Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[ardentsongbird]

Hey,
Okay so there's this guy I really like and I've known him for four years. (He's my best guy friend) Anyway, last year he told me he like me and I overreacted and crushed his feelings because I was afraid of hurting our friendship. We were really close and I didn't want to lose that. Now he likes this other chick and I'm on the sidelines kicking myself for my actions. What should I do to get him to like me again? ( We are still pretty good friends)

Well, first of all, you can't really change someone's feelings. You can show signs of affection, and that may tell him that you're into him. If I were in your shoes, I would help him with his crush, and show him how caring I was. Then, over time, he may develop feelings for you.
Of course, I have never been in a real relationship before, but I suffered the pain and loss of love. It truely sucks! That why I try to help as much as possible ❤

[Jawwwnlockedin221b]

Okay, So my mom found out about my crush, aaaaaand, she is totally okay with it! (This makes me so happy)

[~IronRose~]

Omg omg omg We started messaging again!!!!!! Im so happy but weird thing. Right out of the blue he brings up how his last two girlfriends cheated on him and how he doesn't care anyone, I don't even know how we got to that plus he sent me a pic of him and his friends playing a board game ahhhh I love him so much I'm going tk puke

[Mufa]

i had two chances this week to admit my feelings to him. i went to two halloween parties and he was at both. the first one was smaller with about eight of us. two of the girls there were all over him [in a friendly way [one has a boyfriend and the other likes someone else [plus they had some influences]]] so I didn't get the chance to really say anything to him. last night at the second party there were fourteen of us [all good friends]. again, a few of the girls were all over him in a friendly way [they all either had a boyfriend or liked someone else [but I have a feeling that one of them likes him as well]].

those were my two biggest chances to talk to him. I get one last, big chance [for the next while] to admit it to him at another halloween party on halloween. let's hope I get the chance and I have the guts. *sigh*

[pizzas and scream]

I am still debating how much stock anyone should take into "was nice to me at the store"
I saw the Shoprite guy yesterday and applogized for my antics on the facebook. it took a while for it to settle in and he says it's ok.
saying "i'll see you around" just means
"i work here, your family shops here"
and not "OK I will go reply to you and we can be buddies and talk about popculture things"

so, yes, it's their job to be nice. so now I guess it is completly worthless to flirt with anyone who has a job in retail. "they smiled at me"

because if they are grumpy guts and standoffish they don't get a job.

it only happens in movies I guess.

otherwise I don't know how to conduct a survey of people who "met theirs while shopping" and ask them how they did it.
otherwise then it would just be like answering a personal ad if they call you if you wink and slip them your number if they are running your goods though the price checker.

Hey,
Okay so there's this guy I really like and I've known him for four years. (He's my best guy friend) Anyway, last year he told me he like me and I overreacted and crushed his feelings because I was afraid of hurting our friendship. We were really close and I didn't want to lose that. Now he likes this other chick and I'm on the sidelines kicking myself for my actions. What should I do to get him to like me again? ( We are still pretty good friends)

Well, first of all, you can't really change someone's feelings. You can show signs of affection, and that may tell him that you're into him. If I were in your shoes, I would help him with his crush, and show him how caring I was. Then, over time, he may develop feelings for you.
Of course, I have never been in a real relationship before, but I suffered the pain and loss of love. It truely sucks! That why I try to help as much as possible ❤

try feeding him Shiracha Mayonase sause on food.

