Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[pizzas and scream]

is it still bad i get kind of "whimper whimper growl his whimper hide" feelings when I look at what the okcupid finds me.
the intimidation
the shallowness

too fat and round
too narrow with mega chin
to blocky with squinty nose and giant forheads
squenty rectangualr eyes


I mean. when i read some things, it's "i like their face, how do I talk to a person in public" because I would need to go have a kind of job where you are elbow to elbow with people, be in 3 clubs, go to the gym and do any kind of commmunity help all week.

and I really really need to be visually attracted for romance.


could any of you do that? the ones that are not in lower number grade schools? like if you were the proper age to hit on/flirt with people in public, "OH that attractive person is buying merchindise from the tv show I like too" and just try not to glom on them

[ShadowWolf~]

is it still bad i get kind of "whimper whimper growl his whimper hide" feelings when I look at what the okcupid finds me.
the intimidation
the shallowness

too fat and round
too narrow with mega chin
to blocky with squinty nose and giant forheads
squenty rectangualr eyes


I mean. when i read some things, it's "i like their face, how do I talk to a person in public" because I would need to go have a kind of job where you are elbow to elbow with people, be in 3 clubs, go to the gym and do any kind of commmunity help all week.

and I really really need to be visually attracted for romance.


could any of you do that? the ones that are not in lower number grade schools? like if you were the proper age to hit on/flirt with people in public, "OH that attractive person is buying merchindise from the tv show I like too" and just try not to glom on them

I can't quite say I understand your problem, but I'm guessing you don't like most of the people (romantically) you see almost everyday, and that you need to know how to expand your options.

I apologize if I'm wrong.

If you don't like what's available that's alright. Generally, I'm sure most people don't. If anything, as I've experienced, throughout your school years all the faces and people seem to wear out, you learn over time of how most of them are from when they were very young up to when they start becoming an adult.
For this, to be uninterested in your choices, is reasonable. It's always time to find something new.

In my experience, the best way to casually meet or get a glimpse of new people in public would be at my job. I'm employed at a store within a mall around my area so there's always new faces. I find it best to strike up something while they are checking out.
I usually say something, grab their attention, and make them smile or laugh; make their day for them. Through this, separate in time, I've had two decent girlfriends. So, for me, it works well.

I say this from a guy's point of view. I'm not such which view you want it to be from, but that's mine.
I hope it helps if anything. And good luck I suppose.

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EDIT:
Also, if you see someone perhaps buying merchandise of something you like, you could always say "perfect choice for a perfect band, show, etc." or you could keep it simple by saying "That's a great band, show, etc."
If anything, don't ask them many personal things about it. If you want to though, maybe ask or say, "Have you ever seen them(band) live?" or "Season # was my favourite."

[thunderofthedrum]

is it still bad i get kind of "whimper whimper growl his whimper hide" feelings when I look at what the okcupid finds me.
the intimidation
the shallowness

too fat and round
too narrow with mega chin
to blocky with squinty nose and giant forheads
squenty rectangualr eyes


I mean. when i read some things, it's "i like their face, how do I talk to a person in public" because I would need to go have a kind of job where you are elbow to elbow with people, be in 3 clubs, go to the gym and do any kind of commmunity help all week.

and I really really need to be visually attracted for romance.


could any of you do that? the ones that are not in lower number grade schools? like if you were the proper age to hit on/flirt with people in public, "OH that attractive person is buying merchindise from the tv show I like too" and just try not to glom on them

I'm also not sure what you are saying in part of this - particularly "whimper whimper growl his whimper hide".

But one issue with using dating sites is that it becomes window shopping based on photos. Photos that may be fake, out of date, overly photogenic, the best picture they've ever had, a blurry one, who knows. I tried out a dating site once and my friends have tried them as well. In a lot of cases, it's really hard to get past that picture and, even then, it's hard to get a real idea of someone from some dribble they typed in about themselves.

And it's not being some super awesome and active person. But being able to show some passion in something you care about, or having a hobby that would allow you some independence from a significant other, having an area of expertise to share with them and tell them about - those are good. You don't need to beef up your 'life' resume, but don't have it blank, either. I'm a pretty boring person; I don't work full time right now, I don't know what job I want, I live at home right now, and I don't have any exciting hobbies. But I have issues I feel strongly about, I spend time with friends, I do have a couple part time gigs, I have an area of expertise with my university education, I have activities I enjoy doing and ones I would like to try. That's a good start right there.

I wonder if you have some set idea of what person would be right for you, or compatible with you. I wonder if it maybe it will turn out to be totally wrong. Do you at all feel you are trying to go after a certain 'type', whether that's based on looks, height, weight, job, income, hobbies, level of community activeness, etc?

[arcticwolf]

ugh

bf is gonna be out of town this today-sunday afternoon :c
i barely saw him this week (im used to seeing him a lot more than this)

for our one year and 6 months next month he's taking me to see mockingjay and out to eat hopefully at my favorite resturant kafjd;lfjakl;adfj <3

[Deadly Nightshade]

Never mind! ^u^

[y i n]

So...
How I came to you guys and said I like my guy best friend and all~ I think he likes me, but one of my other best friends is mad... People are saying me and him should get together and she's getting mad at me because she doesn't like him... I don't know why but... I don't know what to do...

*I have 3 best friends btw cx*

[empunich;]

Dude, I was in the same position as you! My female best friend reeeeeally hated my crush, who was another one of my best friends. He liked me back and eventually asked me out but my other best friend dragged me away. You should just talk to your female friend and ask her why she doesn't like him and see if you can sort it out. It worked for me. And if she ditches you because of who you go out with, does that make her a good friend?

[y i n]

No, it doesn't lol
And thanks mate
I'll talk to her, maybe tomorrow or before I go to a haunted house tonight.

[Ameryth]

Anyone going to homecoming?
well... I plan to go. I just found out the guy I like isn't going with someone he likes. I had the chance to ask him out today, but I didn't. Homecoming is tomorrow... I just hope I see him. <3

[Dia.]

Anyone going to homecoming?
well... I plan to go. I just found out the guy I like isn't going with someone he likes. I had the chance to ask him out today, but I didn't. Homecoming is tomorrow... I just hope I see him. <3

My homecoming was last weekend. <3

My sophomore year, I just told my friend/crush that he should go. I didn't ask him to go with me... it was just like a "hey, you should come."
It worked out well, aside from the fact that my ex kind of stole him away... He was upset about that though.