Crushes, Boyfriends, and Girlfriends | V4

[Thalassic]

Oh man
Is being nice to someone without them assuming there's a thing between you two even possible
Because it doesn't seem like it

I like you so much, and you're literally one of my best friends, but can you please not try to make anything more of it
Please

If their doing that, maybe it means they like you.

That's the problem, yeah

[Simplistic Beauty]

It seems like he cares about me. I just don't think he knows how to express it. Just because he cares about me don't mean he likes me, right?

No, it doesn't have to if your friends and you trust them enough. It's like you know me enough and you should know what I post. Like common now I dunno if people from school find me on quotev now or what the heck anymore. It's like if you know my quotev your pretty much set for life..

[Faymutt95]

I really need some advice.
I've been dating this guy for a year & a month [We're both in our late teens], and although we don't have a lot in common, I feel so comfortable when I'm doing things with him - Like cooking, watching TV, cuddling - Almost all the things of a married couple.
But recently, I've been having this knot feeling in my throat/stomach, & it seems to be telling me that I should take a break.
But we barely ever argue, or don't necessarily have a reason to take a break.
And I know this might sound weird, but I've never been single - at least, for a short period of time.
And my gut feeling is longing to know what it's like to be single.
I don't want to take a break to date other guys or anything like that, I just feel like I need time for myself, but I'm really afraid of getting too used to it & not wanting to go back. What should I do? I've already mentioned it to him, and he's willing to cooperate, but I just don't know what to do.
[PS: I used to date online / Long distance, which seemed to have made me more used to being alone physically - Current relationship is only my second in "real life"].

[northern downpour ;;]

I really need some advice.
I've been dating this guy for a year & a month [We're both in our late teens], and although we don't have a lot in common, I feel so comfortable when I'm doing things with him - Like cooking, watching TV, cuddling - Almost all the things of a married couple.
But recently, I've been having this knot feeling in my throat/stomach, & it seems to be telling me that I should take a break.
But we barely ever argue, or don't necessarily have a reason to take a break.
And I know this might sound weird, but I've never been single - at least, for a short period of time.
And my gut feeling is longing to know what it's like to be single.
I don't want to take a break to date other guys or anything like that, I just feel like I need time for myself, but I'm really afraid of getting too used to it & not wanting to go back. What should I do? I've already mentioned it to him, and he's willing to cooperate, but I just don't know what to do.
[PS: I used to date online / Long distance, which seemed to have made me more used to being alone physically - Current relationship is only my second in "real life"].

Well... if you feel like you need a break, go for it. Or it'll get worse and bad things may happen... Just go for it, and get back together once you've gotten it out of your system.

[thunderofthedrum]

I really need some advice.
I've been dating this guy for a year & a month [We're both in our late teens], and although we don't have a lot in common, I feel so comfortable when I'm doing things with him - Like cooking, watching TV, cuddling - Almost all the things of a married couple.
But recently, I've been having this knot feeling in my throat/stomach, & it seems to be telling me that I should take a break.
But we barely ever argue, or don't necessarily have a reason to take a break.
And I know this might sound weird, but I've never been single - at least, for a short period of time.
And my gut feeling is longing to know what it's like to be single.
I don't want to take a break to date other guys or anything like that, I just feel like I need time for myself, but I'm really afraid of getting too used to it & not wanting to go back. What should I do? I've already mentioned it to him, and he's willing to cooperate, but I just don't know what to do.
[PS: I used to date online / Long distance, which seemed to have made me more used to being alone physically - Current relationship is only my second in "real life"].

Feeling comfortable with him is fantastic. But do you also feel comfortable discussing things with him? That's also important, and it sounds like this is becoming a big issue for you. If it's just been happening the past couple weeks, I'd say wait on it. If it's been going on a couple months, then I'd say it's time to say something to him. Let him know that you still like him but that you don't have much to compare it to so you just don't really know what you're doing. I think everyone needs some time to be single. I didn't even date until college (though not deliberately) - but still, I think I'm glad for that. I've been with my boyfriend nearly two years and I don't know what I'm doing and I don't really have much to compare it to, either. But we've talked about this some.

Let him know what you told us - that you need to make sure you can be YOU before you can be part of a pair. Just let him know that you feel you are in a slightly uncomfortable position and that you aren't sure what to do.

Well, I'm a dolt, just saw that you HAVE mentioned it. Maybe it's time to bring it up again? What's helpful is that you don't sound like you want to date around, just that you want to have time to focus on YOU, and there's nothing wrong with that. Especially as a teen, you might be at a time in your life where you are thinking about you future, such as jobs and/or college. That means you are thinking about where you want to live one day, what sort of 'grown up' you will be, what career you will have pursued. And that can definitely seem like a huge amount of scarily serious stuff! So yeah, I would say it's understandable to want to focus on yourself for a little while, and sounds like he's a good guy that's willing to wait a reasonable amount of time.

