx]

Okay. Let's call the person I like 'T'. I've lived T on and off for five years but he is also my best friend. His twin sister, who is also my best friend, knows I like him and is really cool about it. He knows that I like him (his sister told him accidentally ugh) and he might like me too, but i don't know. His sister has told me that he said he would ask me to the dance when she asked if he would and has said that he thinks i am pretty, but if T's sister (K) asked him on the spot if he would ask me to the dance, what was he supposed to say? No? So that isn't really helpful. He is a really nice guy and I know that if I asked him to go with me he would, but I don't want to go with him if he doesn't like me. I don't want to ask him though... he is my best friend. What should I do?

update: T ended up asking me to dance... but so did his best friend (W) who likes me... T knew i liked him so was possibly a pity dance... now his friends are making jokes about us being together. i've heard this is a sign that a boy likes you. confirmation? should i say something to him about it?

[Palmie]

So I went to homecoming last night and it was a blast, but right after the dance my crush M walks up to me and asks me why I was avoiding him. I thought I was doing the exact opposite, but its true that I didn't talk to him during the dance. We started texting after the dance and he told me he would of wanted to hang out with me at the dance. I don't know if he likes me though because he always calls me his friend.

[Dia.]

starlight. - It could be as sign, or they could just be messing with you two. I'd air on the side of caution and treat it as they are just messing with you unless something else comes around to change that.
I'm sorry, I just don't feel comfortable telling you that it probably means he does like you since I'm not positive that's what that would mean.

palmie - Sophomore, I told my guy friend to go to homecoming. He did, but he hung out with his friend the entire time. I was upset with him. He told me the next day that he would have liked to hang out with me at the dance and he was upset that he didn't but he didn't feel right ditching his friend(who is my ex).
He's my boyfriend now. I found out that he felt really bad that he didn't hang out with me and he wanted to hang out with me because he did like me.
I'm not saying that your situation is exactly the same... I just felt like this was relevant.

Sometimes guys call girls their friend as a way to say that they are important to them, and not holding some double meaning. It doesn't mean that you are friendzoned lol.

[Starry Night]

Ah! I need some help Q-Q

So a good guy friend of mine randomly asked me to the upcoming Halloween dance, and I said yes. As friends, which he still agreed too, but was a little upset about. I then explained I wasn't really ready for a "boyfriend" and he seemed pretty chill after that. Though I may not like, like him I do want to go with him, it'd be fun.

Now the only issue is that there is another girl, a "friend" of mine who apparently REALLY liked this guy. She has also liked basically every other guy in our grade at least once already, but he's been her longest crush. I didn't remember this till later and felt like a jerk for excepting, but also conflicted since he did ask me and not her.

Okay, so she is the type of person who will kill, and I being just a nice person is easily brought down to fear but I don't want to reject him since he and I have been basically friends for a long time, and this is the very first time ANYONE has asked me to a dance.

Advice on how to explain this to her/him? any help is appreciated!

THANK YOU! ~Starry

[Bluemare40]

Ah! I need some help Q-Q

So a good guy friend of mine randomly asked me to the upcoming Halloween dance, and I said yes. As friends, which he still agreed too, but was a little upset about. I then explained I wasn't really ready for a "boyfriend" and he seemed pretty chill after that. Though I may not like, like him I do want to go with him, it'd be fun.

Now the only issue is that there is another girl, a "friend" of mine who apparently REALLY liked this guy. She has also liked basically every other guy in our grade at least once already, but he's been her longest crush. I didn't remember this till later and felt like a jerk for excepting, but also conflicted since he did ask me and not her.

Okay, so she is the type of person who will kill, and I being just a nice person is easily brought down to fear but I don't want to reject him since he and I have been basically friends for a long time, and this is the very first time ANYONE has asked me to a dance.

Advice on how to explain this to her/him? any help is appreciated!

THANK YOU! ~Starry

Well, for explaining this to your friend, if you tell her/she finds out, I would just tell her that you didn't accept his invitation to hurt her feelings; and that you just agreed to go because you thought it'd be fun.

I'm assuming there's some kind of connotation to "friend", but you should still just be honest and as nice about it as possible. You should definitely NOT feel guilty about this, as you didn't do this to get on her nerves on purpose. If she gets mad at you, oh well. You can't let it ruin your life ^^.

Plus, even if this is her longest crush, chances are she will move on eventually, as crushes don't last forever.
Anyway, that's the best help I can offer! If you need anything else I'll try to help some more! Good luck, and remember, it'll all be okay!

