The Love Doctors <3 Advice for Your Love Life! (V.2)

[StellaMango_]

I have a crush on this guy at my school. Just to clarify things I am in High School so I understand that I have a "crush" and its not "love".
So the only thing is he has a girlfriend. He is extremley flirty and whenever he can he's flirting with me. I like to think of it as playful. I do respect the fact that he is a relationship so I don't take the flirting to far. I think his girlfriend is breaking up with him tomorrow. He won't really be upset i think. I would love to become closer to him so that maybe we could go out sometime. How though?

[WolfWhisperer]

Can't believe what happened to this ;.; I am a part of the staff and still willing to help anybody who needs it

[satuurnity]

Okay. I'm pretty messed up.
So, last year, I realized I liked this guy… my first crush ever…
And, well, I kind of happen to hate him also…
So, anyway, on the last day of school last year, I erm… told him that I like him. And that went over like a lead balloon, because toward the beginning of the school year, he told a bunch of his friends that I like him. So, it seems like I'd think "god, what a jerk," and be on my way, no? But it isn't that simple…
I still like him and hate him, but I wish I didn't. I have tried several times to just not like him anymore, but it seems like my attempts are futile, and that… perhaps I am starting to like this kid even more.
And I've never had a boyfriend before, so I don't plan on asking him out or anything, seeing as:
a) my mom would kill me
b) I am not sure if he has a girlfriend/likes someone or not, because I am not his friend, nor am I the stalker-ish sort of person that needs to know EVERYTHING about their crush.
c) even if both other situations were not to be considered, I am not pretty at all, and we argue so much, he probably hates me.

I could really use advice as to what exactly I should do in this situation. I am not the type of girl that can't function properly around him; I mean, I have held several conversations with him this year about various things relating to stuff we have had to do in class (and most of those were us arguing over anything and everything humanly possible.), and I have yet to be all freakish around him (other than that time I told him I like him…that was pretty freakish…). But I really need advice as to how to deal with this, because it seems like this little crush is getting out of control, and it is no longer just a little crush; I think I might love him, but I'm not sure…

I have this exact same problem, but then again it's a bit difference. You see, there's this guy, and were literally always arguing. But somehow, I still like him. I don't know why though, because the arguing can get a bit violent. I know it may sound weird, but he pushes me around. Like, ALOT. And I don't mean he's pushing me around as in telling me what to do, I mean he's physically pushing me. My mum says guys tend to goof around when they're nervous, and that he probably does like me, but i'm not sure. Do you think she's right?

[WolfWhisperer]

Okay. I'm pretty messed up.
So, last year, I realized I liked this guy… my first crush ever…
And, well, I kind of happen to hate him also…
So, anyway, on the last day of school last year, I erm… told him that I like him. And that went over like a lead balloon, because toward the beginning of the school year, he told a bunch of his friends that I like him. So, it seems like I'd think "god, what a jerk," and be on my way, no? But it isn't that simple…
I still like him and hate him, but I wish I didn't. I have tried several times to just not like him anymore, but it seems like my attempts are futile, and that… perhaps I am starting to like this kid even more.
And I've never had a boyfriend before, so I don't plan on asking him out or anything, seeing as:
a) my mom would kill me
b) I am not sure if he has a girlfriend/likes someone or not, because I am not his friend, nor am I the stalker-ish sort of person that needs to know EVERYTHING about their crush.
c) even if both other situations were not to be considered, I am not pretty at all, and we argue so much, he probably hates me.

I could really use advice as to what exactly I should do in this situation. I am not the type of girl that can't function properly around him; I mean, I have held several conversations with him this year about various things relating to stuff we have had to do in class (and most of those were us arguing over anything and everything humanly possible.), and I have yet to be all freakish around him (other than that time I told him I like him…that was pretty freakish…). But I really need advice as to how to deal with this, because it seems like this little crush is getting out of control, and it is no longer just a little crush; I think I might love him, but I'm not sure…

I have this exact same problem, but then again it's a bit difference. You see, there's this guy, and were literally always arguing. But somehow, I still like him. I don't know why though, because the arguing can get a bit violent. I know it may sound weird, but he pushes me around. Like, ALOT. And I don't mean he's pushing me around as in telling me what to do, I mean he's physically pushing me. My mum says guys tend to goof around when they're nervous, and that he probably does like me, but i'm not sure. Do you think she's right?

Well firstly, I don't think that he should be physically pushing you around AT ALL but it does depend on what he is really doing. Male brains do not develop as fast as female's and it might be a childish sort of way he is doing, (depending on the severity of the push and how nasty it seems to be). It could be a form of "tough love" but I am not entirely sure. If you are arguing with someone, it is not quite a good thing to be doing. Leave him alone for a bit, and leave things to get settled and try getting along with him better. It also depends on how long you two have been doing this for the amount of time you guys have known each other. But just see what happens after leaving him alone for a little bit... I cannot be 100% sure that it is tough love and he has feelings. Maybe if when you do leave him alone and if he does keep having a go at you, even when you have not been having anything to do with him, it might be a sign

[minecraftcat]

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[WolfWhisperer]

So there's this girl named Katie (My real gender is female, but I prefer to be called male because I am transgendered, and I dress very guyish and have a flat chest.), and I sat by her in 5th period in class. And she started to grab my hand and we held hands throughout the entire class. And she kept making me blush and smile and she took a picture of us holding hands and later that day (tonight basically) she told me on FaceBook, "I think I have a crush on you" "But I don't know what I am" (as in sexual orientation). The problem is, I'm too shy to ask her out online or in real life. I don't know what to do. I really enjoyed holding hands with her and I want to just hug her so hard. Please help, I don't want to make her wait too long, she shouldn't have to wait anyways she's so perfect and amazing and sweet. Literally the most sweetest person ever. I need some suggestions on how to ask her out..

