Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[ExplodingInk]

First off, are you sure he is who he says he is?
Have you actually ever seen him?
I'm not just talking a photo, I mean over Skype so you know he's real and not a random lonely loser just messing around.

Yes, I have - he is a real person
I have fell for an unreal person before...
so yes, I made sure he was real XD

Not making that mistake again lol

[Lucid Dreamer]

Haha good good c:
if you can legally date him, then if your dad doesn't like it, then he doesn't like it.
Your not breaking the law so there's not a lot he can do about it.
I'd just be straight with him to be honest.

[ExplodingInk]

Haha good good c:
if you can legally date him, then if your dad doesn't like it, then he doesn't like it.
Your not breaking the law so there's not a lot he can do about it.
I'd just be straight with him to be honest.

I want to tell him but my Dad is the kind of person
who gets scary mad - and I don't want to make him
angry - in fear for myself & the guy I like.

Plus my feelings are so strong that if my Dad didn't
approve it would be like a giant weight. My dad's
opinion matters a lot to me.

[Lucid Dreamer]

In that case I wouldn't tell him your dating this guy,
but maybe over time talk to him about it.
maybe bring it up that you like a guy and there's a twelve year age gap.
see his reaction.
you may need to being him round to the idea of you being with this person,
let him know he makes you happy, and that you respect his opinion but you really want to be with him.
It may take time but I'm sure eventually he'll come round.

[ExplodingInk]

In that case I wouldn't tell him your dating this guy,
but maybe over time talk to him about it.
maybe bring it up that you like a guy and there's a twelve year age gap.
see his reaction.
you may need to being him round to the idea of you being with this person,
let him know he makes you happy, and that you respect his opinion but you really want to be with him.
It may take time but I'm sure eventually he'll come round.

I sure hope he comes around to it
but he just... he is not good at
seeing someone elses point of view.

[Thalassic]

First off, are you sure he is who he says he is?
Have you actually ever seen him?
I'm not just talking a photo, I mean over Skype so you know he's real and not a random lonely loser just messing around.

Yes, I have - he is a real person
I have fell for an unreal person before...
so yes, I made sure he was real XD

Not making that mistake again lol

██★██ The first logical step would be to wait until you are legal before "starting" anything with him. It might be legal, but that doesn't mean people will approve of it. After that, it would be a good idea to meet him in real life, but stay very safe in case it's the worst case scenario. A lot of time people are different online than they are in real life. Most of all just give it time. If the feelings don't fade, there is no reason you shouldn't go for it, so long as both of you can be mature about it. People will stare, but it's none of their business after all.

[JustDucky]

My best friend (who is a guy) started coming over to my house more, and I sort of fell for him. My mom seen it before I did. He got really drunk at my house, and he told me he loved me ever since he first met me, but he didn't tell me, because he didn't want to mess up our friendship, or make things awkward, and he's got a girlfriend, and it wouldn't be fair to her. He don't want a relationship, but he 'will never loose his feelings for me'.
I'm good friends with his girlfriend, but she's jealous of me, because he hangs out with me more than her. He keeps saying he don't think their relationship is going to last, and he's been cheating on her (not with me). I don't want her to be jealous of me, and I don't want to see him break her heart, but at the same time she shouldn't of rushed into a relationship with just anyone to begin with.
I don't want to tell her, and make him mad, but at the same time I feel like she deserves to know.
I don't really know her that well, but I do know she has a list of her 'other options' when she's done with him. At first he was just using her, and I told her. He was mad at me, and I ended up telling her it was just a rumor I heard from someone (She was desperate enough to believe it, too). I feel really bad, but I don't know what to do.

[Lucid Dreamer]

My best friend (who is a guy) started coming over to my house more, and I sort of fell for him. My mom seen it before I did. He got really drunk at my house, and he told me he loved me ever since he first met me, but he didn't tell me, because he didn't want to mess up our friendship, or make things awkward, and he's got a girlfriend, and it wouldn't be fair to her. He don't want a relationship, but he 'will never loose his feelings for me'.
I'm good friends with his girlfriend, but she's jealous of me, because he hangs out with me more than her. He keeps saying he don't think their relationship is going to last, and he's been cheating on her (not with me). I don't want her to be jealous of me, and I don't want to see him break her heart, but at the same time she shouldn't of rushed into a relationship with just anyone to begin with.
I don't want to tell her, and make him mad, but at the same time I feel like she deserves to know.
I don't really know her that well, but I do know she has a list of her 'other options' when she's done with him. At first he was just using her, and I told her. He was mad at me, and I ended up telling her it was just a rumor I heard from someone (She was desperate enough to believe it, too). I feel really bad, but I don't know what to do.

You need to think about weather or not this girls dignity is worth more than your friendship.
Personally I would tell her.
If she doesn't believe you after that, then that's her problem; not yours.

[ExplodingInk]

██★██ The first logical step would be to wait until you are legal before "starting" anything with him. It might be legal, but that doesn't mean people will approve of it. After that, it would be a good idea to meet him in real life, but stay very safe in case it's the worst case scenario. A lot of time people are different online than they are in real life. Most of all just give it time. If the feelings don't fade, there is no reason you shouldn't go for it, so long as both of you can be mature about it. People will stare, but it's none of their business after all.

I was wondering if that would be the best option - thanks Zanjux it makes me feel better knowing that waiting the few months to be legal is a good idea. I think the reason, like you said is people will not approve but it is not their choice. I can handle the whole staring concept, I think what I am most afraid of is I have a problem with yelling - and I am sure this will cause yelling at least in my household.

I know it may be different, I am afraid most of him being so different we don't share the same bond. I think that is why I like talking to him on the phone so much so I can at least hear his opinions, listen to how he sounds and how he takes certain things that I say. I know that isn't fool proof either for how he will act in person - but it makes me feel better.

[Amethysts]

Depression lead the way.