[Bluemare40]

So it official Revan {my boyfriend not his real name jst part of his username...} Is in the navy... he ships out to florida on april 2nd... i'm already a college and just being 4 hours apart is really killing me but I don't know if I can stand him 4 whole states away.... i'm so worried something is going to happen to him... I've been praying about it a lot and its the only thing keeping me sane... I've talked to him about my fears and he's tried his best to calm them, but they just don't go away...His father was going to join the army but his wife didn't want him to and she stopped him.... but they ended up so poor and they have 9 mouths to feed and the family is miserable and his parents regret their choice... his mother never really liked me said I was to boy like to independent but she is starting to warm up to me... his father didn't care one way or the other about me... but he said he's proud of me for being so brave about Revan going into the army he knows I worry but I didn't stop him... the fears I have are not just of losing him physically {moving away... death.. D': } but also that he might find someone else... or that he'll simply change and he won't be who I know and love... he says his eyes are for me and only me but I've seen the way other girls look at him... i'm not even jealous of them when they do because I know he truly loves me.. but with him being so far away... not being able to see him face to face.... or feel his warm embrace... it scares me... on top of that I've had these dreams.... I always have whether you believe in this kind of thing or not but I've had dreams before that come true... and the ones I've been having.. they feel like the same way... Revan is always so sweet and gentle he wouldn't hurt a fly.... but in the dreams I have... he's mean and abusive... and i'm scared that's what he'll become... but I trust him with my life... and I love him more than any earthly thing...I jus... don't want to lose him.... in any way shape or form.... most of you will just say oh it'll work out... but I know this already... I just wish I could stop myself from crying myself to sleep at night worrying about him... I just want to be a good wife to him... one he deserves ... one that trusts him enough that she doesn't worry or fret so much...


sorry this is so long... I just needed to get this off my chest... I would love advice... and thanks for putting up with all this drama so far...

Honey, let me tell you one thing, you are EXTREMELY BRAVE!!!!

I completely understand your worries though. It sounds like to me that he really does love you. And-worst case scenario- if things don't work out, (again, worst case scenario, very rare to happen) you WILL find someone else eventually.

God has a plan for each and every one of us. It's great that you're praying, that always helps, whatever the situation is. The best thing you can do right now (although you may have heard this many times before, is to pray. (I'll pray for you too, double the praying power! )

I hope everything turns out well for you, you are extremely brave, and you are incredibly strong.

[WintersCatch]

So it official Revan {my boyfriend not his real name jst part of his username...} Is in the navy... he ships out to florida on april 2nd... i'm already a college and just being 4 hours apart is really killing me but I don't know if I can stand him 4 whole states away.... i'm so worried something is going to happen to him... I've been praying about it a lot and its the only thing keeping me sane... I've talked to him about my fears and he's tried his best to calm them, but they just don't go away...His father was going to join the army but his wife didn't want him to and she stopped him.... but they ended up so poor and they have 9 mouths to feed and the family is miserable and his parents regret their choice... his mother never really liked me said I was to boy like to independent but she is starting to warm up to me... his father didn't care one way or the other about me... but he said he's proud of me for being so brave about Revan going into the army he knows I worry but I didn't stop him... the fears I have are not just of losing him physically {moving away... death.. D': } but also that he might find someone else... or that he'll simply change and he won't be who I know and love... he says his eyes are for me and only me but I've seen the way other girls look at him... i'm not even jealous of them when they do because I know he truly loves me.. but with him being so far away... not being able to see him face to face.... or feel his warm embrace... it scares me... on top of that I've had these dreams.... I always have whether you believe in this kind of thing or not but I've had dreams before that come true... and the ones I've been having.. they feel like the same way... Revan is always so sweet and gentle he wouldn't hurt a fly.... but in the dreams I have... he's mean and abusive... and i'm scared that's what he'll become... but I trust him with my life... and I love him more than any earthly thing...I jus... don't want to lose him.... in any way shape or form.... most of you will just say oh it'll work out... but I know this already... I just wish I could stop myself from crying myself to sleep at night worrying about him... I just want to be a good wife to him... one he deserves ... one that trusts him enough that she doesn't worry or fret so much...


sorry this is so long... I just needed to get this off my chest... I would love advice... and thanks for putting up with all this drama so far...

Honey, let me tell you one thing, you are EXTREMELY BRAVE!!!!

I completely understand your worries though. It sounds like to me that he really does love you. And-worst case scenario- if things don't work out, (again, worst case scenario, very rare to happen) you WILL find someone else eventually.

God has a plan for each and every one of us. It's great that you're praying, that always helps, whatever the situation is. The best thing you can do right now (although you may have heard this many times before, is to pray. (I'll pray for you too, double the praying power! )

I hope everything turns out well for you, you are extremely brave, and you are incredibly strong.

My brother went into the navy, we saw him in chicago after he graduated. He changed about how he did things(like when he is just standing there he has his hand behind his back XD) but when he and some of his navy friends were talking, I knew he was still him ^_^ Don't worry, and his friends(I don't know how they acted before) but they joked around, like him being born in nebraska and grown up in kansas XD but I think you should trust that he'll be safe.
And glad to see another christan blue

[Starry Night]

Thank you blue, it really helps, and I'll keep that in mind, thanks again!

[runnershigh]

okay okay okay
so i need help//advice

for ages i had a crush on my best friend [m],, and i'm pretty sure she liked me back. but i never asked her out.
and now,, i've fallen for someone she doesn't like that much [p]. and p likes me back,, because she's told me and i've told her. my crush on m is only tiny now,, as i'm head over heels for p. [so to clarify,, m is wary of p and isn't good friends with her,, but p has told me that she wishes she could be friends with m.]
i want to ask p out next month [she knows i'm planning to], but my problem is that i'm afraid m will be mad at me. she might get upset,, and i don't want to loose her. she's my best friend and i can't imagine living without her.
p is absolutely gorgeous and perfect to me,, but i've known m for longer and she means a whole lot to me.

what should i do? how do i tell m that i'm going to ask p out?
please help guys ;v;