Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[owl0430]

ok......so.this happened this wensday.i was coming home from a religious club i go to every wensday and on the way back one of my guy-friends (and yes im a girl) asked me if i liked him.but after he said 'because people are saying you like me'.
do you think he was serious or does HE like me?

[Dia.]

ok......so.this happened this wensday.i was coming home from a religious club i go to every wensday and on the way back one of my guy-friends (and yes im a girl) asked me if i liked him.but after he said 'because people are saying you like me'.
do you think he was serious or does HE like me?

Well it's hard to tell. You haven't given any other information about what he does and what you do... or if you even do like him lol
If you act a certain way, then yes it's possible for people to be saying that.
If he does like you, then he could be saying that to get a read on you.
It's hard to say though, and more information would be helpful.

[thunderofthedrum]

Katniss - I don't have time for a full response but you aren't alone. Luckily, I don't think he'll really be in any danger in the Navy. He'll just be in Florida. You guys can still talk on the phone, still skype, still send letters. My guy was in the Middle East and sure, maybe he has less patience for crap and he values life more, and maybe certain things make him tense, and he is more of a mind to settle down and be 'boring' and 'normal' now, but that's okay. We work well together and honestly he was a bit too wild for me beforehand. And your guy is going to FLORIDA. It'll be fine! Just keep contact and be understanding - he may be pretty busy and not be able to talk every day for hours. He may have more responsibilities or work in close quarters with people he doesn't get along with, so be patient with that and just support him. Maybe surprise him with letters if he enjoys that, to remind him that you think of him.

Thanks and I know you're right... but the thing is i'm a freshman in college and I live on campus so I can't visit him at all.... my parents want me home every weekend or i'm stuck at the dorms and he has top access so he isn't allowed off base unless for Christmas and thanksgiving... which make me sad...

I totally feel you. I went back to school for a certification on top of my degree and the hours prevent me from getting a full time job yet. As a result, I'm completely broke and yes - he has to wait for leave to come see me. Even then, it's tough because of course a military person would be struggling to split their very limited free time with those that matter - such as family, friends, girlfriend. In my case, the main people he wants to see are split into two places which makes it more convenient for him, but it may not always be that way.

If he IS sent to a place with any conflict (I'm not sure how the Navy works), keep in mind that it's very stressful to live in a state of constant awareness and tension, always on alert, especially for so long! A week is one thing, nine months is a whole different ball game. It can make a person more on edge, less tolerant of people who don't take things seriously, among other little changes. But it sounds like he's just been stationed there, just as someone might be stationed in Colorado or New York. That's no big deal! My friend's husband was stationed in Washington (Navy) so they live in or near Seattle now. It's just how they disperse people.

Just like with any full time job, be supportive of any tough times he goes through, and hopefully he will support you during your college experience. And don't forget to go out and live some! You are at college now. It's a good time to make new friends and try new things. There are likely TONS of clubs and organizations you can get involved with. I had fun choosing my PE credits (dance, karate, canoeing), I tried out a couple clubs, and I made some neat friends (one who I'm still close to and I was one of her bridesmaids last year). Both of you are experiencing new things, so that will be ideas to talk about and share with each other.

But yes, it sucks. I get it. I got to see him when he got leave for returning from deployment and I'll see him for Christmas, and after that I'll go to see him.

[owl0430]

ok......so.this happened this wensday.i was coming home from a religious club i go to every wensday and on the way back one of my guy-friends (and yes im a girl) asked me if i liked him.but after he said 'because people are saying you like me'.
do you think he was serious or does HE like me?

Well it's hard to tell. You haven't given any other information about what he does and what you do... or if you even do like him lol
If you act a certain way, then yes it's possible for people to be saying that.
If he does like you, then he could be saying that to get a read on you.
It's hard to say though, and more information would be helpful.

well i dont exactly like him.i like him a little bit but mostly as just a friend.as for more information?there have been times we bumped arms,or knees and he wouldnt move away if that happened.occasionaly (but usually if this happens there is nowhere left to sit) he will sit next to me.when he does though we will usually have a small conversation.there have been times where i was being bullied and he would tell the people bullying me to leave me alone.and thats about it

[ScarWitch]

Question, did anybody who has a significant other dress up a pet like them? I did my boyfriend (and myself) in my signature ^-^

[ardentsongbird]

Question, did anybody who has a significant other dress up a pet like them? I did my boyfriend (and myself) in my signature ^-^

I actually do! I have myself and my crush! (( Not creepy at all. ))
Well, it reminded me of him, so I decided to dress that pet c:

So, about me and my crush. We have texted a few times, only because he wanted me to draw some cars for him. Yes, he did enjoy the drawings, but I want to talk about other things. But, I'm way too shy to even ask him a deep question in real life, such as, " Hey, do you have a dog? "
Sad, right?

[denji3884]

so I had a boyfriend in July-August and he broke up with me because I was "too clingy", and I'm still not over him. I attempt speak to him, but he thinks I'm incapable of being his friend/girlfriend anymore. I look at old memories with him and I start to get severely upset.

Is there any way I can bring him to trust me again to be his friend or even girlfriend again?
Or a way to get over him?

I see him almost everyday. Plus, to top it all off, he's in my gym class :<

[Starry Night]

Ah! I need some help Q-Q

so a good guy friend of mine randomly asked me to the upcoming Halloween dance, and I said yes, but as friends, which he still agreed too. As of right now I don't really like anyone, just a guy that's older than me who doesn't know I exsist ;-; but that's besides the point. I do want to go with him, it'd be fun.

Now the only issue is that there is another girl, a "friend" Who apparently REALLY liked this guy, but she also likes basically every other guy in our grade at least once already. but he's been her longest crush. I didn't remember this till later and felt like a jerk.

Okay, so she is the type of person who will kill, and I being just a nice person is easily brought down to fear but I don't want to reject him or feel her wrath since he and I have been basically friends for a long time. So yeah, and advice is appreciated!

THANK YOU! ~Starry

[raezel]

so I had a boyfriend in July-August and he broke up with me because I was "too clingy", and I'm still not over him. I attempt speak to him, but he thinks I'm incapable of being his friend/girlfriend anymore. I look at old memories with him and I start to get severely upset.

Is there any way I can bring him to trust me again to be his friend or even girlfriend again?
Or a way to get over him?

I see him almost everyday. Plus, to top it all off, he's in my gym class :<

in my honest opinion, if he thinks you're ""too clingy"", than he can go shove it. true, there's a limit to being close to someone all the time and wanting to know what they're doing 24/7, since everyone needs their own space sometimes, but i doubt you were doing any of that. even if you were, he could have asked to talk to you about being less clingy instead of straight up dumping you.

it's your choice ultimately whether or not you want to get back with him, because i don't know him personally nor do i know the explicit details of your situation. always keep in mind though that there's a possibility it won't go that way, and you'll have to get over him. it'll suck, i can guarantee you, but i promise life goes on even after a nasty breakup. hang out with your friends, find a new hobby to take up, get outside more; anything to distract you from your ex will help you get your mind off of him and make the process of getting over him at least a tad bit easier and less stressful and/or upsetting.

if you ever need somebody to talk to about things, feel free to pm me! i wish you the best of luck. uvu

[Shdjndn]

Hey,
Okay so there's this guy I really like and I've known him for four years. (He's my best guy friend) Anyway, last year he told me he like me and I overreacted and crushed his feelings because I was afraid of hurting our friendship. We were really close and I didn't want to lose that. Now he likes this other chick and I'm on the sidelines kicking myself for my actions. What should I do to get him to like me again? ( We are still pretty good friends)