Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[SoundAndVision]

mmmm, the issue with not being heterosexual ....
while it may give you a broader range of people to
admire and crush on more often than not [and especially
in the area I live in] people of the same gender just
aren't into being a relationship like that. I'm like
literally going insane.

❤️

I know exactly how u feel

[thunderofthedrum]

I have a crush on my drum major in marching band and I'm on color guard. It's really strange because I haven't had a crush on someone since I was in probably the 5th grade (was pretty stupid too) and I'm a sophmore now so I donno what to do about it. He seems so nice and is shy at times and has a good sense of humor too but I feel we are basically strangers since he's a junior and I only get to see him once a week during pratice . I want to get to know him better but feel like I'm fighting through 10 other girls on my team who try for his attention. Plus I have no courage to flat out say to him that I like him so I feel kinda stuck. So, yeah :\

Dia's Guide to Flirting With Someone At the Front of the Field (pit percussionist, drum major, etc)
- Make eye contact
- Make goofy faces
- Do goofy things
- Flirt from a distance

My boyfriend is in pit percussion. So he's up on the timpani cart at the front of the field while I'm marching with my section and we are always making faces at each other.

That would only work if both people are very silly and young. I do not think a 35 year old woman could do that with a 47 year old man that they both know eachother from a place, and if the guy is one of those cement types of professional coolness.



For you young ones wanting to encapture your guy. Buy hi. Some shiracha mayo, maybe he will love yu for it. You feed it to him, and when he is in it's trance it give you, then make with the flirts.

That is exactly the point - the question was about teenagers in the school band, and so that's who the response was tailored to.

Katniss - I don't have time for a full response but you aren't alone. Luckily, I don't think he'll really be in any danger in the Navy. He'll just be in Florida. You guys can still talk on the phone, still skype, still send letters. My guy was in the Middle East and sure, maybe he has less patience for crap and he values life more, and maybe certain things make him tense, and he is more of a mind to settle down and be 'boring' and 'normal' now, but that's okay. We work well together and honestly he was a bit too wild for me beforehand. And your guy is going to FLORIDA. It'll be fine! Just keep contact and be understanding - he may be pretty busy and not be able to talk every day for hours. He may have more responsibilities or work in close quarters with people he doesn't get along with, so be patient with that and just support him. Maybe surprise him with letters if he enjoys that, to remind him that you think of him.

[Dia.]

I have a crush on my drum major in marching band and I'm on color guard. It's really strange because I haven't had a crush on someone since I was in probably the 5th grade (was pretty stupid too) and I'm a sophmore now so I donno what to do about it. He seems so nice and is shy at times and has a good sense of humor too but I feel we are basically strangers since he's a junior and I only get to see him once a week during pratice . I want to get to know him better but feel like I'm fighting through 10 other girls on my team who try for his attention. Plus I have no courage to flat out say to him that I like him so I feel kinda stuck. So, yeah :\

Dia's Guide to Flirting With Someone At the Front of the Field (pit percussionist, drum major, etc)
- Make eye contact
- Make goofy faces
- Do goofy things
- Flirt from a distance

My boyfriend is in pit percussion. So he's up on the timpani cart at the front of the field while I'm marching with my section and we are always making faces at each other.

That would only work if both people are very silly and young. I do not think a 35 year old woman could do that with a 47 year old man that they both know eachother from a place, and if the guy is one of those cement types of professional coolness.



For you young ones wanting to encapture your guy. Buy hi. Some shiracha mayo, maybe he will love yu for it. You feed it to him, and when he is in it's trance it give you, then make with the flirts.

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Advice isn't one size fits all.
And keep in mind that the majority of people asking for help on this thread are younger people.

For the "young ones" a lot of it comes from messing around and being silly. I'm not sure you remember correctly...

[centurion.]

mmmm, the issue with not being heterosexual ....
while it may give you a broader range of people to
admire and crush on more often than not [and especially
in the area I live in] people of the same gender just
aren't into being a relationship like that. I'm like
literally going insane.