[opeth]

sorry for the rant.
i've had a serious crush on this guy for about two & a half years.
he's intelligent, arrogant, sarcastic, and edgy, but a gentleman at
the same time. however, i have three problems. one, he's my best
friends brother; i'd rather not make our friendship more awkward.
two, i'm a homeschooler with 0.1/100 social skills, so apart from
the summer, i see him maybe once or twice a month. three, i feel
like i'm of little to no interest to him, like i'm completely
nonexistent. the worst part is, i just can't seem to get over him.

[J-Hope]

Apparantly... I'm going through some kind of weird losses... I'm going to a high school which NONE of my friends are going to. Yea its the better school than all the others... But its full of rich people... Perhaps say... Gangsters, last year, it was bomb threatened... But that's not the point X3 *coughs*
so apparently last year the guy I liked, I was never gonna see him and we only had 4 months together... Now, its happening again with another guy. We only have 4 months together, and I really don't want to do anything to fix it, but I'm gonna find a way to deal with the loss, cuz 4 of the guys I liked, I'll never see em again. Gosh, I'm such a slow turtle in relationships. T-T

[JustDucky]

sorry for the rant.
i've had a serious crush on this guy for about two & a half years.
he's intelligent, arrogant, sarcastic, and edgy, but a gentleman at
the same time. however, i have three problems. one, he's my best
friends brother; i'd rather not make our friendship more awkward.
two, i'm a homeschooler with 0.1/100 social skills, so apart from
the summer, i see him maybe once or twice a month. three, i feel
like i'm of little to no interest to him, like i'm completely
nonexistent. the worst part is, i just can't seem to get over him.

That has to be hard. I learned that you can't choose who you love or have a crush on. I liked a guy who was way popular. I swear I would never date him, but I still like him. I've never talked to him either. Except twice v maybe. I know I won't be with him, but ib still like him. Crazy, huh?

[d e s r a]

Okay, so, I've had a crush on this Junior boy for about six months now. The only time we've spoken is when he accidentally hit me with the band room door, haha. I would speak to him, but I'm terrified. I'm younger than he is and I don't want to make a fool out of myself. Besides, I don't think he's interested. He'll kind of watch me when we pass in the hallways and he meets my eyes every now and then, but I think that's just a coincidence. I really wish I had the guts to start a conversation with him. One of my fellow classmates, a girl I don't like all that much named S, started talking to him but I don't think he was all that in to it. I ran into him in the hallway on accident because I didn't know he was trying to get to his locker and I said sorry and he smiled and told me it was okay. So I guess that's two times we've spoken but he hasn't tried to initiate conversation since then. I don't know...I'm just too darn nervous to speak to him.
And I really hate seeing that one girl, M, around him. She goes to another school, but she's friends with his friend J, so they talk a lot. She's his age and I really, really don't like her. She was really mean to me when I stepped on her foot during marching band on accident, so we didn't really get off a great start. I don't know why he speaks to her...Sorry for the long rant, I just had to get that out ^-^

[Doggo Supreme]

Okay, so, I've had a crush on this Junior boy for about six months now. The only time we've spoken is when he accidentally hit me with the band room door, haha. I would speak to him, but I'm terrified. I'm younger than he is and I don't want to make a fool out of myself. Besides, I don't think he's interested. He'll kind of watch me when we pass in the hallways and he meets my eyes every now and then, but I think that's just a coincidence. I really wish I had the guts to start a conversation with him. One of my fellow classmates, a girl I don't like all that much named S, started talking to him but I don't think he was all that in to it. I ran into him in the hallway on accident because I didn't know he was trying to get to his locker and I said sorry and he smiled and told me it was okay. So I guess that's two times we've spoken but he hasn't tried to initiate conversation since then. I don't know...I'm just too darn nervous to speak to him.
And I really hate seeing that one girl, M, around him. She goes to another school, but she's friends with his friend J, so they talk a lot. She's his age and I really, really don't like her. She was really mean to me when I stepped on her foot during marching band on accident, so we didn't really get off a great start. I don't know why he speaks to her...Sorry for the long rant, I just had to get that out ^-^

Oh man. I know how you feel. But sometimes you just have to face your fears sometimes. It is best to talk to your crush instead of ignoring him. He might know you more if you talk to him. I have a crush that I always talk to him everyday, even if it is just one question you ask him. Trust me, it usually works.