[HorseFan21♞]

i had two chances this week to admit my feelings to him. i went to two halloween parties and he was at both. the first one was smaller with about eight of us. two of the girls there were all over him [in a friendly way [one has a boyfriend and the other likes someone else [plus they had some influences]]] so I didn't get the chance to really say anything to him. last night at the second party there were fourteen of us [all good friends]. again, a few of the girls were all over him in a friendly way [they all either had a boyfriend or liked someone else [but I have a feeling that one of them likes him as well]].

those were my two biggest chances to talk to him. I get one last, big chance [for the next while] to admit it to him at another halloween party on halloween. let's hope I get the chance and I have the guts. *sigh*

You can do this. XD That's all I'm gonna say. *Runs away*

[bear ♡]

Okay guys, so I have a crush on someone of the same gender and I honestly don't know what to do. This person and I have been best friends for over 11 years and I'm afraid that if I tell them, they won't want to be friends anymore/it will be awkward. Whenever she talks about liking someone else I get so jealous to the point that I try to tune it out. I don't think she is bi/lesbian either, but I feel like if I tell her my feelings it will help me to have it off my chest. I also haven't told her that I am bi yet. Should I tell her or should I just keep it a secret?

[Kylee Hart]

So just over three months ago I met a boy at a before school band meeting. I learned that he is in my grade, and we ended up being in a few of the same classes. We kind of became friends and we would go on walks together, then we went on a school trip together. I was in the bus on the way up (we were in separate buses) and some of the girls I was sitting with started telling me he was perfect for me. At our lunch break all the buses stopped together and we were dared to hold hands the whole time (haha awkward right?). That night we started dating and it was going really well. Then this week he got a new laptop and kind of started ignoring me. Then day before yesterday he asked if I was mad at him, and I said we'd talk about it because I really didn't know how to respond. Anyway, we still haven't talked and I really don't know what to say... I feel like a super clingy girlfriend and I know he shouldn't be with me 24/7, but at the moment it'll be things like he just won't talk to me.. all day. Does anybody have suggestions about what to say to him and how?

He got a new laptop. He's probably excited and spending time doing stuff on the laptop. He probably doesn't mean to ignore you and probably doesn't know that he's done anything "wrong", and so obviously he's confused as to why you seem mad. My boyfriend spent over a year saving money to buy his fancy computer. He spent a lot of time setting that up and playing with it because he was so excited about it. I just kept reminding myself that he wasn't doing it on purpose and I would ask him, "Are you doing computer stuff?" if I felt particularly bad and he would always tell me what he was doing and apologize for not answering as much. It DID get better after the initial novelty of the new toy wore off.

Honestly, saying "We'll talk about it" was probably not the right thing to say. I know that if this was my boyfriend, he would be sent into over-thinking, panicky, upset, moody, overdrive mode and our conversations until we "talked' would be strained and I'd know he was worried about it. That's probably why you haven't talked yet.
The sooner you just tell him, "I've been a little upset because I've been feeling you haven't been wanting to talk to me lately." the better.
And in the future, when he asks if you are mad at him, just tell him what's bothering you. Lying won't get you anywhere and neither will putting it off. Don't say it in a pushy, argumentative way. Let him know gently and almost passively(not passive aggressively xD).

His timing was rather poor, we were with a group of friends and in the middle of saying goodbye and I didn't want to discuss it with other people there, as well as wanting time to explain myself.

[~IronRose~]

Omg omg omg We started messaging again!!!!!! Im so happy but weird thing. Right out of the blue he brings up how his last two girlfriends cheated on him and how he doesn't care anyone, I don't even know how we got to that plus he sent me a pic of him and his friends playing a board game ahhhh I love him so much I'm going tk puke

[ardentsongbird]

Okay guys, so I have a crush on someone of the same gender and I honestly don't know what to do. This person and I have been best friends for over 11 years and I'm afraid that if I tell them, they won't want to be friends anymore/it will be awkward. Whenever she talks about liking someone else I get so jealous to the point that I try to tune it out. I don't think she is bi/lesbian either, but I feel like if I tell her my feelings it will help me to have it off my chest. I also haven't told her that I am bi yet. Should I tell her or should I just keep it a secret?

I think, first, you should tell her your Bi. If you friends, she'll understand your sexuality instead of frown upon it. After that, give her some to become used to a bi-sexual friend. Then, when you think your ready, you can tell her how you feel!
I actually have a bi friend, but I guess she is more attracted to boys than girls ^-^'