❤️

Agreed
I'm lucky, I guess, since there's a couple girls in my school who aren't heterosexual
including my girlfriend whoops

[Kylee Hart]

So just over three months ago I met a boy at a before school band meeting. I learned that he is in my grade, and we ended up being in a few of the same classes. We kind of became friends and we would go on walks together, then we went on a school trip together. I was in the bus on the way up (we were in separate buses) and some of the girls I was sitting with started telling me he was perfect for me. At our lunch break all the buses stopped together and we were dared to hold hands the whole time (haha awkward right?). That night we started dating and it was going really well. Then this week he got a new laptop and kind of started ignoring me. Then day before yesterday he asked if I was mad at him, and I said we'd talk about it because I really didn't know how to respond. Anyway, we still haven't talked and I really don't know what to say... I feel like a super clingy girlfriend and I know he shouldn't be with me 24/7, but at the moment it'll be things like he just won't talk to me.. all day. Does anybody have suggestions about what to say to him and how?

[Dia.]

So just over three months ago I met a boy at a before school band meeting. I learned that he is in my grade, and we ended up being in a few of the same classes. We kind of became friends and we would go on walks together, then we went on a school trip together. I was in the bus on the way up (we were in separate buses) and some of the girls I was sitting with started telling me he was perfect for me. At our lunch break all the buses stopped together and we were dared to hold hands the whole time (haha awkward right?). That night we started dating and it was going really well. Then this week he got a new laptop and kind of started ignoring me. Then day before yesterday he asked if I was mad at him, and I said we'd talk about it because I really didn't know how to respond. Anyway, we still haven't talked and I really don't know what to say... I feel like a super clingy girlfriend and I know he shouldn't be with me 24/7, but at the moment it'll be things like he just won't talk to me.. all day. Does anybody have suggestions about what to say to him and how?

He got a new laptop. He's probably excited and spending time doing stuff on the laptop. He probably doesn't mean to ignore you and probably doesn't know that he's done anything "wrong", and so obviously he's confused as to why you seem mad. My boyfriend spent over a year saving money to buy his fancy computer. He spent a lot of time setting that up and playing with it because he was so excited about it. I just kept reminding myself that he wasn't doing it on purpose and I would ask him, "Are you doing computer stuff?" if I felt particularly bad and he would always tell me what he was doing and apologize for not answering as much. It DID get better after the initial novelty of the new toy wore off.

Honestly, saying "We'll talk about it" was probably not the right thing to say. I know that if this was my boyfriend, he would be sent into over-thinking, panicky, upset, moody, overdrive mode and our conversations until we "talked' would be strained and I'd know he was worried about it. That's probably why you haven't talked yet.
The sooner you just tell him, "I've been a little upset because I've been feeling you haven't been wanting to talk to me lately." the better.
And in the future, when he asks if you are mad at him, just tell him what's bothering you. Lying won't get you anywhere and neither will putting it off. Don't say it in a pushy, argumentative way. Let him know gently and almost passively(not passive aggressively xD).

[Sameen_of_Nohr]

Katniss - I don't have time for a full response but you aren't alone. Luckily, I don't think he'll really be in any danger in the Navy. He'll just be in Florida. You guys can still talk on the phone, still skype, still send letters. My guy was in the Middle East and sure, maybe he has less patience for crap and he values life more, and maybe certain things make him tense, and he is more of a mind to settle down and be 'boring' and 'normal' now, but that's okay. We work well together and honestly he was a bit too wild for me beforehand. And your guy is going to FLORIDA. It'll be fine! Just keep contact and be understanding - he may be pretty busy and not be able to talk every day for hours. He may have more responsibilities or work in close quarters with people he doesn't get along with, so be patient with that and just support him. Maybe surprise him with letters if he enjoys that, to remind him that you think of him.

Thanks and I know you're right... but the thing is i'm a freshman in college and I live on campus so I can't visit him at all.... my parents want me home every weekend or i'm stuck at the dorms and he has top access so he isn't allowed off base unless for Christmas and thanksgiving... which make me sad...

[oumasai]

I'm not sure what to do, my friend likes to same guy that I like and... Help, someone? Please? She can be kind of mean from time to time as well...

[Sameen_of_Nohr]

I'm not sure what to do, my friend likes to same guy that I like and... Help, someone? Please? She can be kind of mean from time to time as well...

well... it's up to the guy as to who he likes... just don't hurt your friendship fighting ovr a boy it sucks and you often lose yourself in the process as well...

[ardentsongbird]

I'm not sure what to do, my friend likes to same guy that I like and... Help, someone? Please? She can be kind of mean from time to time as well...

It shouldn't be a problem unless your friendship starts to fade away. Usually, when I like the same guy as another friend, we talk to him together and talk about him together as well. We don't talk about the fact that he may date one of us, we just enjoy the fact that we like the guy. So, try not to bring up the topic of "dating" the guy while the other is around. If this doesn't help, sorry, I don't know much (: