|TheComfortCorner| v.4

[Narnian.]

Why does everything have to be so ugh? No one even cares about me, I just get lashed at, if me and someone else felt the same, and some people who cared and knew neither of us, they would choose the other person. I know, it's happened more then once and I hate life.

I read this and your other post and I'm feeling for you. Sometimes I feel the way you do, especially because of an argument from a friend that's half-resolved, half-not... And another neighbor friend who always brings her six-year old brother to come play with me & my sister... I mean, I like him, but we want to hang out with just her sometimes. :)

I've lost a lot of friends, most from moving, but one (and maybe another soon?) from a falling out (the first one just randomly started drifting away). So I really can understand what you're going through. It's not a good time. And it's lonely and it hurts. It really does get better, though. But it took a while for me, I will admit.
My best friend moved (though it was for the best and we can still keep in contact on here, at least!) just while another friend was leaving. I was lonely for a while. I actually wouldn't have changed this (though if I could, I'd have made it a shorter lonely season) because it has made me much more sensitive to others feelings and emotions. I promise you, it will get better, but I can't promise you that it will be short. I can't exactly remember the time it took for friends to come for me and my sister (we shared the same friends), but I think it was about 3-ish months, give or take.

I'm sure that someone would choose you-- after all, I did! LOTS of people feel this way. Keep reaching out of your comfort zone to make a friend at your school, or anywhere else, someone, somehow, somewhere will come through. But you can't find them if you don't try.
I lost some confidence in myself through my friend issue; please don't let it happen to you! It's been hard to manage but I'm building it back up. Just think to yourself: "I'm worth it, and somewhere out there is someone who will think so too." It's cheesy, but studies show this kind of stuff helps!
Anyway, I hope this helps and doesn't sound mean in any way. :)

How long? It's only been like 3-5 years with no life friends now, I can't take it anymore. I've already tried making friends, but it always goes wrong. I just can't take life anymore, it's too hard...my sister isn't even a friend, in fact-you could even say she's an enemy. My mom doesn't even care my head virus is back, last time I told her I was sure it was back, she didn't believe me at all.

I don't know. I'm really sorry. If I could, I would change this for you.
I'm sorry that it goes wrong, and that your sister is like that... And the thing about your mom.
Maybe they're both reacting out of selfishness, in which case you can't let yourself feel down about it. If they're acting out of selfishness, it's them who should feel bad, not you. You can't and shouldn't be held down with it, if you are. Also, if your mom is not a selfish person, just not believing your sickness, every morning before school my stomach would genuinely feel queasy and I would tell mom or dad, and they would blow it off because they knew it wasn't a big deal. (It would go away as soon as I was there [and I was never sick from it anyway, but I never did just make it up]). So your mom might be thinking you're faking your way out of school, though of course that's not the case. :) Maybe let her know the importance of it and that you're not making it up to get out of school and (if you can) you'll try to still go.

But you can make it, I know that, at least. :)

[Thalassic]

██✧██

I have no one
*looks at hands*

My last 3 rl friends just.. don't reply to me. Avoid me, ignore me. My coursemates.. only hang out among themselves. I'm never told, asked or offered anything. Or invited anywhere. They don't even talk to me if they don't need anything from me..

I just.. I really need a friend.. someone who actually cares.. Someone who doesn't live thousands of kilometers away..

Oh wait, I forgot about my social anxiety.

I guess I am doomed for eternal loneliness.

Great.

Even my online friends don't care about me at all.

I just..

I could die and no one would even notice. I want to curl up and scream but it's the middle of the night.. More bottling up of emotions to do, I guess..

I'm a mess.. I'm broken beyond repair.. And I really need help but.. Nothing can help me, can it. What's the point..

[irina]

It seems like there are bully's EVERWHERE
There is a boy in my class who insults me at least 20 times a day.
He has a few friends, one if them are really nice but he doesn't really talk that much.
I only have 3 or so friends in my homeroom and none of my other friends seem to care.
I don't know what to do, I really want to tell a teacher but if I do that... it proves I didn't learn anything from LAST year (I told the teacher like 1 million times and it didn't do anything)

There is only 1 friend who understands what I'm going though, and she's going though the same thing.
I don't know what to do, I usually do, but not this time around.
Why is it always me? My other friends don't seem to have a problem.
;-;

[zoomzoombadaboom]

Can someone PM me? Maybe someone who plays Minecraft and understands people like me who's life is all about technology and stuff?

[apollo.]

Sorry the kraken, I try to help you but sometimes I'm just not good with advice.
But I can tell you things get better, you're not destined for eternal loneliness. You're going to meet the most amazing friend, and everything will work out.
Lots of people with social anxiety have friends, and will find friends.
I'm sure your online friends do care about you, just conversations lag sometimes.
Things will get better, you can get help.
All I have to say is no one is broken beyond repair, and I'm right here if you ever need it. Wait it out, until you get back on your feet, you can get a therapist, a nice place, friend, everything. Things will work out. Believe me.



and could someone who's good with advice pm me too?

[-Cashmere-]

I'm not good with advice related to specific circumstances, mostly due to the fact that I don't have enough life experience to know how to solve complex problems.

But the one thing I do have, I want to offer. I want anyone who reads this to know that I understand. I know what it's like to feel like you've sunken to the bottom of the ocean, and no matter how many times someone says things will get better, you can't bring yourself to believe them because you know you don't have the strength to swim back up to the top. I know that when you're so far down that you can't see the sun anymore, it feels like there is nothing good left in the world.

Except, it's at the bottom of the ocean that you find the most mysterious, awe-inspiring and beautiful sea life. It's at the bottom of the ocean that you encounter hidden treasure and things you once thought were lost long ago. And this treasure may be more valuable than anything you could have found on land. In other words, no matter how hopeless things may seem, they're never truly hopeless. So you can't give up on yourself, your life, your circumstances, anything. Because things can get better, even if they don't get better in the way you might expect.

Ah so I know this was a long post, and maybe it sounded pretentious with all of the metaphors, but I wanted to throw it out there in case someone needs it.

[ProudHufflepuff]

I-I can't....my bf almost broke up with me last night...and I fell asleep before we could finish talking about it...and I think he's more upset now...I'm scared...
I don't know what I'd do without him....

[Thalassic]

Sorry the kraken, I try to help you but sometimes I'm just not good with advice.
But I can tell you things get better, you're not destined for eternal loneliness. You're going to meet the most amazing friend, and everything will work out.
Lots of people with social anxiety have friends, and will find friends.
I'm sure your online friends do care about you, just conversations lag sometimes.
Things will get better, you can get help.
All I have to say is no one is broken beyond repair, and I'm right here if you ever need it. Wait it out, until you get back on your feet, you can get a therapist, a nice place, friend, everything. Things will work out. Believe me.



and could someone who's good with advice pm me too?

██✧██

I've been told that I never accept advice or help and I.. really don't mean to, I'm sorry.
Just.. nothing anyone says seems to actually help. Even if it is good advice I just always see the reasons why it wouldn't work instead of why it could work.. I honestly dpn't mean to do this it just sort of happens and I don't know how to stop..

I know what it's like to feel like you've sunken to the bottom of the ocean, and no matter how many times someone says things will get better, you can't bring yourself to believe them because you know you don't have the strength to swim back up to the top. I know that when you're so far down that you can't see the sun anymore, it feels like there is nothing good left in the world.

██✧██

For me it feels more like I'm sinking and sinking more and everything keeps getting darker and no matter how much I try I can't stop sinking. But I never reach the bottom either. And there are times when the sinking slows or stops and I feel like I would just have to reach out and I could breach the surface of the water. But I don't want to. Because I know that if I do that, I will start sinking again. And it never stops. I would actually feel better if I finally hit the bottom instead of just sinking more and more forever..
Eaugh I'll shut up now I'm sorry

[apollo.]

Oh, no it's not your fault. I choke under pressure, it's just something I do.
Make a chart of reasons it could work, and reasons it wont. Even if there's just one reason it would, try it out. You have nothing to loose, and everything to gain.

[DangerDays]

I'm back from residential trip.
I miss everything.
The deputy head waking us up at 7am dancing to Zumba Songs on her phone.
The whole 'get washed, dressed and be out in the corridor ready for breakfast in 20 mins or else' concept
Ed/Eddie/Ned (our group leader/instructor)


D'X