Personally, with both of the relationships I have been in, both asked me online. One over facebook and the other via skype messages. It is up to you on how you feel whether you want to do it over the phone, in person, in text or via text message. If you find your feelings towards her strong, then just ask her how she feels about you in the next couple of days, and then let it out in whatever way you would like to let her know (in the options I told you before and so on).

I think in my point of view that it does not really matter how you ask a person, as long as you are nice, calm and genuine; I think things will go just fine for you. And hoping that her feelings for you grow.

[satuurnity]

Okay. I'm pretty messed up.
So, last year, I realized I liked this guy… my first crush ever…
And, well, I kind of happen to hate him also…
So, anyway, on the last day of school last year, I erm… told him that I like him. And that went over like a lead balloon, because toward the beginning of the school year, he told a bunch of his friends that I like him. So, it seems like I'd think "god, what a jerk," and be on my way, no? But it isn't that simple…
I still like him and hate him, but I wish I didn't. I have tried several times to just not like him anymore, but it seems like my attempts are futile, and that… perhaps I am starting to like this kid even more.
And I've never had a boyfriend before, so I don't plan on asking him out or anything, seeing as:
a) my mom would kill me
b) I am not sure if he has a girlfriend/likes someone or not, because I am not his friend, nor am I the stalker-ish sort of person that needs to know EVERYTHING about their crush.
c) even if both other situations were not to be considered, I am not pretty at all, and we argue so much, he probably hates me.

I could really use advice as to what exactly I should do in this situation. I am not the type of girl that can't function properly around him; I mean, I have held several conversations with him this year about various things relating to stuff we have had to do in class (and most of those were us arguing over anything and everything humanly possible.), and I have yet to be all freakish around him (other than that time I told him I like him…that was pretty freakish…). But I really need advice as to how to deal with this, because it seems like this little crush is getting out of control, and it is no longer just a little crush; I think I might love him, but I'm not sure…

I have this exact same problem, but then again it's a bit difference. You see, there's this guy, and were literally always arguing. But somehow, I still like him. I don't know why though, because the arguing can get a bit violent. I know it may sound weird, but he pushes me around. Like, ALOT. And I don't mean he's pushing me around as in telling me what to do, I mean he's physically pushing me. My mum says guys tend to goof around when they're nervous, and that he probably does like me, but i'm not sure. Do you think she's right?

Well firstly, I don't think that he should be physically pushing you around AT ALL but it does depend on what he is really doing. Male brains do not develop as fast as female's and it might be a childish sort of way he is doing, (depending on the severity of the push and how nasty it seems to be). It could be a form of "tough love" but I am not entirely sure. If you are arguing with someone, it is not quite a good thing to be doing. Leave him alone for a bit, and leave things to get settled and try getting along with him better. It also depends on how long you two have been doing this for the amount of time you guys have known each other. But just see what happens after leaving him alone for a little bit... I cannot be 100% sure that it is tough love and he has feelings. Maybe if when you do leave him alone and if he does keep having a go at you, even when you have not been having anything to do with him, it might be a sign

Thanks, that helped a lot. I stopped pushing back like my mum suggested, and we stopped arguing. We're actually talking a little bit more now, but it's only been two days, so I'm not sure if i'm on the right road or not, but i'll give it a shot. C: Thanks

[WolfWhisperer]

No worries and I am glad to hear that you are not taking part in the physical violence. Not fighting back can really work a charm

[[MARVEL]]

ok so i have this friend. We are super close mainly because our siblings are dating. its kinda strange because my sister and his brother are the same age, then we are both two years younger. so ya, we see each other a lot because of our siblings but also because he happens to be one of my closest friends. the thing is, everyone thinks we should date, EVERYONE, including his mom! We both deny it, saying it would be super awkward but on the inside, i really like him. we have a TON in common. we are pretty much the same person just different genders. we are both country people, hate the city, both have wavy dirty brown hair, braces, and the list goes on forever. so i would not be upset if we got a little closer in the future but he acts like he hates me sometimes. people say its just because he is hiding the fact that he likes me but i dont think so. in some ways i feel like a bother to him. some of this is really hard to explain. like sometimes when we text, we could go til 2:30 a.m. and we will talk about really deep stuff and he can be super nice and understanding. then the next day when i see him at church, he acts like nothing ever happened. he just treats me like the girl his brother's dating's sister. then if i try to text him about something important to me all he says is yep, ya, ok etc. I DONT UNDERSTAND! one second he acts like he really cares about me and the next he acts like im annoying him! i cant tell if he likes me! my sister asked him if he did because he treats her like a sister (but not me for some reason) and he said "no does she like me?" and she said "no" then he said "good because i dont like breaking hearts" i am about to give up. maybe will always be just friends. but how can i get out of the friend zone without being too obvious about how i feel? sorry this was really long and a lot probably didnt make sense but lot of this is really complicated and super hard to explain. thanks for reading!