Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[grizzly.]

So I'm conflicted about my boyfriend, we've been together for a year and a half now, and we dated for three months prior to that, which ended due to drama and wrong suits of friends whispering in ears. In that time we were broken up he dated someone that was rumored to have kissed him while he and I were still together, while I dated someone who was a great friend and an ex-boyfriend, yet really not so great as a boyfriend. Anyway, in that time we were apart for only a few months, and right from the get-go when we first dated and when we got back together he had told me that he dated the girl he was with to make me jealous, that he didn't really like her and that I'm the only girl he's ever told that he loves, besides family, and today, on his second facebook account (he gave me the email and password) and was still logged on my phone, so out of boredem and curiosity I went through his messages and stumbled upon messages where he sounded completely happy with her and every other message contained the words "I miss you babe" and then I found one message that said at the end "love you" I haven't had time to talk to him about it seeing as he left school before ai read the messages for work experience and is taking his friend's hours at work so his friend can do something important and necessary..I don't know what to do or what to think, and all I keep thinking is that when I comfront him about it he'll either deny it ever happening, or get extremely angry and defensive and create a huge fight between the two of us...what should I do...and why would he lie to me about this..

[ardentsongbird]

Me and my crush have gotten along great since he had rejected me. Of course, we had been friends since the moment I saw him, but... Whatever. I'm hoping at my next school dance, I'll gather enough courage to ask him for a dance ^///^

[vvoland]

alright I'm having like a weird moral dilemma.

So despite having really strong {{I think. I can never be too sure with emotions} feelings for someone with both the assumption and strong suspicion they feel mutual about this, nothing gets past flirting. Partially because there's no way in hell I'm losing my best friend because of any awkward situations as well as other complications and such.
And then there's someone at my school who I just find like ridiculously attractive much to the disbelief of my friends, and he also happens to be head over heels for my friend {{I think I've mentioned him before} and she does not share this. However, I just think he's really cool and really sweet and I'd totally love to go out with him and he's not like most of the idiots I've gone out with. But would flirting be like cheating on the idea of the guy I mentioned first{{ as I may have currently have stronger feelings for him} or because nothing is official is it morally permissible.? My friend wants to set me up with guy two as I don't know him *that* well, but she thinks we'd be a good match {{partially due to music taste}.
And I figure since I'm still in highschool I shouldn't take myself too seriously.? And I also have the slight fear my crush on guy two may be slightly because I don't want to go stag to prom.?


If you have any advice and this is incredibly incoherent and you think more details or something would help(?) I'd love it if you could send me a pm <3

[Dia.]

Tell me a story!
Do you remember your first kiss?
(I'm not talking about when you were five. :P)

So not perfect... xD And so very awkward.

I knew enough about him that when he started seeming frustrated and distant and quiet while we were hanging out, it meant that he was trying to gather the courage to say or do something.
For example, the day he told me he liked me, he spent the majority of our hour together after school staring off and not saying anything seeming like he was trying to. The time we hung out before he asked me out, he spent the last half hour or so sighing and staring up at the ceiling. Then, the day he did ask me out, he spent the whole first half of our time together doing the same thing before he finally spit it out.
Same thing happened when I started wondering if he was ever going to do it. It was a longer process though. And he even told me that he wanted to do "something' but chickened out and was upset that he lost his chance for another week or so since we wouldn't be alone together again until then. The day he finally did it, the same things happened. We were sitting on my couch in the basement watching... It was either a Pirates of the Caribbean movie or one of the Mission Impossible movies... or it could have been a totally different one. xD But anyway.
Then he asked.
...
and I answered.
But I don't think I was supposed to answer. I think I was just supposed to shut up and let him kiss me. So it was an awkward in the middle of a word, very quick, little kiss.
I'm not sure if I was his first kiss... but he was mine.
ahhah... heh yeah.
perfectly awkward...

[autumnsoundtrack]

So today in class I mentioned to my crush that his date was hot and he replied saying that she's his new girlfriend... I'm so extremely disappointed. He flirted with me all the time, always glanced at me, I thought for sure he liked me... and then this. He made me fall for him a bit - something I promised I'd never do again - and now it's killing me to know once again I'm not good enough for a guy. I thought that things in my romantic life were finally starting to get interesting, just like all of my friends' are now, but once again I'm left disappointed. *Sigh* I'm so sick of this. And the worst part is that I had to smile and say 'congratulations', but I was so tired that I just couldn't pretend anymore and became cold towards him and let my sadness show and for the whole period he kept asking me what's wrong and tried to get me to smile. Little did he know he's the reason I'm not gonna be smiling until I get over him. Any advice to help me get over him quickly?

[Smoogiepie]

So today in class I mentioned to my crush that his date was hot and he replied saying that she's his new girlfriend... I'm so extremely disappointed. He flirted with me all the time, always glanced at me, I thought for sure he liked me... and then this. He made me fall for him a bit - something I promised I'd never do again - and now it's killing me to know once again I'm not good enough for a guy. I thought that things in my romantic life were finally starting to get interesting, just like all of my friends' are now, but once again I'm left disappointed. *Sigh* I'm so sick of this. And the worst part is that I had to smile and say 'congratulations', but I was so tired that I just couldn't pretend anymore and became cold towards him and let my sadness show and for the whole period he kept asking me what's wrong and tried to get me to smile. Little did he know he's the reason I'm not gonna be smiling until I get over him. Any advice to help me get over him quickly?

one thing stands out to me here:

it's killing me to know once again I'm not good enough for a guy.

whoa whoa whoa! don't you ever, EVER say that. don't you ever let some stupid guy dictate your self-worth. you are so much more than that.

you're a unique person with many amazing things about you and your life, and you have every reason to love yourself. you're probably so amazing and beautiful, you shouldn't be putting your heart on the line for such petty things.

you don't need a relationship to be happy. you don't need someone to "complete" you. you're already completed.

[hrosek14]

Love ❤️

[leslie knope]

So today in class I mentioned to my crush that his date was hot and he replied saying that she's his new girlfriend... I'm so extremely disappointed. He flirted with me all the time, always glanced at me, I thought for sure he liked me... and then this. He made me fall for him a bit - something I promised I'd never do again - and now it's killing me to know once again I'm not good enough for a guy. I thought that things in my romantic life were finally starting to get interesting, just like all of my friends' are now, but once again I'm left disappointed. *Sigh* I'm so sick of this. And the worst part is that I had to smile and say 'congratulations', but I was so tired that I just couldn't pretend anymore and became cold towards him and let my sadness show and for the whole period he kept asking me what's wrong and tried to get me to smile. Little did he know he's the reason I'm not gonna be smiling until I get over him. Any advice to help me get over him quickly?

one thing stands out to me here:

it's killing me to know once again I'm not good enough for a guy.

whoa whoa whoa! don't you ever, EVER say that. don't you ever let some stupid guy dictate your self-worth. you are so much more than that.

you're a unique person with many amazing things about you and your life, and you have every reason to love yourself. you're probably so amazing and beautiful, you shouldn't be putting your heart on the line for such petty things.

you don't need a relationship to be happy. you don't need someone to "complete" you. you're already completed.

And he is the one missing out, not you. Your too good for him, not the other way around.

[huskyderp]

I asked my crush to a Halloween dance and he said he would think about it but it is on Thursday, im scared for if he says no.

[global concepts]

my mom invited my boyfriend to our annual halloween party... i have like six friends coming (they're all girls) how am i suppose to include everyone without making him or my friends feel awkward? :c